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“Thank you for your service” is not enough.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Today is Veterans Day which originally was called “Armistice Day,” the day that ended WWI which at that time was “The Great War” or “The War to End All Wars.” Sadly, that didn’t happen.

On Sundays my blog entries tend to be more introspective, possibly because I never plan an intensive workout or because I’m on my way to church and thinking ahead.

After my father’s death, I became active in the Sailors’ Association of his WWII ship. I maintain their website and have attended their last 5 reunions. They’ve come together every year since 1964 and have just voted to continue the tradition. I think each old sailor wants to be the last man standing.

My Dad and my Mom have been quoted in my blog, usually in a funny way. Today though, I want to say “thank you Dad” and thanks to all those members of the “Greatest Generation” who left their ordinary lives, went off and saved the world and then returned to live their average lives again. Thanks to their spouses who “kept the home-fires burning” as the old song went. Their sacrifice should be recognized as well.

Finally, this isn’t just about a generation disappearing daily. Millions have served since then in a variety of situations and circumstances and they deserve our thanks and support also.

I’m familiar with the charitable efforts of our military in our communities, for example the annual “Toys for Tots” campaign. However, I was surprised by the level of need for holiday support BY military families as well. I was appalled at the number of military families finding themselves in dire financial straits and the need to appeal to the community for help.

“Thank you for your service” is a comment we hear often now and that’s as it should be. However, I hope we won’t stop with easy verbal affirmation. We must support the real physical and economic needs of military families. No one who is ready to lay his or her life on the line for us should have to stress about providing Christmas presents for their families.

Edit: Once again comments have prompted some additional thoughts on my part. My husband is a Viet Nam vet also, so I vividly remember those divisive days and did not intend to open old wounds.

However, while the experiences of some returning vets are reprehensible as stated, the treatment we received from those who supported the war was in my view equally bad. I’m referring to the company and coworkers who viewed my husband’s return with distain because they “had to give him his job back!” He was warned that the law only required them to do that for one year. I consider that being virtually “spit upon.” I do not want that to happen again to anyone regardless of the proper words being spoken.

Whether you (or your parents) were in Viet Nam, in the streets or going on with your normal lives while others served. Let’s do the right thing now.

  
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WATERMELLEN 11/11/2012 9:41PM

    Remembrance Day here in Canada, and I'm happy to see a huge uptick in respect and support for our veterans here.

Ensuring that veterans have the financial support and other services they require is a never-ending battle.



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DAISYBELL6 11/11/2012 11:49AM

    Thank you. You said some things that I would like to have said.

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COCK-ROBIN 11/11/2012 9:55AM

    And a salute to those who have served!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/11/2012 9:55AM

    And a salute to those who have served!

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SAMI199 11/11/2012 9:25AM

    As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
John F. Kennedy

Thanks for your blog-we need to remember our vets & their families everyday & actions speak louder than words...

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/11/2012 9:11AM

    Amen.

When my son came back from Iraq in 2010(!) he was denied unemployment compensation because "dismissed due to being unable to come to work, serving overseas". Of course this was corrected by a call to his US representative and a letter to the employer about the law...

This sort of scenario should NOT be happening, but it still is. Hope when he gets back this time (second deployment runs through early next year) he will have better support upon the return.

Thank YOU for all you are doing for these remaining sailors. It's so much more than words.

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WILSONWR 11/11/2012 8:42AM

    My dad fought in WWII, Korea, and 3 times in Vietnam. I am a Vietnam Era vet that supported the mission from Guam. Like Boilham, I remember the days that you didn't wear your uniform for fear of getting spit on. I'm glad things have finally changed and vets are finally getting the respect they deserve. But you are right, more needs to be done. They have a program here in San Antonio where families take in single military members during Thanksgiving. The Air Force bases here also have an "Airman's Attic" where you can donate househould items (and food) to young military couples. I only live about a mile and a half from Randolph AFB and I go to the gym there regularly. I'm very pleased with the quality and spirit of the troops today. We should never forget them!

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KANOE10 11/11/2012 8:42AM

    I agree that our government needs to do more to support our vets when they come home. They need medical care and financial support and help getting jobs.

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MJZHERE 11/11/2012 8:34AM

  Not only stress about Christmas presents, but a place to live and/or necessary medical aid due to injuries sustained while protecting us! Vets experiencing these conditions live on the streets of Phoenix, and it is more than wrong.

