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And What Makes an UNhealthy Day - another RB/LB conversation

Saturday, June 08, 2013

So. Yesterday I crashed my Healthy Living streak into a ditch. In a weird way I sort of watched it happen - watched my Left Brain School Marm and my Right Brain Wild Child derail it. Perhaps it would be good to listen in on their conversation and see if they'll come up with an idea or two to prevent this from happening again.

emoticon LB Hey Hey Hey! What the ... is going on?

emoticon RB Spare Ribs! gnom gnom gnom

emoticon LB Stop! What is happening?!!

emoticon RB Gawd I'm sleepy - gimme some ice cream!

emoticon LB No! Stop! Back! Stop!

emoticon RB Crayons. I want Crayons!

emoticon LB Oh law. I am going back to bed. You go ruin our lives all by yourself

emoticon RB No! Help! I don't know what's happening. You're supposed to help me. Make the lists. fix it all!
Waaaah. This is all your fault!

emoticon LB You're nuts. I can't fix you. You're crazy. And if we turn into balloons it will be All Your Fault!

emoticon RB No it's not! All I wanted was a bite of spare ribs. A bite! One measly bite! It was you who decided that it was healthier to buy pulled pork and then save money with the daily special just so Himself could have some dinner too. You were the one who felt guilty because we didn't want to cook last night.

emoticon LB Well I can't buy one bite of spare ribs. It's not sold that way. and enough baby backs for himself and me would cost too much

emoticon RB It's only money. We have tons of money. Why would't you pay $30 to stay slim? Wouldn't anybody?

emoticon LB Easy for you to say. Besides himself doesn't like spare ribs that much. I had to buy something he would eat too.

emoticon RB So what? Don't we count? That's what I WANTED and it's what YOU wanted, but you ruined it all by getting what we DIDN'T want just to save money and please somebody else.

emoticon LB Well cry-mi-nee. Just how greedy and rude do you want to be? Was I supposed to just feed me last night and let Himself fend for himself? Besides. I didn't ruin it all. I didn't eat it. WE did.

emoticon RB Oh. Well. You can't put pulled pork on a plate and expect me to ignore it.

emoticon LB Great. Just go eat that stuff and fatten us right out of all our hot hot hot clothes, you wild child you.

emoticon RB Well Miss Smarty Pants School Marm, if you know so much why didn't you stop and listen to me and come up with a good idea. I'm not the thinker around here. I'm all about the FEELINGS.

emoticon LB Oh. Yes. Well. Hmmm. Yeah. You're right. I didn't stop to find out how you were feeling - besides wanting the spare ribs and I thought I was giving you enough when I bought them. I'm sorry I didn't give you enough time to get comfortable with my thoughts and decision.

emoticon RB Yeah. Well. You did get the spare ribs for us, but by then I was so frantic that I gobbled up all the Other Stuff too. I'm sorry about that.

emoticon LB (Hugging Wild Child Self) It's ok. it was a screw up by both of us but it began when I decided to ignore our feelings. Today we will begin again and we'll do better.

emoticon RB (snuggling close to Thoughtful School Marm Self) Okay. I'm ready to begin again. Thanks for understanding.

emoticon LB (clasping her hands and looking thoughtful) So what can we do next time - so that I don't run roughshod over your feelings - so that you'll get what you want without feeling like you have to gobble everything in sight?

emoticon RB You have to say yes to me. You have to give me what I want.

emoticon LB Yeah, but I can't always give you exactly all you want.

emoticon RB Well - you have to make some suggestions to me - offer a compromise I like.

emoticon LB I tried to do that yesterday.

emoticon RB Yeah, but you knew how I was FEELING about that compromise. I didn't LIKE it. You should have waited till I agreed that it was a GOOD compromise, not just steamroller me by THINKING I would come around. It's not a GOOD compromise till you can FEEL how happy I am with it.

emoticon LB (Giving Wild Child Right Brain a twinkly look) But I'm all about the thinking part of us.

emoticon RB Yeah? so what did you THINK about how I felt? 'Cause if sure FELT like you didn't care.

emoticon LB (Looking chastened) Oh. You are right. I did do that. I thought "no this is good enough" as soon as you sent me the bad feeling about my decision. Now I really AM sorry. That was cheating us both.

emoticon RB (smiling sweetly) Thanks for understanding - and thanks for the apology.

emoticon LB So how about this - next time - I don't act till you send me the IT'S OKAY GOOD IDEA feeling. Even if I am tired or in a hurry. I'm never in THAT big a hurry. No matter what the weird craving - I'll listen till you send me the green light feeling.

emoticon RB Oh. I like that.

emoticon LB Great. So. How about we go work out at the gym this morning?

emoticon RB Now you're talking. I REALLY like that!


