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Diet as a “part of speech"

Thursday, November 15, 2012

I dislike the word diet when it’s used as a verb. “I’m dieting” brings to my mind images of deprivation. I imagine myself sitting at a banquet with everyone enjoying wonderful food while I turn down all the options with “No thank you, I’m dieting” and stare at a plate of lettuce.

“I have a healthy diet” has a different meaning to me. Then I imagine a cornucopia of different foods. Lots of variety in nutrients and taste, all of which taken together have the capacity to make my body stronger. I want to be stronger to accomplish all the things I want to do.

Of course, diet the noun, can be used in a detrimental way as well. “I’m on a diet” has the same ring of deprivation as the verb does. If I use it that way, I’m sabotaging my own efforts. I won’t limit myself like that. So if diet is going to be a noun, I want a positive adjective in front of it.

“I’m dieting” and “I’m on a diet” both sound to me like a temporary condition that will come to an end and the sooner the better. “I have a healthy diet” is something that I want to continue indefinitely.

It’s been a long time since I’ve studied “parts of speech.” However, words matter and the context of words matters too. I intend to use them to create for myself a positive atmosphere. In such an environment I’m more likely to succeed and thrive.

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WILSONWR 11/16/2012 3:43PM

    That is one thing I plan to make different this time - no diet, just a change for life!

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KANOE10 11/16/2012 9:23AM

    I was contemplating the same thing and may blog about it. A friend told me that she when she reached goal and was done with her diet, that she was going to enjoy the holiday season. What resonated with me was the done with the diet. This is a before and after concept of eating. I will stay on my diet and afterwards I can sit back and relax and enjoy myself.

My concept of reaching goal is that you are not done. You immediately step into maintenance by continuing the good habits you have developed. Maintenance is you say indefinite continuance.

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TRAVELGRRL 11/15/2012 7:15PM

    Yes, I too like the ring of "I have a healthy diet." It is so positive and sounds rich in variety and taste!

Changing what we say to ourselves really makes a difference!

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ADRIENALINE 11/15/2012 2:22PM

    Great blog! I'm maintaining my super loss of 30 lbs and I feel great to be on this diet for the rest of my life.

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ROSEWAND 11/15/2012 11:21AM

    Your words are so wise. The idea of deprivation
diets has led a lot of us down a long dark path
of frustration. Restrict our intake; feel deprived,;
then overeat. and regain even more.

It is only when we get off this cycle, and
focus on healthy foods in moderate amounts,
do we regain our ability to reach a healthy
weight. Return the word diet to its original
meaning: what we actually eat.

I discovered that when I focused on healthy
natural foods in moderate amounts and focused
on the pleasure in eating at the same time,
I returned to a healthy, happy relation with food
and with my body. It works. emoticon

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LEB0401 11/15/2012 9:55AM

    emoticon You're so right!

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/15/2012 9:34AM

    Studies have looked at the difference between saying to yourself "I can't eat that" and "I don't eat that." People who said "I don't" were more likely to make healthy choices and do so longer than people who told themselves "I can't." Simply saying "I don't" may give you a sense of control over your eating and exercise decisions. So words can have power!

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SUZYMOBILE 11/15/2012 9:18AM

    "Diet" seems like such an old-fashioned word any more, doesn't it? You don't hear anyone using it all by itself very much. It's the "Duken Diet" or the "Atkins Diet" or the "Gluten-Free Diet," but hardly ever "on a diet" or "dieting."

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FITFOODIE806 11/15/2012 8:36AM

    Words matter! Our mental mind frame is a huge piece of this journey. It would be an interesting study to compare maintenance success of people with the diet deprivation attitude compared to the healthy diet attitude. I think we know the results.

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TINAJANE76 11/15/2012 8:15AM

    I'm really trying hard to undo my hang-ups with certain words and ideas that I had come to think of in negative ways due to my past failed efforts to lose and maintain my weight. The scale is no longer my enemy, I no longer lump the word "diet" in with other more unsavory four-letter words and tracking isn't a burden but something that's liberated me from a lifelong cycle of yo-yo dieting. Decluttering my mind of all these notions has allowed me to focus on the things I've needed to do to be and stay successful and that, to me, is much more important than the words I choose (or don't choose) to use to define my journey.