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BEAR8MM 11/11/2012 8:20AM

    I am a Vietnam vet myself. My father was a Korea vet. What I think about on Veterans Day are the many thousands who came home in body bags. Those that "gave all" deserve our deepest respect and undying gratitude.

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BOILHAM 11/11/2012 8:10AM

    As the son of a WWII vet and a Viet Nam Era vet I thank you for this blog.
Yes, please do what you can to support the veterans, but continue to thank them for their service as well.
I hear this phrase often myself. It sure beats being spit upon.


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EBONYSOL 11/11/2012 7:14AM

    "Lest we forget" is not just about all the people who fight or die in wars, it is also about the survivors and their families after they return home. I am disgusted with governments that can find money to run the war machine but not care for their own troops once they return home.


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Water, water everywhere? How about salt, salt, everywhere!

Saturday, November 10, 2012

We used to have to memorize poetry in school back in the stone age. Do they even do that anymore? “Water, water everywhere and nary a drop to drink.” As I remember, that was the lament of the Ancient Mariner as he was surrounded by undrinkable salt water.

That’s not a problem for us anymore, at least in this country. Water comes free from our faucets and in plastic bottles if, while out and about, we forget to bring or run out of our own. After my morning coffee and OJ, I ONLY drink water

A comment on my Nov 8th blog entry asked how my weight has been so stable (within tenths) over the last few months. I began to wonder about that too. I’ve been in maintenance for almost 3 years, but my weight in that time has always varied by a few pounds one way or the other. Water weight I figured accounted for that. No big deal. Still, all of a sudden something is different and I’m drinking the same amount of water.

At first I thought it was because I became active on SP, determined as I was not to mess up now with my membership in the 5% right on the horizon. That may have had something to do with it, but then I remembered one other big change. Since I never had a blood pressure problem, in fact, it runs on the low side, I never before was concerned with salt intake. We don’t even have a salt shaker on the table, so how could it be a problem for us.

In September I added salt as a nutrient to measure on my tracker. I was surprised to see the wild daily fluctuations depending on which of my “favorites” I had eaten. I’ve been carefully reading labels for a long time now, but concentrating on calories, carbs, fat, protein and calcium. Yikes, salt is everywhere!! I began to actively keep within recommended limits, aiming for the middle of the range as much as possible. Strange how I never considered this before. More salt leads to more water retention and vice versa.

Ancient Rome used to pay its soldiers partly with salt. Salt is a necessary nutrient, not to mention one of the first preservatives. It’s also something I intend to keep in check.

  
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ALLENJOSEPH 11/10/2012 11:13PM

    I believe highly in the nutrition tracker. I'm thankful that Spark People has made it easier to keep an eye on all we eat. Ihave been shocked many times about salt. It is something I have to watch in numbers.
Enjoyed your blog.
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TINAJANE76 11/10/2012 8:36PM

    So very true for many people! I'm actually one of those lucky freaks of nature who has my doctor's permission to go liberal on the salt (along with other goodies like extra coffee) due to very low blood pressure that has occasionally led to fainting spells. I also sweat a lot when I exercise so I need that extra salt and other electrolytes (I have special tabs that I put in my water when I workout) to keep me in check and prevent the dreaded nighttime leg cramps, ouch! Fortunately, the extra salt doesn't seem to affect my weight. The blips I see now are usually the result of extra volume but I think my body's accustomed to the sodium now.

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MJZHERE 11/10/2012 12:06PM

  With low pressure, don't watch the salt at all (not saying this is a good thing). But now you have me thinking about the flunctuations and maybe that is part of the cause - 2 lbs up from yesterday to today but that doesn't matter at all to me. I did add in salt snacks the last two days because I am experimenting to what I want to eat, how things taste, what the scale does, and the amount of calories I can eat for maintenance.

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/10/2012 11:49AM

    Salt is everywhere! Especially in processed food. And there are insane amounts in fast food which is why I haven't eaten fast food (including Subway which is just as bad as any burger or taco joint) since March 2011. Now that my blood pressure is down from barely controlled on meds to the low end of normal, I am a little more relaxed about my salt intake. But I still remain aware of the need to STAY aware of salt, still avoid fast food and still amazed that it is so hard to keep sodium intake at a reasonable level.

