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Thanks everyone! And a welcome to Winter (or Summer)Friday, December 23, 2011
First off, a very big thank you to everyone who read my blog, all who chose to Like it and those who responded in one way or another. ![]()
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OUTATTHEBEACH
12/24/2011 2:02AM
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Interesting to read....thank you!!!
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THETURTLEBEAR
12/23/2011 1:25PM
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TMCLEOD4
12/23/2011 10:49AM
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Awesome!! Thanks for your blogs! They make me think and brighten my day!
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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10
12/23/2011 9:45AM
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LIVING4APURPOSE
12/23/2011 2:00AM
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Congrats on the well deserved popular blog award:)
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I find this really fascinating; I'm not sure why. Maybe I just have an oddly unique perspective on it from the deliberateness of my weight gain.
Normally when a person gaining weight, they don't go into every day thinking "I hope I gain a pound this week". They don't plan their meals and do their grocery shopping to make sure they get those necessary extra calories. They don't avoid mirrors and pictures with the thought "I don't want to see myself until I weigh more". They don't berate themselves and feel ashamed because they ate too little. They don't consciously decide "I'm going to park right in front of the store so I don't burn as many calories."
In fact, while they have bad daily habits, such as 32-64 oz. of Coke / Pepsi a day, a day in which only a single 6 oz. can is consumed is meaningless. It isn't a failure that they didn't have as much some days.
Unless they're actually thinking about the food-to-weight connection at the time, they spent very little time worrying about whether they had one donut or twelve.
Now swap that person to a weight-loss mindset, and it's (swiping the Lewis Carroll title) "through the looking glass". Except, it's not even a looking glass. It's a (not-so) fun-house mirror. Everything becomes hyper-distorted.
One misstep and it's like they've stepped on a land mine. There's shrapnel flying everywhere, and they're on the ground pitifully murmuring "I'm done for. Go on without me." That single 6 oz. can of Coke one day is the iceberg that sunk the Titanic and they're going to go down with the ship.
WHY!?
Do we forget that gaining weight was also a journey? An easier one, for sure, since it depends on bad habits, not doing, and not caring. But it was a journey just as filled with days or weeks we didn't gain a pound, we didn't binge or overeat, we didn't stuff ourselves sick.
Seriously! While there may be some who accomplish this, most of us do not gain 1-2 pounds a week steadily or on average. For example, given that I quit caring about 15-17 years ago, probably starting around 175 at the time, if I had gained 1 pound a week, I'd weigh around half a ton (1000 pounds).
The reality was more about up some weeks, down other weeks, some days eating way way too much, some eating very little. (A comment on the "very little". I've had weekends where the only thing I consumed were mugs of milk or chocolate milk. A full 8 cups of chocolate milk only adds up to around 1260 calories. I can't even say I had that much. I had no thought in mind about weight loss. I just didn't want to bother cooking, and milk is very satisfying and filling to me.)
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Then a realization came to mind. When we talk about a journey, I think some think of it as a road trip. Get in a car, plug a destination into the GPS, and follow smooth paved roads from start to finish.
This journey is almost never like that. The car's a heap-o'-junk that we can't trust to start from day to day, the GPS constantly loses signal or turns us all about, and the roads, IF they exist, are full of pot-holes, ruts, missing signs, bridges out, and every other possible delay imaginable.
If we're expecting the former, that whatever we're doing is the magic bullet of weight loss, every single pitfall in our path is going to slow us and we are going to become very disillusioned and discouraged fast. In fact, we're likely to hit the gas hard and hope to just plow through, instead miring ourselves deep in what we hoped to avoid.
If we're expecting the latter, we drive a whole heck of a lot slower, we pay close attention to the road and steer around the pitfalls we see, when we fail to avoid one, we get out, assess the damage, get back in, and continue, now watching for that kind of pitfall again ahead of us.
Long story short, we've got to make sure we haven't distorted our view of what our journey will be like. Whether SparkPeople is our first ever attempt to lose weight or feels like it's our last hope, getting to our destination WILL have pitfalls. We will get stuck in potholes, run into tree branches, have cows blocking the road, turn down a dead end, get turned completely around, and feel more than once like we're never going to get there.
Expect that. Plan for that.
Straighten out that looking glass or fun house mirror and take a long hard look at what the journey is honestly likely to hold.
CAREFUL! Don't get bogged down in the immensity of how many road hazards there are to avoid or that one of them up ahead somewhere looks like the Grand Canyon. There is time between now and then to get the car running better, collect resources, look at maps, ask for help, decide to drive around, work out however that massive issue will eventually be handled. It's a long journey. Those hazards aren't immediate. Only the nearest ones will matter immediately.
But that honest look can save us a lot of heartache because the trials and tribulations will be far less likely to stop us dead in our tracks if we knew they'd be there and acted early to minimize their harmful impact.


