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Daily Meditation.

Monday, February 08, 2010

Living Life Fully

Today's Quotation:

Perhaps the clearest and deepest meaning of brotherhood is
the ability to imagine yourself in the other person's position,
and then treat that person as if you were him or her. This
form of brotherhood takes a lot of imagination, a great
deal of sympathy, and a tremendous amount of understanding.-Obert C. Tanner

Today's Meditation:

Have you ever walked a mile in someone else's shoes? Have you tried to see life from someone else's perspective, tried to feel what that person feels and think what that person thinks? If we could do so, I think that we'd find that rudeness, selfishness, arrogance, and other traits that tend to affect others so negatively result more from fears than from anything else, and that these people's negative behavior is a self-defense mechanism that they've adopted because nobody's taught them yet about self-acceptance and self-love.

If children shows signs of being afraid, such as crying and hiding, we do our best to comfort them. We hug them, and we try to calm them down. We give them our sympathy and our love.

When an adult shows signs of fear, though, in the form of rudeness or obnoxiousness, we respond by trying to put that person in his or her place. We have little sympathy, and we often feel hurt or diminished by that person's actions or words.

Have you ever seen someone act in a way that was hurtful, and then found out later that something drastic, such as the death of a loved one, had just happened to that person? Once we have an explanation for the behavior, it's not just acceptable, but understandable.

Obert is asking us to look for that explanation for everyone. Imagine being that person, having his job, working with her co-workers, dealing with children who are getting in trouble, trying to recover from a childhood with an abusive parent, still hurt by that painful divorce, still feeling diminished from being laid off from work. This is how we can truly prove our desire to help others--by understanding even those who don't even seem to need our understanding.

Questions to ponder:

1. Can you think of someone with whom you're at odds who may
need your understanding? What would that understanding do for you?

2. Can you imagine yourself living through someone else's situation for a day? For a week? What would that time be like for you?

3. Has anyone ever tried to understand what it's like to be in your shoes?
Why is it so rare for people to do this?

For further thought:

We will recognize that each person needs to nourish and be nourished
by many persons. . . . It is right, even necessary, to make yourselves available to one another in new loving, caring, and fulfilling ways --
without the spectres of old guilts.-Quaker newsletter

  
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DARA52 2/12/2010 12:58PM

    Glad to see you posting! Thinking of you often. Dara

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LADYSUNBEAM 2/8/2010 7:22PM

    I have tried to live my life that way as I wished others would have done the same for me especially when I was a child. Great blog!

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-TAMI- 2/8/2010 2:01PM

    In the last couple months on my road to recovery I have tried to see life from others point of view as often as possible. It has totally changed the way I react to others. I find my heart softening and I'm much more understanding and kind.
My walls have come down and I accept others for who they are instead of judging them by my standards.
It has made such a wonderful difference in my life! emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 2/8/2010 9:56AM

    I have actually been thinking a lot about this myself, Bre. I am making this one of my goals ~ to try to put myself in someone else's shoes before reacting negatively to them.

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ALYFITN 2/8/2010 8:52AM

    emoticon This is a great way to respond to other people.

I've been rude in traffic yet there is no way to let others know I'm sorry for my goof. Because of this, I give other driver's the benefit of the doubt rather than blow my steam. Good blog!

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Daily Meditation.

Sunday, February 07, 2010

Living Life Fully

You cannot hope to build a better world without improving
the individuals. To that end each of us must work for
his or her own improvement, and at the same time
share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular
duty being aid to those whom we think we can be most useful.-Marie Curie

Today's Meditation:

I have to improve myself. I don't say that because I think I'm flawed or unworthy, but because that's what life's all about. Life is about growth and development, not stagnation. It's about being more next year than I am this year because I've been open to learning from the many lessons that come my way each day.

This growth is not just for my benefit. In fact, it's less for my benefit than it is for the benefit of those whom I touch with my life every day. I'm a good teacher now, but have you ever had one of those teachers who's been doing everything exactly the same way for the last twenty years? These teachers don't learn new methods or materials--they've found a comfort level that they like, and they've stayed there, stagnating just like water that stands in one place for too long. Water is meant to flow and to mix constantly with new water, not to stand on its own without new influence. But these teachers do just that, and what do we learn from them? In my experience, not much.

Of course, we're obligated to improve ourselves only if we want to make this world a better place. If we don't care about that, then we can spend our lives being entertained passively, learning nothing new at all. But then we're not fulfilling our responsibility of contributing to the world.

Watch the movie Tuesdays with Morrie when you get the chance. Morrie knew that he was dying, but he also knew that he still had the chance to teach other people, to touch their lives in a positive way. And the people who knew him came away richer, and we just know that the people in their lives in turn were enriched by their new growth. We can change the world, one small act at a time.

