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Where I will/will not economize

Friday, November 23, 2012

I used to tell my children not to spend their money on things that weren’t really important to them and then they would have enough to buy the stuff they really cared about.

I’ve been called “Frugal Fannie” (Frugal Fannie’s was a discount clothing store).
I’ve been frugal throughout my life, not cheap, but thrifty.

Obviously, the one place I WILL economize is in clothing for myself. Fortunately, I’ve never worried about having the latest fashions. Comfort, quality and price top my list, plus having something suitable for every occasion. Interchangeable parts are important too. So, the first place I seek out in any store is the clearance rack. I can usually find something there that suits me just fine and often complements something in my closet. I’m a regular at Goodwill also.

My grocery list always begins with whatever is on “special” skipping the junk food, which always seems to be front and center.

Shoes are a different matter.
I watched my mother and her sisters hobble themselves in fashion shoes. It may be genetics, but I know if I force my feet into what I see in magazines, my future will be orthopedic or worse – a cane or a walker.
I wear custom orthotics and there are brands of shoes into which I can fit them comfortably. I pay a premium for these, but I’m worth it.
(Darn Crocs – They bought the company that made my sandals and promptly discontinued them – Grr!)

Running shoes – I choose whatever keeps me moving forward pain/ache free. I truly don’t care what the cost is although I’ve never paid over $100 (I’m not fast enough to need “racing flats”). It’s nice if I can find them on sale, but not necessary. When I need them, I buy them. My favorites even come in black so I can wear those day to day with the same level of comfort as during workouts.

The source is important to me too.
I patronize a local running store, even though I can save some money online. What happened to my thriftiness? Some things just matter more to me. I want this local business with its helpful, knowledgeable employees to stay in business. I want the support they provide the community, encouraging runners/walkers, sponsoring running groups and races and providing employment to the area. Their “discount” this week is for anyone bringing at least 3 items of food for the needy. I bought a new pair of tights. Again, it’s just my personal choice to support this civic minded employer.

“Eat This not That” is a well known advice book.
We each decide to “Buy This not That.”
Organic or not?
Free range or not?
From local farmers/coops/retailers or large businesses with economy of scale?

These are just a few of the choices with which we’re confronted daily. Our decisions are our own as we try to maintain a healthy lifestyle and balance it with reality – our time and resources. We each decide for ourselves.

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SWEDE_SU 11/24/2012 11:50PM

    i'm with you - shoes are important, and so are good running stores!

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CELIAMINER 11/24/2012 10:05PM

    I like clothes with simple lines that last a long time, so I don't have a problem spending more for a classic blazer or two or durable sweaters. I even had my renewal passport photo taken in the same sweater and turtleneck 10 years after the previous one. As for shoes, I got measured by a pro who told me I was wearing the wrong size and assessed the shape of my foot. He recommended New Balance shoes built on an SL-2 last, and I've never had a blister since.

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CHANGINGHORSES 11/24/2012 9:36PM

    Looks like many of us in the same boat. I'd say that I'm in good company. Some things are definitley worth spending a little more on and some things are just not that important. Some time my family "picks on me" because of my frugal ways, they just did it today, but I spend it where I feel it is worth the value to me. (And besides that, I should ask them "When is the last time that I asked to borrow any money from any of you?" They have to borrow money all the time)
Running shoes and hiking boats are worth the price.

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KANOE10 11/24/2012 9:43AM

    I am the same way with clothes..I head for the clearance rack and then try 2nd hand stores..but like you I spend money on my workout shoes! There is a huge difference in shoe quality.

Nice blog.

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WILSONWR 11/23/2012 12:41PM

    I'm very frugal also as far as clothing, but I don't skimp on shoes. I've had too many problems in the past because I got a "great deal." I also make sure I buy quality tools. I've had one "expensive" Stihl chain saw that I've used regularly for the past 15 years. Before that, I had about 5-6 cheap ones in that same period. Needless to say, the cost of the Stihl was much less than all the others put together (and I don't have constant problems with it either!).