WILLINGTYRANT
1/26/2012 7:26PM
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I think you hit the nail right on the head. Over time, I have experienced the pot holes of dieting. I have stopped dieting and have re-evaluated my goals. The "real goal" is to get "healthy". If I mess up, I just get back on the horse and try again. This approach has allowed me to loose 30 pounds. It took more time than I would like, but the results speak for themselves. Thank you for sharing your insights and hopefully, get others to realize this is a life-long journey. I am enjoying every minute of it. Gale Report Inappropriate Comment |


NDORRIS
1/9/2012 9:18AM
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Here, here--very well spoken! I have started mindfulness practice and this blog suggests what I can do to be mindful about my attitudes and behaviors around food and exercise. I appreciate the effort you put into creating such a well thought out and relevant piece of writing. Thanks for publishing it. Report Inappropriate Comment |


JENNIEONFIRE
1/7/2012 10:02AM
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This blog really helps me look at my "journey" in a different aspect. It really is true that the weight gain was a simple journey to follow and now to change it in the harder journey is tough but totally doable! Thank you for inspiring me
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GLYNISBELL
1/2/2012 9:58PM
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All about life and how you choose to handle it . I enjoyed your blog . Very encouraging . Something to think abut .
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JOOFARK
1/2/2012 4:56PM
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Thank you for this blog. This was one of the big lessons I learned last year about weight loss that helped me to blow holes in my black/white, all-or-nothing outlook on the way I gain and lose weight. Thank you for reminding again of this lesson. I will probably return to this blog throughout the year to read it again and again along the road to a healthy lifestyle. May you have overflowing joy this year. ~jo Report Inappropriate Comment |


KWSUNSHINE1
1/1/2012 11:47PM
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this blog shows good insight! i would like to use it as analogy for my clients. i am an ladc (alcohol and drug counselor); the thoughts presented here describe a similar journey situation as my clients experience. thanx for sharing! :)
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KBITZNELSON
1/1/2012 6:17PM
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You have given me lots to think about. Thanks.
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DESERTFLOWERG
12/30/2011 6:31PM
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Thanks for the perspective.
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LOVEX3
12/30/2011 9:13AM
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Awesome blog thank you for sharing with us
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KARENB2648
12/29/2011 10:11AM
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Thank you for taking the time to write down and share your very thoughtful assessment of what, I think, we all go through on our journey to being healthy. You express yourself very well!! I am keeping this as a reminder of what this journey is really like. Take care. Report Inappropriate Comment |


WORKOUTWITHPAM
12/29/2011 2:28AM
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Very nicely spoken. Thank you for sharing with us. Great Blog. HUGS Pam Report Inappropriate Comment |


1BEACHWALKER
12/29/2011 1:14AM
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Great way to look at it! Report Inappropriate Comment |


JEANNETTE59
12/28/2011 12:31PM
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Clear, concise and wonderful blog. Report Inappropriate Comment |


TIMOTHYNOHE
12/27/2011 10:26PM
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I think I have finally caught on. I was over-indulging this weekend and instead of think "Oh woe is me all is lost! I have eaten too much i am a pig and a slob ... blah blah blah." I was able to think, "It's just two days. I have all new habit that will carry me through and get me back to my new normal." Report Inappropriate Comment |


