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8-cow wife...another version

Sunday, June 26, 2011

After reviewing my other blog about the 8-cow wife, I was interested in how much the story is the same and yet totally different between the first one I received and the second which what I posted. Thought you folks might like to see the other one I found. Do notice that if you google 8-cow wife, there are many versions and many sites using it for inspiration.

An 8-Cow Wife

On an isolated Pacific island, it was the custom for a young man to announce his intention of marriage to the entire village.

After the announcement, he and the whole community went to the young woman's home. Her father would come outside and then - in front of the community - the father and the suitor would barter. Obviously, there was no feminist movement on the island.

The main item of value on the island was the cow. therefore, a suitor would offer the father a certain number of cows for his daughter. The average bride was worth two cows, perhaps three if she was unusually bright or attractive. The all-time record was four cows.

The most eligible bachelor on the island was Johnny Lingo. He was handsome and wealthy. Imagine all the excitement among the women of the island when Johnny announced one day that he had selected a wife. But then he shocked everyone by announcing that his choice was a girl named Lisa. Lisa was not even in the top ten. She was regarded as plain and frightfully shy. Some of the jokers in the crowd even suggested that Lisa's father might pay Johnny a cow or two.

The community gathered at Lisa's house for the bartering. Then came an even great shock. Johnny's opening bid for Lisa was eight cows! Her father almost fainted, but he managed to say yes.

That very evening Johnny and Lisa were married, and they departed for their home on an adjacent island.

For a full year, no one say Johnny and LIsa. Then on thier first anniversary they returned to visit their parents. From the moment they arrived at the dock, the news spread. Everybody said, "come and see Johnny and Lisa! You won't believe it!"

Everybody camae, bu notbody noticed Johnny. all eyes were on Lisa. She had been transformed! She was a vision of loveliness. she was poised, warm, friendly, and confident.

At the end of the day, as Johnny and Lisa were preparing to return to their home, one of Johnny's longtime friends pulled him aside and said, "I want to know the secret of this amazing transformation in Lisa. How did it happen?"

Johnny siad, "I will tell you. From the time Lisa was born, she had been treated as though she was not worth very much. She had begun to believe tht about herself. But I announced to the community that she was an 8-cow wife, and I have treated her just that way. She has become that vision of herself that she sees every day in my eyes."

If you want an 8-cow wife or husband, start treating her or him that way. Give it a year and see what happens.


Interesting isn't it? Same basic story, different details (even the name) and yet the message comes across both ways. I did lift that last paragraph from this version and add it to the one I posted earlier.

So, lets all get going on treating our spouses for their true value and be sure they see it in OUR eyes.

  
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BEEBEE1936 7/7/2011 7:59AM

    Beautiful story and so true, so true. Take a wife and never compliment her, never show her affection, never bring her a little flower, treat her as if she is stupid, worthless etc. and y ou will have a beaten down, shell of a woman. So therefore the opposite is true, such as the story of the "8 cow wife".

Thanks for sharing.

Betty emoticon

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PRICELESS1982 6/28/2011 12:11PM

    i loved this post also --my wife kristen (teddysgirl1997)also commented on it. we both can relat to the senerio. in comarison i value my wife as an 8cow wife if not the whole herd! she is amazing and i couldnt live with out her.the last 14 years with her have been simply awesomeand i dont regret one minute of it. thank you asta for sharing the story and i hope every husband who reads it can remember to treat thier wives with the love and respect that is the moral of the story. god bless you for you sharing this with all of us..take care..ted dibiase

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TREVUG 6/27/2011 11:34PM

    I agree. It makes a difference in our self esteem whether we are treated good or bad.

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TEDDYSGIRL1997 6/27/2011 4:14PM

    i love this blog--i can totally relate to the lisa character and then i married my husband ted and then i too was transformed into someone whofinally thought i WAS worth something and that i was an ok person and i will always be grateful to ted for that --its all because of him and he is the love of my life.thank you for sharing this blog--it was such a blessing for me to read it ...may god bless and keep you..love to you and your family..kristen dibiase

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LOVE2WALK1 6/27/2011 12:46PM

    Love this one two, and will show my "8 cow husband" just how much I appreciate him!

