Monday, February 08, 2010
Living Life Fully
Perhaps the clearest and deepest meaning of brotherhood is
the ability to imagine yourself in the other person's position,
and then treat that person as if you were him or her. This
form of brotherhood takes a lot of imagination, a great
deal of sympathy, and a tremendous amount of understanding.-Obert C. Tanner
Have you ever walked a mile in someone else's shoes? Have you tried to see life from someone else's perspective, tried to feel what that person feels and think what that person thinks? If we could do so, I think that we'd find that rudeness, selfishness, arrogance, and other traits that tend to affect others so negatively result more from fears than from anything else, and that these people's negative behavior is a self-defense mechanism that they've adopted because nobody's taught them yet about self-acceptance and self-love.
If children shows signs of being afraid, such as crying and hiding, we do our best to comfort them. We hug them, and we try to calm them down. We give them our sympathy and our love.
When an adult shows signs of fear, though, in the form of rudeness or obnoxiousness, we respond by trying to put that person in his or her place. We have little sympathy, and we often feel hurt or diminished by that person's actions or words.
Have you ever seen someone act in a way that was hurtful, and then found out later that something drastic, such as the death of a loved one, had just happened to that person? Once we have an explanation for the behavior, it's not just acceptable, but understandable.
Obert is asking us to look for that explanation for everyone. Imagine being that person, having his job, working with her co-workers, dealing with children who are getting in trouble, trying to recover from a childhood with an abusive parent, still hurt by that painful divorce, still feeling diminished from being laid off from work. This is how we can truly prove our desire to help others--by understanding even those who don't even seem to need our understanding.
Questions to ponder:
1. Can you think of someone with whom you're at odds who may
need your understanding? What would that understanding do for you?
2. Can you imagine yourself living through someone else's situation for a day? For a week? What would that time be like for you?
3. Has anyone ever tried to understand what it's like to be in your shoes?
Why is it so rare for people to do this?
For further thought:
We will recognize that each person needs to nourish and be nourished
by many persons. . . . It is right, even necessary, to make yourselves available to one another in new loving, caring, and fulfilling ways --
without the spectres of old guilts.-Quaker newsletter
Sunday, February 07, 2010
Living Life Fully
You cannot hope to build a better world without improving
the individuals. To that end each of us must work for
his or her own improvement, and at the same time
share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular
duty being aid to those whom we think we can be most useful.-Marie Curie
I have to improve myself. I don't say that because I think I'm flawed or unworthy, but because that's what life's all about. Life is about growth and development, not stagnation. It's about being more next year than I am this year because I've been open to learning from the many lessons that come my way each day.
This growth is not just for my benefit. In fact, it's less for my benefit than it is for the benefit of those whom I touch with my life every day. I'm a good teacher now, but have you ever had one of those teachers who's been doing everything exactly the same way for the last twenty years? These teachers don't learn new methods or materials--they've found a comfort level that they like, and they've stayed there, stagnating just like water that stands in one place for too long. Water is meant to flow and to mix constantly with new water, not to stand on its own without new influence. But these teachers do just that, and what do we learn from them? In my experience, not much.
Of course, we're obligated to improve ourselves only if we want to make this world a better place. If we don't care about that, then we can spend our lives being entertained passively, learning nothing new at all. But then we're not fulfilling our responsibility of contributing to the world.
Watch the movie Tuesdays with Morrie when you get the chance. Morrie knew that he was dying, but he also knew that he still had the chance to teach other people, to touch their lives in a positive way. And the people who knew him came away richer, and we just know that the people in their lives in turn were enriched by their new growth. We can change the world, one small act at a time.
I think the only thing I would change about Marie Curie's passage above would be to say that that we have an "opportunity" to help, rather than a duty, because as we enrich others, we also enrich ourselves and our own lives. It's all in how we look at it.
Questions to ponder:
1. What can you do today to make the world a better place,
even if it's on the smallest level possible?
2. How can you improve yourself today? Tomorrow? This year?
3. How many people are affected by your actions each day, on any level?
Is the effect that you have on them positive and helpful?
For further thought:
Each person takes care that his neighbor shall not
cheat him or her. But a day comes when we begin to care
that we do not cheat our neighbors. Then all goes well.
We have changed our market-cart into a chariot of the sun.-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
We find by losing. We hold fast by letting go. We become
something new by ceasing to be something old. This seems
to be close to the heart of that mystery. I know no more now
than I ever did about the far side of death as the last
letting-go of all, but now I know that I do not need to know,
and that I do not need to be afraid of not knowing.
God knows. That is all that matters. -Frederick Buechner
Hope this speak to you like it did to me.
Have a Sparkling Day!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
I'm an open book pretty much because I'm okay with who I'm becoming but I do, at times, feel like I give TMI. That's just who I am NOW because in recovery they told me that honesty was the key to sobriety and I guess I ran away with it. On a serious note, I do it to bring honor and glory to God. I have so much to be grateful for. God has delivered me out of so many situations. He has given me good health and strength. In 1995,I was diagnosed with HIV. I've been living with HIV for 14/15 years. My husband and I have been together 6 years and married for 5 of those years. I thank God for him because through it all,he (my husband)loves me. When my husband and I got together,I was on drugs. I didn't disclose my HIV status with him until I got pregnant with our son James. He immediately forgave me and told me he loved me. We pretty much use protection after that but there has been times that we've slipped up. For instance, our daughter Shakeira. So I'm saying that to say this,God has been good to me, He has a plan for my life and with my life I want to give honor and praise unto Him. To this very day I've never have been sick due to HIV or taken any medicine because of it. My husband and kids are HIV negative. There have been doctors who said,"I wonder what's keeping your immune system well." and I would say,"Grace." I know God has shown me favor because, I've had Hep C for the same amount of time. I had a biopsy did over a year ago and when my test came back,there was no damage done to my liver. My liver was that of a person who never use drugs or alcohol. When I think about all He has done for me,sometimes I cry. To be love like this is a awesome feeling.
Monday, January 18, 2010
You guys have really lift my spirit with the outpouring of love and support. I am encouraged because of it so thank you all for everything but most of all your understanding. I haven't been available like I had been but you ALL are on my mind,in my heart, and prayers. May God bless you!
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