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BOILHAM 11/23/2012 8:44AM

    On some things "good enough is good enough".

I always buy last years electronics, good enough and about half to 3/4 the price of the latest gadgets. After all, they were the "best available" last year.

Agree with the rest of your blog, and do likewise myself.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/23/2012 8:43AM

    Me too. Can't remember the last time I bought myself something new, other than my sneakers. I've been promising myself a trip to Goodwill as a treat for reaching goal. Hmmm. Wonder if they're open on Black Friday?

The only thing I've ever disagreed with you on is here, though. I'm sorry they ate your favorite sandal company, but I love Crocs. I've got a pair of Crocs sandals that I've been wearing going on 5 years now!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/23/2012 8:25AM

    Very good choices!

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FITFOODIE806 11/23/2012 8:22AM

    Yeah for local running stores!!! Your house sounds like the house I grew up in. My mom used to tell me to divide the cost by how many times I'd wear it. $100 running shoes = worth it. $15 shirt on clearance that ill only wear twice a year = not worth it!

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KKKAREN 11/23/2012 8:10AM

    Good for you! I'm frugal too!

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There’s room for all of us at this Thanksgiving table

Thursday, November 22, 2012

I have much for which to be grateful on this Thanksgiving Day. The health of my family and seeing my grandchildren regularly top the list. I should clarify that this year I can see only 5 of the 6 grandkids easily. The oldest is spending a year in China, but still I’m happy that he’s fulfilling his dream to experience a new culture even as I await his return.

I’m very thankful to have the opportunity to see the world with my husband. We’ve been married for 45 years and together for nearly 50.

I’m thankful for the technology that allows me to explore, gather information and “meet” new people. Yes, I’m grateful for the support that I’ve found on SP.

Where we:
Become aware of what we’re doing to and for our bodies,
Inform ourselves about the content of our food.
Find the type of exercise that’s enjoyable enough to make a habit
Discover what works best for us

Whether we choose vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, paleo, primal, low carb, high carb, high protein, low salt, low fat, healthy fat, or are big consumers of meat, there’s a place for all of us here at this table.

I’m thankful to belong to a community united in pursuing a healthy lifestyle.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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MJZHERE 11/23/2012 12:56AM

    Well said!

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DALID414 11/22/2012 11:51PM

    Well said! Happy Thanksgiving.

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TINAJANE76 11/22/2012 10:20PM

    Well said! These are some of the greatest things about SparkPeople and I'm happy to be included at your SparkTable. Hope you and your family had a very Happy Thanksgiving!

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KANOE10 11/22/2012 1:43PM

    Have a great Thanksgiving. I like the way you say there is room for everyone at the Spark Table. Everyone finds their own way to health.

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KARRENLYNN 11/22/2012 1:31PM

    You are very blessed indeed! Have a blessed thanksgiving, Brooklyn! ;)

Karen emoticon emoticon

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CELIAMINER 11/22/2012 12:48PM

    Beautiful gratitudes!

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FITFOODIE806 11/22/2012 11:42AM

    Happy thanksgiving to you!!

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BOILHAM 11/22/2012 9:38AM

    I am thankful for intelligent, articulate blogs.

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COCK-ROBIN 11/22/2012 8:57AM

    And a blessed Thanksgiving to you. And a healthy one.

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DEBBY4576 11/22/2012 8:37AM

    You have much to be thankful for. Wishing you a special Thanksgiving.

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WILSONWR 11/22/2012 8:04AM

    That was great. Thanks!

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SWEDE_SU 11/22/2012 7:32AM

    nice - that really says it all:-) emoticon emoticon emoticon

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What will your kids remember about you? Mine still talk about the day I ate the whole pie.

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Well, not the whole pie. As they remember, I left one little sliver for someone else.

