Wednesday, July 24, 2013
Well, as many of you have seen....i have been out of the loop for a while. I went through a divorce back on february 26th and on the 27th was Hospitalized. I was told it was major stress buy one Nuerologist and told Multiple Sclerosis by another. I was having Paroysmal attacks (a type of seizure) they lasted a few weeks. I was released with Ativan and told to relax. After being in limbo for 7 months i had an MRI that showed one lesion on my ledt brain that is large and anoher on my C spinewich wasnt muh smaller. July 11th i went to the Yale MS center and had another MRI....5 new lesions now on my right brain. The left brain lesion is a bit smaller and the c spine one is the same. I was officially diagnosed wih Multiple Sclerosis that day.
My life now?.......well......i dont know what tothink really. It all hit me at once. Im scared of the future. What it will hold. Scared of each new day. Cared of the progression of he diseas and scared for my child.
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Weight Loss Motivation: Tips For Maintaining Your Inspiration
Maintaining your weight loss motivation can be really tough, some days more than others. We’ve all had those “Aaah screw it, I give up!” days and sadly, many of us have given into them now and then.
Over the years, I have learned that the really tough days usually get their fangs from a few particular demoralizing demons. These little devils are everywhere, forever lurking in the shadows, waiting to bite you on the Ass!
Fortunately, by simply shedding a little light on these dietary demons, you can send them screaming back to where they belong and keep them from stealing the soul of your weight loss motivation.
LISTS OF DEMONS AND THE ARMOR TO FIGHT THEM
Advertisers: Most commercials, magazine ads and Internet ads are created by money grubbing monsters preying on your emotions. Their methods may vary, but they all have the same goal. To cleverly try and manipulate you into feeling bad about yourself until you spend your money on their products.
Armor: Be prepared for these assaults and defend yourself by not letting them hit the emotion their aiming for. Be conscience of what they’re trying to do and you can defeat their evil selfish emotional manipulation.
Stop and look closely at the ad. Identify the emotion they are trying to hit (guilt, vanity, shame, hope, trust, etc…) and instead respond with whatever defense mechanism works best for your personality.
Personally, I get angry at them for trying to sucker me. Or better yet, laugh at their pathetic attempt which can actually give you a nice “superiority” boost. Muahahahaha!
Celebrities: Watching a movie or TV show lets us escape from reality for a while. We have our favorite characters and admire them for being bigger, faster, stronger, prettier, richer, funnier, smarter, etc… and doing things we can’t in the real world.
It can be a great way to relax and relieve some stress. Sometimes, though, we forget that it’s all fantasy and wind up feeling bad for not being as perfect as these pretend people.
Armor: Hammer it in that these images are not real. That character is just an enhanced version of the real person behind it. In real life, they may actually be exceptionally beautiful, but their beauty is just as fragile and fleeting as ours which they often pay a terrible price for. I almost feel sorry for them… almost.
If you’re getting down on yourself for not quite measuring up to their pretend perfection, hop on the Internet and do an image search for your favorite celebrity. You’ll find all kinds of pages proving that they are just as fat, sweaty and dorky as we are. Of course we all know this, but sometimes it helps to get a good dose of reality to wash away those illusions.
News: Nothing will snakebite your weight loss motivation faster than some news report that says you’ve been doing it all wrong. It gets so frustrating! Every time you think you have it figured, here comes some new report that changes the rules! Umm yeah, that killer new diet you’ve been following… Turns out it causes ear cancer and extreme toe jam production. …Aww crap!
Armor: Take the news with a grain of salt. You’re not going to drop dead tomorrow if it turns out your current weight loss strategy isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Of course you always want to keep learning, but keep your strategic plan focused on the tried and true methods like a balanced diet and plenty of exercise.
Think critically about new information, and use it to make adjustments to your tactical plan as you go along. Look at new information as a way to help maintain your weight loss motivation by keeping things fresh.