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KANOE10 11/10/2012 8:55AM

    It is everywhere and we all can eat too much of it. great idea to add it to your tracker.

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WILSONWR 11/10/2012 8:42AM

    Since my wife's kidneys failed, we really have had to watch the salt. Even though I sometimes think I'm being good, the food tracker tells a different story. The good thing is that I used to add salt to everything - now there are very few foods that taste better with added salt.

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NEED2MOVE2 11/10/2012 8:20AM

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BOILHAM 11/10/2012 8:05AM

    Be careful on interpreting what is a normal amount of salt to take daily. Those recommendation are for the typical sedentary adult, not for athletes or those who train vigorously in a heated environment.
Also, one must take into account their individual perspiration levels, which can fluctuate a lot. F'rinstance, I perspire heavily, and must ingest more salt than the average runner, therefore much more than a couch potato.
Salt or sodium ingestion is a delicate balancing act, and must be individualized.
Just my 2 cents. Good blog! (as usual).

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MAGGIE101857 11/10/2012 8:04AM

    I am always amazed at the salt contents in products that I would never think of. I cut my breakfast in half yesterday because of the salt content. Avoiding packaged foods like DARJR50 said is a must in the battle. Great job on staying stable!!!!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/10/2012 7:08AM

    Very good self-analysis. You're doing great!

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DARJR50 11/10/2012 7:03AM

  Salt is the most difficult item on my list to keep in check. We need it but not in such great quantities as they put in packaged foods. This is why I am slowly getting away from anything packaged.

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The middle of the road is a lonely place and dangerous too

Friday, November 09, 2012

This is absolutely not political, but with a hard fought election just 3 days behind us, I’m struck by the similarities between our weight loss journey and our political landscape.

I don’t have to describe the political situation. We’ve just endured enough of that to understand what I mean.

As for a parallel in weight loss:
Take this pill, no that other one and all will be fine
Buy this gadget and you’ll look great
Sprinkle this on your food. No other effort needed at all
You need lots of cardio. No, you need lots of strength training
Go low fat!
Go low carb!
Weigh yourself often. No, that’s bad!
Eat high carb and lose weight (Dr Oz, just a few days ago)
Promises, promises, promises!

Here I am in the middle of the road trying to walk that line painted down the center. Calories in/calories out - moderation in all things, balancing my nutrients and a reasonable amount/variety of exercise. Occasionally I wonder about those on either side going in opposite directions. I hope they successfully get to their destination too. It may depend on their vehicle (body) type.

Now why is it dangerous to be in the middle of the road?
Sometimes you get run over by both sides.

  
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TINAJANE76 11/10/2012 8:28PM

    Once again, I agree with you 100%! I don't think there's any magic bullet in this process--it's really a combination of being moderate in all things, like you said, and finding the little things that help you stay focused and motivated along the way.

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/10/2012 10:27AM

    We all need to figure out what works for our own situation and be confident in that, regardless of what works for others. It is ok that what works for one, doesn't work for another. It even makes life kinda interesting. :-)

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KANOE10 11/10/2012 8:58AM

    I am with you on that road of maintenance. We have to find our own way to maintain..as we are flooded with information on either side.

Great blog.

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WATERMELLEN 11/9/2012 7:55PM

    Moderation in all things (even, occasionally, moderation!!)

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SHAYLAGETFIT 11/9/2012 4:44PM

  Great post! I am just glad that I found SP and have some guidance as to what we should be doing!

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ROOSTER72 11/9/2012 3:16PM

    If we stand side by side in the middle of the road, they will have to go around us!

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SOUTH_FORK 11/9/2012 2:15PM

    Wishing you the very best in navigating the road.. That painted line seems mighty thin sometimes, especially when there are so many of us trying to walk it!

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WILSONWR 11/9/2012 10:48AM

    Great blog!

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CATMAGNET 11/9/2012 10:10AM

    The diet industry is definitely a minefield, which is why I thank my lucky stars every day that I found Sparkpeople.

As always, an awesome post! :)

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MJZHERE 11/9/2012 9:54AM

  Lol! I keep thinking of the turtles that use to get run over on the street where I grew up in the country. I know that doesn't fit but it is just how my mind works sometime. Have you thought about a column for the newspaper - you could bring in extra money on the side.