I taught high school math and computer science and was also technology coordinator for grades 6-12. I took my job very seriously and I came home each day physically and mentally drained. Even at home my job hovered over me and the entire family. My lesson plans and piles of papers to grade were never far away. When I took this stuff along on a family trip, DH yelled in exasperation “you didn’t sign a contract, you took vows!” Fortunately, there are more good things to remember about our life than the incidents that have become family jokes.

I used to think that my body was craving nourishment. While most of the time my food wasn’t quite so unhealthy, I was quite capable of eating enormous quantities of healthy food too. What I considered healthy has changed over the years as well. Nutritional content wasn’t always as easy to find as it is today.

Yesterday, I wrote about one big slip-up. That sort of thing didn’t used to be a slip-up. It was the norm. Finally I decided to change the norm and now I join the 5%. I may still slip, but I know so much more now. If I do slip, I’m going to pick myself up and keep going in the right direction.

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CAKEMAKERMOM 11/21/2012 10:31AM

    And now you eat the sliver and leave the rest of the pie for everyone else.

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GOTTAPLAN4U 11/21/2012 10:05AM

  I say frequently that the major education I have gotten from SP is on the topic of not letting slip-ups take you down. I really needed to learn that. And now, as you say, I know the right direction is always still ahead of me.
Nice blog.

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COCK-ROBIN 11/21/2012 9:38AM

    Good for you! Keep it up.

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KANOE10 11/21/2012 9:27AM

    You have made great gains in not letting a slip up be the norm! That is the key to staying in the 5 percent. Great job.
I have eaten entire packages of cookies and had to go out and replace them. My kids remember me as always being on a diet.

I am glad we are learning how to be healthy.
Great blog.

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WILSONWR 11/21/2012 8:48AM

    While I'm not there yet, I'm working on changing a lifetime of overeating. The problem was that I "got away with it" when I was younger. I weighed 130 pounds throughout high school, and I overate, on purpose, trying to gain weight! I remember one particular morning that I ate 23 large homemade biscuits (with homemade jelly) - I only stopped becuase I had eaten them all! I just couldn't gain weight because I was so active (maybe a bit "hyper")! Today I can eat what seems like hardly anything and gain weight. While I think I'm still active, I guess it doesn't compare to my youth. Maybe I'll blog about this topic in the future - thanks for bringing back the memories. It's nice that we can laugh about ourselves now and then!

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CELIAMINER 11/21/2012 8:16AM

    Ha haaaaa! Your blog triggered two images for me:
1. I was about 7. My mother made a huge, HUGE pot of spaghetti. A regular dinner plate was not big enough, so she pulled out a large glass platter-size plate for herself. The load of spaghetti and sauce was too much (and likely too hot), and the plate broke. Messy.
2. Current age, and this happens too often. If there is one molecule left in the container of orange juice (or soy milk or whatever), DH does not consider the container empty. Countless times I have reached for something, only to find a drop left and no notation on the running shopping list that we needed more. The family joke is that he left a "Miner serving."

Celia Miner

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SUZYMOBILE 11/21/2012 8:15AM

    Cool! That's your daughter on here!

My small family, broken as it was by divorce, still provides my kids with memories about me. Delia, about to make her first from-scratch Thanksgiving dinner, knows enough to take the giblets out of the bird because, once, I didn't.

Oh, and once I ate a whole BOWL of Christmas cookies. And I mean, like, a MIXING bowl. A LARGE mixing bowl.

What kind of pie was it? I hope to God it wasn't pecan!

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/21/2012 7:25AM

    But now in addition to the Pie Incident, they can talk about how you turned your life around with healthy choices and activities!

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HAYBURNER1969 11/21/2012 7:13AM

    Yes, I remember that day!! I remember saying, "Why did you bother dirtying a dish?" and you pointed out that you didn't eat the WHOLE pie... ha ha!

