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I am Me

Saturday, October 27, 2012


I am Me.
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.

I own everything about me:
my body,
my feelings,
my mouth,
my voice,
all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.

I own
my fantansies,
my dreams,
my hopes,
my fears.

I own
my triumphs and successes,
all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts.

I know tha there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know, but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can
see,
hear,
feel,
think,
say,
and do.

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and

I AM OKAY.

by, Virginia Satir

The above blog was a direct quote. I'd like to add an additional comment:

I AM OKAY AND...I AM WORTH IT.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JILL313 10/28/2012 9:39AM

    Love this Blossom. Thanks for sharing it. You are so worth it and that means love yourself and do what it takes to be happy and healthy. So glad you're on this wonderful Journey with me. Take Care. Enjoy your Sunday!

Hugs,

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IOWAGRAMMA 10/28/2012 6:04AM

    Blossom, that is beautiful! Thanks for sharing it with us. I agree--YOU ARE OKAY AND YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!! Hugs, Jeannie
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BJUMPINGFORJOY 10/27/2012 9:28PM

    That is great and yes your are worth it.

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CAT-IN-CJ 10/27/2012 8:27PM

    That is great! Thanks for sharing it.

I just stumbled upon your blog so I don't know if you're like me, but for year (and years and years) I have been slave to my job, my family, etc. etc. etc., you get the picture. As a result, I became something that I was not. Stress from my job and family pushed me into a place that I did not like to be . . . and I did not like myself. And my body reflected it. Finally, after my job and family was gone, I was left with myself. I didn't like what I saw reflecting back in the mirror. Quit or start over? Then I stumbled upon SparkPeople. emoticon

Now I embrace who and what I am becoming. Yes, I like myself again. And encouraging words, like those you posted above, serve as a reminder that I am a 'one of a kind' miracle!

Not only do I have the tools to survive . . . . but I will THRIVE!
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How do I take care of myself?

Thursday, October 18, 2012

I joined SP in Sept. 2012. I enjoy reading the articles and am learning a lot...about myself. I just read an article "Why do We beat ourselves up?"

Since joining, I struggle with exercise. I see myself as active, but when I look as how others see me, I'm not. I admit I'm sedentary. I read about SP who are so motivated to change their lives...then it hit me. One of the major things we have to learn is to take care of ourselves. It hit when I was reading the above article is that...I AM taking care of myself. How do I explain this without sounding like a lazy person? When something is bothering me, I retreat. I watch TV, or withdraw, preferably with food. My life is pretty isolated right now...no relatives around, no friends, I hardly go out of the house...I'm taking care of myself.

I'm beginning to realize that the methods I use for taking care of me is to be non-active. And for me, it's not working....learning from fellow Sparkers is really shifting my thinking.

I am far from giving up...and I am being kind to me. I was learned that all the messages we give ourselves leads to brainwashing ourselves. If I say "You're Not Worth It" everytime I don't stay on program, I begin to believe. It is especially true if you got these messages growing up. It hurts to be involved with others. They can tear your heart and soul apart...better to step back.

Again, my message seems doom and gloom, but tonight I just felt the need to share. I no longer want to live that way. I lost #100 30 years ago and gained it all back...and then some. I want to be healthy and live a happy life...and find peace for my inner child. emoticon

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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LUNADRAGON 11/4/2012 1:11AM

    One little step at a time, and joining spark people means you are doing something about it, and that is a giant leap! Hugs!

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TXMEMAW6 10/20/2012 10:10AM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. It's always scary to think of all we need to change in order to lose weight, but each change is so very much worth it. Good luck on your WL journey!!

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KA_JUN 10/20/2012 12:47AM

    You can do great things, and you are worth it! emoticon

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JILL313 10/18/2012 8:53PM

    Hi Blossom, I've been Sparking for almost 3 years. . .and I'm learning and growing all the time. It seems the more I get involved with SP the better I do at taking care of myself. I used to beat myself up from time to time but now I've learned to love myself, flaws and all. Just work on one goal or thing you want to change at a time otherwise it will be overwhelming. Pick something you know would enrich your life and slowly working on changing it possibly with something more healthy. Use the food and fitness trackers every day or at least often. You'll begin to see patterns in your eating. Figure out how many calories you can eat and lose weight slowly. Make new friends on Spark as it will enrich your life and SP and your new friends will make you a happier person, at least it has me. Are you mobile enough to get out to attend church or a meeting that you would enjoy? Do you have TOPS there as they are supposed to be a good WL organization and far cheaper than WW. I'm reading a book called Simple Abundance (Comfort and Joy). I just started reading it yesterday and it is so full of good ways of women changing their lives for the better. I'm going to start a Gratitude Journal for myself as I have been blessed in many ways. I ordered it used from Amazon.com. I think it cost around $6 with shipping. If you'd like to change and feel better maybe you should buy a copy or get it from your local Library. I want the best for You. Come chat with us from time to time.

Hugs & Love,

Jill

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MASTERPIECE8 10/18/2012 4:22PM

    Thank you for sharing. I hope you feel better for sharing your feelings with us. You have put yourself first and realize you are worthwhile. You are worth all the time and effort you put into yourself. Stick with SP and please keep sharing. I hope to see you chatting with us more in the Daily Chat with us.

Barb

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GOLDENRODGIRL 10/18/2012 10:17AM

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PENNYSAVER2 10/18/2012 9:09AM

    Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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JAE_HENNINGTON 10/18/2012 8:20AM

  you are so right our thoughts about ourselves especially from the past can really play havoc on our lives. I lost about sixty # awhile back and yet here I am with all gained back. Good for you for having the courage to start again.. you will get there in your own way and in your own time.

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IOWAGRAMMA 10/18/2012 7:44AM

    Good job, Blossom! Excuses and negative self-talk will do us in every time. I think we've all become pros at this, unfortunately. You wouldn't believe some of my excuses, but we just keep working at it and sooner or later, those excuses and that not so good self-talk begins to take a back seat to our efforts! Reach out to others when you see that happening and you will be surprised at how much better you feel and how much help you get! Looking forward to hearing about your progress!! Hugs, Jeannie
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SELTZER111 10/18/2012 7:19AM

    Congratulations on taking steps to a new healthier you !! You CAN do it one choice at a time ! One day at a time ! Good luck on your fitness journey !! emoticon

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IRONSHARK 10/18/2012 1:38AM

    this is my advice, live your life, don't live in the opinion of anyone else, be happy with smalls achievements, and eventually you will get better and better, be happy with your self, but don't give up, smalls steps every day, small steps my friend emoticon

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JUSTYNA7 10/18/2012 1:23AM

    Great blog. It's a slow proces... change. Realizing that something else may work better than something we are currently doing... that aha moment... is a start. I remember when I joined SP someone said "you can't fail in SP, you just keep practicing until you get it right". I learned that sometimes my goals were not right. If I kept "failing" at them then they needed to be changed. SP is about success in baby steps at the beginning. Some of mine were pretty darn tiny. But I kept reading about how successful people did it. Oh... not those ones who said "I have to lose 10 pounds so I ate less and I exercised and I did it - Bam!". No, I was interested in the ones who had struggled and yet somehow something changed in them. Of course the things they did, some things I said "no way!". I look back at my journey and am amazed at how many of those things I have now tried. I've learned that not everything that works for others works for me, but when I have found things that I felt passionate about I have done them with gusto. The trick is to TRY them to learn. I also learned that timing is important. So sometimes I just was not ready. You are on a wonderful journey. Give yourself a big hug and keep blogging! emoticon

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