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Showin' Off My Artistic Side

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Last winter I took up playing with pens and drawing, inspired by the books about Zentangle Art. I was immediately struck with the idea to do something like this. It's still a work-in-progress - I'm taking the leaf fronds around the back. And I'm still learning to keep the pens upright ... there's a lot of smearing in this first attempt. Still, I am having a ton of fun with this artistic play.

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LUNADRAGON 7/20/2013 12:59PM

    I absolutely love it! What a terrific idea (you just shared with me!)
Even if you don't totally fill the shirt, I think less is more, it is looking wonderful. The drawing is exquisite.

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MADEIT3 7/19/2013 12:40PM

    Whoa!! Super art. I would wear that in a flash!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 7/19/2013 9:24AM

    Gorgeous! Is your page background Chihuly?

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WEDDWT 7/18/2013 10:48PM

    Very nice! I took a Zentangle class, so fun. I've just worked on paper.
If you send this image in to Rick & Maria they might show it on their monthly newsletter. They share other's creativity all the time, it's inspiring to see what all the tanglers are doin' !

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BETHGILLIGAN 7/18/2013 1:56PM

    Love it! It's beautiful!

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KANOE10 7/18/2013 8:44AM

    That is beautiful! I love it.

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CELIAMINER 7/18/2013 8:41AM

    How pretty! Artistic ink like a tattoo but without the long-term commitment! You can change your "body art" at will.

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TORTISE110 7/18/2013 7:53AM

    Looks like fun, and pretty too!

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TAFODIL24 7/18/2013 7:41AM

    WOW emoticon
beautiful idea ~ Way to go.

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CANADIANFROG09 7/18/2013 7:08AM

    Love it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MSLZZY 7/18/2013 7:06AM

    I think it looks great. You are so talented. HUGS!

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 7/18/2013 6:57AM

    Good on you learning a new skill!

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DMEYER4 7/18/2013 6:45AM

  great job. the shirt looks great

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Looking For A New Challenge

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Wanna know a secret about me?

I hate goals.

Yep. I really hate goals. Goals are not like challenges. A challenge means it's still going on. You don't have to stop. You can keep on learning whatever it is you're working on. A goal means you're done. It's over. Finis. For an ENFP - the sort of person who hates to come to closure, a challenge is a friend. A goal is not.

ENFP? That's a personality type - you can read about them here:

Besides, goals sound too much like sports and me? Well. I don't like sports either - especially team sports - things where if I win, you have to lose and if you win I have to lose. I don't like either side of "lose". Set a goal for me and I immediately wander off in a different direction. this happens even when I set the goal myself. I'll get sick, get interested in something else, my eyes will begin to flick away- I put my hands over my ears and sing LA LA LA LA LA loudly .

I'm solo athlete. I love a challenge. I love to push myself harder than I did yesterday. I love to try new things and I'll even come back again and again till I've mastered them. It's how I learned to play the violin - how I learned to knit - how I learned to draw (still learning that one). I don't have any problem with practice. Love me some practice. Just don't ask me to reach a goal. Don't put a deadline on me. Don't fence me in.

I am reminded of a description of how a horse whisperer gets horses to link up with her. She circles around the horse, always coming at him from the side as he avoids her - till, when he's tired, she turns her back on him and waits - and then he steps up behind her and touches her shoulder. They link up.

Yeah. that's me, trying to reach any desired outcome. (Notice how I didn't use the G word?) I have to keep at it - from several directions and then, when the outcome seems like it's just exhausted from trying to avoid me - I stop and let it happen.

So I love a challenge. And for quite a while now I haven't had one. I'm casting about for something I can circle, approach, investigate - explore. I posted about the LDRICHEL's Happiness Challenge yesterday. That sounds tempting. But I've also just bought two books that offer challenges: THE ARTISTS' WAY by Julia Cameron

and (no surprise) Martha Beck's new book FINDING YOUR WAY IN A WILD NEW WORLD.

Both of them offer the sort of challenge I like - the kind that pushes you further down the road to a better version of yourself. They're both demanding, though I think The Artists' Way will be the harder of the two. They push you. They introduce you to things you had never tried before. They have lists and exercises and steps. But the thing is - neither of them lock you into a goal. You'll definitely get somewhere and it might look like you've reached a goal, but in fact, the goal sort of gives up avoiding you and when you least expect it - links up with you.

I love the idea of that and I'm beginning to crave a new challenge. I'm also having an unbelievably crammed busy summer. In addition to the normal busy of summer in the library we're going to migrate to a completely new automation system in August. Believe me - it's an enormous task - you don't really want to know the details. Then, I have several big social events coming up over the next 6 weeks. And it's hot. Hot hot hot. and humid. It's no time for me to begin a new challenge. But I can look into some. I can think about it - or even just think about thinking about it. So - for the next few weeks I am going to investigate and read these two books. I'll dabble a bit with them and then I will either pick a challenge or devise one of my own.

Because - even though I hate a goal - I love a challenge.