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Well, it looks like my Left Brain School Marm and my Right Brain Wild Child have made some progress this morning. Nonetheless - I hope we don't have another day like yesterday any time soon.

  
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BLVINBUTTERFLYS 6/9/2013 5:06PM

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LRSILVER 6/9/2013 6:31AM

    So clever. Good luck on regaining your control.

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MSLZZY 6/8/2013 11:25PM

    Get the girls together and tell them to play nice! One of these
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WEDDWT 6/8/2013 7:47PM

    You know yourself so well, up, down, inside, out, left, right...what is it they say about self-knowledge? You are so wise! And funny.

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HEALTHY-SPARK 6/8/2013 11:02AM

    I like it! :-)

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SLIMMERJESSE 6/8/2013 9:29AM

    Oh how I understand this dialog all too well. Cute blog.

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KANOE10 6/8/2013 9:24AM

    I like the way you can use humor to deal with your feelings and thoughts.

You did an excellent job of identifying the panic that can set in..we will look like balloons..made me laugh but was all too true. Also worrying about not fitting your new clothes.

I am glad you realize that one day is just one day and that today you are ready to get back on track and exercise. Good for you.

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CBLENS 6/8/2013 9:23AM

    lol, love it.

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Come Into The Garden (lots of photos)

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Yesterday Himself and I took a trip down to the Norfolk Botanical Gardens, in, of course - Norfolk VA. (Not Norfolk UK)
norfolkbotanicalgarden.org/

We had an unforgettable visit there nigh on to 30 years ago but in spite of it's relative proximity, we've never been back! This is not good, considering Himself has to drive down to Jamestown half a dozen times a year. What's another 20 miles?

When we went in the 1980's we didn't explore the whole place. It was August and we were just traveling on to another destination so we stayed only an hour or so, but while standing in a beautiful green enclosure along the canals, a tour boat puttered by and I lusted to have my own boat ride. There wasn't time then but I made sure we took one yesterday - all the more reason to wonder why I took so long to go back - except you have to get to Norfolk on an interstate highway and I hate driving on them.

The gardens are right next to the airport - in fact, both were built the same year - and both are really easy to get to. You just take the Norview exit off of 64 and turn left on Azalea Gardens, drive about a mile and turn right. Voila!



Talk about water features - this place is threaded with canals and a lake so of course boat rides are offered.



You betcha - I got barefoot every chance I could.



There are fountains everywhere.



The azaleas, daffodils and camellias are past but the roses are in full bloom



This one is Bill Warriner Rose - a florabunda - and a complete bouquet on a stem



Yes. I was swooning with the beauty of it all. LOL



Hydrangeas were just coming in -



Including a climbing one!



We simply had to take a boat ride down the canals



Where we found a rare green heron



We also road out onto Lake Whitehurst - a spring fed fresh water lake not half a mile from the Chesapeake Bay!



We walked through the butterfly maze



Through the Virginia Native Plant garden where we found some things never change



and deep into the Enchanted Forest



Where you can see - Other Things never change either



Yes. It's true. If there is a tree to climb - I shall climb it.

We stayed at the garden till 5 o'clock and then went to a Golden Corral for dinner where, yes, I did indulge, but not beyond the caloric limits. I'm learning how to handle myself in these buffet type restaurants at last.

This was a perfect mid-point celebration for my sort-of stay-at-home vacation. I seem to be spending an awful lot of time in the car for a staycation but oh my - this drive was so worth it. I won't let another 30 years go by before visiting these gardens again.

I hope you enjoyed the tour.

  
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KANSASROSE67 6/10/2013 8:49PM

    So beautiful!! I love visiting gardens and if not in person, your blog was the next best thing! You are looking so slim and trim in those pictures!!!

