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I Love Martha Beck - here's why

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

I am not a great one to actually copy the words of another here - unless they are brief quotes - but I am going to make an exception today. I subscribed to Martha Beck's daily quotations and each morning one of them comes into my email box. They are nearly always worth remembering - and they usually have that familiar Martha Beck Wide Swings tartness to them. I am not a tart sort of person but I can appreciate it when I read it.

She is also the person who introduced me to the concept of right brain/left brain dichotomies - and taught me how to get them to talk to each other. Neither of those "brains" is the whole me. I am both and I know my life only works when they are cooperating, accepting of the conflict built into both natures, committed to making it work.

You can find out how to get your right brain talking to your left and your left brain listening to your right in her book The Four-Day Win. She makes it into a fun sort of game - a little exercise that moves you from one place to another.

Today, in her daily quotes she offered another interesting little game or puzzle or exercise. It struck me as all three - and I wanted to share. Because I believe that one of the issues we have when it comes to losing weight AND keeping it off is that we don't believe we deserve, don't believe we can, don't believe it's possible. We are from fat families. We have too much to do to spend all this time on ourselves. We are losers.

In short - we quit wanting so we won't be even MORE disappointed. Here's Martha Beck's recipe for DESERVE - not dessert! I'm going to do this. Maybe someone else out there might want to give it a try too.


Yearning + Trust = Happiness

Right now, make a list of everything you yearn for. Make sure that you realize that your yearning is for the emotional sensation that the experience would bring you rather than the form itself. Make another list of things you feel you deserve, but dont believe youll ever get things like good luck, a soul mate, a really great haircut. Again, focus on the essence of the experience, not the physical form.

Now try a small thought experiment. Go through this list item by item and allow yourself to trust that the thing you love not only will come, but has already connected with you through the barrier of time. Notice any fear that arises to tell you that the thing for which you yearn will never come to you. Notice the choking, tensing or other form of contraction in your body when you focus on your disbelief. This is the bodys response to a lie. Give yourself a short space of time, say one minute, to take your attention off your disbelief and focus instead on the love of this thing that has not yet happened. Feel the warmth and openness of your life when you believe that your connection with this thing is real, solid, and inevitable.

~The Formula for Happiness: Insight From Martha


Remember - Keep Wanting!

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    Love this - thanks for sharing

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/15/2013 8:22AM

    I love Martha!! I'm working my way through 4 day win. It is amazing! I had put out a "call" in a recent blog to see if anyone else had read that book but nobody had. I think she is awesome as is her 4 day win. Thanks for sharing this info!!

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KANOE10 5/15/2013 8:04AM

    Great exercise from Martha. I liked it.

Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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CELIAMINER 5/15/2013 7:43AM

    Thanks for introducing me to Martha! I tried the exercise.

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SANDYCRANE 5/15/2013 7:31AM

    I will have to look her up. It sounds very interesting.


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MSLZZY 5/15/2013 7:24AM

    Very interesting! I may have to buy her books and sign up for the daily email too!

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TORTISE110 5/15/2013 7:18AM

    I love Martha too! Thanks for talking about this exercise and underscoring how it might be useful for me/us.

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Retail Therapy

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

No doubt about it - I love me some cute clothes. And shoes? Don't get me started.

Not that I have thousands of pairs of shoes but I do have maybe 20. For winter. And the same for warm weather. I've been working hard at Not Buying Too Much New Stuff - but I've also been shopping for a new summertime purse. Alas - everything I like is by Kate Spade at about $300 - and I just can't bring myself to spend that kind of money for something I'll carry only till September. I'm not sure I'd even be willing to part with that kind of money for a classic old Coach bag - after all - what's a classic anymore?

anyway - while looking on the major on-line accessory shops (think Zapos, Amazon, Overstock) I discovered drool inducing shoes. In particular I discovered these shoes.

Zapos had them in every print or color (there are about 10!) and I just had to make them mine. Of course - I have triangular feet - so lots of times I need a wide width and these didn't come in wide - but I took a chance. Return shipping is free with Zapos so they're worth taking a gamble on. The UPS man delivered them to me yesterday, at work, and the minute he was out the door I was ripping open the box and trying them on. Not only do they fit - YIPPEE! - they were the perfect match for what I was wearing. So. They got their first exposure yesterday.

If I had the money I think I'd buy a pair in every print - still might go back and get the blue/green stripes. So cute. And those black & white print oness that make me think of Audrey Hepburn? Yeah. I just wish they'd use the fabric in these shoes to make some cute summer purses - in classic shapes - not too big, not too small.

Well, yeah. A girl can want, right?

So - here's the link - just in case you were curious:

(oh man! I forgot about those turquoise prints - I want them too!)

