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Thursday, July 18, 2013

Just want to eat properly this week and exercise. One meal at a time.

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TATTER3 7/19/2013 7:38PM


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CAPECODBABE 7/18/2013 3:35PM

    You go girl!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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So I went to the doctor.....

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

because I have been having menopausal (I thought) problems and have been feeling very drained and exhausted lately. I was expecting for her to tell me something comforting and deal with my medical issue. After examining me, blah, blah, blah, did an office procedure (which I saw stars from, I should have pulled her tongue out of her mouth), I digress, all she tells me is that I am suffering because I am fat, fat, fat, fat. Isn't that nice to hear? You are FAT, that is why you have this. You are FAT, that is why you have that. I quote: "You are so fat, you really should have a sleeve gastrectomy, that would save your life". First of all, I am not dead yet, and second of all, the only sleeve that I am going to have is long sleeves, short sleeves, or sleeveless. I came out of there feeling sick to my stomach, humiliated, etc. I told her I changed all of my eating habits and lost 4 pounds this week, just eating healthier and walking. I couldn't do too much exercise because of this bleeding problem.

Oh but no, 4 pounds isn't enough. You have to be a size 2, with no fat on your body, and have bariatric surgery to accomplish that. I am so sick of tired of people telling me that. Everyone I knew ( I say knew), that was overweight had bariatric surgery. They are all a size 2, showing themselves off, not eating anything anymore and they look at you like you are a blimp because you eat food. Oh they never eat anymore, and their confidence is way off the map that they won't even bother with an obese person anymore.

It really upsets me, but I am going to continue eating healthy and exercising, and eating real food in moderation. I am going to be healthy but I am going to do it my way, not the way society wants me to do it. We all have medical problems, and not all is caused by obesity, but I thank God everyday for what he has given me, and I am truly blessed, and in His time, I will reach my goal with His help.

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BLESSED714 12/12/2012 12:47PM

    Thank you so much for all of your support and comforting words. It is good to hear positive things. Thanks again. emoticon

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WENDYSPARKS 12/12/2012 7:12AM


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TATTER3 12/12/2012 7:08AM

    Get a new doctor. I've been a nurse for over 30 years and have never seen anyone who had any type of surgical intervention NOT go through some major problems!! You are on the right track and if she could not hear 4 pounds in one week ...she's deaf or ignoring you!!! You CAN do this!!! Keep Sparkin'!!

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CAPECODBABE 12/12/2012 6:37AM

    Well, eating healthy and exercise is the best way.

And getting a new doctor might help!

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Stay strong, Val. 4 pounds in a week is great!!!

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KAKONOLADY 12/11/2012 3:18PM

    There is nothing worse then a trusted MD calling you fat!! I hate seeing it everywhere on my medical records too--instead of letting it bother me I just use it as motiviation to get the darn weight off and to prove to them that I can!!! Hugs and Im so sorry you had to go through that!!!

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OLIVIANIGHT 12/11/2012 3:03PM

    Sometimes I think doctors just say that to move get to their next appointment as quick as possible.
You keep doing it the healthy way and forget everyone who won't accept it.

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IMELECTRIC 12/11/2012 3:02PM

    Switch doctors. You know your body better than anyone, if something doesn't feel right there might be something wrong. And yes we know when we are fat....we are not blind. I know that after my hysterectomy I felt alot better. Then after I followed my sparkpeople nutrition goals I felt tons better. I used to struggle with feeling tired and trying to stay awake, after I started eating right and getting the proper amount of protein in my body, it helped tremendously. Follow the nutrition goals for a month or so with 20 minutes of exercise 3 times a week. As you progress you will feel better. If you still feel something is wrong.....go to another doctor. Good luck. I hope you feel better.

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PSAPPEN 12/11/2012 2:19PM

    I feel your pain. I haven't had a doctor say that to me before, even though I am 80 pounds overweight. I did have a doctor yell at me once because she couldn't figure out what was really wrong with me - similar symptom to you - severe exhaustion. I have a great doctor now that identified my problem in less than 15 minutes. In two weeks, with medication, my exhaustion problem was on the mend (it took several months before I was back to normal though). I wasn't menopausal, but my hormone cycles were doing weird things to my inner workings. Good luck with your progress and your exhaustion.

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Saw some pics of a former coworker....

Saturday, August 06, 2011

A former coworker of mine posted some pics of herself on a website. She was morbidly, I mean morbidly obese. I am also morbidly obese, but I looked thin compared to her. She had the most beautiful face.

She had lost about 85 pounds in about 2 - 3 months. She is looking amazing. I asked her how she did it. She had a right sleeve gastrectomy, where they removed 85% of her stomach.

I cannot even fathom that. She said she feels wonderful and it was the best thing she ever did for herself. You know, she had me thinking about getting gastric bypass surgery. I was researching the newest operative methods of this surgery online, etc.

No matter what, I did this before, and I can do this again. I am not getting the surgery, even if I have to stay big all of my life. I will try and try, and even if I lose just 5 pounds, at least it is a start.