PS. I promised myself "NO MORE ROSES" but I'm going to have to see about that Bill Warriner rose...wow!

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FORBANDE 6/5/2013 11:09PM

    Such a wonderful place!! So glad you shared!

And I love, love, love the pic of you climbing the tree. :)

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SCOTMAMA 6/2/2013 11:34PM

    Beautiful day to spend in a beautiful setting! I envy you!

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CAMSEDGE 6/2/2013 11:17PM

    Thanks for sharing...I love gardens, flowers and peaceful places.

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FAITHGIRL91 6/2/2013 10:01PM

    Beautiful photos! What a lovely place! emoticon for sharing!

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JACKIE542 6/2/2013 11:18AM

    What a beautiful garden, thank you so much for sharing the pictures. I could stay there forever, just love gardens. emoticon emoticon

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HOLLYM48 6/2/2013 10:15AM

    Absolutely lovely! Thanks for sharing the beauty of the gardens with us! Love the picture of you in the tree, you look great! emoticon emoticon

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CLAIREINPARIS 6/2/2013 10:10AM

    What a gorgeous place! It looked like it was a perfect day. It made me long for a boat ride!!!

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WATERMELLEN 5/31/2013 8:56PM

    Pics are wonderful -- I can't think of a better way to spend a day. Like you I can never resist climbing a tree! And you look wonderful yourself!!

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KANOE10 5/31/2013 7:44AM

    Loved the pictures. Thanks for sharing. I have never seen a green heron. we have blue herons.

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LRSILVER 5/31/2013 6:50AM

    Beautiful.

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CELIAMINER 5/30/2013 1:01PM

    Great visit!

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BOSSONBABE 5/30/2013 12:39PM

    Lovely! Bet you wouldn't have been as comfortable climbing that tree before Sparkpeople.
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WEDDWT 5/30/2013 11:08AM

    You look like an ornament in that tree, a little garden nymph - and I do mean little. Thanks for the tour of the garden! I feel relaxed
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VMASSEY2 5/30/2013 9:26AM

    Bess, these were wonderful pictures. I have been in that area a lot in my lifetime. My Uncle was stationed at Ft. Eustis and we would go up and visit him. We did all the history stuff since I am a history lover. But he never mentioned these gardens. Thank you for sharing this with us. I loved it; even the tree climb.


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GETULLY 5/30/2013 8:21AM

    Wonderful pictures! What a day that was! emoticon First Rate!!

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KELLIEBEAN 5/30/2013 8:13AM

    Beautiful! Thank you for my mental health break!

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/30/2013 7:34AM

    What a lovely place!! Thanks for sharing!

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What Makes a Healthy Day?

Sunday, May 26, 2013

I've pondered this question before, both here, on some earlier blogs, and just walking down the lane thinking about things. In many ways I approach managing my good health much the same way I manage my money. I also think I am a little better at managing money - which doesn't have as much emotional baggage as other aspects of healthy living, nor does it taste like Cheetos - or chocolate. In fact - money doesn't have any flavor at all - which is probably why it's easy to have a fairly simple routine when it comes to handling money. It goes like this:

1. Know what's in the bank
2. Know what things you need to pay for and when - and pay them first
3. Never ever dip into reserves for anything but cliff hanging dire necessities
4. Save for expensive things that cost more than you have
5. Spend whatever's left over on anything you want

I try to apply this to my making healthy choices every day - with, perhaps not quite the success I would like.

1. Find out - and know what I weigh, what shape my body is in, and how I feel in general pretty much every day. That means getting on the scale every day. It also means checking in on other physical sensations.
2. Know what and how much nutrition, sleep and exercise I need every day - and durn it all - get it. First. Before I eat dessert or Cheetos or extra junk calories or sit around watching TV.
3. Do Not Binge
4. Save up some calories (or exercise a little more) if I'm going to a foodie event
5. If I've done all the above and there are any calories left in a day's total - go ahead and eat the M&Ms or the Cheetos or whatever, till all the calories are gone. Life is supposed to have little treats in it - the operative word being "little".

