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What a crappy year it's been

Thursday, August 01, 2013

2013 has most definitely NOT been my year. It started with the miscarriage from hell, then in late April, I broke my ankle (and I'm still having issues with it), and then ANOTHER miscarriage in June. These major stresses (plus the minor ones of day-to-day) have left me depressed, lethargic, and for many months, until recently, unable to exercise. I'm slowly working my way back, but I'm the heaviest I've been in years, and miserable. August 1st is my "new year" - it heralds the beginning of the school year (we go back on the 7th - eek!) and that always feels like more of a new start than January 1st to me, so today is my new start date. I'm actually changing some of my settings in Spark (like weight lost) to reflect this. I need to print a calendar to track my exercising days on the fridge (it helps me so much to see that!), and really refocus. For the next week or so, my biggest goals are simply to drink more water, exercise at least 30 minutes a day on either my elliptical or bike, and eat better. Limit snacking - that sort of thing. And not fall prey to the desire for chocolate or other sweets just because I'm an emotional mess right now.

Of course, I say all of this... and Saturday we're going to the lake with friends, where I will be eating and drinking all sorts of things that are NOT on a healthy eating plan. Oh well. Just means I have to be more focused the other days.

So.... once more, I start again. I hope this time I can actually stick to it and get back down to a manageable weight. I'm so tired of being this miserable.

  
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JENVAMPVEGAS 8/5/2013 3:21PM

    Good luck, Beautiful! I know how it is; I have to keep hitting the reset button, too. I am so sorry to hear about the obstacles you have had to deal with, but am so glad you are back again. I know you can do it!

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FLYSHOPGIRL 8/4/2013 10:51AM

    I wish SP had a dislike button. My heart is with you...

Been thinking about you this summer--we teachers tend to fall off the radar at particular times of the year...

Know that you can do this. We're on a journey and the path isn't straight, nor is it clear. There's brush and rocks, and sometimes getting through those obstacles seems like we are climbing a mountain. You can do this :)

A.A. Milne said it best: "Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
~Christopher Robin to Pooh

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HEALTHYBALANCES 8/1/2013 9:27PM

    I am sorry you are having such a hard time. 2013 has been a horrible year for me also, so I do understand. I started the 28 day bootcamp today. It is a 10 minute video each day and I believe 5 days of cardio, 30 minutes I believe. Hang in there. Take it one day at a time and just do the best you can! And ENJOY your Saturday at the lake with your friends :)

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CHEEKYGEEK 8/1/2013 3:16PM

    I'm so sorry you've had such a rough year. emoticon

Getting back on track is the right mindset. Have fun at the lake. Don't beat yourself up. Then when you get back, dive right into the "right track" pool.

Welcome back!

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FITFRIT 8/1/2013 1:13PM

    I am sorry to hear of your losses, it isn't easy to just bounce back from that and having an injury on top it amplifies the emotions as you deal with pain and set back. Hang in there!

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Ugh... this week!

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

This week is just not very fun. First, on Monday we had a massive wind / rain storm that kicked up all of the pollen and dust and other crap in Phoenix this time of year, and I'm just miserable and bleah. I didn't work out on Monday because I was so worn down, but have forced myself on the bike the last two nights. I know I need to get on the treadmill, but I just worry that I won't pay attention to what I'm doing like I need to and I'll end up falling or something. I prefer to hit the treadmill when I'm feeling strong, so the bike is safe right now. Plus, I am increasing speed, so that's good.