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MAGGIE101857 11/21/2012 6:46AM

    Now you have me thinking - and laughing! Happy Thanksgiving - don't eat the whole emoticon !!!

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SWEDE_SU 11/21/2012 6:44AM

    that is a winning attitude! it's about the journey, and you are moving in the right direction!

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800 calories of ice cream? - Looks like I’m not infallible.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

The “bottomless pit” is alive and well.

I’ve been writing regularly about my upcoming 3 year maintenance anniversary and how my healthy habits are finally becoming automatic. So it’s only right that I record and report one colossal failure. I believe in baby steps forward so here’s one giant leap backward.

I know exactly why it happened. One day last week some sad news had me feeling down and awareness of my well-known past reactions didn’t change the situation. The ice cream was there, many cartons of the stuff stashed by DH, the junk food king. He keeps most of his junk food out of my sight, but we only have one freezer. The calories weren’t all from the ice cream. We also have a bottle of chocolate syrup in the fridge which I dumped liberally over my mountain of ice cream.

Something is different though. Yeah, I messed up. There’s no way my body needed that. Yet strangely, I don’t feel all that bad about it.

800 extra calories translates into at most 4 ounces. Even if every last calorie lands on my hips, my body’s destination of choice, I can get rid of that.

What I do realize is that I just can’t eat like that every night. You know, we used to do that, DH and me. We laughingly called it our nightly “ice cream ritual.” We have big bowls for ice cream and toppings. When filled, they look like Mt Vesuvius spewing lava, especially when we added a cherry on top.

The ice cream isn’t going away, but I found something else that might help – my mother’s old dessert dishes – the ones I remember as a child. They actually hold ½ cup of ice cream. So that’s where they get the “serving size!” They haven’t changed it since 1950.

The average American was a different size back then too. Maybe my goal should be to train my body to match those old dishes?

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ONMYMEDS 11/21/2012 8:44PM

    I'm amazed you would dirty a dish when you can simply eat it out of the carton. And if you eat it all in one sitting, you only need to wash the spoon once. Just sayin'.


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STRIVER57 11/21/2012 3:21PM

    another person whose favorite binge is ice cream. but yeah the quantities are lower these days. and ice cream is wonderful, if you can keep it under control. and since i want to be able to eat it ...yes we have a set of tiny dishes we serve ice cream in.

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BOILHAM 11/21/2012 3:05PM

    DW sabotaged me and brought hom two packages of Eskimo Pies, explaining she only buys them when there's a 2 for 1 sale. i succumbed and ate 2 or was it 3 of them, over the course of a week. I certainly am not perfect either, but I do like to treat myself now and again. Still, I think I have in under control, so not a lot of guilt.

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CELLISTA1 11/21/2012 11:59AM

    Wow. You touched a chord with a lot of people here. For some of us, ice cream is where we go when the evil robot enters our brain and makes us forget we've be Sparked. But isn't it amazing how when it's over, it's over? Congratulations on that.

I also have some of my mom's dessert dishes and I love them dearly. They are blue glass and she used to put chocolate pudding in them, but I do sometimes have ice cream in them: they hold 1/2 cup!

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SWEDE_SU 11/21/2012 5:14AM

    it's amazing how our dishes have become supersized - compare the corelle plates that were popular when we were married in the late 60s, early 70s, with plates today - definitely a difference. i also try to use smaller bowls to show what a "real" portion is. and at least you recognized what happened, these things *do* happen, and you're back on track again.

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/20/2012 9:25PM

    I agree with TinaJane, 800 calories of ice cream is not what you want to do but is quite controlled compared to binges I have pulled off. It Is surprising to see an old habit suddenly resurrect itself but I like your attitude of not blowing things out of proportion and move forward.

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TINAJANE76 11/20/2012 4:47PM

    You're not alone! I've been at this for almost three years and as much as I'd like to think my healthy habits are a permanent part of my life, my old ones still rear their ugly heads from time to time. I just wish I could keep my overeating episodes to 800 calories. They'd be a lot easier to work off than what mine usually look like.