So. A cute little comparison - but of course, we all know life is not that simple. With money - if I don't pay the bills on time my credit score will plummet - and if I don't pay them at all, the electricity gets turned off. On the other hand, if I don't eat all the vegetables my body needs - I will feel a little off, but only I will know. There's no nutrition collector knocking on my door, no exercise police, no food nazi.

Still, I use the analogy as a way of assessing if I'm still on my healthy living streak. And yesterday I really did not stay on my healthy streak. The day wasn't a total disaster, but I made more lazy insolvent choices than a healthy person would have. I didn't eat any vegetables at all - unless you count 4 olives - which were so salty, mm mm delicious - I always feel like they should be in the candy category. Yes. I had lots of fruit - but no other vegetables. And though I did get in a nice long walk in the beautiful May sunshine - I didn't reach my daily exercise goal. And I lay around like a slug for large chunks of the day.

So. I am on vacation. It is alright to be a bit of a slug. I don't think any single day is a deal breaker, even if it is a streak stopper. I can always start a new streak today. I've never aspired to perfect attendance in any aspect of life. What I want is MOSTLY healthy days. And for me a healthy day means following all five of those healthy steps. Yesterday I did not - Today I will.

  
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NASFKAB 7/26/2013 2:16AM

  great thoughtful piece thanks

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BEATLETOT 6/5/2013 4:37PM

    This IS an excellent analogy!!! And one that I can understand very well. Thanks for this!

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IACTA_ALEA_EST 6/1/2013 11:33AM

    Ive been comparing sleep and money. We give money too much power and the non-cash transactions too little sometimes. Good way to look and spending and consuming as related behaviours.

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ILIKETOZUMBA 5/30/2013 11:37PM

    Great approach, great attitude, great blog – great job!! : ) I like what you said about not needing “perfect attendance” – just mostly healthy. And I liked the financial analogy too.


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ROSE284 5/29/2013 5:12AM

    Lazy insolvent choices - Wow! I love this way of looking at it! Great blog. Money is far less emotionally fraught than food for me so maybe I need to adopt this way of looking at it as well. Thanks!

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CLAIRESML 5/28/2013 10:01PM

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SUSIEMT 5/28/2013 9:32PM

    Woo Hoo!

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FAVORITEAUNT84 5/28/2013 4:36PM

    Great blog! Now I've got things to think about... emoticon

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FIRECOM 5/28/2013 10:36AM

    It is obvious to me that you have a great handle on those nagging problems we all face.

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JENNAAW 5/28/2013 7:23AM

    Thank you for the very inspirational blog. Just the title alone got me thinking. I have been an all-or-nothing person all my life and I need to read thoughts like yours to help overcome this destructive thinking of mine.

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    just keep on Sparking girl!-Lynda emoticon

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SANDYCRANE 5/28/2013 6:44AM

    Take it one day at a time and you will be fine. Great.

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PAM_COOPER 5/27/2013 10:36PM

    We all have days like that. I had a food filled day yesterday too, but got in my walking.

I bank calories and try to spend them wisely, but every once in a while we indulge. Just trying, in this maintenance stage, to keep it real without 'breaking the bank'.

Staying mindful . . .

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JAMER123 5/27/2013 10:21PM

    emoticon for a emoticon blog!! I enjoyed it!

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SJKENT1 5/27/2013 10:20PM

    Good points! Thanks.

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CHELHART 5/27/2013 9:37PM

    That is a very nice, non-threatening analogy. It doesn't threaten people with never eating chips or cookies again. I LOVE food, cooking, flavors, home-cooked stuff that is not always low-cal...and there's nothing wrong with it. I like nice vacations, new clothes, shoes, etc...and there's nothing wrong with that...WHEN I CAN AFFORD IT

LOVE IT

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    Nice

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SHANALFOSS 5/27/2013 8:33PM

    I like how you layed that out, I will defiantly be using that list daily emoticon

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STRONGERLEANER 5/27/2013 4:55PM

    I think we all need a little break now and then. You didn't start an "unhealthy" streak. You just had an all-around relaxed day.

Sounds like a good balance to me!
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SIMONEKP 5/27/2013 4:36PM

    everyone takes a day off every now and again

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IAMAGEMLOVER 5/27/2013 1:09PM

    That is a very creative and interesting way to look at it. emoticon

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/27/2013 12:31PM

  Your doing alot more positive than negative, and your becoming more and more emoticon emoticon aware.