I think the only thing I would change about Marie Curie's passage above would be to say that that we have an "opportunity" to help, rather than a duty, because as we enrich others, we also enrich ourselves and our own lives. It's all in how we look at it.

Questions to ponder:

1. What can you do today to make the world a better place,
even if it's on the smallest level possible?

2. How can you improve yourself today? Tomorrow? This year?

3. How many people are affected by your actions each day, on any level?
Is the effect that you have on them positive and helpful?
For further thought:

Each person takes care that his neighbor shall not
cheat him or her. But a day comes when we begin to care
that we do not cheat our neighbors. Then all goes well.
We have changed our market-cart into a chariot of the sun.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

  
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-TAMI- 2/8/2010 1:24PM

    Fantastic post Bre!!! emoticon
It was very thought provoking...

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DGILBRIDE1949 2/8/2010 12:53PM

    Excellent!

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MEOWMAMA3 2/7/2010 10:57PM

    Excellent blog! "I have to improve myself. I don't say that because I think I'm flawed or unworthy, but because that's what life's all about. Life is about growth and development, not stagnation." I especially like this!
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TRAVELNISTA 2/7/2010 1:45PM

    Good to see you blogging again Bree. This was a very thought provoking blog too! emoticon emoticon

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LINDA25427 2/7/2010 11:23AM

    Good blog thanks for sharing .Hope you have a great week. God bless. emoticon emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 2/7/2010 11:13AM

    Good to see you, Bre!

I have always been a fan of Marie Curie's since I read her biography as a teenager.

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DARA52 2/7/2010 10:28AM

    Good to see you on the boards. I was missing you. Thanks for a great blog. Dara

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ELSEEBEE 2/7/2010 10:08AM

    Your blog, and your SparkPage, really resonate with me. You are such a beautiful person! Thank you for sharing the meditation.

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CBILODEAU6 2/7/2010 10:06AM

    Thanks for that medidation... I will think about it today! emoticon

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Quotation.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

We find by losing. We hold fast by letting go. We become
something new by ceasing to be something old. This seems
to be close to the heart of that mystery. I know no more now
than I ever did about the far side of death as the last
letting-go of all, but now I know that I do not need to know,
and that I do not need to be afraid of not knowing.
God knows. That is all that matters. -Frederick Buechner

Hope this speak to you like it did to me.
Have a Sparkling Day! emoticon

  
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LINDA25427 1/31/2010 5:47AM

    Great quote thanks for sharing .Hope you have a great week God bless. emoticon emoticon

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-TAMI- 1/28/2010 1:18PM

    Great quote Bre.
Thanks for sharing it. emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 1/27/2010 8:04PM

    I like it - it makes me think!

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DYNAMICDEB53 1/27/2010 3:03PM

    Lovely quote and thank you for sharing it.

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BARBARAROSE54 1/27/2010 9:57AM

    emoticon beautiful

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NO_SNOW_BODY 1/27/2010 9:44AM

    wonderful quotation

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A Piece Of Me.(4)

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

I'm an open book pretty much because I'm okay with who I'm becoming but I do, at times, feel like I give TMI. That's just who I am NOW because in recovery they told me that honesty was the key to sobriety and I guess I ran away with it. On a serious note, I do it to bring honor and glory to God. I have so much to be grateful for. God has delivered me out of so many situations. He has given me good health and strength. In 1995,I was diagnosed with HIV. I've been living with HIV for 14/15 years. My husband and I have been together 6 years and married for 5 of those years. I thank God for him because through it all,he (my husband)loves me. When my husband and I got together,I was on drugs. I didn't disclose my HIV status with him until I got pregnant with our son James. He immediately forgave me and told me he loved me. We pretty much use protection after that but there has been times that we've slipped up. For instance, our daughter Shakeira. So I'm saying that to say this,God has been good to me, He has a plan for my life and with my life I want to give honor and praise unto Him. To this very day I've never have been sick due to HIV or taken any medicine because of it. My husband and kids are HIV negative. There have been doctors who said,"I wonder what's keeping your immune system well." and I would say,"Grace." I know God has shown me favor because, I've had Hep C for the same amount of time. I had a biopsy did over a year ago and when my test came back,there was no damage done to my liver. My liver was that of a person who never use drugs or alcohol. When I think about all He has done for me,sometimes I cry. To be love like this is a awesome feeling.

  
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TRAVELNISTA 8/6/2010 9:32PM

    emoticonYou are a strong woman Bre and you have been through so much. I am happy to read that you have such a great relationship with God. You are truly blest. God loves you and so do we. Thank you for sharing piece of you. emoticon emoticon

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 8/1/2010 10:42AM

    You're very blessed my friend. Thank you for sharing your page with me. I love you. -Dawn

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WILDLOTUS16 8/1/2010 9:58AM

    O wow...God does love us so much!