The Gym: The gym is a great place to get fit, but watch out! There are demons hiding in there too… For instance, you’re on the treadmill and feeling great. You’re about to knock of 5K in 30 minutes when some fiend gets on the mill next to you and does it in half the time. Son of a $#&@! Or you finally put up 200 lbs on the bench press for the first time. You just about filled your pants, but you did it! Then some ogre comes along and does 300 lbs for a warm up set. Man, where’s my cookies…
Armor: This one can be tough and takes some practice. The best thing you can do is focus on competing with only yourself. The harder you focus on your own goals the less you will pay attention to those around you.
Don’t even look around while you’re working out if you can help it. You don’t need to be a prick. Be friendly, but stay focused. Pay attention to the weight YOU are lifting or the pace that YOU are running and ignore everyone else’s. Also, save the socializing for when you are done. If you start yaking during your workout, it’s a slippery slope and you will run off tack.
Friends and Family: The ones closest to us can be incredibly supportive and helpful and encouraging. However, they can also send your weight loss motivation straight to Hades. You know what I mean… A little comment here, a little joke there and you’re right back in the cookie jar.
Friends and family will often start out supportive, but as time goes on that may fade to black. Unfortunately, to some your success often highlights their failure and they may start to undermine you. Little things like making your favorite dessert at family dinner, buying donuts for the office or maybe encouraging you to cheat… just a little. Some may even get insulted for not eating enough when you come for dinner! What’s a person to do?
Armor: It depends on the relationship how you deal with this.
Right up front, there will be some people you just shouldn’t talk about this stuff with. They will poo poo and nay say and shower you with negativity, shooting your weight loss motivation right in the ass. Identify these guys quickly and simply avoid the topic around them.
Some people may actually be on a sabotage mission… We’ve all heard it… Come on dude! Let’s go grab a pizza and drink a case of beer. Awwww come on man don’t be a wussy, let’s go! This may be your biggest test since it will require you to make a seriously hard core choice. If they won’t listen and respect what you’re trying to do, you may have to say good bye to this friend/foe or at least limit your time with them.
At holidays and family gatherings you get the double whammy of trying to resist temptation but at the same time not wanting to seem ungrateful for your host’s hard work. I learned a couple tricks for this situation.
1. This is an oldie but a goodie. Snack before you go or on the way so you’re not starving when you get there. Otherwise you might end up sucking down a dozen cocktail weenies before the meal even starts!
2. When the meal is served, don’t load your plate with everything you plan to eat. Your host will be pleased by the number of times you go back for more, so take small amounts and refill your plate a couple times.
Alright, that’s enough demon fighting for one post. They can be tough to battle, considering how diabolical they can be to your weight loss motivation. I hope you picked up a few ideas for how to fend them off and protect your waistline. If you have a great way for maintaining your weight loss motivation, share it with the rest of us in the comments in my Blog~
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
You become what you think. If you're not getting the weight loss results you want, practice more positive self-talk and think yourself thin!
Whether you're aware of it or not, you have a mental tape running constantly that affects your moods and ultimately, your behavior. When these thoughts are negative, outdated or confining, they undermine the process of change-whether you're conscious of them or not. It stands to reason that without an awareness of this mental chatter, you cannot really know why you do what you do so it is harder to change it.
Your thoughts are the primary creator of your emotions, which inspire your actions and therefore lead to your results. This thought > feeling > action > result cycle is a "causal loop." In other words, when you think a certain thought, it causes you to feel a certain way, which causes you to act in a certain way, which causes certain results, which then "proves" that your original thoughts were correct.
These patterns are often repetitive and self-reinforcing. Thousands of repetitions of a particular experience create auto-pilot thoughts, feelings and actions, and therefore, predictable results.
This thought > feeling > action > result cycle applies to all of your thoughts, not just those surrounding food, eating and weight. It applies to your thoughts about your relationships, your career, your finances, your habits and your abilities-any area of your life that is within your sphere of influence. Even when a thought pattern leads to poor results, you can stay locked in the trap because it's comfortable and familiar.
THINK YOURSELF THIN~
The first step to disrupting an undesirable cycle is to start monitoring your internal conversations and become more aware of the results they are creating.
