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What's In It For Me - a #backontrack for August conversation between LB and RB

Tuesday, August 06, 2013

emoticon RB So what's the reward going to be?

emoticon LB How should I know - you know it doesn't count till we are both on board.

emoticon RB oh. well. yeah. so. What did you decide?

emoticon So what do you want?

emoticon RB I dunno

emoticon LB Me neither. It's always hard to do the reward thing, isn't it. and besides, a reward implies rules obeyed and ... well - that's not your strong point.

emoticon RB Oh so it's my fault, is it? I suppose you're talking about that second frozen yogurt bar I ate last night.

emoticon LB yep. I am.

emoticon RB so why didn't you stop me?

emoticon LB 'Cause I forgot about it.

emoticon RB Does that mean no reward? Are we out of the challenge now?

emoticon LB No it doesn't - to either question. The rules said if you stumble just get back up and keep going. I think that's part of what we're supposed to be experiencing - the Don't Give Up stuff. And I want to keep trying.

emoticon RB Oh. Good. So do I, then.

emoticon LB Really? I'm glad about that.

emoticon RB So what are the rules - what are our rules, that is? and what are the rewards? What's in it for us?

emoticon LB Hmmm. I think the rules should be that for 31 days we make the effort to perform those 3 tweaks - no sneaky bites at breakfast , a walk if it isn't raining (like it is today) , and only ONE dessert per night. And as long as we're still trying by August 31 ... and so long as we post something about it somewhere every day - then we get the reward. How does that sound to you?

emoticon RB Sounds fair. And the reward?

emoticon LB you greedy puss. I don't know. You didn't seem to really love the options I threw out -

emoticon RB Tell them to me again.

emoticon LB Okay - what about new sheets?

emoticon RB Eh.

emoticon LB but we really need them.

emoticon RB then get them

emoticon LB okay - what about a facial?

emoticon RB well, that would be nice. yeah. I like them. but it's just ... well... nice

emoticon LB New clothes?

emoticon RB Ugh. We have too many clothes

emoticon LB Art supplies?

emoticon RB no. We have enough of them too, right now

emoticonLB Well for goodness sake! What do you want?

emoticon RB I don't know. But I want something. I want some kind of reward for all this effort. Just not something you ought to get us anyway.

emoticon LB well - what about just the pleasure of Improving ourselves?

emoticon RB I like myself already.

emoticon LB Ugh. It's not about liking ourself. it's about getting rid of bad habits.

emoticon RB We-ull. But everytime we do something that improves ourself you just think of More Things We Have To Do.

emoticon LB Of course I do - there's always room for improvement.

emoticon RB (hums a tune)

emoticon LB Very funny. So - eliminating bad habits isn't good enough for you?

emoticon RB nope. I want a reward.

emoticon LB (ponders a bit) Okay. How about a day off?

emoticon RB Oooo. yeah. Now THAT sounds like a reward. But ... well, but what about ... we're already taking off a long weekend in September and a week in October ... will this be an extra day off?

emoticon LB Yeah. That's going to be hard. and besides - how will this feel special if we're already taking off so many days already? Hmmmm. How about this? Suppose we take a half day off sometime in the middle of the week. We just don't go back to work after lunch one day.

emoticon RB Ooooo. yeah. I like that. When can we do it?

emoticon LB Well - we want it to feel sort of spontaneous and we don't want to screw up something important but I'd say ... early in September. Especially since we have to be out of the office so much at the end of the month for work stuff. So. Let's say within the first 2 weeks. How does that sound?

emoticon RB It sounds GREAT!

emoticon LB It means we have to work pretty hard on those other days so that we don't get behind in the job. There's no reward worth screwing up our work.

emoticon RB I'm good with that

emoticon LB Then it's a deal?

emoticon RB It's a deal. Uh ... there's something else though

emoticon LB What?

emoticon RB well, we really do need another set of sheets. You ought to order some today.

emoticon LB oh. yeah. okay.

emoticon RB Love ya

emoticon LB Love ya back.

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KANOE10 8/7/2013 9:31AM sheets would be a great reward. You are doing a gret job of staying on track and keeping it to one desert.

It is amazing the things we say to ourselves to try to avoid responsibility. Great blog.

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KELLIEBEAN 8/7/2013 8:23AM

    What a great blog! I have conversations in my head like this very often!!

New comfy sheets sounds great. I love getting in bed at night with fresh, clean sheets. Even better if they are new!

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LRSILVER 8/7/2013 5:03AM

    Great. So clever

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WEDDWT 8/6/2013 6:53PM


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MSLZZY 8/6/2013 9:50AM

    New sheets should keep them both happy-for now! HUGS!

