Saturday, June 08, 2013
So. Yesterday I crashed my Healthy Living streak into a ditch. In a weird way I sort of watched it happen - watched my Left Brain School Marm and my Right Brain Wild Child derail it. Perhaps it would be good to listen in on their conversation and see if they'll come up with an idea or two to prevent this from happening again.
LB Hey Hey Hey! What the ... is going on?
RB Spare Ribs! gnom gnom gnom
LB Stop! What is happening?!!
RB Gawd I'm sleepy - gimme some ice cream!
LB No! Stop! Back! Stop!
RB Crayons. I want Crayons!
LB Oh law. I am going back to bed. You go ruin our lives all by yourself
RB No! Help! I don't know what's happening. You're supposed to help me. Make the lists. fix it all!
Waaaah. This is all your fault!
LB You're nuts. I can't fix you. You're crazy. And if we turn into balloons it will be All Your Fault!
RB No it's not! All I wanted was a bite of spare ribs. A bite! One measly bite! It was you who decided that it was healthier to buy pulled pork and then save money with the daily special just so Himself could have some dinner too. You were the one who felt guilty because we didn't want to cook last night.
LB Well I can't buy one bite of spare ribs. It's not sold that way. and enough baby backs for himself and me would cost too much
RB It's only money. We have tons of money. Why would't you pay $30 to stay slim? Wouldn't anybody?
LB Easy for you to say. Besides himself doesn't like spare ribs that much. I had to buy something he would eat too.
RB So what? Don't we count? That's what I WANTED and it's what YOU wanted, but you ruined it all by getting what we DIDN'T want just to save money and please somebody else.
LB Well cry-mi-nee. Just how greedy and rude do you want to be? Was I supposed to just feed me last night and let Himself fend for himself? Besides. I didn't ruin it all. I didn't eat it. WE did.
RB Oh. Well. You can't put pulled pork on a plate and expect me to ignore it.
LB Great. Just go eat that stuff and fatten us right out of all our hot hot hot clothes, you wild child you.
RB Well Miss Smarty Pants School Marm, if you know so much why didn't you stop and listen to me and come up with a good idea. I'm not the thinker around here. I'm all about the FEELINGS.
LB Oh. Yes. Well. Hmmm. Yeah. You're right. I didn't stop to find out how you were feeling - besides wanting the spare ribs and I thought I was giving you enough when I bought them. I'm sorry I didn't give you enough time to get comfortable with my thoughts and decision.
RB Yeah. Well. You did get the spare ribs for us, but by then I was so frantic that I gobbled up all the Other Stuff too. I'm sorry about that.
LB (Hugging Wild Child Self) It's ok. it was a screw up by both of us but it began when I decided to ignore our feelings. Today we will begin again and we'll do better.
RB (snuggling close to Thoughtful School Marm Self) Okay. I'm ready to begin again. Thanks for understanding.
LB (clasping her hands and looking thoughtful) So what can we do next time - so that I don't run roughshod over your feelings - so that you'll get what you want without feeling like you have to gobble everything in sight?
RB You have to say yes to me. You have to give me what I want.
LB Yeah, but I can't always give you exactly all you want.
RB Well - you have to make some suggestions to me - offer a compromise I like.
LB I tried to do that yesterday.
RB Yeah, but you knew how I was FEELING about that compromise. I didn't LIKE it. You should have waited till I agreed that it was a GOOD compromise, not just steamroller me by THINKING I would come around. It's not a GOOD compromise till you can FEEL how happy I am with it.
LB (Giving Wild Child Right Brain a twinkly look) But I'm all about the thinking part of us.
RB Yeah? so what did you THINK about how I felt? 'Cause if sure FELT like you didn't care.
LB (Looking chastened) Oh. You are right. I did do that. I thought "no this is good enough" as soon as you sent me the bad feeling about my decision. Now I really AM sorry. That was cheating us both.
RB (smiling sweetly) Thanks for understanding - and thanks for the apology.
LB So how about this - next time - I don't act till you send me the IT'S OKAY GOOD IDEA feeling. Even if I am tired or in a hurry. I'm never in THAT big a hurry. No matter what the weird craving - I'll listen till you send me the green light feeling.
RB Oh. I like that.
LB Great. So. How about we go work out at the gym this morning?
RB Now you're talking. I REALLY like that!
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Well, it looks like my Left Brain School Marm and my Right Brain Wild Child have made some progress this morning. Nonetheless - I hope we don't have another day like yesterday any time soon.
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Yesterday Himself and I took a trip down to the Norfolk Botanical Gardens, in, of course - Norfolk VA. (Not Norfolk UK)
We had an unforgettable visit there nigh on to 30 years ago but in spite of it's relative proximity, we've never been back! This is not good, considering Himself has to drive down to Jamestown half a dozen times a year. What's another 20 miles?
When we went in the 1980's we didn't explore the whole place. It was August and we were just traveling on to another destination so we stayed only an hour or so, but while standing in a beautiful green enclosure along the canals, a tour boat puttered by and I lusted to have my own boat ride. There wasn't time then but I made sure we took one yesterday - all the more reason to wonder why I took so long to go back - except you have to get to Norfolk on an interstate highway and I hate driving on them.
The gardens are right next to the airport - in fact, both were built the same year - and both are really easy to get to. You just take the Norview exit off of 64 and turn left on Azalea Gardens, drive about a mile and turn right. Voila!
Talk about water features - this place is threaded with canals and a lake so of course boat rides are offered.
You betcha - I got barefoot every chance I could.
There are fountains everywhere.
The azaleas, daffodils and camellias are past but the roses are in full bloom
This one is Bill Warriner Rose - a florabunda - and a complete bouquet on a stem
Yes. I was swooning with the beauty of it all. LOL
Hydrangeas were just coming in -
Including a climbing one!