MISSLOIS
12/27/2011 4:06PM
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great blog!!!!!!!!!
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KAYLSLYNN
12/27/2011 3:27PM
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HUMBLEDAISY
12/27/2011 12:59PM
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So True!
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TXGRANDMA
12/26/2011 9:23PM
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Great blog! So TRUE!! I never thought of it that way before, sure makes a lot of sense....
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CHACHITA7
12/26/2011 9:17PM
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So very well expressed - thank you for sharing
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NUMD97
12/26/2011 2:57PM
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Your blog has been sitting on my desktop as a reminder to take the time to read it. I finally had a moment to do so just now and it was well worth the wait. Wonderful blog! It certainly gives a new spin on the obvious and I thank you for taking the time and care to write it. All the best as you continue on your own "road" to better health, Nu Report Inappropriate Comment |


GONABFIT
12/26/2011 1:13PM
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great blog! Thank you
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BLOOMING52
12/26/2011 10:30AM
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GHOSTFLAMES
12/26/2011 7:21AM
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LET'S GO FOR IT WE ARE WORTH IT. WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU IF YOU NEED ANYTHING AT ALL JUST ASK. ONE DAY ONE STEP AT A TIME WE WILL ALL DO THIS. TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY, CHAR Report Inappropriate Comment |


DAISEYTWO
12/26/2011 1:53AM
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You got a great attitude. This is so true.
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TIFFY0906
12/25/2011 5:28PM
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Great Blog - Report Inappropriate Comment |


LJR4HEALTH
12/25/2011 5:02PM
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Thanks for sharing great insight
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TAKIAANDMOMMY
12/25/2011 10:42AM
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Wow I have been having such a hard time, "beating myself up" for gaining all of my weight back and struggling with breaking bad habits, this blog is wonderful, im so happy I came across it!
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ANNTORR53
12/25/2011 1:49AM
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Great perspective.
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FIREBUG32
12/24/2011 10:11PM
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Great observation! Thanks.
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4UTOPIA
12/24/2011 9:58PM
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Thanks for sharing!
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BLOOMING52
12/24/2011 6:23PM
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RANJINI4
12/24/2011 5:03PM
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Great Blog!Made me think!
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ANDBEYOND
12/24/2011 5:02PM
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You are so RIGHT! Now we have to walk our JOURNEY! Merry Christmas and a prosperous New Year!
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LEANLIVIN
12/24/2011 12:03PM
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Great insight!!!
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TINASDUNWELL
12/24/2011 10:21AM
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I loved this blog! This is really fantastic. I think I'm going to print a copy to put near my desk. Report Inappropriate Comment |


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MOMMAKNOWSBEST
12/24/2011 9:51AM
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:)
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SPARKLED146
12/24/2011 8:43AM
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Thank you for this great viewpoint!
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KIPPER15
12/24/2011 7:51AM
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Great blog. The journey will continue! Report Inappropriate Comment |


WOLF648
12/24/2011 5:46AM
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123ELAINE456
12/24/2011 2:51AM
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Awesome What a great blog. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Merry Christmas and Happy New Years
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KRISTEN_SAYS
12/23/2011 10:43PM
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Great blog! Thanks for sharing
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YINETTV
12/23/2011 10:07PM
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Gps are horribl--i live in boston-- but i live the analogy
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DMAICON
12/23/2011 7:28PM
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I can truly relate to this blog! Thank you so much! Report Inappropriate Comment |


WHQPHQ
12/23/2011 5:39PM
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Thank you for this!
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MARYSSEAMAN
12/23/2011 5:30PM
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Oh dear Lordy! Have I truly consumed a bag of fritos while reading your blog? As I worked out, watched what I ate today and planned for the holiday "traps". I think I need a better navigator! Great blog!
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JLBRHW
12/23/2011 2:22PM
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Keeping with the journey theme....we all know that if we start out on a trip and take a wrong turn, we don't give up on the trip, we just right our course/turn around and keep going onto our destination. Thanks for your reminder blog - very helpful!
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STINASLUV
12/23/2011 1:28PM
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Thanks for sharing, made me think a little more of how hard I can be on myself.
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KCKITTY43
12/23/2011 12:26PM
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very nice,very helpful insight Report Inappropriate Comment |


BANDMOM2012
12/23/2011 10:48AM
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Nice
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SDTALLY
12/23/2011 10:24AM
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What a wonderful and refreshing way to look at the weight loss journey! Sharon Report Inappropriate Comment |