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PATTYR81 8/6/2013 9:17AM

    You are sooooo funny! and REALLY hit home!

Happy day!

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GOLFGMA 8/6/2013 8:49AM

    Rewards are nice and very effective. Thanks for the affirmation!

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NELLJONES 8/6/2013 8:20AM

    Good luck. I find that if the angel and the devil start debating, the devil always wins. I had to develop habits that avoid that conversation.

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#backontrack for August - We Haff Whey's Off Meking You Obey

Monday, August 05, 2013

Now here's a funny thing. I am resisting my 3 tweaks that I selected for the #backontrack in August challenge. Weird.

I thought resisting the granola would be a bit of a challenge. I mean - that's such an entrenched bad habit. Not that a bite of granola is such a big thing - but, as I blogged yesterday, that get out of jail free this doesn't count I can't hear you La La La sensation has reared it's ugly head. So. This morning I woke after a delicious - if slightly too brief - night of healing nourishing sleep and the first thing I thought was - I don't want to take that early morning walk. Wah.

Where in the heck did THAT come from? I mean - I emoticon walking and I also know that my little white dog really needs this time with me (or she will find something of mine while I'm at work and chew it up!) Where did this "YOU CAN'T MAKE ME" attitude come from.

am I a complete brat?

Or is it something else?

Does my Right Brain Wild Child think she's being pushed around by my Left Brain School Marm? Well. Of course she does. And there isn't time to sit down and write the whole conversation ... especially if I'm going to take my dog for a walk before breakfast


We can eavesdrop on the last bit of their conversation. Listen:

emoticon RB YOU CAN'T MAKE ME!

emoticon LB I SAID I'm sorry.

emoticon RB WAAAH NO! NO! NO!

(integrated editor - sorry - I thought they were closer to the end of this squabble)

emoticon LB I said I'M SORRY! I thought you were looking around for something to commit to. This looked easy. It's a crazy busy month and this seemed like what you were wanting.


emoticon LB I know. I'm sorry I did that. How can I make it better? Would this be easier if there was a reward at the end? An additional prize to start our Birthday Month

emoticon RB Oh. Oh COOL! Oh yes! Yes I'd like that.

emoticon LB What would you like as a reward?

emoticon RB I don't know. Suggest something.

emoticon LB oh honey - it's almost 7:30. Why don't we think about it today and come up with something really special.

emoticon RB I know you. You'll forget all about it.

emoticon LB No I won't. In fact. That's what we'll think about during the morning walk AND if we haven't come up with something after that we'll think MORE about it on the drive in to work. OK?

emoticon RB Okay.

emoticon LB Friends?

emoticon RB Always!

Whew. Thank goodness for that - and now it's 7:30 and I'm off for my morning walk.

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MSLZZY 8/5/2013 11:14AM

    Those two certainly go at it way too early in the morning LOL!

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GETULLY 8/5/2013 11:14AM

    Love the RB and LB conversations. Now the DH has been laid off we have been leaving the house 5-5:30am and walking almost an hour before I have to go to work. Great benefits for both of us (kind of like the benefits of both RB and LB).

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SPICEMWE 8/5/2013 9:28AM

    That's hilarious! I know that feeling all too well. Half of me is so good and wants to stay on track and that little temptress side of me always shows me an easier, unhealthier way of doing things. Stay strong LB! You'll show RB what's best for both of you!

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KANOE10 8/5/2013 9:07AM

    That is funny.. I am glad you two decided to take a walk,. You have inspired me..I was sitting here contemplating a walk this am!


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IFDEEVARUNS2 8/5/2013 8:50AM

    I want to hear what the two of them cook up as a reward! Maybe it will inspire me.

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#backontrack challenge - and where did that lust come from?

Sunday, August 04, 2013

Day 4 dawns and so far so good with the tweaks. I've taken the dog for an extra walk every day, I've resisted the double desserts - I've even resisted the temptation to have .... a bite, just a bite ... of Himself's granola. But man - the temptation - the desire - the ... the lust, for goodness sake! For a stupid spoonful of granola in cold milk! Where in the world did that come from? Honestly! I'm standing at the kitchen counter and I've poured the milk and my mouth grows loose and starts to water. I get that eyes-growing-bigger sensation. Crimeney! What is the cause of that?

Because I don't want a whole bowl of the stuff. I want something hefty. I'm hungry. I have hard work to do all day. I'm going to be eating way off the charts at a party dinner later in the day. Where does this intensely physical - lustful - desire come from.