And here are some cute quotes about shoes:

I like Cinderella, I really do. She has a good work ethic. I appreciate a good, hard-working gal. And she likes shoes. The fairy tale is all about the shoe at the end, and Im a big shoe girl.
Amy Adams

A pair of shoes can change your life. Just ask Cinderella.

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JLITT62 5/20/2013 9:44AM

    Catching up. Very cute shoes!

I don't have thousands, either, but there might be over 100.

There's the dog walking shoes . . . boots . . . then a lot of flats & platform wedges!

DSW is my drug of choice.

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MSLZZY 5/14/2013 11:15PM

    The trick for me would be wearing them, My feet are so accustomed to tennis shoes
and 1 inch heels that they would mutiny if I brought these home. Enjoy!

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LRSILVER 5/14/2013 12:34PM

    Shoes are really cute. I am a wide also, love Zappos. But wouldn't risk trying a non wide shoe.

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IAMWINNING 5/14/2013 10:27AM

    Very pretty shoes. I, too, love shoes, but I can't hold a candle to the number of pair that you have. emoticon Can anybody say "Imelda"? (I'm just teasing you, and hope you'll ignore that).

I really, really, really could use some retail therapy right now, but it isn't going to happen. emoticon

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TORTISE110 5/14/2013 10:26AM

    This is great fun! Enjoy your dancing shoes (-:

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IFDEEVARUNS2 5/14/2013 9:59AM

    I've always loved shoes, but ever since my last two pregnancies (23 and 27 years ago), I can't wear anything but flats. It just isn't fair!!!!!!! And the shoe has to be comfortable, which doesn't happen often. emoticon
I would love to be able to wear these.

In every color!

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KANOE10 5/14/2013 8:41AM

    I love those shoes! They are too cute. It is such fun to get new clothes and accessories. Enjoy your shopping for the new thin you.

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Maxing Out In The Weight Room

Friday, May 10, 2013

Yesterday W the PT I work with told me that since I didn't have to go on to work after our session we were going to go to failure.

"Failure!!!" I cried - "that sounds horrible!"

He quickly explained that he wanted my muscles to work till I couldn't perform another repetition. The point of this was to help me build more muscle over the next few days of rest (at least 48 hours of rest for this girl). I suggested we call it "Maxing Out" my muscles because somehow ... failure sounds so ... depressing.

And then we got lifting. He lowered the weights I was working with from 20 lb. dumbells to 10 pounders. Then we just worked each set of moves till I couldn't push, pull or lift any more. That is the point of failure.

A lot goes on between a personal trainer and a personal trainee. As the trainee what I'm looking for is someone who eyes me in an almost clinical fashion - who watches my form like a hawk - listens to my feedback as I give it - and who has the creativity to come up with something else if there's a problem. It's a mind game that's all about a body. In this case - his mind, my mind and my body.

And it's something we do together.

He knows I have goals - and he knows what they are. He also knows I have 'issues' with my neck and my back - and we work around them when needed. I have made a commitment to him, as well as to me, to listen closely to my body and tell him when something doesn't work. I trust him to push me beyond what I've ever done before but he trusts me to never put him in the position where I get injured following his instructions. He doesn't need the guilt. I don't need the pain. One of the exercises we tried yesterday ... I never even tried - because I knew it would do my back harm. We just did something else.

See how quickly this becomes all about "us" even though it's my body. It's like I step outside myself and see this body as if it belonged to a third person and we are the fitness team that will get it strong. It's almost as if my body was my avatar.

In fact, we didn't max out with every exercise. The chest presses went up to the point of failure but not to it. On the other hand, the Reverse Push-up .. where I lie beneath a barbell and lift my straight body up and down without bending or touching the ground - man - I totally maxed out on that one. There was another one involving a weight machine where I completely maxed out and of course - the final effort - full body push-ups - yeah. I maxed out on them too.

"Just keep doing it till you can't do it any more" he told me.

that is an amazing feeling - Contracting or pushing a muscle till it just stops - till it wont go on - how seldom life requires us to do that. There were times when I could feel the effort coming all the way from my toes.

I know enough to drink extra water after a new, unusual and extreme workout. I also follow an old tip I learned as a child - take a soaking bath as hot as you can stand as soon as you can. Did both yesterday and still fell asleep over dinner. Whew. That is maxing out.

Today I can feel it in my arms, of course, and a little in my back and across my chest. But I also feel it in the muscles that go around the outside of my hips. I feel it on my inner thigh muscles and outer calf muscles. Everything feels like it had to jump in and lend a hand and I guess that's the point of maxing out or working to failure.

Whatever it is - it's really addictive. I can't wait to max out again. I will have to wait - of course - because I have Other Things that require my attention. But we will do this again.

