BESSHAILE   48,822
SparkPoints
40,000-49,999 SparkPoints
 
 
BESSHAILE's Recent Blog Entries

Thoughts after a Party Food disaster - a bit long

Friday, December 18, 2009

What is it about dainty morsels set out on pretty trays arranged around a festive, candle lit centerpiece that triggers a mindless frenzy of mouth popping – of sampling and tasting and nibbling? I was at an event last night – part fund raiser, part Christmas festivity – and that's what happened to me.

Now – I knew ahead of time that there would be dainty treats, all likely to be sugar and butter packed. And there were.

I also knew that there would be fun interesting people, most of whom I knew, but some complete and fascinating strangers, exciting to get to know. This is an energy pumped environment.

Although it was certainly cocktail time, if not dinner time, I was NOT hungry. Get this. I was En Oh Tee hungry.

So why was the hand reaching for the tray almost the moment I went through the door?

Well. Um. Of course, partly it was because so many goodies were in the entrance hall of the B&B where the event was taking place. It was the FIRST thing you saw when you walked in.

And then – I went there directly from a high energy afternoon with no down-time in between. I was extremely pumped up from an afternoon of working with our local Christmas Mother program – leading a team of the cutest 12 and 13 year old girl volunteers as we matched Christmas gifts with Wish Lists. (more about that another time – I don't know when I have ever had such a fabulous time, watching these future mothers, these future civic leaders, this just plain Future – developing the values of charity and service! Wow! My best Christmas present ever!!) And here, at this event, were lots of folk who should know about how important, how valuable this program is, not just for the recipients but for the givers! They need to know how much more could be done next year. Folk like the mayor and members of the town council. Okay okay – Not the point of this post – but as I said, I was pumped – I was on high flying auto pilot enthusiasm. Not in a condition to stop and ask “Do I really want this?" or "Am I really hungry?”

There was also a size issue to consider – everything was bite sized. Or, as we with weight issues are tempted to say “Just a bite” sized. Tiny little morsels you could pop in your mouth without realizing you'd even done so. I tried to keep count of how many tidbits I ate, but I bet I missed some.

So what's the solution? And how much damage did I really do? Did I do anything right?

Well, yes. I did.

I skipped the alcohol. My excuse? “I'm driving” which was true but the real reason was that I knew, as up as I already was, if alcohol joined into the equation I'd really go mindlessly off the rails and let's face it – I didn't want to wake up the next morning in some dietary back alley with a painful food hangover. Heck – I have aNOTHER Christmas function today. So – I stuck with water. Glad I like water. Glad our local water is so good.

After the second buttery spinach and pastry thingy I found a room that had very little food in it (there were trays of goodies in EVERY room) and took a seat. This was after I'd cruised every room to talk to people – another good thing – talk to the folk first, even if I didn't eat the food last. So all in all, I could have done worse.

And I did. Sigh. The last thing – and the worst – was that when I got home, not having eaten dinner and not having consciously enjoyed anything I ate at the event, I went through a whole snack bag of Cheeto's. Yeah – talk about empty calories.

So. What to do about it next time.

FIRST OFF. No matter how rushed, how busy, how pumped or lackluster I feel – If I am going to an event that will be serving food I MUST MUST MUST go off somewhere, have a big drink of water and then think about just how much and of what I plan to eat. 10 bite sized treats? 8? 15? Only two of which can be pastry or cheesy, only 2 may be sweet? What if it's a sit down meal? Only ½ of the grain and meat courses served? Exact portion sizes?

It doesn't mater so much what I decide, as THAT I decid, because if I know I've done what I planned to do I will feel good. It's the “not knowing” that makes you walk away from a food event feeling guilty. And to feel guilty after a fun event like last night's is a tragedy.

But the water and the calm 10 minutes of reflection are essential. I think, after that, I'll be okay.

In fact, I think, if I do the first thing I won't have to worry about coming home and eating anything – most especially junk food. I don't often have junk food in my house – and I suspect that I would have found some sort of comfort carbohydrate to placate my discomfort last night. What triggered the eating frenzy at home was the sense that I didn't know what I had eaten, didn't know how much, and couldn't feel that I'd fulfilled a plan so it was still eating time. I bet that if I'd decided to eat 10 goodies and I had eaten 10 goodies I would have been “done with eating” and not been tempted once I got home.

SECOND OFF - especially if it's a cocktail type event - No Eating till I've spoken to everyone. Even if it's just a quick hello in passing - speak first - eat last. Period.

Anyway – that's the plan and I bet I'll have an opportunity to try it out sometime this party filled Christmas season. I'll let you know how it goes.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

RETTAROSE 12/18/2009 12:37PM

    I like that. Easy enough.

Report Inappropriate Comment
OPAL50 12/18/2009 8:32AM

    We've all been at these parties. Why is it that the goodies draw us to them when there are so many other ways to enjoy an event?! Having a plan will help and how great you will feel when you follow that plan. Enjoy your next festivity with friends and new acquaintance. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JLITT62 12/18/2009 8:06AM

    Yup, having a plan is essential. Luckily, I don't drink. I hear more people bewailing what they eat when they're drinking here, and it's not something I miss at all.