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TORTISE110 7/18/2013 8:00AM

    I have done the Artist's Way and found it satisfying and enriching. It opened some creative thinking in me. I did not like Martha's new book as well as others, but it may just be where my head was at the time.

I am not such a fan of goals either-- tho Spark has changed that a bit. But I love INTENTIONS. For me they create focus.

Great topic. Thanks, Bess!

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FAERY_FACE 7/17/2013 9:42AM

    Sounds like you have a lot of fun planned. I hope that the challenges will be better than you ever expected. You are doing great! Keep it up.

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LRSILVER 7/17/2013 4:40AM

    Whatever works. Keep pushing.

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WEDDWT 7/16/2013 7:23PM

    Hi Bess, You changed your background!!! Oh, I love it. It's Chilhuly,isn't it?
Now there's a challenge for ya- glassblowing ! So beautiful....

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KANSASROSE67 7/16/2013 12:33PM

    New automation system?! I feel your pain! I'm still learning how to do things on our "new" system and we've had it for 6 years.

I'm an ENFJ and the J is strong in me, but I have friends (and a sister) who share your P tendencies so I get it. Enjoy your new challenges!

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CELIAMINER 7/16/2013 11:51AM

    You really are busy! But then, you can savor the anticipation of the new challenge, dream about it, mold it like clay in your mind....

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JLITT62 7/16/2013 9:47AM

    I've done artist's way; it's good & I think you'll enjoy it!

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GOCALGAL 7/16/2013 9:00AM

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Reading your Excellent, well written blog makes me realize how important it is for me to learn more about myself.

I wish I knew myself even half as well as you know yourself! I am not sure where I fall between goals and challenges but I am wrestling that 150 pound gorilla right now. It drives me nuts that I can't just do it!

emoticon for all you have accomplished! emoticon
I am going to check out the books you mentioned. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 7/16/2013 8:51AM

    Great blog. Have a good day.

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KANOE10 7/16/2013 8:34AM

    You sound like you have a busy summer ahead, especially with your job. Thanks for sharing those two books. I am a Martha Beck fan and look forward to her new book.
You know yourself well and are finding new challenges to motivate you! Way to go.


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Happiness Experiment

Monday, July 15, 2013

I got this idea from fellow sparker LDRICHEL.

If, at any time, someone were to ask me, I would say "I'm a happy person" and I am. But I also struggle with nagging worries that, when looked at closely, are not really worries at all. They're more like distractions from the responsibility of living joyfully. Most of the world's cultures, and most of our philosophers, push us to think that the world is bad and life is bad and it's much smarter to expect the worst so that when it doesn't happen, you will be pleasantly surprised. There's something so backwards about that I have actually quit reading the philosophers - and yet I'm always seeking new ways of eradicating those niggling anxieties. Because not being grateful for all the riches in my life seems even more stupid than being naive.

There is something in my nature that loves exercises, check boxes, forms, trackers, and practices. Right now I am exploring several of these. Obviously it's time to put a new ritual together. I am not sure if I'm ready to jump into this particular one - but I thought it was so good - that it holds such beneficial possibilities, that I just had to share. Here is LDRICHEL's Happiness Experiment boiled down to 5 essential steps. I'm sure she won't mind me passing it along.

1. Three new gratitudes each day will teach your brain to retain a pattern of scanning the world not for the negative, but for the positive first.

2. Journaling about one positive experience you've had over the past 24 hours allows your brain to re-live it.

3. Exercise teaches your brain that your behavior matters.

4. Meditation allows your brain to get over the cultural ADHD that we've been creating by trying to do multiple tasks at once.

5. Random or conscious acts of kindness - send a positive e-mail to thank or praise someone in your social support network.

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KANOE10 7/17/2013 7:52AM

    I like those guidelines. I particularly like the idea of 3 gratitudes and remembering one positive event as ways to focus on being positive. Thanks for sharing.


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GETULLY 7/15/2013 11:24AM

    Banish Monkey-Brain! That is my big one for happiness. The thing in my head that jumps from one thing to the next without finishing the first thought. This sounds like a bang-up thing to do. I hope you blog about how it goes for you.

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CELIAMINER 7/15/2013 9:53AM

    Good experiment! Hope you find just the right mix for you.

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MSLZZY 7/15/2013 9:52AM

    Very good advice on seeking to instill positive in your life. Thanks for sharing. HUGS!

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CBLENS 7/15/2013 9:15AM

    thanks for sharing

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CHERYL_ANNE 7/15/2013 8:04AM

    Nice! Totally appreciate the positivity and the sharing!

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NANA2PRINCESSES 7/15/2013 7:46AM

    Great guidelines. Thanks for posting.

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Pick Yourself Up, Dust Yourself Off, Start All Over Again

Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Yep. It's Day One of a new streak for me. I'm concentrating on only one streak this year - to make each day as healthy as I possibly can. Not as perfect as I can ... though the inclination is to obsess over reaching or not reaching perfection. I'm pretty good at dismissing the perfection imp. Doesn't mean I don't feel his pinch - just that - I can tell it to sit down and be quiet.