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COCK-ROBIN 11/9/2012 9:18AM

    You're doing great!

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SUZYMOBILE 11/9/2012 9:04AM

    Pay no attention to those on the sides of the road! emoticon

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62NVON 11/9/2012 8:40AM

    Awesome blog, as usual. =)

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JACKIE542 11/9/2012 8:36AM

    Love your blog, thank you. emoticon emoticon

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DAISYBELL6 11/9/2012 8:21AM

    Great Blog! So true!

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BOILHAM 11/9/2012 8:19AM

    Excellent analogy. You have a wonderful mind.

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I weigh myself every day and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with me

Thursday, November 08, 2012

Although I’m in maintenance for almost 3 years, I’m very glad that I don’t have an “official weight day” every week or month because a few days ago after 2 months of exceptionally stable (within tenths) weight, I gained 2 pounds overnight. Because I do weigh daily, I knew that this was a fluke fluctuation. For each of us the amount of fluctuation varies by person and will be affected by one’s existing body weight. For me 2 lbs is just a bit less than 10% of my weight loss. I knew I didn’t regain 10% of my weight loss in one day. If it had been a month or more since I last got on the scale, it might have been a possibility.

If I hadn’t monitored each day, I might think I gained back 10% of my hard fought loss in spite of doing everything right. That WOULD be distressing to me. Daily fluctuation – no big deal! An upward trend? Yes, that’s a big deal that I want to turn around before it becomes more difficult. If it is a trend, I would have reason to reevaluate. Perhaps I’m not being honest about something?

Personally I think that avoiding the scale CAN become as obsessive as overusing it. However, if 66% of Americans are overweight or worse, how many of us are overusing it in the manner for which it was intended?

I’m sure that some people are too thin or “skinny-fat” but they are an ever-shrinking minority. Looking around I sure don’t see many. I would think it would also be easier for them to eat more and get fit than it is the other way around. If they actually have an eating disorder, that’s a different matter entirely, requiring serious intervention.

I also know that some people naturally can carry more weight in a healthy, successful manner than others. In the end we all make our own decisions and try to avoid judging others. We all define for ourselves what the right weight and “being healthy” means for us. Quibbling about the best method of measurement obscures the problem. We each choose the means to achieve our goals which very likely differs from that chosen by other people. We often hear that “a number on the scale doesn’t define me.” Of course it doesn’t. Neither does a specific percent of body fat or some bust, waist, hip measurement or dress size.

I’m more than a number on a scale – absolutely true. However, our collective numbers on our collective scales are continuously increasing and as a society, this is something that should concern us.

  
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FITFOODIE806 11/11/2012 7:19AM

    What a thoughtful and well written blog. Ill chime in a day I'm another daily weigher. Keeps me accountable and on track. For me it does tr opposite of getting upset about the number. It helps me see patterns. I record the number and compare week to week not day to day.
Thanks for putting this out to spark!

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TINAJANE76 11/10/2012 8:23PM

    I agree with you 100%. I think the number on the scale is a valid measurement of progress, as are lots of other methods like body fat %, how your clothes fit, medical results, etc. For me personally, if I'm avoiding the scale, it's usually because I'm not facing weight gain and that's a problem. After all, I didn't get to 260 pounds by facing reality! Near-daily weigh-ins keep me honest and focused on where I want to be. They've also been an eye-opener for me in terms of coming to understand that a big meal here and there isn't going to undo all of my progress. The weight always goes back down within a few days if I'm otherwise on track.

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KANOE10 11/9/2012 8:08AM

    I weigh myself daily also. It keeps me focused.

Great blog., emoticon

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COCK-ROBIN 11/8/2012 10:04PM

    Very good! Your determination will make you one of the 5% that keep the weight off. Good show!

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DEBBY4576 11/8/2012 5:54PM

    In the end we all make our own decisions and try to avoid judging others. I so agree. Also agree that weighing daily can not be a bad thing, and for the very same reason. If I weigh once a week and that's the day I gain the 2 lbs, I'd think I really gained 2 lbs. So there's another thing we agree on.