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CELEST 6/27/2011 12:24PM

    Absolutely true. I've seen this work in reality. A sister married the shy guy in the congregation and treated him as if he was the handsomest guy on the planet. It wasnt long and he got promoted and the more confident he got, the better things got for them financially. Ultimately they paid off their house long before most couples do. All because she believed in him.

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NCFITCHICK 6/27/2011 11:19AM

    I've never heard this tale and just love it. It goes perfectly with yesterday's WT stating how we should treat our families (mates) with kindness and goodness. Love it. Thank you.

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/26/2011 8:16PM

    Self worth really makes a difference and they way we are treated, effects our self worth. Thanks for the second version.

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I want to be an 8-cow wife

Friday, June 24, 2011

I googled an article that came my way...and liked the source material even better than the slightly altered, condensed version I already have. Apparently this info has been used and reused to illustrate a point about how we treat one another.

See what YOU think:

~~JOHNNY LINGO'S 8-COW WIFE~~


condensed from Woman's Day Patricia McGerr

When I sailed to Kiniwata, an island in the Pacific, I took along a notebook. After I got back it was filled with descriptions of flora and fauna, native customs and costume. But the only note that still interests me is the one that says: "Johnny Lingo gave eight cows to Sarita’s father." And I don’t need to have it in writing. I’m reminded of it every time I see a woman belittling her husband or a wife withering under her husband’s scorn. I want to say to them, "You should know why Johnny Lingo paid eight cows for his wife."

Johnny Lingo wasn’t exactly his name. But that’s what Shenkin, the manager of the guest house on Kiniwata, called him. Shenkin was from Chicago and had a habit of Americanizing the names of the islanders. But Johnny was mentioned by many people in many connections. If I wanted to spend a few days on the neighboring island of Nurabandi, Johnny Lingo would put me up. If I wanted to fish he could show me where the biting was best. If it was pearls I sought, he would bring the best buys. The people of Kiniwata all spoke highly of Johnny Lingo. Yet when they spoke they smiled, and the smiles were slightly mocking.

"Get Johnny Lingo to help you find what you want and let him do the bargaining," advised Shenkin. "Johnny knows how to make a deal."
"Johnny Lingo! A boy seated nearby hooted the name and rocked with laughter.
"What goes on?" I demanded. "everybody tells me to get in touch with Johnny Lingo and then breaks up. Let me in on the joke."
"Oh, the people like to laugh," Shenkin said, shruggingly. "Johnny's the brightest, the strongest young man in the islands, And for his age, the richest."
"But if he’s all you say, what is there to laugh about?"
"Only one thing. Five months ago, at fall festival, Johnny came to Kiniwata and found himself a wife. He paid her father eight cows!

