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Thursday, September 05, 2013

Don, Kim and Me

I had such a special treat on Monday afternoon. I got to meet and have dinner with Kim's Schnooky and Don's Dumplin and their two sons. Monday was their 23rd wedding anniversary! They were on their way to a vacation so I felt extra special that they shared part of their special day/travel time with me. Older son has just begun his first year of Reg Pioneering (volunteer ministry)! Yea for our new RP!

My DH had to work that day..didn't get home till shortly before I got home! Long day for him..and he missed out on the visit, but hopefully, Don and Kim and family will come through again and DH can join in the fun.

I love getting to meet other Spark Friends. I LOVE meeting my spiritual brothers and sisters! Nothing like it...we are family no matter where we live or how long we have been in the Truth.


Aaron, Asta, Austin

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JOYCEATH50 9/13/2013 10:55AM

    Some day our whole family all over the world will know each other. It is a wonderful thing to look forward to. I am glad you had fun! emoticon

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CINA-MINI 9/13/2013 2:58AM

    Thanks for sharing the pictures. Their boys are big like my Jacob. I would love to meet all of our Spiritual Family that I have met here on Sparks.

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TATTER3 9/8/2013 7:14AM

    Yea!! I've met one in a college but hope for more adventures!

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GAMOMMY3 9/8/2013 12:33AM

    That's so fun! And so pleased that their son is pioneering!!

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    Awesome! It's great meeting our B & S this way that we have made friends with here on SP.

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CELEST 9/6/2013 10:38AM

    I do too Asta....lucky you. So far I have only met one sister/sparker in person. Wish I was nearer and could meet more, but SA is vast and there is just too much distance between towns....sadly. Thanks for sharing the photos with us. ps LOVE LOVE LOVE your spring looking skirt.

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Invisible Mother

Wednesday, September 04, 2013

Another gem from FaceBook. Probably was originally circulating via email. I don't know the author.

Invisible Mother

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way
one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be
taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking, 'Can't you see I'm on the phone?'

Obviously not; no one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping
the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see
me at all. I'm invisible. The invisible Mom. Some days I am only a pair of
hands, nothing more! Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this??

Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being. I'm a clock
to ask, 'What time is it?' I'm a satellite guide to answer, 'What number is
the Disney Channel?' I'm a car to order, 'Right around 5:30, please.'

Some days I'm a crystal ball; 'Where's my other sock?, Where's my phone?,
What's for dinner?'

I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes
that studied history, music and literature -but now, they had disappeared
into the peanut butter, never to be seen again. She's going, she's
going, she's gone!

One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a
friend from England . She had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she
was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there,
looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to
compare and feel sorry for myself. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when she
turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, 'I brought you
this.' It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe . I wasn't exactly
sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription: 'With admiration
for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.'

In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I would discover
what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could
pattern my work:

1) No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record
of their names.

2) These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never
see finished.

3) They made great sacrifices and expected no credit.

4) The passion of their building was fuelled by their faith that the
eyes of God saw everything.

A story of legend in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the
cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird
on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man,
'Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that
will be covered by
the roof. No one will ever see it'

And the workman replied, 'Because God sees.'

I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost
as if I heard God whispering to me, 'I see you. I see the sacrifices you
make every day, even when no one around you does.

No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you've
baked, no Cub Scout meeting, no last minute errand is too small for me to
notice and smile over. You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see
right now what it will become.

I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of
the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work
on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went
so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime
because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.

When I really think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's
bringing home from college for Thanksgiving, 'My Mom gets up at 4 in the
morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for 3
hours and presses all the linens for the table.' That would mean I'd built a
monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then, if there
is anything more to say to his friend, he'd say, 'You're gonna love it

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're
doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel,
not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the
world by the sacrifices of invisible mothers.

Share this with all the Invisible Moms you know.... I just did.

The Will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect

To all the wonderful mothers out there!! God bless and keep you.

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CINA-MINI 9/5/2013 1:40PM


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    Awesome! Can you send it to me, pretty please, with sugar on it emoticon

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CELEST 9/4/2013 1:50PM

    Oh my word....this is just SO BEAUTIFUL.....and true of so many mothers.
Thanks for sharing this.

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GOLFGMA 9/4/2013 1:30PM

    I love this! emoticon

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Ten foods that are banned in other countries.

Tuesday, September 03, 2013

Another FB find. It is getting to be that you can't trust anything to be safe...for your self, or for the environment or for something else. This article is very interesting.

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ONLYTEMPORARY 9/3/2013 11:52PM

    Wow! Some things I knew, others I didn't. And they call this a 1st world country. Yeah right!