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WATERMELLEN 11/15/2012 7:35AM

    The connotations of words are very powerful indeed . . . I like Judith S Beck's "The Diet Solution: Learning to Think Like a Thin Person" because she tells us any (healthy) diet will "work", but what makes maintenance possible is changing the way we think. And: she's right!

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BOILHAM 11/15/2012 6:56AM

    I agree, ones words will plant the seed of success or failure.

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AZMOMXTWO 11/15/2012 6:53AM

  I agree the way it is daid makes it harder to stick to a weight loss plan but to say I am trying to heat a healthier diet makes it easier to stick with it

you can do it

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CHUM48 11/15/2012 6:49AM

    I feel like you those words, I use the words lifestyle change a lot. When I do use the word diet, I use it with a positive spin. Hang in there!

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Maybe I should rename my snacks as meals?

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Just a case in point: Checking on one random day, I see that I consumed 1782 calories, near the very top of my maintenance range It was also a BIG day for exercise - running, walking, canoeing and even 2 short SP strength training videos. According to the tracker, I burned 522 calories. This was way out of the ordinary. I usually burn about 250-300 calories per day. Fortunately, the following day was my scheduled day off from exercise.

708 of those calories (40 %) were “snacks.” I think it’s time to face the fact that I don’t have snacks, I eat extra meals. I know that 6 small meals per day are recommended for diabetics. Fortunately, I’m not in that group, but their regimen seems to work well for my body too.

My husband says I’m eating all the time and I suppose it looks that way. I have this internal clock, my unique personal clock that expects fuel at certain intervals. What’s changed for me is what type of fuel I’m using. Greek yogurt with FiberOne cereal is one choice, not the donuts DH favors. Instead of Oscar Meyer “oven fresh” deli meat my sandwiches now contain chicken or turkey that I’ve roasted in my own oven. DH prefers that now too and even does a lot of the roasting himself!

I even LIKE the replacements. I don’t think I could continue if I felt deprived. Yes, my Greek yogurt is the organic kind with fruit. That sugar isn’t my problem. It’s the sugar from digging into the container of ice cream that used to sabotage me.

Now I find that I can eat a lot comparatively and still be within my range of 1460 – 1810. On days that I don’t workout I stay at the low end. If I’m active, I eat more. It’s becoming automatic – FINALLY.

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LESLIE871948 11/16/2012 11:44AM

    I eat when I am really hungry most of the time, unless it is within a couple of hours before I go to bed, then I don't eat. I really think it helps keep me from overeating.

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MOBYCARP 11/15/2012 12:52PM

    Automatic after 3 years of maintenance? You give me hope! I'm not automatic yet, but after one year of maintenance it's easier than it used to be.

On the meal tracker, I have breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack, and evening. I wanted a "morning" category to distinguish morning snacks from afternoon snacks, but back when I set this up the site was really flaky if I added more than one extra category. So I decided "evening" was more important to me than distinguishing between morning and afternoon snacks.

I wonder if I went back now to change it, whether adding another meal would work right? Doesn't matter personally, because I've done okay with the setup I have.

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KANDOLAKER 11/15/2012 8:50AM

    Great blog - and I love that SP seems to be so accurate with their calories burned versus the calorie range that corresponds. I find myself not having a lunch, but having three snacks spread out from 11:00 to 4:00. Seems to work for me too.
All the best - Kathy

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WATERMELLEN 11/14/2012 9:09PM

    Love the idea of preparing my own roast chicken for salads . . . will have to try that rather than using deli meat!

You can eat a whole lot more than I can: and you're obviously making great choices!

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CELIAMINER 11/14/2012 8:45PM

    I'm with you. A hefty percentage of my calories get logged as snacks, but individually, the snacks are healthy and don't have many calories, so I can eat more frequently and not feel deprived.