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ELAYNE39 11/8/2012 11:41AM

    I agree that for some people weighing daily works. But there are some of us that daily weighing is not the best course. Bottom line is only you know what works for you. When losing or maintaining weight, what works for one person, may not work for another. There is nothing wrong with any of us. We just need to find what works in our situation. I think its great you shared this. It lets others know that weighing daily can work if you put the results in the right perspective. You have a lot of great company that also believe in daily weighing.

Comment edited on: 11/9/2012 9:30:44 AM

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SHAYLAGETFIT 11/8/2012 11:38AM

  Great blog!

I am a weekly weigher typically. there are some days though, especially after a horrendous weekend of alcohol or too much restaurant food that I will weigh more than my official day. I don't usually weigh more than 3 times a week though. I do this because the number is not what bothers me so much as how I feel about myself. I know I have to lose some weight to stay healthy but I aim for other goals such as finishing a 5K and how certain clothes fit.

good luck! and thanks for sharing more thoughfulness!

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MPLSLINDA 11/8/2012 10:27AM

    Love this post. You make a strong, common sense case for the reasons you weigh yourself everyday. "Quibbling about the best method of measurement obscures the problem" might just be my favorite sentence. I also love what you said about being more than a number on the scale or measuring tape or BMI or clothing size or any other instrument of measurement. As you say, this is all very true. Those numbers do not define us. Nor are they indicators of our worth as human beings. Once we separate our human value from the numbers, we can get down to the business of facing the facts those numbers tell us about our bodies. I weigh daily because for 3 reasons: I want to be aware of the fluctuations; doing so helps me set my intention for the day to mind my portions; and to practice separating my identity from the number on the scale.

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LEB0401 11/8/2012 10:26AM

    I weigh daily.. sometimes several times a day. But Saturday mornings are my "official" weigh-ins that I plug into SP. The minute I wake up I undress and weigh in with the Body Fat % and Water % option on. This way my weight charts are affected by as little external factors as possible.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/8/2012 9:49AM

    Great blog! That's exactly how I got into trouble over the past year--switching over to a weekly weigh-in that didn't tell me in strong enough terms that I was on an upward trend! Now I'm weighing daily and will never stop. (Well, actually, I'm weighing three times in a row, but never mind! emoticon )

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HFAYE81 11/8/2012 9:16AM

    If you go off track, it's much easier to see the results and get BACK on track with those numbers staring you in the face. I wonder if your 2 pounds were the result of water retention? I only weigh every week or so, but that's because I don't have a scale at home. It's going on the Christmas list emoticon

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PMRUNNER 11/8/2012 8:56AM

    The tools we use are most helpful when they lead to self awareness. That works differently for everyone. I appreciate you sharing what works for you and, more importantly, why it works and that you share it in a supportive and positive manner.

I am a daily weigher also and when I eventually transition to maintenance, I see myself continuing that. It works for me! One thing I am surprised about is that you can go so long with only +/- tenths of pounds. On any given day I can go up or down 2-3 pounds with a range between my weekly high and weekly low of 5+ pounds! I think you are right though, if you have the awareness to know the difference between fluctuation and actual gain, then you don't sweat the small stuff!

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SUSIEQ911 11/8/2012 8:47AM

    I weigh in almost every day. I've been in maintenance since mid-July and ended up settling at a lower weight than my actual goal. I like where I am and it's not hard to stay there (right now, holidays will be a challenge).

I'm weighing now mostly to make sure I'm staying hydrated when I run in the AM. I read that you should weigh the same or +/- 1 to 2 lbs if you're drinking enough when you workout. So I weigh before I run and after so I know.

I also can't lose anymore. My dr. told me this is it. No lower. I don't want the wrath of Dr M. when I have my next appt in January. She's a great dr.

I think weighing in every day is bad when people get upset over it and don't see that weight fluctuates all day long every day. Somedays I'm up 2 lbs from the day before depending on my diet. I know most is water retention from a high sodium day. It pains me when I read how upset some people get and I just want to shake them and tell them to snap out of it. emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 11/8/2012 8:44AM

    I weigh myself daily. Every morning first thing before I do anything else. I helps keep me on track and focused.
I am not at my goal weigh, however I know that I will have to continue to watch my weigh if I intend to keep the weigh off.

Great blog.