I knew enough about island customs to be impressed. Two or three cows would buy a fair-to-middling wife, four or five a highly satisfactory one. "Good Lord!" I said, "Eight cows! She must have beauty that takes your breath away." "She’s not ugly," he conceded, and smiled a little. "But the kindest could only call Sarita plain. Sam Karoo, her father, was afraid she’d be left on his hands."
"But then he got eight cows for her? Isn’t that extraordinary?"
"Never been paid before."
"Yet you call Johnny’s wife plain?"
"I said it would be kindness to call her plain. She was skinny. She walked with her shoulders hunched and her head ducked. She was scared of her own shadow."
"Well," I said, "I guess there’s just no accounting for love."
"True enough," agreed the man. "And that’s why the villagers grin when they talk about Johnny. They get special satisfaction from the fact that the sharpest trader in the islands was bested by dull old Sam Karoo."
"But how?"
"No one knows and everyone wonders. All the cousins were urging Sam to ask for three cows and hold out for two until he was sure Johnny’d pay only one. Then Johnny came to Sam Karoo and said, ‘Father of Sarita, I offer eight cows for your daughter.’"
"Eight cows," I murmured. "I’d like to meet this Johnny Lingo."
"And I wanted fish. I wanted pearls. So the next afternoon I beached my boat at Nurabandi. And I noticed as I asked directions to Johnny’s house that his name brought no sly smile to the lips of his fellow Nurabandians. And when I met the slim, serious young man, when he welcomed me with grace to his home, I was glad that from his own people he had respect unmingled with mockery. We sat in his house and talked. Then he asked, "You come here from Kiniwata?"
"Yes."
"They speak of me on that island?"
"They say there’s nothing I might want they you can’t help me get."
He smiled gently. "My wife is from Kiniwata."
"Yes, I know."
"They speak of her?"
"A little."
"What do they say?"
"Why, just..." The question caught me off balance. "They told me you were married at festival time."
"Nothing more?" The curve of his eyebrows told me he knew there had to be more.
They also say the marriage settlement was eight cows." I paused.
"They wonder why."
"They ask that?" His eyes lightened with pleasure. "Everyone in Kiniwata knows about the eight cows?"
I nodded.
"And in Nurabandi everyone knows it too." His chest expanded with satisfaction. "Always and forever, when they speak of marriage settlements, it will be remembered that Johnny Lingo paid eight cows for Sarita."
So that’s the answer, I thought: vanity.

And then I saw her. I watched her enter the room to place flowers on the table. She stood still a moment to smile at the young man beside me. Then she went swiftly out again. She was the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. The lift of her shoulders, the tilt of her chin the sparkle of her eyes all spelled a pride to which no one could deny her the right. I turned back to Johnny Lingo and found him looking at me. "You admire her?" he murmured. "She...she’s glorious. But she’s not Sarita from Kiniwata," I said.

"There’s only one Sarita. Perhaps she does not look the way they say she looked in Kiniwata." "She doesn’t. I heard she was homely. They all make fun of you because you let yourself be cheated by Sam Karoo."
"You think eight cows were too many?" A smile slid over his lips. "No. But how can she be so different?"
"Do you ever think," he asked, "what it must mean to a woman to know that her husband has settled on the lowest price for which she can be bought? And then later, when the women talk, they boast of what their husbands paid for them. One says four cows, another maybe six. How does she feel, the woman who was sold for one or two?" This could not happen to my Sarita."
"Then you did this just to make your wife happy?"
"I wanted Sarita to be happy, yes. But I wanted more than that. You say she is different This is true. Many things can change a woman. Things that happen inside, things that happen outside. But the thing that matters most is what she thinks about herself. In Kiniwata, Sarita believed she was worth nothing. Now she knows she is worth more than any other woman in the islands." "Then you wanted -"
"I wanted to marry Sarita. I loved her and no other woman."
"But —" I was close to understanding.
"But," he finished softly, "I wanted an eight-cow wife."

I want to feel like an 8-cow wife. I want to be such a wife to my husband. emoticon

The article I first found said: "If you want an 8-cow wife or husband, start treating her or him that way. Give it a year and see what happens. (In the one I have, Johnny and his wife return on their first anniversary to visit and everyone is astonished at the changes in "Lisa").

1 Peter 3:7 "You husbands, continue dwelling in like manner with them (your wives) according to knowledge, assigning them honor as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one, since YOU are also heirs with them of the undeserved favor of life, in order for your prayers not to be hindered."

  
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AJCHARTERS 6/25/2011 2:37PM

    Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I'd never heard it before and I love it. emoticon emoticon

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CELEST 6/25/2011 10:02AM

    Excellent and not even difficult to do. Most husbands or wives grow immensely on little appreciation so add "8 cows" and it should have a transforming quality.

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/24/2011 7:57PM

    Awesome! I guess you could say, we are an 8 cow couple!

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TREVUG 6/24/2011 5:34PM

    Too beautiful for words. Thanks you for sharing. I had never heard this story before, but it really touched me in how we should treat others.