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BOILHAM 11/14/2012 7:33PM

    Good for you, you're doing great! That mini meals doesn't work for me, but some people swear by it.

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ROOSTER72 11/14/2012 3:56PM

    You are doing so well!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/14/2012 10:00AM

    emoticon I'm proud of you!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/14/2012 10:00AM

    emoticon I'm proud of you!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/14/2012 10:00AM

    emoticon I'm proud of you!

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SUZYMOBILE 11/14/2012 8:15AM

    I've added categories to my nutrition tracker for "Drinks," "Afternoon Snack," and "Evening Snack" because I wanted to be able to track what I was eating outside of regular meals. I eat at regular mealtimes but add between-meal snacks when I'm hungry. If I'm not hungry, I don't.

So, if I count up all my non-meal calories, that can come to between 200 and (rarely) 800 calories. That high count was Saturday at Disney, so it's out of the ordinary for sure! I guess it's good to know where the calories fall in the day, but I don't want to change my pattern either!

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KANOE10 11/14/2012 8:13AM

    Good job on finding what works for you and eating mini meals. I also use my own roasted meat and veges for meals. I love Greek yogurt!

I eat one snack outside of my meals but that works for me.

Great job of staying focused on being healthy. emoticon

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NELLJONES 11/14/2012 8:10AM

    Some people call them mini-meals. Some call them the "second half of" a previous meal. I personally hate the word "snack". I don't eat between meals, but then I am older now, and have trained myself to that.

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Did you win?

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

That was my Dad’s question 25 years ago when I returned from a “Turkey Trot” charity run. It was Northern Virginia. There were about 1000 participants and I was 40 years old. It was also my very first 5K.

Dad was blinded by love, but he also remembered that athletic little girl that used to make him proud. We hear lots of stories about the humiliation of being the last one chosen for teams. I was the one choosing the team. If I didn’t happen to be the captain, I was one of the first picked.

So what happened to me that I had to train for 6 months to run a 5K? Society happened. By the time I got to high school, being strong and fast wasn’t admirable in a girl. So I joined the others, bought makeup, put on the pointy toed high heels and became a spectator. I recovered somewhat as a young mother. I wanted my daughters to be active, so “for my age” as they say, I was quite fit, just not an athlete anymore.

When I told Dad that my time of 30:51, of which I was very proud, was in the bottom 25% of the finishers, he replied, “That’s pretty crummy, ‘enna?”

I had to laugh. I loved my Dad and I knew he wasn’t really being critical, just honest. He still remembered that little girl who used to beat the boys.

There was a book a few decades ago called “Innumeracy” which compared the inability to understand number concepts to the better known “Illiteracy.”

Dad wasn’t alone. As a society, we don’t have a good idea of how far a mile or a kilometer is. How long it takes to cover it. How big a portion is. How much our food weighs. Sometimes, we don’t even realize how much WE weigh if we let things get out of hand.

Even worse, there’s those movable numbers as I wrote in my blog yesterday. We don’t have any idea what it means to be a size 8 anymore.

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WINDSURFNERD 11/15/2012 9:50AM

    You hit a nerve with the innumeracy comment! Why do people proudly announce "I can't balance my checkbook" where they would never say "I can't read the newspaper?". And why does the media blame math instead of saying "some people lie"?

Sorry for the rant...hope your day is a good one!

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ROOSTER72 11/13/2012 4:03PM

    You also beat all the people who did not even start (including your Dad)! Remember that.

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COACHMOMMY 11/13/2012 2:43PM

    Your Dad sounds a lot like mine. I ran my first 5K a little over a year ago @ 50. I was always an athlete (softball, basketball & tennis - still play softball). I had my children in my 30's, so spent most of my 40's overweight (losing & gaining the same 40+ lbs.) I lost the final 40+ over a year ago and I am maintaining.