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DIANNEMT 5/27/2013 11:43AM

    Yesterday was a "special day" and it continued with breakfast. But the rest of today will be "back to normal" and I'll recover from the extra calories. Nice to "enjoy" once in a while!!

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GRIZ1GIRL 5/27/2013 11:43AM

    An awesome comparison! Thanks!

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CICELY360 5/27/2013 11:30AM

  good stuff to think about

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JACKIE542 5/27/2013 11:18AM

    A single day is not a deal breaker, every day is a new day. emoticon

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OFGREENGABLES 5/27/2013 11:11AM

    thanks for sharing!

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SHANNONY84 5/27/2013 10:49AM

    Great blog! Have a great day!

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LINDAK25 5/27/2013 10:37AM

    I have to remind myself to be flexible. I don't have to be perfect, I just have to be consistent! So, it probably wasn't your worst day ever. Loved your analogy!

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MARYJEANSL 5/27/2013 10:29AM

  Honestly, that sounds like a very good routine. I wish I were doing as well on the money side as you.

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Work Before Play - a RB/LB discussion about semantics

Friday, May 24, 2013

emoticon RB (tugging on LB's skirt) Hey. Hey.

emoticon LB (busily scribbling on a notepad) Hmmm. yeah, inaminit

emoticon RB Watcha doin'. Hey. Hey. I'm feeling funny.

emoticon LB Yeah, yeah, be with ya in a minnute.

emoticon RB No. Now. I'm getting scared. What are you doing?

emoticon LB (Looking up from the notebook) I'm making a list of everything we're going to do on this vacation! Lookee!

emoticon RB Waaaaaaa! You don't love me any more.

emoticon LB (Looking shocked) What? Of course I love you - you're the other side of me. What's wrong?

emoticon RB It's our VACATION and you're making one of those awful TTD lists! I want to play!

emoticon LB Well, yeah. sure. I'm writing that on the list. See? Here? Number 8 ... PLAY

emoticon RB You're crazy. You can't schedule play. Play means you aren't responsible for anything. Play means fun. Play means you don't have to accomplish anything!

emoticon LB So. Yeah. so? who says you have to accomplish anything when we're playing?

emoticon RB I know you. You will say No Play before ticking stuff off that list. I know you. this will be nothing but chores and werk and werk and chores.

emoticon LB No it won't. Look at the rest of this list. See?

Clean House
Work on the kitchen cabinets - organize those last 2 messes
Work on the spare bedroom - one hour a day minimum
Work in the garden
Work out
Read
Draw
Play
Visit Mama

emoticon RB Yeah. I see that you want to work almost all the time. Werk in the kitchen werk in the garden werk out. wekr werk werk I hate this list.

emoticon LB What? Don't you like a clean house? I thought we'd agreed that house cleaning is really just caressing our favorite possessions - the ones we bought or collected and brought into our lives.

emoticon RB Well. Yeah. I do love all our stuff. I just wish there wasn't so much cleaning to do.

emoticon LB Yeah. I understand that. But we live with guys. And dogs. On a farm. Down a dirt lane. It's just the way it is - there's cleaning to do and we have to do it. Besides - it only takes a few hours a week. You know that.

emoticon RB (sighing) yeah. I know. but it's #1 on the list. what kind of vacation is that?

emoticon LB Oh. well. Yeah. I see. but don't you want to start this vacation in a sparkly clean house?

emoticon RB I guess so.

emoticon LB Let's see how things go today - we can put this off till tomorrow

emoticon RB Thanks. But there's still too much work on that list.

emoticon LB Well - don't you want to work in the garden? don't you want to have that spare bedroom ready for summer guests? Frances and Audrey will be here in 3 weeks.

emoticon RB (sighing again) yeah. I do want them.

emoticon LB so - if you want it - you gotta go get it.

emoticon RB I just wish you didn't have so much work on that stupid list. I feel like the whole vacation will be nothing but work. I'd rather go to work where I don't have to work so hard.

emoticon LB Oh. Hmm. I see. Hmmm. Yeah. Okay - how's this for a Better List?

Start with a beautifuly sparkly clean house

Play in the kitchen cabinets - toss out all that crap we hate and create beautifully functioning organized spaces for everything we want. Never be ashamed if someone opens a cabinet door again.