P.S. She does look gorgeous though :)

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SKIDEE 8/20/2011 7:28AM

    I sent your blog to my sister, who has been tempted to get surgery for her weight issues too. I really believe that it is ONLY for those who have NO other choice (and I'm not really sure WHO that would be, but clearly it is NOT YOU!) I have a friend who did this and is suffering many after effects. I'm not sure her health is any better now. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this and getting the discussion going. Good physical health takes WORK. Period. Since we have to learn how to eat healthily, we may as well do it BEFORE the surgery and forego all the risk!! Jo

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TATTER3 8/13/2011 2:56PM

    Yea you!!!! I've been a nurse for over 30 years and have had many friends get the surgery ...everything from the total bypass to the balloon, the band, the partial and the sleeve. Fast wt loss is a given...the bigger you are the more you lose in a very short time...but then comes the downside....the vitamin deficits, the adverse side effects, the "eating around the proceedure" attitudes, etc... I work with a nurse who nibbles all day long..lost 80# and has 100# to go and just can't get any progress. It's been 2 years for her..and BTW.she heads for the bathroom to barf after each hour of nibbling...her stomach just can't handle food. She's off a LOT has kidney infections, feels tired all of the time and is just not the example I want to follow. It may take me years to reach my goal...but I will do it with common sense and good habits being formed and you can too. Never compare yourself to these artificial means of wt loss....just keep Sparkin'!!!

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GMA2HALF 8/6/2011 1:47PM

    I applaud you for going the natural route. emoticon
Surgery is not always safe nor successful.

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REDSHOES2011 8/6/2011 10:00AM

    These operations have a price to pay like vitamin and mineral deficiencies because they are starving themselfs to weight loss.. Still have to learn to eat correctly as the stomach is a muscle and it can be stretched..
If you do a gastic bypass team search on sparks.. Many people find out it is not the ultimate solution because the weight can creep back on when the first side effects of having the operation die away..
I never thought about a gastic operation- I wanted to learn to eat healthy instead.. Paying for help was the best investiment I ever made.. The information still works..

I have learned to live with modifying my food.. Moderation is a tough guy to dance with- but whom said life was supposed to be easy.. I make choices now.. Hard cold choices..

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9/6/10 - Labor Day

Monday, September 06, 2010

What a labor to keep this weight off only to find that I gained 30 pounds back. I am so discouraged right now. I started again today, really keeping track. I went to the doctor for a new prescription for high blood pressure, and they weighed me. The scale was always my enemy, but this was a horrible awakening. I felt myself getting bigger by the day. I still tried to exercise, but I know I have been eating late at night, which I didn't do before. When I lived alone, I did well, but now I find it so hard since reconciling with my husband. My mom passed away in April and it has been so hard emotionally. I lost my initial weight by being stressed out and worrying, that I didn't eat at all. Now, that I have regained my appetite a little, I also regained the pounds. I am still going to try, I have to do more exercise, but I feel so down lately. I wish I had the motivation I used to. I pray to the Lord, that He will guide me, help me, cause I know He will never leave or forsake me.

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    I feel your pain. I lost my Mom last August, and what an emotional roller coaster it's been. I am struggling, struggling, struggling. Tight hugs.

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PSALM22 9/6/2010 3:28PM

    Although from different causes, I'm also in a place where I first need to lose the 25 I regained. So I can sympathize.

Thanks to God, we only have to do this one step at a time, one bite at a time, one meal, one day.

So, sister, let us be mindful of each act of health/unhealth we contemplate, asking God to help us make the right each time. With Him, we can do it.

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I will not get discouraged

Friday, July 30, 2010

I find that as I have been exercising everyday and watching what I eat, logging in my calories and foods, tracking exercises and other goals, I should be jumping with joy. I know I want to lose weight today, not tomorrow. I have to have patience, one baby step at a time. I didn't get this way from eating an apple. I should be dropping some pounds, but I feel bloated much of the time, the belly is pudgy and hanging, it really bothers me. I tried on some white pants that I always was able to wear and they were snug, I just don't understand. I did way over my exercise points this week, and stayed in calorie range. This is so much harder than when I lost weight through aggravation, worry, stress, etc. I do not want to get discouraged, and I refuse to weigh myself, it seems that the weight keeps creeping up, instead of down. I will not give up, I will be patient, that is what I have to tell myself. I know I could do this again!

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CITRUSPINE 8/3/2010 9:19AM

    I know exactly how you feel--that is where I am now! Just keep telling yourself that the weight did not come on over night and it is not going off that way, either. Have faith and believe in yourself.

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CAPECODBABE 7/31/2010 8:37AM

    You are right, the weight didn't come on in a day. Be patient, it will get easier. Stay motivated and one day you'll see your reflection and really notice a difference!

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SEMMER215 7/30/2010 6:29PM

    If you visit my page you will read very similar posts. I understand your struggle. I promise it gets better. Don't weigh yourself until you feel confident about what you are doing, and when you don't have the bloated feeling! emoticon

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