My sister and I decided to do the C25K program at the local park (I was 50, she was 52). My Mom & Dad came to our first race. My sister and daughter passed the finish line ahead of me and as I was running past my parents, my 83 year old Dad yells out "hurry up, you're losing!". His mantra in sports is "you can always do better", not the PC "as long as you're doing your best!" Funny thing, it really motivated me at that race (not so much as a 12 year old girl and he was my softball coach - I can still remember the tears!).

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COCK-ROBIN 11/13/2012 9:17AM

    Thanks for your wonderful blog!

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WILSONWR 11/13/2012 9:09AM

    Another great blog . Innumeracy is a real problem today - especially (but not exclusively) with the younger folks.

Sounds like you had a tough Dad - the type who challenges you to be your best.

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BOILHAM 11/13/2012 8:07AM

    You are singing m song with this blog. Innumeracy is a big problem in society. One of the things my patient dear wife is tired of hearing me say is "Do the math! If you want to be successful in life you must understand numbers, everything in life is about numbers".

Accidents, financial matters, nutrition,, longevity, all relate to understanding numbers.

That's why the lotteries are so successful, a million, a billion or a trillion are about the same to most folks. Sorry, I don't want to get on a rant, so I will shut up now.

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ELRIDDICK 11/13/2012 7:51AM

  Thanks for sharing

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Sizing creep in pictures – how I stayed in denial

Monday, November 12, 2012

Many Sparkers have commented on the sizing creep of the fashion industry. Since I have “vintage” clothing all the way back to 1959, I just did some in-house research.

Here I am with my 2nd child. I’m very happy to be wearing my SIZE 10 shorts. They have a zipper AND a belt. No elastic waists back then, at least not for me. A side note: The baby is 40 years old now and I’m proud to say she just ran a 3:08 marathon time on Saturday.

Here I am again and smiling because these SIZE 8 shorts are actually loose. They have a zipper and a belt too. I must be doing great, right?

Let’s just compare. I’ve still got both pair.

Look at the waist.

Look at the hip and thigh close-up.

The inseam of both is exactly the same, but I’ve got a LOT more room elsewhere.

Using my tape measure, the old 40 year old size 10 allows a 25” waist and 22 inch thigh.
The size 8 (30 years later) allow for a 28.5” waist and 26 inch thighs.

No wonder I still felt like I was doing fine. And I bought cheap clothes! If I bought pricier stuff I would be an even smaller size.

I once met a politician’s wife who according to news articles wore a size 4. I asked my doctor. “How can she be a 4 and I’m a 10? I’ve stood right next to her and she’s not smaller than me.” He replied that “if you spent $500 for a dress I’d call you a 4 too.”

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REDSASSENACH 11/15/2012 3:38PM

    You just cleared up a whole bunch of confusion for me. Thank you.
My favorite pair of jeans that are too snug, are the same numerical size as my newer jeans that are just right or even a little too big. Same brand. Now I get it.

You look great. Good work!

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WATERMELLEN 11/15/2012 7:37AM

    Metrics are proof, every time.

I'm currently wearing vintage 14s and current 4s, 6s, 8s, 10s -- all with the same size waists. Go figure.

Gotta say, you are looking great!!

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KANSASROSE67 11/14/2012 4:03PM

    I wore a size 7 prom dress in my junior year (that was 27 years ago). I can now fit into it again but the difference is, in high school I felt fat at size 7 and now I feel skinny at size 7!

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CAKEMAKERMOM 11/13/2012 11:28AM

    No wonder there is a size 0. Even with the same brand in a 5 year difference, there was a change. I did fit into an 8 about 15 years ago...

Love your comparison!

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KANDOLAKER 11/13/2012 9:14AM

    Wow - what a difference. Who would have known. Thanks for the research and for sharing!! Kathy

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BOILHAM 11/13/2012 8:10AM

    I stopped reading after I saw the pictures. Couldn't concentrate after those. Don't be offended, but you are, as we say, a dish!
I just asked DW about her sizes in HS and now. She's your age. She was a 10 in high school, and now is a 4 or 6. She exactly the same weight as she was 40 years ago.