Begin the transformation of the spare junk room into an oasis of organization and calm - maybe even take it over for our bedroom - it's bigger than the one we use now. Sit down with those boxes of family photos and letters and decide how we will store and share them. Own that space. Make it ours. Retrieve it from the Lord Of Chaos and Shame.
Dig the soft crumbly earth in the garden and nestle those little vegetable plants in their new homes where they can grow delicious food for summer meals on the porch.
Give our body the exercise it longs for - stretching, moving, lifting - everything that makes it feel vigorous and thriving.

Read

Draw

Play

Visit Mama

emoticon RB Ooooo. Yeah. That's a MUCH better list

emoticon LB (smiling) Well good. I'm glad you like it. Man – this is going to be a fabulous vacation.

emoticon RB One thing more, though. Can you put Play first?

emoticon LB (laughing) You betcha! Love you

emoticon RB Love you more



  
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ALEXSGIRL1 5/25/2013 12:59PM

    enjoy your vacation and if you put music on while you work it will be much like playing .

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WATERMELLEN 5/24/2013 10:53PM

    So sweet! And thanks for reminding me: it's all in how you characterize it!

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LRSILVER 5/24/2013 6:30PM

    Enjoy your vacation.

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MSLZZY 5/24/2013 9:06AM

    What a fantastic turnaround from the first list to the last! Fascinating conversation you had but you resolved your own personal conflict just fine. HUGS!

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/24/2013 7:57AM

    Love this! thanks for sharing!

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KANOE10 5/24/2013 7:56AM

    Well written..both sides of a vacation are important. I am in the same boat. I have two kids returning home for the summer and need to get the house in shape.

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TORTISE110 5/24/2013 7:37AM

    Oh, you write so well. The dialog is fabulous! Loved this. You did not mention you are a writer!

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CHERYLHURT 5/24/2013 7:20AM

  Funny!

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What Would We Do Without Bananas?

Sunday, May 19, 2013

I don't know what I'd do without them. The perfect candy. The perfect junk food. The perfect substitute for almost anything ... except Cheetos, of course, but they are my crack cocaine. We won't talk about them.

But Bananas. oh man. I eat a lot of bananas and yesterday I ate ... hmm. well. truth? I only ate 3 which is normal for me. But yesterday I was cranking up for a big Library Event (it was a big success, btw) and part of my duty was to bake about 400 cookies (slice'n'bake refrigerator style - hey, I'm good but I'm not a martyr). I make them small because most people would rather have many cookies than a lot of cookies - that is - most people feel like they've had a treat if they can eat 3 or 4 or 5 cookies, not 3 or 4 or 5 ounces of cookies. It's a numbers game. But to feed a crowd, and to watch your waistline, 5 small cookies is always better than 5 big ones.

A kitchen full of fragrant cookies, though, is a terrible temptation. I always give myself permission to eat one while I'm baking them, and I used store bought dough so I could pretend that there were deadly microbiotic germs in the raw cookie dough - hence the WARNING on the package. If I'd made my own dough I would have eaten some raw - which may be as deadly as the store bought but I wouldn't think about it.

The rest of the day was a slow build to Party Anxiety - which I always have when I'm hosting a function for work. I might get excited about hosting a home party, but I've done enough of them to know that everything will work out just fine. Besides, a private party is all about people who are already pretty much in my daily life. A Library Function is different. Not only will acquaintances and even strangers be coming (or worse, NOT coming) but there will be an unknown guest speaker. One always hopes she'll be entertaining but one doesn't always KNOW.

and then - there's the whole "job performance" aspect of hosting an Library event. So you see - on event day there is always the chance I'll try to calm myself with SUGAR and FAT.

But not as long as there are bananas. Bananas are SWEET. and they are FIBROUS. and they are cheap. and soft so they go down easily. and they have such a distinctive flavor that ... really, you don't want much else after eating one... at least, for a short while. And by then, you might have gotten caught up in doing something else.

Love me some bananas. What would I do without them?

So, what's your go-to food when you know you're going to eat mindlessly?