The next time you find yourself eating in a way that feels out of control, uncomfortable or unsatisfying, ask yourself what you were thinking before you took the first bite. If you recognize that your self-talk is inaccurate, ineffective or limiting, you can choose to change it to more positive self-talk in order to change your outcome. Repeating new positive thinking and empowering mantras will result in the rewiring of your brain.
Interestingly, you don't even have to believe what you're saying to yourself at first. There's power in simply saying it. Your mind doesn't tolerate incongruence so if your thoughts are telling you something, your brain will find a way to make it true. In other words, "fake it until you make it." When you act "as if" it were true, it soon becomes reality.
Let's take a look at an example of negative and positive self-talk that is common in people who struggle with their weight:
CHANGE YOUR MIND: The Inner Critic
The Inner Critic is harsh and hypercritical and says things like:
"I am weak-willed and I have no self-control."
"I am too heavy to be attractive."
"I am lazy and too undisciplined to exercise the way I should."
You might talk to yourself this way because you believe that you're keeping yourself "in line."
But most people aren't motivated by criticism-even when you're the one criticizing yourself. Instead, this hypercritical self-talk causes feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness. As a result, you probably won't do your best or you'll give up easily. The results only prove that the Inner Critic was right and lead to more harsh self criticism.
To change this pattern, begin to use an encouraging, gentle inner voice and positive self-talk to motivate yourself toward the changes you want and literally think yourself thin. For example:
"It's challenge to turn down tempting food but I know it will taste even better if I wait until I'm hungry."
"I look really nice in this dress-especially when I smile!"
"I'll feel so much better if I take even just a short, comfortable walk. Everyone has to start somewhere."
Banish your negative thoughts before they lead to negative feelings and behaviors. Switch to kinder, gentler, positive self-talk that will coach you toward the results you really want.
Monday, August 15, 2011
Some days......well most days im a perfect picture of positivity, but the past few days...maybe even full week possibly month, ive been a bit on the bummed out,dumpy woe is me trip.
ive been working out, staying on top of my water intake, playing well with others, and eating within my calorie range. i started out in May on my SP Journey...the 22nd to be exact, and my starting weight was 227. my weight as of today is at 199.5, but yesterday it was 188.5 WOO HOO.....nope, not really......ive just found out that the scale i have grown to come to trust has been blowing smoke up my ass the entire time....*sigh* the frustration thats filling me is overwhelming. i feel like i was stabbed in the back. dont get me wrong ive come a long way in a short time and love what i HAVE lost already, but to think one thing and see it isnt real........makes me a wee bit sad, angry and makes me feel betrayed in some way by this inanimate object i rely on weekly to let me know how im doing by the numbers. i know, i know.....dont focus solely on the scale, and i truly dont, my measurements have been awesome, and it makes me smile ear to ear when i see where i was and how far i have already come in a short period of time.
so? am i crazy? should i end this relationship with this" cheater" scale and look for a new high class " mr right" to take its place? i think it might be a good idea. how can you know whats right and whats wrong when the scale changes 10 to 18 pounds difference every few days.......thats not a few pounds, thats a HUGE gap, and i need correct information from my weight loss pal scaley to show correct numbers....not to pms or have a mood swing and be like..."hey to hell with her, im gonna throw out whatever i feel like today for numbers.....see how funny i can be"....no way!
so, long story short, said scale (impostor) will be taking a long walk off a short pier so to speak...
maybe its mercury in retrograde again.....either way that shady machine has gotta go
Wednesday, August 03, 2011
Losing weight, when you really think about it, is essentially mind over matter. Our brains play a key role in how successful we will be in any efforts towards sustained weight loss. Let me explain what I mean.
First, we should take a little time to consider the environment we live in. Let’s start by taking about “the man”.
Now, we all know “the man” – that faceless, nameless one who is responsible for the many things that happen around us and to us.
Who’s “the man”?
“The man” is one of the major contributors to, what I call, the “background noise” that frustrates our ability to focus on what is really going to be helpful to our weight loss plans.