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LIFECANBEGOOD 6/24/2011 3:21PM

    I loved reading this again, we had a CO years ago who told a version of this and since then my dear hubby has said that I'm worth 10 cows.

Thanks for the reminder.
Hugs,
Marian in NC

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CINA-MINI 6/24/2011 3:11PM

    Wow! That is such a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing it.

Hugs,
Cinamin

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RASCALSMOMMA 6/24/2011 2:01PM

    Asta there is a brother and a sister here who are marrying soon. I think im gonna copy this and send it to them. thanks hugs.

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LOVE2WALK1 6/24/2011 12:43PM

    I had never read this story before, but I am so happy you took the time to share it. I believe this will stick with me for a lifetime. Thanks for sharing such a lesson!

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"These Things" part 4

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

When I called her, I asked Stephanie if she was up early and if I could deliver the dress on Wednesday...and she said yes to both. emoticon

It has been extremely hot and dry for weeks here...and today storms were predicted. I had a small portion of the yard to mow before I left for errands...couldn't wait till later because of the predicted rain..so I mowed for nearly an hr...then, fretting to not finish but eager to keep my word about an early delivery, I quit mowing, showered and took off. emoticon

I got to Stephanie's house and was so eager and excited. Her brother answered the door...and went to get her. He returned to tell me she was still in bed...I didn't quite follow the reasons why but couldn't fix it. I introduced myself to her brother...Rodolpho. Very nice young man...turned 14 today. I tried to explain what I needed to relay about the dress...to a guy!!! Then, handed over the dress and left. What else could I do? I had hoped to be there by nine am...it was now closer to ten...and no Stephanie! emoticon

What a let down! I was so excited and was hoping to see her in the dress...I did mention to Rodolpho that I had brought a camera in hopes of a photo. Maybe they will take one when she wears the dress Saturday.

I haven't heard a peep from her..it is now mid afternoon. So, the deed is done. BUT...with not getting to talk to her, I have a good reason to knock there again some time soon. I can ask how the wedding went and how the dress fit and... emoticon I will bring her a spiritual gift this time. emoticon

  
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TREVUG 6/16/2011 12:15AM

    I'm so sorry you missed her. I hope the dress fits and she is happy. What a great excuse to call back again.

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BOOKWERME 6/15/2011 11:30PM

    Laurie, I never intended to "charge" anything. When we chatted on the phone I told her that my daughter had been able to fit the first dress I purchased...and Stephanie said she would look for more in that size (I must find out where these dresses are coming from!). When the hemming stuff first came up and she asked how much I would charge, I never said "no charge" but that maybe we could swap...my work for another dress...the dresses have been marked 10-15$ each so far.

I am not going to fret. Tonight at KH I picked up the Young People Ask books (none available in Eng. so got Spanish) for Rodolpho. I will be seeing them all again, I have no doubt. emoticon

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AJCHARTERS 6/15/2011 9:31PM

    Oh no. That's frustrating. I hope she appreciates your beautiful work on the dress.

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GAMOMMY3 6/15/2011 7:22PM

    Well, even if she never says thank you or shows you a photo, you know that you did a good deed! And Jehovah, and us, are quite proud of you!

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NCFITCHICK 6/15/2011 6:37PM

    Too bad that you didn't get to see her in the dress. Hopefully she is appreciative of all of your hard (and beautiful) work though. And hopefully she will enjoy the spiritual gift as well. emoticon

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CELEST 6/15/2011 6:03PM

    I agree....a total let down. Ah well, giving her a spiritual gift will be awesome. We have a sister in our cong who reads the marriages and phones any who have numbers and offers them a free book on how to keep marriages happier longer. She does a lot of rv this way too.

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RASCALSMOMMA 6/15/2011 6:02PM

    I also hope she paid you in advance. Still, all that excitement and then letdown hope she rewards you with at least a pic. HUGS

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/15/2011 5:18PM

    What a shame, hopefully you'll see her yet in it for a pic. You did a beautiful job on it. emoticon

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June Garden

Monday, June 13, 2011


Welcome to my garden!
Double yellow Hollyhocks




Asiatic Lillies


SP wouldn't upload about half of the pics..saying file too large (I thought they automatically resized!...ALL the pics are the same size so I don't get it.)