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SOUTH_FORK 11/12/2012 10:16PM

    Thanks for the laugh and for the insight. I've been lucky enough to be able to wear some of my great-grandmother's and grandmother's fabulous dresses over the years and can attest that cut and sizing has indeed changed dramatically over the years if those garments are any indication. I'll keep plugging along until I can squeeze into Ms Monroe's wardrobe- hopefully they won't have to sew me in like they did her on occasion. I will still point to Marilyn as evidence of an appreciation for curves though; size 6 or 10, she was still womanly.

Oh, and I agree- you do look great!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/12/2012 7:22PM

    Thanks for sharing. I'm proud of you!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/12/2012 7:22PM

    Thanks for sharing. I'm proud of you!

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MARZIPAN22 11/12/2012 12:54PM

    I enjoyed your blog and the comments Sparkies made, and I agree with Maggie101857 in that my focus is on functional fitness AND I know that as I keep doing the healthy things (tracking food and exercise and challenging myself to more activity) I will regain a reasonable weight. I know that not all people who wear small sizes are actually fit and healthy. Size can not be my measure of where I want to be.
(BTW, you look so great ! Thanks for posting...)

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ROSEWAND 11/12/2012 11:31AM

    I, too, have clothes that go back a ways. And a
pair of size 8 dress pants that i wore in the 80's
just fit me now.

Most of the new clothes I have purchased over
the last several years, are size 4's. I remember
when being a size 10 was awesome and 6's
were the skinniest that sizes were.

Size inflation is quite real. Having said all
that you look amazingly fit and slender!
Congratulations on your hard work. emoticon

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KAYOTIC 11/12/2012 10:17AM

    Great comparison...

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TINAJANE76 11/12/2012 10:00AM

    And this is why I can get into today's 8s and 10s! Forty years ago I probably would have been a 12 or 14. I think it's all about vanity and the fashion industry realizing that people like seeing smaller numbers in their clothes. Even in Europe sizes seem to be creeping. I recently went shopping at H&M and had to buy a sweater in a small because it was cut so generously. Believe me, I'm no small! One of the few places that has probably held onto the older sizing charts is the bridal industry. I've always noticed that I go one to two sizes up when I've been fitted for bridesmaids dresses and when I got my wedding dress.

In any case, you look great in both yesterday's 10 and today's 8--healthy, happy and fit!

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MJZHERE 11/12/2012 9:00AM

    Glad to know I am not the only one with the "vintage" clothing collection lol. Posted not long ago how I am wearing size 4's now (current from the store) as well as size 14 skirts that I can now fit back into from my teaching day (over 20 years ago). Back then I was also trying to lose a few pounds and wished I wasn't so "big," - at least now I'm fine with my size at 128 (though it did take about a month of me saying to myself that I looked good at this size).

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KANOE10 11/12/2012 8:44AM

    Interesting about the fashion industry making clothes bigger but keeping the size number the same. It is the same as the text book companies making the material easier and below grade level as kids are reading at lower levels.

No matter what..enjoy your clothes!

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SUZYMOBILE 11/12/2012 8:37AM

    How great is that, to have proof of size creep! You do look great in both pictures, and those 1972 shorts are still very cool!

I do a lot of my shopping at thrift shops and Goodwill, so my sizes are all over the place. I have no idea what size I really am any more, if there even is such a thing. I can just tell, when I pick up a pair of jeans or shorts out of a yard sale pile, whether they're going to fit or not.

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NYS_EMT 11/12/2012 8:10AM

    Wow! I knew this had happened with clothes, but it's nice to see a visual! I can walk into just about any store and pick a 14 off the rack and it will fit. But I have some jeans that are several years old that are 14s and 16s... once I got into a 14, I was excited to try them again. Guess what... didn't fit! Not even close! So by years ago standards, I am probably an 18 or 20!!!! CRAZY!

Thanks for sharing!!!

