Thursday, March 27, 2014
My 87 year old Dad, who lives alone, fell Monday morning, knocked his TV off the table, and hit the table with his ribs before he hit the floor. He doesn't like to ask for help, so, he lay on the floor for over an hour before he felt up to crawling to the recliner and somehow getting into it.
His neighbor called him after noon and willingly came over to get the walker out for him, put the TV back on the table, and get Dad some Tylenol for the pain. We are all so thankful for this very good neighbor!
My sister, the nurse, and her family are in Hawaii on vacation. She called Dad, found out what happened and called his Doctor. They all agreed that Dad should just stay home and rest rather than sit in waiting rooms for X-rays that wouldn't change the treatment even if there were broken ribs.
I found all of this out at 5:30 PM when I got home from jury duty. My diabetic Dad had eaten nothing since breakfast, and was in lots of pain. My husband and I picked up some dinner and drove 1/2 hour to Dad's, where we fed him and gave him the stronger pain pill the Dr. said he could take. (They were on a top shelf he couldn't reach.)
Tuesday I had to return to the jury, which finished its service that afternoon. Dad said he had slept well Monday night and was doing OK, so he didn't want me to come since I was planning to come Wednesday.
Wednesday I got to Dad's to find him in serious pain. He said he could feel something in his side grinding when he coughed. He didn't want to get addicted to the pain pills, so had only used Tylenol and had gotten no sleep. He wanted to see the Dr, so I got a pain pill into him, and was his chauffeur to the Dr and X-ray lab. He has 4 broken ribs, and is now convinced he HAS to take the pain pills or it will be harder for him to heal. He's rather discouraged about the 6 week recovery period.
Today I went over to do the taxes I didn't get to do yesterday, and found he had slept well but had not taken any insulin yesterday nor breakfast yet at 10 AM! Yikes! He's usually so good with his diabetes that we don't have to monitor him. I'm the "financial daughter." Medical stuff intimidates me.
He is back where he is supposed to be in food and medicine use. I have to keep at him to eat. I want my sister back! She's a great nurse and calm repository of medical knowledge. She's also better at getting him to eat.
There's such a fine line to walk between allowing independence and cramping his style to make sure he is safe. For now I'm just reminding and showing up often to do what needs to be done. He doesn't want to move or have anyone move in with him.
I need to remember this if and when my advanced age causes my children to have concern about my behavior! Maybe I'll be able to not worry them so much?
Sunday, January 26, 2014
I've finished 21 days of the fatloser.com video series on mental toughness. I face the future without a daily dose of tough talk from the coach. His parting words:
~Life is fragile. Tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Your time is limited.
~Don't wait to pursue your dreams.
~What are you waiting for? The "correct" time will never come. Take action now!
~Finish what you started. The old habits will try to come roaring back. Don't let them.
I do have a greater sense of urgency concerning what I eat and how much I exercise in order to maintain my weight right where it is today. I am anticipating some travel this year to some national parks we've long wanted to visit, so I have to make plans to take care of my maintenance during travel and in those new settings.
This isn't the end of being mentally tough. It's the beginning of applying it for myself.
Saturday, January 25, 2014
Day 20 of the fatloser.com video series deals with plateaus and the last 2 stages of success.
When you've been 100% compliant but the scale doesn't move, you've hit a PLATEAU.
Plateaus are the body's way of self-regulating to make sure you aren't losing too fast.
They are temporary.
Frustration and your old way of thinking are obstacles to your success when plateaus happen.
You have to stay alert and on track to overcome those obstacles.
Plateaus are part of the season of pain.
Review time: the stages of success are:
2. season of pain, and
The "SEASON OF PAIN" is the mutiny of your old thinking patterns and habits against the new ones you are trying to put in their place. You're tempted to go back to the old, comfortable ways, but the old ways won't help you to your goal. You are most vulnerable in this stage. You're enduring an emotional storm. The suffering is caused by not KNOWING that you'll succeed.
Siebold suggests the following to help yourself during the SEASON OF PAIN:
~Get enough sleep. Fatigue is dangerous during habit change.
~Remind yourself of your ultimate goal. Visualize or post pictures. Tell others your goal.
~Repeat beliefs that lead to the actions you want to become automatic.
~Watch motivational speakers. (YouTube or CDs)
~Avoid negative news in the media at this time... negative emotion is contagious. Guard your consciousness.
He describes the KNOWING stage as:
~You're convinced you're going to succeed.
~The game is won, you're just waiting for the checkered flag.
~The effort seems easy.
~The Payoff is massive and certain.
I'm in the knowing stage right now. I'm maintaining right where I want to be. I think, like others viewing this series, that it's not a stage that is permanent once achieved. Keeping in mind the coping strategies for the season of pain so I won't sabotage my efforts is worth while...I'll be needing them again!
Thursday, January 23, 2014
Day 18 of the fatloser.com video series deals with making the distinction between cause and effect.
This is an important tool in weight loss and maintenance. If I keep trying to fix only the effect, nothing will permanently change. (It's like having a leaking roof and just replacing the floor each time it rains.) I must attack the cause to fix the problem.
What you believe is the cause. Your behavior is the effect.
Change your belief, and you will change your action.
Fight the old beliefs you had by repeating and acting on the new ones.
Siebold recommends getting involved with (his blog's) community. The Sparkpeople community has been a tremendous help to me. It keeps me aware of challenges, pitfalls, successes, topics which require thought, and so much more. Many of the people here have become my friends, and we help each other over rough spots.
Thanks for that! You've helped me change what I believe about losing weight and keeping it off. You've helped me reach my goal and maintain for 10 months today. You've even allowed me to see if I've helped you. This community is tremendous, and I'm sticking around!
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