We simply had to take a boat ride down the canals
Where we found a rare green heron
We also road out onto Lake Whitehurst - a spring fed fresh water lake not half a mile from the Chesapeake Bay!
We walked through the butterfly maze
Through the Virginia Native Plant garden where we found some things never change
and deep into the Enchanted Forest
Where you can see - Other Things never change either
Yes. It's true. If there is a tree to climb - I shall climb it.
We stayed at the garden till 5 o'clock and then went to a Golden Corral for dinner where, yes, I did indulge, but not beyond the caloric limits. I'm learning how to handle myself in these buffet type restaurants at last.
This was a perfect mid-point celebration for my sort-of stay-at-home vacation. I seem to be spending an awful lot of time in the car for a staycation but oh my - this drive was so worth it. I won't let another 30 years go by before visiting these gardens again.
I hope you enjoyed the tour.
Sunday, May 26, 2013
I've pondered this question before, both here, on some earlier blogs, and just walking down the lane thinking about things. In many ways I approach managing my good health much the same way I manage my money. I also think I am a little better at managing money - which doesn't have as much emotional baggage as other aspects of healthy living, nor does it taste like Cheetos - or chocolate. In fact - money doesn't have any flavor at all - which is probably why it's easy to have a fairly simple routine when it comes to handling money. It goes like this:
1. Know what's in the bank
2. Know what things you need to pay for and when - and pay them first
3. Never ever dip into reserves for anything but cliff hanging dire necessities
4. Save for expensive things that cost more than you have
5. Spend whatever's left over on anything you want
I try to apply this to my making healthy choices every day - with, perhaps not quite the success I would like.
1. Find out - and know what I weigh, what shape my body is in, and how I feel in general pretty much every day. That means getting on the scale every day. It also means checking in on other physical sensations.
2. Know what and how much nutrition, sleep and exercise I need every day - and durn it all - get it. First. Before I eat dessert or Cheetos or extra junk calories or sit around watching TV.
3. Do Not Binge
4. Save up some calories (or exercise a little more) if I'm going to a foodie event
5. If I've done all the above and there are any calories left in a day's total - go ahead and eat the M&Ms or the Cheetos or whatever, till all the calories are gone. Life is supposed to have little treats in it - the operative word being "little".
So. A cute little comparison - but of course, we all know life is not that simple. With money - if I don't pay the bills on time my credit score will plummet - and if I don't pay them at all, the electricity gets turned off. On the other hand, if I don't eat all the vegetables my body needs - I will feel a little off, but only I will know. There's no nutrition collector knocking on my door, no exercise police, no food nazi.
Still, I use the analogy as a way of assessing if I'm still on my healthy living streak. And yesterday I really did not stay on my healthy streak. The day wasn't a total disaster, but I made more lazy insolvent choices than a healthy person would have. I didn't eat any vegetables at all - unless you count 4 olives - which were so salty, mm mm delicious - I always feel like they should be in the candy category. Yes. I had lots of fruit - but no other vegetables. And though I did get in a nice long walk in the beautiful May sunshine - I didn't reach my daily exercise goal. And I lay around like a slug for large chunks of the day.
So. I am on vacation. It is alright to be a bit of a slug. I don't think any single day is a deal breaker, even if it is a streak stopper. I can always start a new streak today. I've never aspired to perfect attendance in any aspect of life. What I want is MOSTLY healthy days. And for me a healthy day means following all five of those healthy steps. Yesterday I did not - Today I will.
Sunday, May 19, 2013
I don't know what I'd do without them. The perfect candy. The perfect junk food. The perfect substitute for almost anything ... except Cheetos, of course, but they are my crack cocaine. We won't talk about them.
But Bananas. oh man. I eat a lot of bananas and yesterday I ate ... hmm. well. truth? I only ate 3 which is normal for me. But yesterday I was cranking up for a big Library Event (it was a big success, btw) and part of my duty was to bake about 400 cookies (slice'n'bake refrigerator style - hey, I'm good but I'm not a martyr). I make them small because most people would rather have many cookies than a lot of cookies - that is - most people feel like they've had a treat if they can eat 3 or 4 or 5 cookies, not 3 or 4 or 5 ounces of cookies. It's a numbers game. But to feed a crowd, and to watch your waistline, 5 small cookies is always better than 5 big ones.
A kitchen full of fragrant cookies, though, is a terrible temptation. I always give myself permission to eat one while I'm baking them, and I used store bought dough so I could pretend that there were deadly microbiotic germs in the raw cookie dough - hence the WARNING on the package. If I'd made my own dough I would have eaten some raw - which may be as deadly as the store bought but I wouldn't think about it.
The rest of the day was a slow build to Party Anxiety - which I always have when I'm hosting a function for work. I might get excited about hosting a home party, but I've done enough of them to know that everything will work out just fine. Besides, a private party is all about people who are already pretty much in my daily life. A Library Function is different. Not only will acquaintances and even strangers be coming (or worse, NOT coming) but there will be an unknown guest speaker. One always hopes she'll be entertaining but one doesn't always KNOW.
and then - there's the whole "job performance" aspect of hosting an Library event. So you see - on event day there is always the chance I'll try to calm myself with SUGAR and FAT.
But not as long as there are bananas. Bananas are SWEET. and they are FIBROUS. and they are cheap. and soft so they go down easily. and they have such a distinctive flavor that ... really, you don't want much else after eating one... at least, for a short while. And by then, you might have gotten caught up in doing something else.
Love me some bananas. What would I do without them?
So, what's your go-to food when you know you're going to eat mindlessly?
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