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MJZHERE 11/8/2012 8:42AM

  The research shows one of the things that most successful maintainers do is weigh daily (so absolutely nothing wrong with most of us lol). For me, it is good to learn to not obsess about the number - mine has flunctuated 2-4 lbs. However it is a good tool - it is teaching me that my body does want at least 1200 calories a day - and that when I give that amount to it, it quits trying to hold onto the weight. If I was only weighing monthly, depending on that day's flunctuation, I might have concluded that amount of calories was causing me to gain weight.

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MENNOLY 11/8/2012 8:32AM

    I too am a daily weigher. For me it just makes sense. If I weigh under the same conditions and time I have very reliable day to day weights. Although occasionally I will have a up tick especially after eating out. Usually if I have a down tick it actually is weight loss. emoticon on getting to maintenance!

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WELLNESSME09 11/8/2012 8:11AM

    Love your blogs!
Thank you for sharing them with us! emoticon emoticon

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NELLJONES 11/8/2012 8:06AM

    I was an hourly weigher when I was fat, went to once a week while losing, and have weighed daily ever since. The weight has stayed off. It's the only way to make sure I always remember that maintenance is something to DO every day, not a destination that is automatically forever, like graduation.

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BECKYANNE1 11/8/2012 7:39AM

    I weigh myself daily also. I've been seeing my Dr. reg. after having surgery and I've heard a few women complain when asked to step on the scale to be weighed before going in for their appt. Denial! That used to be me! then reality hit and I got on that scale and I've been on it daily ever since. Mine also fluctuates and I'm ok with that unless it's too much and it doesn't come off right away. Then I have to re adjust what I'm doing to get those lbs off. Much rather take off 5 than 10 or more.

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WILSONWR 11/8/2012 7:37AM

    As usual, great blog!

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How to celebrate an anniversary? - 3 yrs of maintenance

Wednesday, November 07, 2012

How appropriate that Thanksgiving Day will be the date that I’m scheduled to join that special 5% who keep the weight off for 3 years. How ironic that it’s also a day we traditionally celebrate with food, lots of food.

What can I do to mark the occasion? Maybe:
Find a “Turkey Trot” race to run. That’s an alternative to a morning of cooking.
Plot a route through the mall to hit all the sales on “Black Friday”
Find a fancy restaurant that charges a lot for very little food – enforced portion control.
Volunteer to help serve Thanksgiving Dinner to the needy

My husband and I don’t have a good record with anniversary celebrations.

The problem began 45 years ago on our wedding day when the priest didn’t show up. He FORGOT the date. There I was standing in the back of the church, with the organist playing “Here Comes the Bride” and this bride wasn’t moving. There was no clergyman there to make it official.

Fortunately, it was Brooklyn in 1967. Finding a substitute priest was easy although the delay did cause a stir among the guests who were wondering which one of us was having second thoughts.

The marriage went well, but each anniversary was a bust.
Recalling a few of them:

#1 - DH got his orders to active duty in the army. Lots of tears, no celebration.
#2 - DH got orders to Viet Nam. Same reaction as last year.
#3 - DH was in Viet Nam. Baby & I were alone, very sad

#5 - 6 months pregnant pulling a U-Haul across the country with a 3 year old throwing up in the back seat

#10 – There was a gruesome murder in our neighborhood.

#20 – DH scheduled his elective hemorrhoid surgery. Why not, right?

#39 – I tripped over a planter outside the restaurant and fell sprawled out face first resulting in a frozen shoulder that took 6 months of rehab

If you’re familiar with the songs of the sixties, our anniversary, June 3rd is noteworthy for another reason. According to Bobby Gentry, it was also the day that “Billy Joe McAllister jumped off the Tallahatchie Bridge.” (Ode to Billy Joe, August 1967)

Maintenance is a different kind of anniversary and even if I don’t plan anything special, I will be very thankful just as I am for 45 years of marriage. In both cases I’m in this for the long term. One bad day doesn’t matter in marriage or as we work toward a healthy lifestyle.

  
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GINIEMIE 6/9/2013 12:29PM

    Love it! Ouch no priest!!!!
didn't read it first time around. My husband had lost his job 1 months prior to our first anniversary. We had a 1 month old at the time. On our anniversary he was still unemployed and was contemplating selling Rainbow Vacuum cleaners. If you knew my Steve you'd have died laughing. I did several months later.
Like you said a few bad days does not make a bad lifestyle or marriage. It's what you do about those bad days that count.
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NUMD97 1/11/2013 11:31AM

    Catching up on some of your blogs, this one, belatedly, but well worth it. Fun read. You've weathered a lot and come out of it all, in great shape [no pun intended]. I'm only a few years younger than you, and remember some of your events very well. Truly glad for you, that it worked out well.