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FITFOODIE806 11/20/2012 1:30PM

    Old dishes are the best!

I hope you enjoyed the ice cream because what's the fun of a life without a sundae every once in awhile?! Now the trick is to just keep it once in awhile and use the old dishes. Easier said than done, I know!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/20/2012 10:34AM

    Very good! I've got to look for those ice cream dishes.

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CAKEMAKERMOM 11/20/2012 10:08AM

    It happens and then we move on. I use my littlest dishes for my ice cream or I feel left out. I have teeny 6 oz bowls that fit just a cup of something, so they're perfect for anything little I want to eat.

And this is from someone who used to watch "The Biggest Loser" while eating no less than 5 scoops of ice cream in a large bowl with toms of chocolate syrup. I shudder to think how many calories that is. I no longer watch that show either. ;)

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KANOE10 11/20/2012 9:51AM

    Great idea on using small old dishes for ice cream. You are doing a great job of staying positive and finding steps. to avoid the 800 calorie attack!


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62NVON 11/20/2012 9:35AM

    You are my inspiration! Your blogs are always informative and give great perspective. Thank you!

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MJZHERE 11/20/2012 9:32AM

    I had bought a carton of low fat (or something like that) ice cream and it started out with measured portions once in a while, to every night, to eating out of the carton. I didn't even like it, and I was glad once the carton was finished. I am not a huge fan of the taste of yogurt, but I love it is portioned out and that I feel so on top of things eating exactly that portion. You did well to look and learn - isn't that what life is all about?

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KAYOTIC 11/20/2012 9:19AM

    It's well documented (read Brian Wansink's Mindless Eating) that smaller serving dishes will result in small portions and fewer calories eaten. Good perspective on the "fail" and good for you for not blowing it totally out of proportion, and going back to old ways. It was one slip, and really in the grand scheme of things not that big of one. Learn and move on!

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JODROX 11/20/2012 9:08AM

    Great blog! I don't know anyone who eats perfectly 100% of the time. Maybe life would just get too boring if we were all that perfect! LOL So... put it behind you. Enjoy your ice cream now and then -- maybe not such a big bowl! (I'm a big fan of small dishes.) For me, another thing that helps is remembering how crummy I feel when I overdo it. Funny thing, that-- good nutrition feels good, bad nutrition feels bad. Makes sense!

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KANDOLAKER 11/20/2012 9:08AM

    Great blog! Isn't it great that ice cream was such a deal that it got it's own blog? Years ago it might have been "just another night". You are staying on top of it, and I'm sure those 4 ounces will be gone soon. Good insight!!

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SUZYMOBILE 11/20/2012 9:00AM

    I used to have a nightly ice cream ritual, too, but I didn't really count it as a real treat unless it was a BOWL of ice cream. That thing had to have had half a pint of ice cream in it, maybe even a pint! That's such a hard habit to kick that, for me, it would be like taking up smoking again. So I just don't do ice cream any more. And half a cup is such a silly little amount that I don't feel as if it's even worth it.

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LEB0401 11/20/2012 8:53AM

    Ohhh yeah. I've been on an ice cream kick... the pumpkin and candy cane flavors were just calling my name in the freezer section.

I've been able to keep it under control by using ice cream cones, the wafer or "cake" type. If you fill it only to the rim of the cone, it's a perfect 1/2 cup serving. The cone itself is only 20 calories, and no dishes afterward--bonus!

Now.. if I keep eating 2 cones like I did last night, I'll be in trouble.
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GETFIT2LIVE 11/20/2012 8:50AM

    Oh boy, can I relate! I grew up with a nightly ice cream ritual, and it was not a 1/2 cup serving, I can guarantee. Probably a part of why I put on so much weight and my family tended to be heavy, too. I have to very consciously serve out a 1/2 cup serving when I have ice cream (paper cups and an ice cream scoop help), and I know I can't make it a habit every night any more. It's not the one night slip that hurts; it's what we do on a regular basis that does. Well done for recognizing what happened and using it as a learning experience instead of letting it bring you down!