For me, it was looking at the options, deciding on the one (or 2, or 3, you pick the number) thing I REALLY wanted, and having it. Eating it mindfully. Savoring every bite. And filling up on the veggies first, of course.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 12/18/2009 7:44AM

    Plan ahead-talk first, then eat! Good plan. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SLENDERELLA61 12/18/2009 6:57AM

    Good plan. Thanks for sharing.

Report Inappropriate Comment


More about the Spark People Mind Meld

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Once again SP has tossed up just exactly the reminder and suggestion I need at just exactly this moment. I suppose it's natural that this time of year I'd be thinking about New Year's resolutions ... or New Year's Resolutions I might say because they are an important part of my healthy psyche ... I love 'em and always feel blessed to think that there is Room For Improvement (classic ENFP again).

And I'm at that place on the Road to Good Health where I have made a little progress and am in danger of becoming smug - or worse - sloppy - or even worse - slothful. It just so happens it's also at NYR time so I can re-energize my comittment to my goals and not only make it through the sugar plum holiday but also, maybe, see some progress.

Item #2 in Mike Kramer's article Top 10 Strategies for Success (waiting in my mailbox this morning) hit a chord - no - it hit a GONG!

2. Get It On Paper
Whether setting your first goals, tracking daily progress, or sharing your deepest thoughts with a journal, writing things down crystallizes your ideas, exposes underlying fears, and paints an accurate picture of real life.

yes. It's time. I need to make one of my beloved Lists of Things To Do. I call them TTD lists and if the goal is important, if it has a deadline, if it really matters to me, they are essential. But they are also fun - fun to make and fun to use. They really do chrystalize my ideas and ideals, they really do expose my vulnerabilities. Yup. Time to write it down.

Happily, I have a real holiday this year at Christmas time - I'm taking the whole week off between 12/25 and 1/1. I've got a lot planned for that time, but I am going to plan one day when all I have to do is ponder and think and write it down so that, when the new year comes, I'll know exactly where I want to be .... and where I'm going.

Thanks SP. thanks for melding your collective mind with mine.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

HARPERLADY 12/16/2009 2:25PM

    glad you enjoyed the article,those list help keep things in perspective, best of luck to you, I have off 12/18-1/4. thats theb time I can most of my energy and get the new year off to a good start emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 12/16/2009 10:39AM

    I do that, too. Make a list and add things to the bottome just to cross them off. What fun!
I'll have to get on my list when the busyness quiets down! emoticon
No week off for me!

Report Inappropriate Comment
TRICIASHELL 12/16/2009 10:11AM

    I like your to-do list idea...I'll have to steal it! I usually make some kind of resolution, but this year, I like the idea of writing a list...I'll put it on the fridge (I like marking things off...truth be told, I've actually added things I've done to lists just so I can cross them off!!) Great blog! Thanks!

Report Inappropriate Comment


Saved by a kitchen disaster

Monday, December 14, 2009

I just had to share this with my SP buddies - it's so goofy.

I came home tired after a long day that started with a crack-0-dawn doctor's appointment and lasted non stop till 6 o'clock. My equally tired husband met me with a hug and as we sat in the living room catching up on our day I suddenly had such a yen for egg nog - the strong kind - even though I know it's hundreds of empty calories.

"A half a cup can be fit into the nutrition tracker if I am sparing with everything else I eat this evening" I told myself, though even then there was a twinge of discomfort about it - this really would be 200 empty calories.

But I chose and mixed up a small half cup glass. And then began my planned low fat tuna casserole with whole wheat noodles and LOTS of mushrooms. the recipe has you mix up flour, mustard and skim milk as a thickener and I stirred that up in another 1 cup glass - identical to the egg nog glass.

Darting about the kitchen I realized I really was tired but this is an easy stir up recipe. The veggies were all nicely wilted and it was time to dump in the flour mixture along with 3/4 cup of evaporated milk. And so - I grabbed the glass.... you know - the one with the creamy stuff in it?

Do you see where this is going?

Egg Nog tuna noodle casserole ... uh. no thank you - though both DH and I laughingly tried it - it's really as bad as you imagine - especially with the bourbon mixed into it. YUCK!

Thank goodness I had more peppers, mushrooms and onions and celery in the fridge. and I completely lost my desire for any egg nog. I'll settle for half a glass of nice reisling with my dinner - which should be done just about now!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MSLZZY 12/16/2009 7:07AM

    How funny is that! Sounds like something I would do! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JLITT62 12/15/2009 2:34PM

    Sorry, it must not have been too funny at the time with you being so tired, but yeah, it got me laughing -- and I needed that right now!

Report Inappropriate Comment
BLUEANGELLK 12/15/2009 12:21PM

    That's one way to get over a craving.... :) Thanks for the laugh!

