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Saturday, March 10, 2012

I admit that sometimes my mouth moves faster than my brain, and I say something that would have been better left unsaid. I think we all have those moments. For example, one year I was talking about hanging out with my parents on Father's Day, and what fun we had. It wasn't until shortly after I remember that my girlfriend had lost her father a few years back... and talking about hanging out with my dad on Father's Day wasn't the best idea. That is probably a hard time for her every year and I should have thought of that. I try to keep myself in line, as many of the thoughts that run through my head should not be spoken. LOL I'm a fairly sarcastic person.

Today I was reading through some Facebook posts and saw an awful comment from someone. I have no idea how this person didn't think, "maybe I shouldn't post this, " before hitting enter! There is a group that my husband and I are involved with, and they are selling t-shirts to raise money. There have been a couple of larger men that inquired if the shirts would be available in bigger sizes in the future - up to 5x for some. There were a couple of joking comments about size that followed, not in the best taste, but they were in good humor. (Snuggie?) Many of the posts were between good friends. Then I got to one post that dropped my jaw. "5x!! Can those people even get out of bed?" Wow. The rebuttals followed shortly after. Some even from larger men that said they have lost a lot of weight recently, weren't proud of their weight, were trying, compared it to being as inappropriate as making rude comments about race/gender/etc... How DO people think it is acceptable to make comments like that - especially in a rather public forum?!?!? Facebook and other social media have the neat feature that you can pause to re-read your comments before posting. Folks just don't think how much it can hurt someone that struggles with their weight on a daily basis. Nobody needs to be publicly belittled.

I just wanted to rant and hope that people think before they speak. Whether you've never struggle with your weight snubbing a 5x individual, or if you're a 5x individual snubbing someone for being skinny. People should not talk down to others... you never know their struggles, insecurities, history, mental state.

Be nice to everyone kids! Have a great weekend.

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PICKIE98 4/2/2012 2:30PM

    I agree with rude comments, but I have to say, I lost me Dad 12 years ago and even the second year, I thought nothing about anybody sharing about anything they did WITH dad,, what bothered me was when people complained about HAVING TO spend time with them. If you do not like or want to be around somebody, just do not share it with others whose hearts bleed, for longing to see or touch that person just one more time..
Thank you for reminding me, we all need to be brought up short and reminded of others.

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    this is one of the things that bothers me most about the internet. There is a certain amount of anonymity that makes people think they can be a complete jerk and it's ok.
On the flip side, one of the things I love most about SP is we really don't get that here. I've been on the site for 6 years and I've never had anything other than a "wow, that was kind of poorly worded" comment.

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SHUFFMAN126 3/12/2012 5:14PM

    I think the next time that person has a thought, they should let it go. Incredibly rude, but people forget that there are other live human beings with feelings looking at the horribleness they spew out on Facebook/Twitter/etc. And SkinnyMissKasey, if was that customer, I'd have slapped the sh*t out of husband too! (in general, I HATE it when men speak for their women. It's a pet peeve.)

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    I hate people that comment about people's size like that. I had two customers this week getting ice cream, man and wife about in their 60s. He told her she didn't that much ice cream, she was already fat enough! Mannnn did I get pissed! If they hadn't walked out I would have give him a piece of my mind! Two of my regulars, older men, were standing there and I told them if I'd been that mans wife I'd have slapPed the sh*t out of him! I don't get mad much but I was over that!

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MARVEEME 3/10/2012 8:20PM

    Judge not, lest you be judged, eh? I believe it's a bad case of "hoof in mouth" disease.
A soft heart may someday be theirs, Amen.

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GRAMPIAN 3/10/2012 3:29PM

  Wise words. emoticon

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J2740LOU 3/10/2012 3:24PM

    Great Blog! Thanks for sharing. It's a subject we all have to be reminded about from time to time. Instead of "Open Mouth":"Insert Foot"! Try "Engage Brain":"Close/Open Mouth as Necessary"! emoticon!Not all thoughts have to be shared.