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GOTTAPLAN4U 11/20/2012 8:22AM

  Please let us know if you manage to keep,yourself to the small bowl when the attack hits. I have special small,bowls but when I am under the influence the carton itself becomes the bowl.

You are in good shape to shake this off, as you said. You worked hard to get there and you will stay there.

Nice blog.

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NELLJONES 11/20/2012 8:19AM

    Remember Dixie Cups? Those tiny little ice creams that came with a little wooden "spoon"? They are 1/2 cup, a single serving.

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DAWN14163 11/20/2012 8:03AM

    Good that you could stop at one night - that has to be progress in itself! And yes, smaller plates/dishes are definitely the way forward.

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WILSONWR 11/20/2012 8:00AM

    I have those dishes and I use them whenever I buy ice cream. I haven't bought ice cream in a while, though, because it is a major weakness for me. I can do fine under normal circumstances, but when the stress comes along, it's way too easy to reach for the bigger bowls - especially with Blue Bell Homemade Vanilla!

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MAGGIE101857 11/20/2012 7:42AM

    Interesting perspective! Maybe it's time to hit the "antique" stores and stock up on some old dinnerware and dessert plates! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 11/20/2012 7:20AM

    Great blog: I also have some of those 1950s dessert dishes. Juice glasses too: remember 4 oz servings?? Of course Marilyn Monroe wore a size 16 roughly equivalent to today's 8s!!

As you say, not a disaster and worth it for the added insight going forward.

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Surprise! Dr Oz agrees with my Grandma!

Monday, November 19, 2012

Not about everything obviously. She would cringe at some of his advice.

I don’t usually watch TV during the day, but on Friday the 16th I found myself watching yet another easy fix for weight loss. I was about to switch channels when the promo appeared for the next topic.

They staged a stressful situation in a supermarket and afterwards measured the heart rate and blood pressure of the customers affected. Not surprisingly, the numbers were extremely elevated.

This isn’t really news to us. We know that stress is detrimental to our health. We have plenty of stress in the modern world. Some is unrelenting – a demanding, unreasonable boss, health concerns in the family, money troubles, traffic gridlock. Extreme reactions like “road rage” and “going postal” have actually made it into our common vocabulary.

In this episode the TV staff had an actor delay a checkout line while he communicated loudly on his cell phone with his wife who was still searching the store for certain items. This went on and on while she would return with one thing after another that he considered unacceptable. The waiting continued.

Afterwards during the TV interview the question was “Did you know the effect it was having on your body?” Although the victims knew how upset and frustrated they were, they were surprised by the actual numbers.

What would you have done?

My Grandma’s advice as I wrote in yesterday’s blog would be – “Don’t stress your heart”
But how exactly would we have accomplished this?

Grandma would probably have waited patiently and used the time to say her prayers.

My Dad would have pushed the offending cart out of the way and moved the line along. He always stood up to bullies. Fortunately, back then you didn’t have to risk that the bully might be armed.

I would have called the manager and threatened to leave my cart of groceries right where it was, if he didn’t fix the situation. There’s a bit of my Dad in me.

According to the experiment, the most dangerous thing for our bodies is just silently to become more and more frustrated.

One stressful situation isn’t likely to have long term effects on our health, but continuing stress will and we must find a healthy way of dealing with it.
Stress is something we all have in common, but the type of stress is very individual as are the solutions. There are many suggestions in the SP articles and blogs and we have to find what works best for each of us. Whatever we decide, let’s just do it.