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TINAXX1 9/3/2013 9:16AM


thats food for thought Ha Ha, thank you for sharing emoticon

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CELEST 9/3/2013 8:35AM

    lol strange thing to have happened. I will have to read this post before I can comment.....but at least it will have something to do with food. emoticon

Wow these facts are shocking. I wonder if we are going to reach the stage where all food is bad for us?? It gets so tiring trying to figure out what is healthy to eat. The suggestion is organic, but here in SA organic costs the a tray of 30 eggs is +- R30 but a dozen organic eggs are almost the same price. With our money devaluing, we are forced to buy the cheapest of whatever and organic is for the better off folks. Sigh...good healthy food should be available to or poor.

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20 Marriage Tips Everyone Needs to Know

Monday, September 02, 2013

We learn all sorts of things on Facebook. Here is a well written article posted there.

20 Marriage Tips Everyone Needs to Know

August 26, 2013 In the News

Below are 20 wise marriage tips from a man that was recently divorced. You wouldnít normally think that a divorced man would give good advice on being a husband, but this man has been through enough hardship to know what is worth fighting for:


Obviously, Iím not a relationship expert. But thereís something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done differentÖ After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, hereís the advice I wish I would have hadÖ

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. Youíre not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESNíT HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you donít take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you canít help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) ITíS NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HERÖ your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether itís what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: Itís not your wifeís job to make you happy, and she CANíT make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal themÖ when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to JUST BE. When sheís sad or upset, itís not your job to fix it, itís your job to HOLD HER and let her know itís ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that sheís important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to youÖ DONíT RUN-AWAY WHEN SHEíS UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you arenít going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLYÖ donít take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAYÖ learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DONíT BE AN IDIOTÖ. And donít be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. Youíre not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACEÖ The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to singÖ. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLEÖ you donít have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHINGÖ Especially those things you donít want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you donít know i she will like what she findsÖ Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASKÖ If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHERÖ The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DONíT WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Donít let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isnít about Happily ever after. Itís about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him ĎI doí, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isnít what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife canít help but brag about.

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SUNNYWBL 9/18/2013 12:59AM

    "Be the type of husband your wife canít help but brag about. "

That says it all! emoticon

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CELEST 9/3/2013 8:51AM

    The world would certainly be a better place if both husband and wife applied this. It is WOW indeed.

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CINA-MINI 9/3/2013 3:35AM

    All I can say is, "WOW!"

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MERRYMARY42 9/2/2013 9:01PM

    great advise but it goes both ways, I have been married 52 years now, and some of them are so true, but way off base on most of them, emoticon but maybe, I am just not romantic

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GENRE009 9/2/2013 7:50PM

    This kind of wisdom isn't found in most men, let alone any women either. Great insight.

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MEMKEEPR 9/2/2013 7:41PM


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    Great tips!

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One thing leads to another

Friday, August 23, 2013

Do you ever get involved in projects you hadn't intended to start? I do it all the time. Here is an example. The other day, for reasons I don't recall, I decided to scrub just a portion of the porch floor. Our neighbor's dog camps out over here a lot. He smells awful..and recently, they gave him a bath in oil of some sort, most of which ended up on my porch floor. So, I impetuously decided to scrub just a section of the floor....and it looks so pretty when it is wet:

Then I decided that the wood door (200 yr old door original to the house..but not that doorway) needed cleaning/oiling. So, I launched into that!

this was one of those jobs that by half way, I wished I hadn't started it. BUT, it came out looking very nice.

I find that often my intentions don't match up with what I actually do. This is the case when planning dinner, planning to eat properly, tackling exercise..all sorts of things. The thing I can use this little project to illustrate, though, is that by breaking the job into smaller units...and keeping at it, I CAN get the job done AND be really pleased with the end result. That applies to weight loss and fitness very well. We can't get fit or slender overnight...but by taking things one bit at a time, WE CAN get the desired results..and be proud of the accomplishment.

Carry on!

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SUNNYWBL 8/27/2013 1:11AM

    I have spells like this myself! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CELEST 8/24/2013 9:36AM

    I do periodically start just one thing and end up spring cleaning lol I get mad at myself half way through and then delighted when its all done. I especially get into frantic clean mode when someone makes me mad/sad and all I want to do is confront them and make myself feel better. Since I'm not a confrontational person, I end up in scrubbing mode. Must say, that door came out looking fantastic.

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ONLYTEMPORARY 8/24/2013 2:10AM

    Good job, I do the same thing at times.

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