So I just feel all those sensations. I feel the feelings. I absorb the lust and let it flow through my mind. I just feel it and accept it and the it dawns on me - what it is I'm looking for. What I really want is a FREE PASS. A free taste that I can lie about to myself and say "it doesn't count". What I'm looking for is the magic ring, the get out of jail free card, the three wishes. I don't want the granola. I want to be told something I eat doesn't count.

Uh. Nope. I don't think so.

It all counts.

It's okay, mind. I can have whatever I want. I can even have that spoonful of somebody else's granola. But.

Yeah. But.

I have to own that bite. I have to admit that it counts too. Or fix my own durn bowl of the stuff. Just no more pretending that it doesn't count. Cause it all counts.


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WEDDWT 8/4/2013 11:15AM

    Your self-discovery and admission helps US to discover self and admit what we are doing in "reality". Definition of pretense: an inadequate or insincere attempt to attain a certain condition or quality; professed rather than real intention or purpose.
I can't honestly say "no more pretending" for me but I can have a greater awareness of what I'm doing when I'm doing it.

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JUSTYNA7 8/4/2013 9:21AM

    Thanks... I needed this today!

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NELLJONES 8/4/2013 9:09AM

    Where does any lust come from? If you see a man who strikes you with lust, do you pursue? Of course not. It's happened before, it will happen again, you keep on with your life, go home to what you CAN have and are extremely grateful home is there. Do you really want to need a risk greater than weight gain to walk past lust? Lust and gluttony may be two different deadly sins, but they sure look the same to me.

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KANOE10 8/4/2013 8:51AM

    Good for you staying accountable and knowing that no matter what you decide each bite does count. Where do these cravings come from? I am not sure, but I know they hit hard when they come.


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LRSILVER 8/4/2013 8:50AM

    Be accountable

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AGRAMMIE1 8/4/2013 7:38AM

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MSLZZY 8/4/2013 7:38AM

    Yes, it all does count. Glad you resisted the temptation. HUGS!

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CHERYLHURT 8/4/2013 7:09AM

  I'm making a cheese sauce today to use up all the little bits of cheese my husband buys but I nibble on each and every evening...I can't have anything but raw in the house or I eat it all!

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LEANJEAN6 8/4/2013 7:04AM

    Write what you bite------LOL--It sounds like you are doing well--Keep it up!-Lynda emoticon

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Three Tweaks for the #backontrack in August challenge

Friday, August 02, 2013

Three. As in three kisses or three heroic feats or three wishes - three is one of the universal folk magic numbers.

I've been wanting a little challenge lately - something new and different but disciplined - to give me a framework - a structure - as I plow through the busy month that will be August. In fact, I have been wanting to take on a Big Project soon, but right now I'm winding up some previous Big Projects. My little ENFP heart doesn't really like coming to closure, doesn't like the winding up part of Big Projects and is often tempted to abandon the chosen BP right at the finish line so she can have the fresh hopefulness of Starting a Big Project instead. Since this month's BPs are job oriented and I can't abandon them - and I don't really want to - I needed a little challenge and Spark People's #backontrack in August came along just in time.

So - I'm probably not going to subscribe to it on facebook but I did pin it on Pinterest. Mostly I'm just going to update it in my status every day. And I've chosen three tweaks I want to do consistently in August.

1. Stop taking that bite (and sometimes 2) out of my husband's breakfast cereal. I almost never eat breakfast cereal because it doesn't last me till lunch time. I love it - especially the granola he particularly likes. I need something different to get me from breakfast to lunch. More protein most of the time. I always fix breakfast for us both and I always take it on a tray back upstairs where we indulge ourselves with breakfast in bed. I know but it's our little routine. So when I fix his cereal ... I always take "one little bite - that won't hurt, now, will it?"

No more. I stop. If I want to eat granola for breakfast I will, but no more sneaking some of his and pretending it doesn't count.

2. Take Callie the lab puppy for a walk every day that isn't raining. She is developing some bad habits herself - mostly having to do with finding my stuff and chewing it. Not Himself's stuff, you see. Just mine. That tells me she's wanting more attention from me. And I need the extra movement to counteract my sedentary job. The walk doesn't have to be a big deal. I can stroll down the lane in flip flops if I want. But move we shall and bond we shall do also.

3. No More Second Helping Of Dessert After Dinner. Say what? you ask. Yeah. I know. I do. I have healthy dinners and I built in a small 100 calorie bit of ice cream as part of most of my evening meals. and then. Yep. And then. I go get a second helping. and I don't seem to be just doing this now and then - but every single day. It's become a compulsion and I can tell I'm not even enjoying the second helping. so - for 31 days there will be only the single helping of ice cream or dessert but while I have the FIRST helping ... I'm really going to savor it.