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CELIAMINER 11/20/2012 11:22AM

    As much as I like to think I would take some action like talking to the manager, the truth is I am the non-confrontational, head-in-the-sand type. I could feel my breathing getting shallower and my pulse getting faster as I imagined myself in that line silently fuming. Thanks for the thought-provoking blog. Now I have time to envision the situation with a healthier outcome before it becomes real.

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DEBBY4576 11/19/2012 4:44PM

    Interesting. I am working on patience with the snowbirds. Our little town swells to double this time of year. And they are all very elderly. Some are sweet, some are mean, and they all are slow. Some because of meds, some because of dementia, and some treat their entire 4-6 months here as a vacation. O my, I can feel my BP going up just writing this haha. It does no good to get upset and their stubbornness, or slowness, or just plain meanness. I've only been here 13 years, so I'm hoping to get this conquered soon. Another haha.

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LINDAKAY228 11/19/2012 2:06PM

    Oh yeah, shopping can definitely be stressful! And the closer to the holidays the worse it becomes. I have a smartphone with a Kindle reader application on it. I've started downloading books and have learned to read those when I have to stand in line (or any other place where I have to wait). Really helps me stay calmer and pass the time.

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SOUTH_FORK 11/19/2012 1:04PM

    I wish I could have your grandmother's calm. I'd probably curse them silently, do some deep breathing, and then ask them to just check out before turning to the store manager. Sometimes people are so oblivious to those around them... of course, we can't consider *everyone* around us before we act, but a good dose of common courtesy would certainly grease the squeaky wheels of society!

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PRINCESSAMY 11/19/2012 12:56PM

    emoticon blog

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CAKEMAKERMOM 11/19/2012 10:57AM

    Was it a small store with only one register open? I probably would stand there calmly, but if the line got too long, I'd ask the manager to open another register so they could have repeat customers because I'd know half of the people having a bad experience wouldn't come back. There's a reason I don't shop at JoAnn's too often.

I'm pretty calm about waiting and frequently let people with fewer items go ahead of me.

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NELLJONES 11/19/2012 10:34AM

    I'm with you and would have called the manager. That's what they are for. I heard long ago to give problems to their owners and walk away. Some problems are God's, some are mine, and some are the store manager's. If he doesn't promptly rectify the situation, you can choose to take your custom elsewhere.

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WILSONWR 11/19/2012 9:13AM

    Yes, we need to confront many of life's roadblocks head on to reduce the stress. Avoiding confrontation may seem easier, but it can certainly be hard on the body!

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SUZYMOBILE 11/19/2012 8:38AM

    How very timely, too! The holidays shouldn't be yet another source of stress, but they are. I always try to make Thanksgiving dinner as easy on us as possible, but Bill thrives on complexity. This difference between us reached its pinnacle one Thanksgiving when he thought it would be fun to cater a Thanksgiving dinner for 30 people whom we didn't know. I'm so grateful whenever Thanksgiving is easier than that, which is every time!

I know when I'm stressed by work situations, and my solution isn't so great. I fume and fuss, and Bill gets all stressed as a result. I think I'll try deep breathing next time.

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KANOE10 11/19/2012 8:27AM

    Great point..the silent stress around us is unhealthy..even in such an innocuous place such as a supermarket. There are inconsiderate people everywhere..even in my gym.

I do think exercise helps us keep that stress level down!

This was good to reflect on especially as the holidays are getting near and stress levels go up!


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BOILHAM 11/19/2012 8:23AM

    I would have asked the cashier that while she was waiting, would she mind asking the manager to open another register.
Had my DW been with me, she would have told me to settle down and go wait in the car.

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DAWN14163 11/19/2012 7:54AM

    "The most dangerous thing for our bodies is to silently become more and more frustrated".....Oh dear. I know I would find it way too stressful to confront the situation, although I would probably abandon my cart and walk away which I guess is a sort of solution. I think I'd have liked your Grandma!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/19/2012 7:48AM

    Very good. Dealing with inconsiderate people like that can be stressful.

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