I've also had a rough time emotionally. My ex and his girlfriend and I were all friends on Facebook (they sent requests and I accepted, think (probably naively) that we could all be friendly for the sake of my daughter. It was ok for a long time, but then his girlfriend started getting nasty and posting statuses that were pretty obviously in response to things I posted or that she thought she knew about me, and were just mean and judgmental. I ignored them for a while, but the one she posted on Sunday, which was blatant lies, was just the straw that broke the camel's back. So I was upset and ticked off for most of Sunday and Monday, and finally just pushed that "unfriend" button and moved on. So far, nothing has been said. I have been working on an email to send to him, but haven't sent it yet. It just irks me because we both agreed to be friendly for our daughter's sake, then he not only seems to condone his girlfriend's behavior, but actually participated in the comments. I would NEVER do that to him (at least not in a public forum like that - when my kiddo isn't around I've done more than my fair share of complaining, sure, but it's at home where the only person who hears it isn't gonna post it online!), yet he thinks it's ok to do to me. And the things they said! Apparently I'm an alcoholic who is in such bad debt that I'm filing bankruptcy. Huh. News to me!

Anyway. I'm still dealing with the allergy crap and pulling out of the funk, and then today it seems like I might start yet another round of bleeding. Who knows - my body is so messed up right now, it's not even funny. I guess the next few days will tell. I don't even know when to expect that I might have a period, which stinks.

Ugh, I'm just in a mood today, I guess. Time for a shower and then early bed!

  
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JENVAMPVEGAS 4/19/2013 3:40PM

    I am always envious when I see people who are able to not just be civil, but friendly, with their exes. I am civil, at best, with my ex for my daughter's sake, and luckily his revolving door of girlfriends usually like me (better than him sometimes - lol!), but I always fear in the back of my mind things getting nasty. Tricky business, this co-parenting stuff. But, like another person said, just keep your head held high and try to ignore them. And, privacy settings are a GREAT thing!
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BMCKEOW1 4/11/2013 12:47PM

    Just ignore them, it's their problem not yours. I would send your ex a message though. Say I thought we agreed for the sake of our daughter to maintain a mature adult relationship that doesn't include being negitive in front of or on social media sites. Don't resort to getting nasty yourself, because it won't help. Kicking him in the shins would probably feel good, but think of your daughter. Way to go unfriending them. Least you won't have to see it.

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PATSYB7 4/11/2013 5:35AM

    I love that "unfriend" button! Good job distancing yourself from negativity.
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SISTERPRETTY 4/10/2013 11:16PM

    emoticon emoticon ignorance is bliss...don't fall into their trap...you're bigger than that. emoticon emoticon on hiting the unfriend button on both of them

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Good week!

Saturday, April 06, 2013

The first week of April has been pretty good for me, health and fitness wise anyway. Work is always another story, haha.

I have worked out every day so far and will get in a workout today before the boy and I go out tonight to celebrate his most recent promotion and raise. AND, going out always includes dancing (along with cocktails, of course), so that will help burn a few more calories. :) I have added in strength training every day, which is HUGE for me since I hate it. So now I'm doing 30 minutes of cardio (either biking on my recumbent bike or a jog/walk combo on the treadmill - I'm slowing increasing my run times again) and 15 minutes of either leg work or arm work. I need to add core back into the mix, but that'll come. Right now I'm working on being consistent with what I am doing.

I also have tracked almost everything this week, and have stayed in calories almost all week. In fact, a couple of days I either barely made it to my minimum or didn't make it. I know that's not the best for me (I've been down this road many a time!), but it's not the norm, so I don't stress about it too much. Other days I make up for it, so it all washes out.

This week I've actually dropped about 6 pounds from Monday to today. That ALWAYS happens - as soon as I'm diligent about tracking and monitoring my eating, the pounds drop off. I'll even out in another week or two and won't lose anything for a while. But it's definitely a huge motivator for me.

The biggest plus is that I'm FINALLY feeling more like myself again. I've been taking my prenatal vitamins for a couple of weeks, and the combination of that plus regular exercise plus eating better has had a great effect on how I feel overall. I actually set a reminder in my phone calendar to make sure I take my vitamin every day, otherwise I'd forget.

So... yeah. Feeling pretty good today overall. I'm already ready for a nap, though!

