Sunday, July 20, 2014
Motivation, support, encouragement is so important and especially so when it comes from friends.
As I ( gratefully) continue to move into my 'mature' years I value the importance of friendships and value of having people around to share life experiences. Someone said friendship is a 'sweet responsibility (can't recall who said it but I like it).
SparkPeople is a nice forum for encouraging friends. Sharing life experiences... and goals.... and it makes an instant connection.
Bringing people into my exercise life to walk, bike ,go to the gym, will make it more fun, and increases the chances I will get out and do it if I know plans are in place and someone will be waiting. Even if I only join someone once every week or two, there is still that shared expeience that gives encouragement and hope.
I have one friend who I share text message reports when either of us completes and exercise session. We have to share what exercise we did, how long or number of miles. We have done this for two years now. If one of us hasn't heard from the other in a few days, we will give a friendly nudge by text to get going again with the exercise updates.
I love to go trail hiking alone, but not always. I found a group that sponsors an easy hike led by a naturalist at a nature reserve every Sat. AM. I join that Saturday gang when I can and not only is it fun but makes my solitary hikes more meaningful.
Two long time friends join me for some of the longer bike rides. Altho' I moved 2 1/2 hours away they have made the drive to my new town to help me explore the many bike trails around my new town and I have done the same with them driving back to share an organized ride. Riding is one of the bonds of our friendship. If I slack off on my riding, I know I will , get deconditioned quickly, not keep up with them next time we see each other, even tho' it may be weeks away. So I stay with it.
I love my weekly dog walking duty at the Humane Society. It only requires a couple of hours of time, but it is the highlight of the day for the dog to get out of the cage for a while and more so for me. I get to know those animals as my pals.
Our SparkGoals are really a part of our lives...and not an entity on itself. So it is with our friendships. We need people (or dogs) for encouragement and a nudge from friends.
Now if I only get a friend to stop me from snacking at night, I'll have it all down. Oh yes... I remember.... I have to do that on my own.
Thanks to all of you who have been SparkFriends.
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
As I am soon to start a new SP Challenge, and will be getting on the scale more frequently, I want to share a little perspective on "the scale." I am (or we are) so much more than the scale.
Best wishes to all my Spark friends.
Wednesday, April 30, 2014
This is one smart little tulip. This handsome little fellow has figured out a good stradegy to avoid his bloom being consumed by the many deer that roam our neighborhood. We have many tulip bulbs planted. Most become part of the deer salad bar once they bloom. This one decided to grow behind a bush. For the past 4 years the deer have not found him. Once again , he is back giving us inspiration, strength and hope for spring. And as this tulip shows us, always good to have a plan.
Sunday, April 27, 2014
There has been something important missing lately. And something else has made an ugly appearance, in it's place.
SparkPeople has been gone. Absent. Simply not there, day to day. No I don't mean the website shut down. The Spark Friends didn't disappear. The resources are still there. The friendly encouragement remains.
I am just not part of it.
The absence was created by me. I chose to leave for a while because my life was getting too chaotic (so I thought). I have gotten busy busy and felt by giving up an obligation or two would help me get a sense of control. So what did I give up. One of the resources that would be of benefit. (duh).
Was I wrong? Yes. I was wrong.
At first it was fine. My weight stayed stable and I kept up my exercise. Then over the next 3-4 weeks as I plunged into finishing up my two contractual jobs, starting packing up a household, helping my wife who had a couple of outpatient medical procedures, and taking care of matters with respect to buying and selling a house and moving to a new city..... the old habits, like an old acquaintance I have tried to avoid began to make more and more visits into my life. Weight gain (four pounds this month) evening snacking, less exercise, not taking time to focus on my own priorities , values and goals. I even stopped taking time to read for a few minutes every night.
I shutter to think about all of it.
So i am calling off my moratorium from SP. Coming back a month sooner than I had planned. What I thought would give me more control, actually resulted in less control. What I believed would give me more time, really resulted in that time being filled with unhealthy and self defeating habits.
Sigh.... I need that dimension of accountability. A reference point, so to speak to keep me from 'drifting too far from the shore.' There are many places to go and get it. But I like it here.
Welcome back, SparkPeople. Glad you have returned and resumed your good work.
Tuesday, April 01, 2014
The Iris is an amazing flower. It is a flower that is strong and has courage. It can survive and withstand storms, long winters, and even poor and difficult soil. It does not give up. The ancient greeks used the Iris as a symbol of faith and hope. I see it as a symbol of strength and steadfastness.
As a gardner, I love the Iris. I have bulbs that originally came from gardens of my mother, and even grandmother, going back over 100 years. I have dug them up and moved them from house to house, over decades. They give me a sense of connection, history, and fond memories. Like a Ted Kooser, or Robert Frost poem, when I look upon my Iris beds, I have a sense of appreciation and remembrance of earlier times and lives that were once important.
I will be digging up my Irises again soon as we are moving to a new town. I will plant them in their new home and they will soon be at play and giving strength and beauty.
I will be leaving Spark People for a while. I am not sure how long. When I return, I hope to return like the Iris, having replanted myself, and beginning to grow again.
Best wishes and prayers for anyone who may read this.
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