Here are just a couple of things that “the man” may have influenced you within the past:
* The economy we are surrounded by a system that, first and foremost, seeks to keep the economy strong. There’s nothing wrong with this and a prosperous economy is good for everyone.However, we need to realize that because of how important it has become to sustain a buoyant economy, supply and demand has become king.
* As a result there are some manufacturers who will bend the truth in order to sell their product – and they can get away with it. So, you will come across foods that claim to be health foods, but in reality the product is actually one of the worst things you can buy if your aim is to lose weight.
* The perfectly formed bodies of those in advertisements seeking to sell you a new piece of apparatus to help you work out. You can bet that the person in the ad had that body before they ever set eyes on this equipment.The point is that we get bombarded by a never ending range of products and equipment that claim to be able to do everything from melting fat from our bodies to turning our ab muscles into granite. PSSSHHHH~ RIGHT!!
I’m sure we could list more examples of how “the man” influences the masses. But for now, let’s park that particular discussion to think about something even more interesting.
YOU'RE “the man”
Let me ask you a question, do we really take responsibility for what is happening to us? By that I mean, how often do we find ourselves making one or more of the following statements?:
* “I have so much debt. The credit card companies make it too easy to borrow money” – as if someone forced us to spend the money in the first place.
* “If my child misbehaves at school then the teachers need to sort it out; it’s their problem while he’s at school” – as if we can somehow be absolved of all parental responsibility (almost like “tag, you’re it!”).
* “It’s impossible to lose weight because we’re just surrounded by fast food everywhere we go” – as if we are unable to make an informed choice about what we eat.
* “Oh, I’m too busy to start that course at college” – as if we don’t have a choice as to how we allocate the hours of our day.
* Do you recognize yourself in any of these statements? Doubtless, you could come up with a few more.
Think back to when you were very young; the days when you would and could do anything.
The striking thing about the very young is their fearlessness – their willingness to try out something different. However, as we get older something happens to many of us.
Put simply, we get scared and, as a result, we dis-empower ourselves, become helpless and reluctant to take responsibility for what ensues.
If we’re not responsible for our actions, this implies that someone else is – usually it’s “the man”. At other times, when we are willing to be specific, it’s our husband, our wife, our children, our boss at work….
Can you see how we, often unintentionally, create our own “background noise”? Can you see how behaving in this way ultimately leaves us weak, lazy and/or helpless?
Let me ask you another question, do you really want to be this helpless? Do you really want to be blown about by every force except that which is in you? No, surely it is better for us as act responsibly, decisively and positively, taking control of our lives.
If you are overweight and have struggled to get rid of the weight then you need to recognize that you’re not taking full responsibility for this issue, because I guarantee that you can lose weight and keep it off. Unfortunately, one of your main obstacles is your own mind!
That said, help is available, but it can only start with you first recognizing that there is a process to successful and sustained weight loss – just as there is a process to success of any kind.
Why diets often fail
The reason so many fail to lose weight is that they are not cognizant of the entire weight loss process.
For example, one person might start a diet while another does more around exercising their body. Often, they miss out the very first part of the process which is, “getting the right mindset”.
If your mind isn’t right you are dooming yourself to failure. If your mind is right, then you can literally think yourself thin.
I have tried to give you a taste of what is actually quite a complex sociological problem. Don’t worry, for now, all you need to do is recognize the following three key points:
1. In a capitalist society, our environment is focused on securing a sound economy i.e. ensuring that the system of supply and demand is continuous. You need to see it for what it is, use it to your advantage, but do not be a slave to it;
2. Your mind is a powerful piece of equipment. If you tell yourself something for long enough it will become true in your own mind. Take responsibility for your actions and in-actions.
Do not make excuses. From now on “can’ts” become “cans”, “mights” become “musts”
3. Background noise in the context of this is anything that tends to distract you or, in some manner, interfere with your ability to meet your health and fitness goals.
Recognize that you are responsible for at least some of the background noise around you and seek to dispel it.
…And remember…if you get your mind right you can literally start to “think yourself thin.”
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