Keep up the good work!

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SUSIEMT 11/27/2012 5:54PM

    Woo Hoo to you! Good blog. Keep up the good work!

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EATVEGAN 11/23/2012 1:49AM

    It's always good to hear about people being successful maintainers. I've never in the past made it all the way to goal before I started gaining back. NOT THIS TIME!!! Thanks for sharing.

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 11/22/2012 11:56PM

    Wonderful and funny blog. Hope this maintenance anniversary was a little less eventful than some of your wedding anniversaries were! But I think the important message in all this is that you are still married to the same guy -- 45 years --WOW!--and you are still maintaining--3 years---WOW! I hope to hit both your achievements. I've been married to the same guy for 42 years and have maintained my 178 lb. weight loss for 19 months now. So I'm only 3 years short on the wedding anniversary thing and more than halfway to the 3 years maintenance anniversary thing. Maybe I can do both! I sure hope so! Congrats to you on a very significant achievement!

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE 11/22/2012 4:32PM

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CM_GARDNER78 11/21/2012 11:49PM

    Oh my gosh what a story! Don't worry about old Billy Joe! :-) At least you can look back now with some laughter.......

I KNOW that you're weight maintenance anniversary will go MUCH better!!! Keep at it - and keep your wonderful attitude. :-)

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WELLNESSME09 11/21/2012 6:56AM

    You did emoticon and I love your story!
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POPSY190 11/20/2012 1:48AM

    Congratulations on all your anniversaries, but especially on 3 years' maintenance.

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BROWNCOFIDDLER 11/15/2012 9:31PM

    Outstanding blog! Loved it and at least this year you don't have to worry about DH getting deployed. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CARRAND 11/15/2012 6:23PM

    Great blog!

I've been married 40 years. My anniversaries have been pretty calm compared to yours!

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BABES-R-US 11/15/2012 6:08PM

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!

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LIVIN2LOVE1 11/15/2012 5:31PM

    Keep Calm and Carry On...

Congrats on your 3 year maintenance! You have now crossed over the tracks to better stats!


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PRESBESS 11/15/2012 4:12PM

    My take-away from your blog is "keep going... keep pushing forward". Thanks for sharing your story!
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TUBLADY 11/15/2012 2:24PM

    Congratulations on 3 years of maintaining and 45 of marriage. Both take work and dedication.
I plan on making that 3 years mark in 2014. Same year I will be divorces 45 years.
I'm excelling at maintenance, wasn't so good in marriage.
Take care,
Be strong, stay positive.
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JEWELY_ROADS 11/15/2012 1:33PM

    emoticon You are an inspiration to me, I like your story. I managed to "carry well" extra weight. No more! I hope to follow in your tracks and reach the 5% too! emoticon

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CELIAMINER 11/15/2012 1:07PM

    Yet another entertaining and informative blog. Have you considered a follow-on career in writing? :-)

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MILLIE5522 11/15/2012 1:00PM

    Congratulations on your fantastic achievement!
Wouldn't it be a good idea to mark each maintenance year as Wedding anniversaries are marked eg. year one could be a wooden spoon, year two could be a coffee mug, year 3 could be some new scales....you get the picture???

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GETFIT2LIVE 11/15/2012 12:16PM

    Congratulations on reaching the 3-year mark for keeping the weight off AND on 45 years of marriage--both significant accomplishments these days. Your philosophy and attitude are what makes the difference in both, keep it up; you're beating the odds and doing awesome!