Anyway...here are a few of the pics from my garden.

  
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BOOKYETI 6/17/2011 12:16PM

    Wow, so lovely! :)
You obviously have a green thumb (mine is black. lol).

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TREVUG 6/13/2011 5:58PM

    Very nice! I get the same thing all of the time from Sparks. I find that when I crop them down it helps- sometimes.

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GAMOMMY3 6/13/2011 4:14PM

    Very pretty!

I am reading a book and in it the author says that when we feel anxious, or ugly, or unlovable, to take a beauty break. Find something beautiful, like your flowers, and look at them for 5 minutes and it will refresh us.

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/13/2011 3:14PM

    Beautiful! It has to do with the amount of colors in some of them.

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NCFITCHICK 6/13/2011 1:12PM

    Oh how lovely! Thank you for sharing those. You must be so pleased with them. Can't wait to see the rest. emoticon

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CELEST 6/13/2011 11:12AM

    Lovit! Do the hollyhocks have a smell? I will be planting some lavender bushes under my kitchen window - as soon as I actually have the kitchen window. That's the next project just as soon as the flat for my sister is completed.

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RASCALSMOMMA 6/13/2011 10:41AM

    WONDER Beauty! You can load the rest later... HUGS

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AJCHARTERS 6/13/2011 9:41AM

    Very pretty!

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WENDYLEE15 6/13/2011 8:44AM

    Beautiful

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"These Things" part three - I did it!!

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Well, this evening I finally tackled the project. I got out my daughter's big camera and tried to document my efforts.

This the dress before:


This was all I had to go by for measurments...marks on an envelope!!


Making the first measurements. SO nervous about messing up someone else's dress...and I have only just met Stephanie!!


Pencil marking the cutting line.


FIRST CUT!


To the machine using a rolled hem foot and the cut off hem to practice on. It works.


the sample hem.


Now to tackle the dress itself.


There is SO much dress....


The fabric hanging on the door are the remnants of the hems removed.


The final product...three hems taken up 7 inches each. The bodice taken in slightly and the spaghetti straps shortened ...just a little.


I kind of got lost on the captions...hard to keep track of what pictures were which...I may have to edit, but here it is.



  
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SUNNYWBL 7/23/2011 10:51PM

    You did an amazing job!

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MA_DIDDLES 6/15/2011 11:14PM

    What a wonderful emoticon of your time and talents for someone you just met. Bless you Asta.

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GAMOMMY3 6/13/2011 4:16PM

    You did a wonderful job! emoticon

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NCFITCHICK 6/13/2011 1:36PM

    You did a fabulous job! I'm sure Stephanie will be extremely pleased.

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CELEST 6/13/2011 11:10AM

    You sure did!!!! That material is awful to work with, but you really did well. It has a new fresh look, the length you took off made the difference. Congrats!

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AJCHARTERS 6/13/2011 9:47AM

    Good job! Looks great.

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BOOKWERME 6/13/2011 7:57AM

    Even with all my trepidation over the measurements (or lack thereof) and cutting...the whole job took less than an hr and a half. I am eager to see Stephanie Wednesday to see how we did with this.

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ALMYEARTHLYBEST 6/13/2011 7:10AM

    BEAUTIFUL WORK Asta! You are such a generous person, giving so freely of your talents. :)

Love you,
Andee

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BEEBEE1936 6/13/2011 5:34AM

    Good job. And that material is so hard to work with. But then, I not much of a seamstress.

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RASCALSMOMMA 6/13/2011 12:26AM

    GREAT WORK! HUGS

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TREVUG 6/12/2011 11:57PM

    VERY AWESOME!!!!!!!

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/12/2011 10:20PM

    Wow! Beautiful job!! emoticon

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