  
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ABUFFKIN 5/28/2013 1:20PM

    I love love love bananas, too!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SPARKLISE 5/27/2013 7:13AM

    Oh my gosh!!!!
Somebody that loves bananas as much as me!!! emoticon emoticon

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WEDDWT 5/19/2013 10:04PM

    I love the crunch of an apple. When bananas get too ripe I slice them and put them in the freezer. Eating a slice of frozen banana is a sweet treat!
It sounds like bananas don't hang around long enough in your kitchen to get over-ripe:)

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CELIAMINER 5/19/2013 1:38PM

    I love most fruits, but there's a banana and an apple in my lunch box EVERY day. DH and I just finished fruit smoothies that use a banana as the thickener.

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FITGRL124 5/19/2013 10:51AM

    Unfortunately my "go to" food is ice cream or frozen yogurt for mindless eating or popcorn, my oh my, the popcorn. I wish I could find a way to curb both of those.

However, I completely agree that bananas are AWESOME!

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TWEETYKC00 5/19/2013 10:40AM

    Bananas rock! They are portable, go with so many things and taste great and just plain rock!

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STONECOT 5/19/2013 10:29AM

    There's always one isn't there!

I really don't like them much. I can't see what the fuss is about. I will eat them if they're properly ripe, but it must be at least 6 months since I last ate one! emoticon

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CAMAEL100 5/19/2013 10:18AM

    I am never without bananas! Great for kids too. It really does help to have some in car when we can't get to food in a hurry! I give them to them before matches and stuff as well. They are also great for sweetening smoothies!

So, yes, wonder food! Not given the credit they deserve!

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MJLUVSANIMALS 5/19/2013 10:18AM

    I am a nut about popcorn. I get this organic popcorn that I dearly love. Actually haven't had those types of moments, but the popcorn is what I normally have. I do love my banana either for my cereal, which I am stopping after the box is done. And I have one for my Nutri Blasts.

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EXOTEC 5/19/2013 10:16AM

    I'm a bona fide banana fanatic too. Unfortunately. I will permit myself one small one occasionally...but there's too many carbs in bananas to be on our prescribed diet. One banana "eats up" nearly my entire day's allotment of carbs. I love all the fruits in that category: melon, grapes, apples, pears, plums, ...all the "good" stuff! it's just not fair.

Your event sounds like stress to me! LOL I hope it went well.

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HOUNDLOVER1 5/19/2013 10:07AM

    I used to love bananas and find them somewhat addictive. For this reason I cut them out of my diet as much as possible. Even organic bananas are not a very natural food any more. Far too high in sugar and spiking blood sugar levels just as bad as cookies. Same goes for grapes.


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LITTLETEALOVER 5/19/2013 9:55AM

    Bananas never last long in my house. I always tell my kid to eat a banana when he's hungry, too! LOL! But, apples are more my go-to food. They fill me up for longer, and they take longer to eat which makes me feel like I'm having an actual meal.

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SLENDERELLA61 5/19/2013 9:41AM

    Fruit is good. When grapefruits come in and they are plentiful around my house I indulge big time. Sometimes I have tangerines that won't last long -- and they don't! There are times I do bananas or bananas sliced with fresh pineapple -- yum! Sometimes add yogurt or cottage cheese. When neighbors have bell peppers in bumper crops, I sautee big pan fulls with a little olive oil and eat all I want. Or just grill them plain on the Foreman grill. Summer squash, often simmered in chicken broth with onion and bell pepper, is another "go to" big feast. Air popped popcorn does it for me when I want to crunch and am not in a celery mood. I'm learning that I can have all I want of somethings or a little bit of other things and maintain my weight loss. Do I want a lot or a little??

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KANOE10 5/19/2013 8:44AM

    I make parmesean zucchini chips when I feel like I need a treat.

Bananas are high in potassium and are great. Hope your event went well.

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/19/2013 8:19AM

    Bananas are the best!! Our family always laughs about bananas. When the kids were small my husband would always tell them to eat a banana to "take the edge off" if they complained of being hungry!! To this day he gives the same advice and it has become a family joke. You're hungry? Eat a banana, take the edge off!

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LRSILVER 5/19/2013 8:11AM

    Melon.

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MSLZZY 5/19/2013 7:41AM

    Bananas, of course, followed by apples, pears and grapes! emoticon

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