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SLENDERELLA61 11/15/2012 11:20AM

    Congratulations on 3 years of living at goal. You've broken the odds and raised your chances of significant success. Hooray! And you are so right about one bad day not mattering in maintenance or a 45 year marriage. Wonderful analogy. Thanks.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 11/15/2012 11:05AM

    Thanks for sharing!
I am in the 5% club too!
Blessings on your continuing journey.
Have a great time Turkey Trotting!!!
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Very well done on three years of maintenance and an amazing 45 years of marriage!! What a foretelling of future anniversaries to come was that rocky start to your marriage!! That you overcame them shows the strong bond you share with your husband and in this day and age of breakups that is so wonderful to hear!
May you have many more and happier anniversaries to come!
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NUOVAELLE 11/15/2012 10:31AM

    I'm sure anniversaries numbers 4, 7-9, 11-19 and 21-38 had lots of beautiful memories to share and so did many other days in your years of marriage. And surely your years of maintenance are made up of many good days and some bad ones. A proof that success doesn't always come with no bad days and no setbacks. But it almost always comes through persistence.
Congratulations on your maintenance and your successful marriage.
Thank you for this inspiring blog!
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CEEBEE33 11/15/2012 9:59AM

    What a great way to think about it. Congratulations on maintaining both marriage and health!

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WINDSURFNERD 11/15/2012 9:44AM

    well said! I've never made the connection between marriage and maintenance but you're right! I guess I needed another 20 years for the idea to "click" ;-)
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MEXGAL1 11/15/2012 9:05AM

    well said....one bad day does not ruin the overall battle.
Happy Anniversary.

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CATMAGNET 11/15/2012 8:57AM

    Mazel tov, darling! emoticon

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62NVON 11/15/2012 8:23AM

    Love this! Congrats on your 3 years of maintenance and 45 years of marriage!

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LESLIE871948 11/15/2012 7:49AM

    Ok, now I feel better this morning, thank you

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TORTISE110 11/15/2012 7:49AM

    Wow, do you know how to celebrate! Holy Cow, what a set of milestones But you made it and are making it. Wonderful blog, wonderful accomplishment. I admire your slow and steady progress. I believe in it too! Thanks for your inspiration. emoticon

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KANOE10 11/15/2012 7:42AM

    Congratulations on 3 years of maintenance. I like the way you say you are in for the long term and one bad day does not matter in living a healthy life style.

Celebrate. I hope you enjoy your day. What an accomplishment1
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MARTHAWILL 11/15/2012 7:41AM

    Thanks for hanging around to inspire others! Well done.

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WATERMELLEN 11/15/2012 7:33AM

    Great blog! As a 10 year + weight loss maintainer (with a llittle blip in there in 2009 . . . yeah) abd a 33 year + marriage maintainer . . . I love this connection.

We stick to it. It's tough. And it sure feels way way better than the alternatives, so it's worth it. Every single day!!

Congrats to you on both maintenance successes.

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AMARILYNH 11/15/2012 7:12AM

    WOW - congratulations on BOTH anniversaries!! Obviously you are one TOUGH lady - just the Vietnam thing was cause for many marriages to falter!! I'm with Blue - I'd have probably considered changing my anniversary date too!!

Great ideas on how to spend Thanksgiving!! I too am in maintenance so I know just having lost the weight isn't the biggest victory - three years is!! emoticon

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SWEDE_SU 11/15/2012 7:05AM

    our anniversary is june 4 (40 this year), it must have been a better day - we had two clergymen at the wedding, and they both showed up:-) in queens, though, not brooklyn.

congratulations on a long marriage (not common these days!) despite those anniversaries, and on 3 years of maintenance!

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MJREIMERS 11/14/2012 9:52PM

    emoticon on your anniversary and for staying married for so long! I thought I had it bad when we are still waiting to go on our honeymoon after almost 20 years of marriage! You definitely are tuff and persistent!!

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BLUE42DOWN 11/14/2012 7:36PM

    By about year 10, I might have considered renewing vows on a completely different day and celebrating all subsequent anniversaries then. emoticon While no fun at the time, I'm sure that is a great little conversational topic.

(And, wow, congrats on 45 years. That's very impressive to be sure.)

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MANDELOVICH 11/14/2012 6:36PM

    Love your blog!! Congratulations!

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NEWMREY 11/14/2012 6:09PM

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MTRACHEL 11/8/2012 6:59PM

    Sometimes the best food is food for thought. Now you've got me thinking about how to celebrate the days worth noting. Thanks for sharing your story.

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SHAYLAGETFIT 11/7/2012 11:04PM

  Congrats on your achievement! You deserve to have an awesome time! Sorry to hear about the sad things through your wedding anniversaries! But beyond those, all the rest were great right?!

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