Report Inappropriate Comment
RITAROSE 12/15/2009 6:58AM

  I've done that kind of thing way too often! What a blessing that you didn't end up drinking the egg nog.

I thought it was interesting to find out that a craving only lasts 15 mins. I had such a weird day yesterday I think I should have done push ups or sit ups every time I started to get cravings. I would have a 6 pack today. (not really!!)

Love the happy ending! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
DAYHIKER 12/14/2009 8:52PM

    Too funny!! Thanks for sharing the laugh! I'm always thankful to learn I am not the only one who does goofy things like this! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
BUSSMOM 12/14/2009 8:20PM

  Get ready....your family is going to be reminding you of this for years to come.....great memories come from some of the silliest things we do.

Hope you enjoyed your second supper....lol.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BENDER7 12/14/2009 7:32PM

    Thanks for sharing--I can imagine the taste & why you no longer craved the eggnog. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MYFEETHURT 12/14/2009 7:15PM

  LOL Well, let's see...was that a disaster or a blessing? LOL

Report Inappropriate Comment
JEMPOWER 12/14/2009 7:08PM

    Sounds like your subconscious intervened for you tonight. Good for you! Have a great evening!

Jem emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment


Thinkin' 'bout those goals

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Well actually I'm thinking about how to reach those goals. I'm still inspired by the SP articles I've been reading about reaching goals and still a little doubtful about reaching mine or else about staying there once I reach them.

I understand that reaching a goal is just like reaching a new floor via elevator - you still have to step off and do whatever you were going to do once you reached that floor and I'll have to do that with the new body I get once I reach that goal.

I've often heard that it's harder to maintain than it is to loose - but there you have it - there are always things that "They Say". I guess I'll just have to do some more thinking about what I want to do, where I want to be, and what I have to do to get there.

In the mean time I have discovered that .... my favorite Sunday morning breakfast is 522 calories. Not outside the healthy range but way up at the very top. That's because of the 210 calorie piece of simply delicious sausage. Now, since one slice of bacon is only 45 calories - for a total of 347 calories. I think I'll be making a switch. emoticon

Understand - this is a sort of holiday breakfast, not my regular monday through saturday breakfast - it's for when the sweet day lies ahead with nothing to do but fill it thankfulness and love.

May your Sunday be filled with thankfulness and love too! emoticon

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JLITT62 12/13/2009 5:24PM

    It IS a lot harder to maintain. I've been struggling for the last 20 years to maintain my initial loss with WW! Hard to realize that right now as I'm also struggling to break thru a plateau. Goals are so important once you reach your GW -- because you no longer have the weight goals, and it's all too easy to slide back into bad habits.

Report Inappropriate Comment
HARPERLADY 12/13/2009 12:40PM

    great that you are looking into ways to simply reduce your caloire intake , sometimes the simple things really add up and you can create the new better for you things into a habit to the point you really dont realize or think about it, keep at it

Report Inappropriate Comment


More thoughts on thoughtful eating

Saturday, December 12, 2009

I didn't sleep last night for thinking about pecan butter ball cookies.

Now. I have never eaten a cookie called a pecan butter ball - I just heard it in an audio book I was listening to this past week and I began to imagine what a pecan butter ball cookie would taste like. Shortbread full of nuts shaped like a ball? Something more chewy like a brownie, full of pecans? Whatever they are - they danced through my head like Clement Moore's proverbial Christmas sugar plums.

It's no wonder I'm thinking about sugared flakes of buttery flour saturated with pecans - Not only is every scrap of media flooding the world with holiday treats but also my own memories, of childhood and more vividly of my young married life when Christmas involved the magic of a child's anticipation of surprises. They are good memories. I cherish them and pull them out like little gems from the jewellery box of my mind.

so

do you hear?

that "BUT" hanging in the air?

Yeah - I thought so. That but means ... where does eating a pecan butter ball cookie fit into the plans made with such hope in October? Not? A little? Look out here it comes? I just googled pecan butter ball and recipe and got something that logs in at 188 calories for 2 cookies. whew! 1/7 of my day's calories in 2 bites?

Mike Kramer's two articles in today's Best of SP really have me thinking about those goals and how important they are to me. I've never been good at achieving goals except in the most oblique way - a classic ENFP, www.myersbriggs.org/ I don't really feel rewarded by completion - rather I feel abandoned. Since the journey is so important to me I am usually going in several directions at once and completion happens almost unnoticed. ( I do actually complete things, understand - just ... not with triumphant flair but with surprised recognition)

But knowing what my natural preference is doesn't mean I am tied to it, nor am I unable, like the famed old dog, to learn new tricks. I am going to spend the next few days getting all ISTJ detailed and math-like about these goals and see if I can map out a happy, satisfying, but healthy and successful pathway through the next few sugared weeks.

emoticon emoticon emoticon

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

URBANLOTUS 12/12/2009 6:33AM

    You sound like you have a great plan, and are really tapping into your self-awareness about Christmasses past.

It's great to see!

I wish you every success L)

Report Inappropriate Comment


First Page  1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 Last Page