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CAROLCRC 11/12/2012 8:08AM

    I recently cleaned out my t-shirt collection... my 25-year-old size medium was more than 5 inches smaller in the chest than a new size medium! Overweight is becoming the new normal, and the clothes are reflecting it.

I agree - you look fantastic and slim in both pictures!

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WELLNESSME09 11/12/2012 7:53AM

    emoticon blog!

Thans for sharing! emoticon

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WILSONWR 11/12/2012 7:52AM

    That was a real eye opener for me! I guess that is the new "normal" you talked about a week or so ago.

Glad you can still fit into those clothes - I'm not even close to there yet...

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DAWN14163 11/12/2012 7:46AM

    Interesting blog! I've noticed a huge difference in sizing depending on which country you live in too - I suspect Belgium is still using the 1960's sizings as I need clothes at least one size (sometimes 2) larger than when I buy in the UK!

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FITFOODIE806 11/12/2012 7:44AM

    You look great in both pics! Thanks or sharing this with us. At some mainstream stores like gap and old navy, I buy a small top. And I am not a small!!! This days more about the rest of the country and sizing than it does about me.

And congrats to our daughter! What an incredible time!!

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TOOTHFUL99 11/12/2012 7:33AM

    I'm so glad you posted this! This has been my suspicion for years.

When I was in high school, I wore a junior size 9 and weighed about 120 pounds. All of my 'skinny' friends wore junior 5's.

2 years ago, I got down to 124 pounds. I fit comfortably into a womens size 4. I couldn't believe that! (Mentally, it felt good, though!)

Oh, and I buy cheap clothes, too!

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GYMRAT_AT44 11/12/2012 7:20AM

    Thanks for sharing

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SPEEDYDOG 11/12/2012 7:10AM

    You are doing fine! You look quite slender in both photos.

The size difference between now and 40 years ago is an eye-opener. I read that Marylin Monroe wore a size 10. Marylin's dress size has been used by social pundits to emphasize that we no longer appreciate curvy women and the skinny runway model wearing a size 4 is the standard of beauty.

Although dresses of the 1960's were cut differently, some knowledgeable people that have examined Marylin's dresses declare, by today's standards, she was a 6 or an 8.

Men's clothes are cut differently too. There is more ample room in the seat and thighs in regular pants then 40 years ago.

Will I be able to fit into the pants I wore 40 years ago? No, I think a 30" waist is a thing of the distant past for me.

Thanks for posting such a great blog.


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MAGGIE101857 11/12/2012 7:02AM

    First let me say that I'm amazed that you have all this vintage clothing! emoticon So where does this leave us???? What size are we really???? The lesson learned is that we need to stop caring about clothing sizes AND the scale -- take our measurements and focus only on losing inches and getting stronger!!

Thanks for the eye opener this morning!!!! emoticon

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“Thank you for your service” is not enough.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Today is Veterans Day which originally was called “Armistice Day,” the day that ended WWI which at that time was “The Great War” or “The War to End All Wars.” Sadly, that didn’t happen.

On Sundays my blog entries tend to be more introspective, possibly because I never plan an intensive workout or because I’m on my way to church and thinking ahead.

After my father’s death, I became active in the Sailors’ Association of his WWII ship. I maintain their website and have attended their last 5 reunions. They’ve come together every year since 1964 and have just voted to continue the tradition. I think each old sailor wants to be the last man standing.

My Dad and my Mom have been quoted in my blog, usually in a funny way. Today though, I want to say “thank you Dad” and thanks to all those members of the “Greatest Generation” who left their ordinary lives, went off and saved the world and then returned to live their average lives again. Thanks to their spouses who “kept the home-fires burning” as the old song went. Their sacrifice should be recognized as well.

Finally, this isn’t just about a generation disappearing daily. Millions have served since then in a variety of situations and circumstances and they deserve our thanks and support also.

I’m familiar with the charitable efforts of our military in our communities, for example the annual “Toys for Tots” campaign. However, I was surprised by the level of need for holiday support BY military families as well. I was appalled at the number of military families finding themselves in dire financial straits and the need to appeal to the community for help.