There you have it - my 3 tweaks. (so who remembers that show .. My 3 Sons?)

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WEDDWT 8/5/2013 12:10AM

    Fred MacMurray's My 3 Sons? The sons - Robbie, Chip(?), and uh, uh....

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KANOE10 8/3/2013 10:46AM

    Excellent 3 steps. That is great that you joined the August challenge. I am weighing daily and on my own challenge of losing weight in August.


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MSLZZY 8/2/2013 11:17AM

    I read this article too but decided to not join on FB and just do the best I can.
You are well on your way!

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BRADMILL2922 8/2/2013 10:35AM

    Tweaks are always necessary! We are never perfect. I love challenges as well so good luck with yours!

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JLITT62 8/2/2013 8:12AM

    Those are great tweaks! You already know #1 is one of my problem areas.

I'm blessed with not having to work so daily walks are part of our routine. It's not just physical exercise for the dogs - not so much for me, but I still count it - but it's mental exercise too. And there's usually, but not always, a bit of training in there too. Stay, leave it, that sort of thing.

Good luck!

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KELLIEBEAN 8/2/2013 7:58AM

    Excellent. I am in on the challenge as well. I'm not hitting the social media, I'll just blog.

Here we go!

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So How Did It Go - That Mindful Cardio?

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Truth? Though this didn't have the controls of a scientific experiment I think I really DID get more out of my cardio by paying attention to my body. I wear a monitor and it showed me that 50-100 more calories were burned yesterday than I expected.

Is it true? did really paying attention to how my thighs, my back, my abs and upper arms felt as I worked my 35 minutes on the elliptical really burn more calories than just flopping my way through? Or did I subconsciously spend more time exercising and moving than I realized.

Let's examine the day. I did get in a 1 mile walk with my funny little white dog. Here she is, checking things out in the bean field.

But that had been planned all along. It's a short walk, worth some 50 calories, but I'd like to add it to my daily routine.

At work I was at my desk only slightly less than usual. I had a program to prepare for and enough staff that I only worked the front desk for 30 minutes. No walk at lunch time since I had a WW meeting - where I was glad to find out that I'm still within my goal range - even after 2 weeks of rather profligate eating. and still below 150 - which was more than satisfying.


Hmm. I sat during the program in the afternoon - though there was a good bit of walking back and forth as I brought paraphernalia into the meeting room. Altogether, if I really want to push things I burned 50 calories more than I would have on a library day with no kiddie program in it. I guess. Pushing it a bit. Maybe.

Okay - then it was off to the gym - 35 minutes on the elliptical. Normally I'd expect to burn 150 +/- calories doing that while watching HGTV (my 5 o'clock TV poison). I use a programable elliptical that has the hand poles for working the upper body. emoticon

I decided to really pay attention to the body and what do you know - I found that to be impossibly boring to do for 35 minutes and MUCH harder too. It's true. I worked harder while I was paying attention. But I just didn't have the mental control to stay at it for 35 minutes. Within the first 5 minutes (maybe even instantly) I realized I had to take baby steps into this mindful body cardio, so I decided that I would concentrate for 2 minutes and then I could buzz off on the television for 8. I set the elliptical so that after 8 minutes it would tell you to start pedaling in the opposite direction. Those were the Pay Attention Minutes. So I did 3 sets of 2 minutes when I paid close attention - abs tucked? glutes taut? back straight? Thighs engaged? Arms pumping? Check.
Ordinarily - at this point I would have racked up about 150 calories burned and to make sure of it I did just a few strength exercises - 3 sets of 10 presses, 3 sets of tri exercises and 3 sets of the rowing lift ... or whatever it's called. 10 minutes in all? Honestly I'd be overestimating if I could claim 50 calories for that.

So at the very best I could claim 300 calories burned for yesterday. But when I plugged the monitor in it showed a 350 burn.

As I said - this was no scientifically controlled experiment but hey - I'll take a 350 calorie burn any day! In fact - I think I'll go take it today. I know my little dog wants me to take her out. I hear her scratching at the door.

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LRSILVER 8/1/2013 4:44AM

    Well done

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MSLZZY 7/31/2013 5:39PM

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CBLENS 7/31/2013 10:23AM

    Well done Bess! & pretty wallpaper.

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KANOE10 7/31/2013 8:14AM

    350 burn is excellent. You are doing a great job of developing mindful exercise.

Cute dog.


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