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Howdy Sparkers!

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

The gaps between blogs get longer and longer...

This are going really well. After a few month long hiatus from SparkPeople, I am back as much as ever tracking, eating, tracking, working out and then tracking. Even though I was not on SP much, I still tried to control my eating over the holidays. I did really good - a happy balance between enjoying holiday treats and eating right. I was working two jobs and had myself stretched as thin as I can go... I ended up sick for weeks! After getting better and back on my feet, I vowed to myself to get back to a regular sleep schedule, catch up on sleep, make time for workouts again and reestablish the habit of tracking food daily. I haven't weighed in officially yet, but stepped on a friends' scale some weeks back and was elated to see that I had only gained a couple of pounds over the past few rough months. (It was not a digital scale, so it was hard to get an exact number). Thursday is going to be my first official 2012 weigh-in at my annual gyno appointment. My hopes for stepping on the scale are to be near my original goal weight of 120 pounds - I'd be happy with 123 as it is still at 30 pounds lost.

I have readjusted my new goal weight to be 113 pounds for 2012 which is at the middle of my BMI range. I am focusing more on MAINTAINING this healthy BMI and these healthy habits, then possibly losing a few more pounds during the journey. Therefore, I'm going to set a new goal date at the end of the year.

I'm still trying to catch up with all of my SparkFriend's progress and hope to chat with you all soon! Until then... keep on sparking!!

Happy Reading: 30 Things to START Doing for Yourself
Henry David Thoreau once said, ďWealth is the ability to fully experience life.Ē Even when times are tough, itís always important to keep things in perspective. You didnít go to sleep hungry last night. You didnít go to sleep outside. You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didnít spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.

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MARVEEME 2/28/2012 9:43PM

    Nicely written, and perfect delivery. Now let's work on the follow through together. We MUST motivate each other to get there!
Let's GO!

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Juggling the Two Jobs and All Else!

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Things have been going well. I've been working two jobs for over a month now. I have not been able to make time for myself to exercise, but am still tracking my food as best as I can. I've eaten too much Halloween candy, pizza, and junk this month, but checked my weight and am still basically the same! (up .8 lbs does not bother me!) Most of my days are still within my ranges though...

I am really looking forward to spending Thanksgiving with my family. A couple a days chasing nieces and nephews around should be a good workout. I know I'll indulge in a big meal and savor every bite! I love turkey! My brother is insisting on deep frying a turkey, but my sister is still roasting another one. So much to be thankful this year. We always take turns saying what we are thankful for before saying grace at the table. I can't wait to hear what my two nephews have to say! It's usually something adorable. The two nieces are not quite old enough to participate yet.

Found a couple of good motivators I wanted to share. I hope you are all enjoying your weekend!

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DGFOWLER 11/20/2011 9:43AM

    Thanks for the great pick-me-upper. Badly needed since I have not been able to exercise since Tuesday due to no strength from having bronchitis.

Enjoy your family... Donna

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Desperately Seeking Motivation!

Saturday, October 22, 2011

I've been overworking myself again, not working out, and while I have been sticking with my nutrition goals, I could be eating much better than I am. I just feel so overloaded that I kinda shut down and can't get anything done then. Gonna go get a shovel to dig myself out of this funk!

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BEACH_BOUND120 10/23/2011 11:13PM

    LOL i love that last one.

Sometimes our work can get in the way of our personal goals, it happens sometimes. Don't be so hard on yourself, go to the gym when you can and have a deadline for all this craziness to be over so that you can get back track. Hopefully the healthy eating part of your life hasn't gone too haywire the key is to prepare all your meals for the week so that you know what you are going to eat and you don't have to rely too much on guessing what you are going to eat.

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KPETSCHE 10/22/2011 10:33PM

    I love your attitude and your motivational quotes!

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Hey you! Yeah... YOU!!

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

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MARVEEME 10/13/2011 7:54AM

    YOU 2!

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JAMBABY0 10/12/2011 10:52PM

    Thank you! I think I needed to read this this week!!!

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