“Thank you for your service” is a comment we hear often now and that’s as it should be. However, I hope we won’t stop with easy verbal affirmation. We must support the real physical and economic needs of military families. No one who is ready to lay his or her life on the line for us should have to stress about providing Christmas presents for their families.

Edit: Once again comments have prompted some additional thoughts on my part. My husband is a Viet Nam vet also, so I vividly remember those divisive days and did not intend to open old wounds.

However, while the experiences of some returning vets are reprehensible as stated, the treatment we received from those who supported the war was in my view equally bad. I’m referring to the company and coworkers who viewed my husband’s return with distain because they “had to give him his job back!” He was warned that the law only required them to do that for one year. I consider that being virtually “spit upon.” I do not want that to happen again to anyone regardless of the proper words being spoken.

Whether you (or your parents) were in Viet Nam, in the streets or going on with your normal lives while others served. Let’s do the right thing now.

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WATERMELLEN 11/11/2012 9:41PM

    Remembrance Day here in Canada, and I'm happy to see a huge uptick in respect and support for our veterans here.

Ensuring that veterans have the financial support and other services they require is a never-ending battle.

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DAISYBELL6 11/11/2012 11:49AM

    Thank you. You said some things that I would like to have said.

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COCK-ROBIN 11/11/2012 9:55AM

    And a salute to those who have served!

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COCK-ROBIN 11/11/2012 9:55AM

    And a salute to those who have served!

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SAMI199 11/11/2012 9:25AM

    As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
John F. Kennedy

Thanks for your blog-we need to remember our vets & their families everyday & actions speak louder than words...


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ONEKIDSMOM 11/11/2012 9:11AM


When my son came back from Iraq in 2010(!) he was denied unemployment compensation because "dismissed due to being unable to come to work, serving overseas". Of course this was corrected by a call to his US representative and a letter to the employer about the law...

This sort of scenario should NOT be happening, but it still is. Hope when he gets back this time (second deployment runs through early next year) he will have better support upon the return.

Thank YOU for all you are doing for these remaining sailors. It's so much more than words.

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WILSONWR 11/11/2012 8:42AM

    My dad fought in WWII, Korea, and 3 times in Vietnam. I am a Vietnam Era vet that supported the mission from Guam. Like Boilham, I remember the days that you didn't wear your uniform for fear of getting spit on. I'm glad things have finally changed and vets are finally getting the respect they deserve. But you are right, more needs to be done. They have a program here in San Antonio where families take in single military members during Thanksgiving. The Air Force bases here also have an "Airman's Attic" where you can donate househould items (and food) to young military couples. I only live about a mile and a half from Randolph AFB and I go to the gym there regularly. I'm very pleased with the quality and spirit of the troops today. We should never forget them!

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KANOE10 11/11/2012 8:42AM

    I agree that our government needs to do more to support our vets when they come home. They need medical care and financial support and help getting jobs.


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MJZHERE 11/11/2012 8:34AM

    Not only stress about Christmas presents, but a place to live and/or necessary medical aid due to injuries sustained while protecting us! Vets experiencing these conditions live on the streets of Phoenix, and it is more than wrong.

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BEAR8MM 11/11/2012 8:20AM

    I am a Vietnam vet myself. My father was a Korea vet. What I think about on Veterans Day are the many thousands who came home in body bags. Those that "gave all" deserve our deepest respect and undying gratitude.

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BOILHAM 11/11/2012 8:10AM

    As the son of a WWII vet and a Viet Nam Era vet I thank you for this blog.
Yes, please do what you can to support the veterans, but continue to thank them for their service as well.
I hear this phrase often myself. It sure beats being spit upon.

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EBONYSOL 11/11/2012 7:14AM

    "Lest we forget" is not just about all the people who fight or die in wars, it is also about the survivors and their families after they return home. I am disgusted with governments that can find money to run the war machine but not care for their own troops once they return home.

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