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My scale is at the entrance to my kitchen

Monday, September 24, 2012

Itís the first thing I see when I enter in the morning still in my PJs. Iím probably alone in this. I know itís not a common location for this item.

When I moved it from the bathroom to its current visible spot, I wasnít thinking about me. It was 2008 and my mother, who lived with us since Dadís death, was losing weight along with her appetite. I noticed her eating less and less and thought it would help her awareness if she stepped on the scale first thing every morning.

Once we determined there was no physical reason for the weight loss, I challenged her to record everything she ate during the day and using an Internet site (not SP) I filled in the calories she consumed. In the beginning it was sometimes as low as 700, hardly enough to sustain someone comatose.

To encourage her to be accountable I started to weigh myself right there along with her. When she realized that she had to watch her nutrition, so did I. If I continued along my current path, my 30 extra pounds could easily become 40, 50 or more.

On Jan 1, 2009 I decided I didnít want to carry the extra weight anymore. Mom & I continued our daily weigh-ins and calorie tracking for over 2 years. She died in Jan 2011 quite suddenly at age 88.

My 3 year maintenance anniversary will be Thanksgiving Day. The scale is still in the kitchen. You canít miss it. Iím still weighing myself daily and thinking of Mom when I do.

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MENNOLY 10/8/2012 8:35AM

    What a great story! Your comment on the maintenance check-in line reminded me of my mom's 3rd pregnancy. After giving birth twice with only a mid-wife (in Italy) she cave birth to her 3rd child in America with a Dr's care. Because she was overweight he put her on a strict diet so that she would not gain much weight with this child. When my younger brother was born she was shocked at the puny child she had delivered. Although he was an average sized boy, he was much smaller than myself or my older brother at birth. Genetically we are programmed to have large babies. My 3 ranged from just over 10 lb to 12 lb. I was very careful with baby 3 since I was rather old and overweight when I had her. I weighed less after giving birth to her than when I conceived her. Yet she weighed 10 lb 5 oz.
I also weigh daily it keeps me honest. Have a great week!

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KANOE10 9/25/2012 8:11AM

    That is a great story. I weigh myself everyday. It is the first thing I do.

You are doing great maintaining a 3 year loss. I am glad you think of your Mom when you do.


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STRIVER57 9/25/2012 6:22AM

    excellent idea, and congratulations!

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TINAJANE76 9/24/2012 7:13AM

    That's a great strategy and a wonderful story. By helping your mom to better look after her health, you did the same for yourself. Continuing to maintain is a beautiful tribute to her memory.

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MAGGIEVAN 9/24/2012 6:44AM

    I am sure you are also missing your mum. Good on you for 3 years of maintenance. If the scale in the kitchen is working for you, why change it?

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SWEDE_SU 9/24/2012 6:43AM

    how interesting that your supportive role for your mom was what brought the healthy awareness to you! congratulations on your upcoming 3 year anniversary!

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ORODEO73 9/24/2012 6:37AM

    That is a wonderful story. Its great to see that this started with you being the suporrter and then her living in your memory to fulfill maintaining your regimin. emoticon

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I live with the junk food king of the world

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Hereís a picture from my sparkpage, posted when I first joined several years ago. This is not a staged photo. My table really looked like this. Itís somewhat better now since I refused to buy it. He has to shop and bring it home himself which has slowed him down a bit. When we shop together our cart is a study in contrasts with my organic Greek yogurt sitting next to his enormous package of ťclairs.

My husband, I love him dearly. Weíve been together since we were 16 and 18 and have been married for 45 years. He has also carried on a 45 year affair with Little Debbie. You know, the snack cake lady? In fact, he has never met a donut or snack cake he didnít love and just have to bring home. Toaster pastries, pop-tarts, packaged bakery items, chocolate, crackers, jams, jellies and an amazing assortment of sugary drinks have always filled our house. Every Breyers Ice Cream sale adds 4 cartons to my freezer. Yes, FOUR Ė buy one get one free. If there wasnít a limit, there would be more.

There are obstacles to eating healthy everywhere we go. I have one right here at home. He has to eat my healthy lunches and dinners since he doesnít cook, but trying to eliminate the junk is a losing battle. I just donít have to lose the battle along with him.

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KANOE10 9/25/2012 8:13AM

    Exactly right. You do not have to join him or everyone else who is eating junk food around you. My husband late night snacks and I do not join him.

We have got to be focused on staying healthy no matter what anyone else is eating.

Great job of being strong. emoticon

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PHEBESS 9/23/2012 12:49PM

    Yup, totally understand! I married the burger meister and fries fiend. His mother once told him he had to buy every single burger he saw, and that wasn't far from the truth!

I finally told him I'm not eating burgers, or fries, or any of the foods he loves - I'll eat my way, he can eat his, and that's the way it's got to be - or else I'd end up buying my clothes from Omar the tent-maker.

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MJZHERE 9/23/2012 9:59AM

    There you go - you don't have to lose the battle with him. With my DH, I just think it is a little unfair that he can eat all that junk and not deal with the weight gain. And to top that off, he doesn't eliminate it but maybe cuts out eating half a bag at a sitting and loses weight. jeesh emoticon

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Grandma said "Always get a fresh chicken"

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Of course Grandma meant it should still be clucking. Getting a ďfreshĒ chicken was her answer to me as a newlywed, when I asked why my chicken didnít taste as good as hers.