  
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NKOUAMI26 4/6/2013 1:04PM

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SUSANELAINE1956 4/6/2013 12:31PM

    That all sounds great. Six pounds is exciting. I bet you can see and feel the difference. Keep up the good work. emoticon

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Keep on keepin' on

Tuesday, April 02, 2013

Here we are in April already. I can't believe it's already April!!

March was... ok. No actual weight loss to speak of. I lost a few pounds, but since I wasn't tracking, I didn't keep them off, which is frustrating. I started tracking again last week, and was pretty good most of the week, except that I had an amazing 3-day weekend with my boy and pretty much blew that all to hell. But I have absolutely zero regrets! It was so worth it. :)

I'm so ready for the end of the year. If not for my good friend at work, I'm not sure I would have made it through this one. She and I have just really bonded this year. I'm going to be so bummed when she moves to a new grade level - I'm certain we won't have lunch together next year, and we have gotten pretty close. It's always nice to find someone who shares your interests and that you can talk to openly and without judgement about your out of school life. I'm just praying she doesn't get RIF'd - our budget is a nightmare for next year, and if we manage NOT to lose teachers, it will be a miracle.

Other than that... no real news to report. I worked out 26 days in March, which was pretty darn good I think. So far in April, I'm 2 for 2. :)

  
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BMCKEOW1 4/3/2013 11:35AM

    Way to go with the workouts. That's great. Maybe you and your friend can get together outside of school and keep the connection that way.

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JOYFULGRATITUDE 4/2/2013 10:34PM

    Feel lucky that you have such a friend! You can always get together after work and on weekends and/or carpool together. You could also plan to be workout buddies. The exercise would benefit you both and you can socialize at the same time. Take a group fitness class, like kickboxing, step aerobics or Zumba, together. Start or join a team (like bowling, softball or volleyball), or climb rock walls, do water aerobics/swim laps, play tennis, run or do Pilates/yoga together. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RITACOMPU 4/2/2013 9:31PM

  awesome...am now really pumped to get back on my toes...took a couple of days off in march...will hopefully make it up this April. enjoy your relationship with your friend and don't worry about tomorrow.tomorrow will take care of itself.

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UGH. One step forward, three steps back (Some TMI - be warned)

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

So, I'm down today. And yesterday. Not down as in on the scale, of course. Down emotionally. Three weeks ago, I took the HPT that finally (after TWO MONTHS of miscarriage-related hell) showed negative. The SAME DAY, I started bleeding super super light. That went on for a week, then got slightly heavier. Another week of that, then this week, much more like a normal period. Seriously?? Like I didn't JUST get done bleeding for 6 freaking weeks?

The doc's office doesn't seem to be worried about it. They only said that if, for my next cycle, it goes longer than 14 days or I have spotting like that again, to come in and see what's going on. They think my body is just trying to get back to normal. And yeah, that makes sense, except... seriously? I just can't get a break.

Even better, another coworker just announced that she's pregnant, and two of my FB friends are now pregnant. One with triplets (her third pregnancy) and one with her third child. Every single time it's like a new knife cutting into my heart. Seriously. I can't maintain ONE. One of them has already been hidden from my news feed - I can't take the next 8 months of updates about it. The other one doesn't post often, but I'll probably hide her, too. I'll check in periodically to make sure they're OK, but I just can't do it every single day. Can't handle the constant status updates about their morning sickness, doc's appointments, ultrasounds, etc.

This just sucks.

My weight is NOT going down, in spite of working out every day. I know this is in part due to my limited self control, which is related to my being depressed. My stamina sucks, my body is a mess - I'm just generally NOT happy.

UGH. Ready for some positive now!!

  
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BMCKEOW1 3/25/2013 11:48AM

    It sucks to say this but your body will even out again. It sucks like hell right now but there will be light at the end of that tunnel eventually. It's okay to hide them from your feed from now, you have to work on you and if it's painful to be reminded of things through them then for now don't read all their posts. You are strong and brave, this is just a speed bump in the road and you will get through it.

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