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MEOWMAMA3 2/7/2010 10:54PM

    Wow Bre, that's some story! You really are a miracle of God! May He continue to bless you and your family.
P.S. Check out my Positive Positives team here at SP
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DEBSPARKS 1/25/2010 10:23AM

  Whom God sets free is free indeed!!! Bless you my sister. You are a blessing to all of us! emoticon

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CANBDONE 1/23/2010 7:24PM

    God never leaves His children without grace, love, and mercy. I'm so proud to belong to the family of God. You're blessed and higly favored!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 1/21/2010 1:30AM

    Your life is a miracle and you are a testimony to the powers of God. I'm proud to know you. Love, Dawn emoticon

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AUNTBEE6 1/20/2010 9:55PM

    Bre, you are a treasure!! It isn't always easy to tell it as it is; but, when you practise honesty and openness it unburdens you, and sets you free. Free to leave the old you in the past and to hold your head up high for the wonderful person you have become in Christ Jesus. There's a chorus that we sing sometimes in our church, it says:
I tell you the best thing I ever did do.
I tell you the best thing I ever did do.
I tell you the best thing I ever did do,
I took of the old robe and I put on the new.

The old robe was dirty and tattered and torn
The new robe was spotless and never been worn.
I tell you the best thing I ever did do,
I took of the old robe and I put on the new.

I'm sure proud of you!
Luv ya lotsssssssssss


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LADYSUNBEAM 1/20/2010 7:27PM

    Our God is an emoticonGod isn't he! You are very blessed and you bless so many others in return my dear, you really do!

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DARA52 1/20/2010 7:27PM

    Your kids aren't old enough yet, but they will be proud of you. Hugs, Bre!

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-TAMI- 1/20/2010 12:48PM

    Bre, I'm one who believes there is no such thing as too much honesty. As long as what we say is done without trying to hurt someone it's all good.
I always told my husband I would rather be hurt by the truth then to be hurt with a lie. Too bad he never believed me when I said that.
I think you're an amazing woman and I'm blessed to have found you here on Spark.
Keep blogging and we'll keep reading. We can all learn from you. emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 1/20/2010 11:58AM

    Bre, thank you so much for sharing with us. I personally don't think there is any such thing as TMI here on Spark. This is the place where we can let our hair down and say all those things we can't say to other people!

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DYNAMICDEB53 1/20/2010 11:56AM

    Sabrina yes you are loved and blessed. Thank you for sharing and as to TMI well I think all of us learn on the journey that opening up and sharing is the way to learn to deal with all the stuff, good and bad in our lives that has lead us to this moment. I tend to babble on at times in my blogs, but that is what they are for. So you just go on sharing, its good for you.
Take care and keep doing what you are, I do understand a little better why you are such a generous giver of love and help.
Thank you
Hugs and smiles
Deb

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LINDA25427 1/20/2010 9:04AM

    You have been so blessed . Glad you let God into your life and put him in charge . Hope you have a great week . God bless you and yours continuosly . emoticon emoticon

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BARBARAROSE54 1/20/2010 8:57AM

    You truly have been Blessed !

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JUSTWANTTOLOOSE 1/20/2010 8:55AM

    Sabrina, Your LOVED much, much more then you'll ever know. Your strong, confident, and your here for a reason! It's part of "his" plan. Just by reading your blogs, I think your "touching" more people then we can count! We may not have the same stories, but knowing that you've overcome some of lifes hardest curve balls, all I can say is I'm proud to walk this path with you.
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Thank You!

Monday, January 18, 2010

You guys have really lift my spirit with the outpouring of love and support. I am encouraged because of it so thank you all for everything but most of all your understanding. I haven't been available like I had been but you ALL are on my mind,in my heart, and prayers. May God bless you! emoticon

  
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DAWNWATERWOMAN 1/20/2010 12:10AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon You're a wonderful spark friend and woman. I'm glad to call you my friend. Love, Dawn

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NO_SNOW_BODY 1/18/2010 11:25PM

    Hugs to you Sabrina, you keep us sparking

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DARA52 1/18/2010 11:24PM

    Hugs

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LADYSUNBEAM 1/18/2010 9:46PM

    Sabrina we LOVE YOU so much and you are a very special friend to so many Sparkers! You deserve all the support you can get...

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-TAMI- 1/18/2010 9:13PM

    Honey, you deserve every bit of love and support that is given to you. emoticon

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FITGRL124 1/18/2010 9:09PM

    Sabrina - you are very special and don't ever forget it! emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 1/18/2010 8:55PM

    Bre, you are a very special person. I am so happy you have become a part of my life.
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