No - what I want is to eliminate - or at least drastically limit the number of days when I blank out, eat all over the place, remain inactive and make other bad choices by default. Mindless eating, eating when my body says "please, no more", eating because "It's dinner time", eating because it's there.

To tell if I'm making each day as healthy as I can, I have to track. I wear an exercise monitor so that takes the burden of tracking off my shoulders. LOL. I wish I had an eating monitor I could slip over my teeth that would do the same with tracking food. But I can write down everything I eat. I have a pretty open plan for making sure my days average out to the right amount of food to keep me healthy. There's a daily caloric total and a daily activity total but I can go a little over or under in any given day just so long as I stay within the total week's allotment.

that's the plan

so far I've been pretty good at sticking to it.

But not last week.

Last week I just plain ate more calories than I burned up. Each day the tracker showed the excess but it wasn't till Sunday that I hit the red zone. I could have made up for it with a little more exercise and a limited, but healthy, amount of food. But I didn't. By lunchtime I found myself spreading butter on a second roll at the restaurant. The thought floated through my head "Hey Bess - isn't this how you got to be 173 lbs - and 187 lbs and 200 lbs?" I answered "Yeah - it's the end of the week. I already blew it. I'll start tomorrow ... at Tara" and took a big bite into soft fluffy wheat and dairy.


There you have it.

My Bad

Mea Culpa

Today is different. Today I am hearing this old Jerome Kern song - one my mama used to sing to us. Here's the Frank Sinatra version:

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CELIAMINER 7/9/2013 10:45AM

    I'll have to join you in restarting. My calendar tracking my calories, alcohol intake, and early bedtime is looking pretty sparse in the gold star department for the first 7 days of July. Finally had 3 stars yesterday. Hope it's the start of my own streak for health. Good luck!

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MAGGIE101857 7/9/2013 8:19AM

    I hear you loud and clear!!! I did great yesterday for breakfast, lunch..then I got home and my resolve flew out the window AGAIN. What is wrong with me??? emoticon
I guess we will have to develop our own "sensor" for our calorie intake; I hate logging everything...but it's the only way!

Have an emoticon day!

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KANOE10 7/9/2013 8:16AM

    Have a great day..restarting and staying healthy! You can do it.


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SANDICANE 7/9/2013 8:04AM

    Today is always a good day to reach our daily goals!


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BETHGILLIGAN 7/9/2013 7:36AM

    Great attitude! That's the attitude that will help you be successful!!!

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GOLFGMA 7/9/2013 7:12AM

    You're on the right track now! Yesterday is gone and forget it, look forward at all you CAN do! emoticon

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FERRETLOVER1 7/9/2013 7:10AM

    I loved your comment about the "perfection imp"!

Great blog - with your positive attitude...I know you can do this!

Take it one day at a time; one step at a time; one meal or exercise routine at a time...

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SANDYCRANE 7/9/2013 7:09AM

    My holiday weekend was much like yours. The house is empty again and I can concentrate on myself. I am ready.


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MSLZZY 7/9/2013 7:06AM

    Now that's a great way to start the day! Thanks for sharing that song and I know that you and I will rock the day! HUGS!

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ELRIDDICK 7/9/2013 6:58AM

  Thanks for sharing

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Little Things Mean A Lot

Saturday, July 06, 2013

I loved the article in Best of Spark People this morning. The one titled "25 Ways To Get Back On Track". The suggestions were such little things. Easy-peasy things. Things you can do without exhaustion, fear, or shame. They're not the sort of things that remind you of how bad you've been. They're not the sort of things that demonstrate how out of shape you've let yourself get. they're just little sweet pleasures you can toss into your life like croutons in a salad or sprinkles on a donut. Or should I say INSTEAD of croutons and sprinkles.

Take a walk
drink some water
exercise for 10 minutes ... or even just 5
go shopping for healthy food

Doncha just love it? As I read this list of little trim tabs that you can flick to put you back on course I was reminded of this old Kitty Kallen song:

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BRADMILL2922 7/9/2013 12:13AM

    Gotta love how the small things can add up to something big! Thanks for sharing!

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LRSILVER 7/6/2013 9:49PM

    Thanks for sharing.

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KANOE10 7/6/2013 5:35PM

    Great! Keeps us all on track. Yay for small things that help!


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BETHGILLIGAN 7/6/2013 1:23PM

    Love it!

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WATERMELLEN 7/6/2013 10:56AM

    What a glorious song! And yup: little things really mean everything in weight loss as in life . . . .

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JACKIE542 7/6/2013 10:10AM

    Wonderful, thank you. Loved the song and little things do mean a lot!! emoticon emoticon

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CAROLJEAN64 7/6/2013 10:02AM

    I am listening to that wonderful song as I am writing ... it is so wonderful and so true. It is the little things that come together to create our live. Thanks for posting.

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HARPERLADY 7/6/2013 9:02AM

    nice I will have to check it out

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SLIMMERJESSE 7/6/2013 8:43AM

    Nice reminder blog. Thanks!

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