She lived in the country and I was in a NY apartment so heading out to the woodshed with ax in hand was not an option even if I could summon the courage to behead my dinner.

Thinking about it further, what she meant was that my food should be as natural as possible. She objected to all the chemicals they were putting in our food. And this was in the late 60s. Imagine what she would think today?

Grandma, or Baba as we called her, always lived close to the land. She immigrated to the US alone at age 17 from a small village in Slovakia and settled in a farming/mining community in northeastern PA. Until her death in 1976 at age 93, she was able to live as she wanted.

Itís a lot harder to eat naturally today, but I can take small steps.
Iíve learned to patronize my local farmersí markets.
Iíve had success growing herbs even indoors which makes my food taste better.
I buy organic yogurt. Hormone residue doesnít seem like a good idea to me.
Poultry and pork arenít fed hormones. Goodbye beef. Too bad Iím allergic to fish.
I read ingredient labels carefully and avoid anything that sounds like a chemistry experiment.

I donít succeed all the time, but Iím better than I was and hopefully Iíll continue to improve.

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CELIAMINER 11/18/2012 10:58AM

    Glad you linked to this blog, which I missed. We've also been making the effort to live more naturally. When we do eat beef, we get organic, grass-fed. Also, DH is boycotting Silk products, because the company was among those fighting to defeat the California proposition that would have required labeling GMO product. Silk? I always thought they were a good company. Now I understand that Dean Foods, their parent company, tossed a quarter million dollars into Monsanto's multi-million dollar effort to defeat Proposition 37. For now, I'll be shopping on the organic heroes side of this poster:

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COCK-ROBIN 11/18/2012 9:44AM

    Good for you! And I try to make things myself instead of getting all that processed junk that is chock full of things I can't even pronounce.

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JODROX 11/18/2012 8:37AM

    Such good advice! One question though... I thought poultry often has artificial hormones too. Isn't why the birds are so gigantic nowadays?

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NAKIOMA 9/22/2012 6:50AM

    I think fresh herbs make all the difference in the world. I'm with you - just buy the chicken............................

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Suddenly 20 lbs heavier

Friday, September 21, 2012

No, I didnít eat 70,000 extra calories. I decided to get serious about strength training. The set of weights I got for Christmas 10 years ago were gathering dust in the basement. Maybe I would be more likely to use them if I put them by the TV, right in my line of sight.

So I picked up two 10 lb dumbbells and started walking upstairs. Whew, at the top I was actually out of breath. So this is what it was like carrying the extra weight? And I was carrying more than 20 lbs way back then.

I donít EVER want to go back there. My heart and lungs donít want to go back there either. If I have to weigh my food forever, itís a small price to pay for the new me.

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MJZHERE 9/21/2012 10:21AM

    Alright, this is like the parallel world in Fringe. Had hubby get weights out, right out where I would see,trip over them, right before I got hurt. I did have him move them out of the way till I can start using them - love your idea of carrying them up the stairs. The other day I was telling DH that I don't "see" that much difference from the 28 lb weight loss, and he told me how he was carrying 20 lbs up the stairs and how he realized what a great deal of weight to carry around that was!

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CELIAMINER 9/21/2012 9:07AM

    Ha, ha, you had me going with your title. I wondered if you were having a med reaction or something dire, so it was great to see nothing was wrong. I recall going into my weight loss initially hoping to lose a bag of rock salt (40 pounds). I'm now closing in on 2 bags of rock salt, and when I struggle to haul those bags down to the basement, I cannot believe I used to carry that weight around ALL the time.

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KANOE10 9/21/2012 8:52AM

    I put my dumb bells by my TV also. That is a great reminder when you are working out. I do not want to go back to the fat girl again either. It is worth all of the work of weighing and tracking.
Great job on staying focused and healthy. emoticon

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MAHGRET 9/21/2012 8:30AM


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"Later Never Comes"

Thursday, September 20, 2012

ďMommy, will you color with me?Ē asked my 4 yr old daughter back in 1973.
Maybe I was busy with the baby. Maybe I had homework to do (grad school). I donít remember why, but I replied, ďLater, Jeannie, Iíll do it later.Ē Sadly, she said, ďLater never comes.Ē Yes, I changed my mind and picked up a crayon.

I remember that now whenever Iím tempted to put off something I know I should do, like plan my food for the day or get out and exercise. Iím trying to extend that to other procrastinating areas of my life.

Going through my deceased parents things: Thatís hard. Each item has a memory attached.

Catching up with an old friend: Facebook makes this easier, doesnít it?

Gathering healthy recipes: Thank you SP. Youíve simplified this for me.

Jeannie will be 43 on Saturday. Sheís well aware of her 4 year old wisdom and applies it to her own family life.

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SWEDE_SU 9/24/2012 6:42AM

    great message - thank you for sharing!

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KANOE10 9/21/2012 8:55AM

    That is excellent. Later does never come I have ignored my cats and took the time to play with them.
On the important issues like exercising..that is good to tell yourself...No choice..later never comes.


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ANDASI 9/20/2012 8:19AM

    Thank you for this little peace of wisdom so true i will have to put this to use.


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