Just not today

Today is the day of rest

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GETSTRONGRRR 5/10/2013 8:49PM

    Good on you....that is absolutely the right way to approach strength training...give it all you got and leave it all in the gym I say....don't end the workout thinking, "Hmmm, I could have done more"

You'll start seeing progress real quick that way. My #1 rule for my trainer (we've been working out 3x/week for almost 3 years) is "First, do no harm". After that, i want my form to be textbook perfect (he's fond of point out others in the gym with poor form). Third, is to push me beyond what I think I can do, while keeping in mind rule #1.

Good job....stay strong and lift hard!

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CELIAMINER 5/10/2013 8:27AM

    Congrats on a great workout and on finding the right trainer for you! I love my trainer to pieces, but she doesn't push me as hard as I wish she would. On the other hand, she always makes me check in with my body and tell her of any problems. Yesterday, my SI joints were flat out burning, so we did some gentle stretches for them but otherwise avoided lifts that would aggravate them. In general, she knows I won't jump rope with my arthritic knees, and pullups are a total no-no, since every time in my life...*every* time...I've attempted one, I pinched a nerve in my neck that took weeks to heal. Guess we both have good trainers!

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KANOE10 5/10/2013 7:55AM

    That was very interesting about maxing out to build muscle. I tend to slowly increase my weights. I am sore from increasing weights from yesterday. I have been forgetting to drink that water. Thanks for your helpful information.

Enjoy your day of rest. It sounds like you have a wonderful trainer.


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MSLZZY 5/10/2013 7:45AM

    Sounds like a great trainer. Wish I had one like him but such is not the case.
You are doing emoticon

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So What's the Plan for May - another (long) LB/RB conversation

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

emoticonLeftBrainSchoolMarm Well, good morning. That was pretty cool, weighing in at goal yesterday, wasn't it?

emoticonRightBrainWildChild Whew. Yeah. It was a close one.

emoticonLB No it wasn't. We were right on goal

emoticonRB Yeah - almost didn't make it.

emoticonLB No. We had 2 lbs of wiggle room that we didn't need

emoticonRB sure didn't feel that way. It felt like we had gotten Fat Fat Fat again.

emoticonLB I don't see why. We had actually dropped a pound and a half since Graves Mt. The numbers looked good

emoticonRB I don't know about numbers. I just know how I felt.

emoticonLB Oh. I see. So how do you feel today?

emoticonRB I feel like I'm sick of trying to lose weight. I want to quit.

emoticonLB WHAT?! what was all that about being 143 and losing it by June 14 and all that stuff you said last month?

emoticonRB I don't know about what I said. I'm the FEELING part of us. You're supposed to keep track of what we SAY.

emoticonLB Harumph. So now you want to quit on me already, huh?

emoticonRB I don't know what I want. I only know that I'm tired of worrying about What If I Gain Weight Again.

emoticonLB I understand that. It is scary. But I thought you'd feel safe at 143

emoticonRB I'm not sure we can even GET to 143. I don't even know how to feel safe at 150.

emoticonLB I wish you wouldn't obessess about numbers.

emoticonRB Can't help it. I'm the feeler in this relationship. I'm scared. and tired. and I want to eat ice cream.

emoticonLB I'm sorry you're scared. (reaching out) Here's a hug. And you know - we can eat ice cream.

emoticonRB (Snuggling) Yeah but I I don't want the low fat raspberry stuff. I wanted that Klondike Heath Bar and you only let me eat 1/4 of one.

emoticonLB Ahhh. You're still angry about that. But aren't you glad now? and even though it was good - it was awfully rich. don't you think it would have made us sick in our tummy?

emoticonRB Oh. Yeah. I remember. I did sort of feel funny in my tummy.

emoticonLB And I bet you're glad you didn't throw up or anything.

emoticonRB Yeah. I am glad.

emoticonLB but you know ... I think we should have sat down and really S A V O R E D that ice cream. Really made it a .... a PARTY. Then maybe you wouldn't have felt so ... sort of cheated.

emoticonRB OH! You understand! See, I knew you'd stop me. I knew I had to eat fast if I was going to eat any of it. So I gobbled up that ice cream so fast I didn't even feel like I had any fun with it.

emoticonLB I'm sorry. Not sorry we stopped eating that ice cream when we did - but sorry we didn't have any fun with it. The truth is, we can eat a 'treat' now and then - and still reach 143 lbs. and we don't have to reach 143 right now. We just have to be honest about what we're trying to achieve. So, how about we choose one day and that will be the day we have the SuperDecadentRich'n'Creamy treat? And we'll put it on the good china - like Aunt Mimi's Wedgwood desert plate. And get out the McLean silver spoon and use that. And all the rest of it.

emoticonRB (eye's wide and round) Ooooooooo Yeah

emoticonLB (smiling) Yeah. That does sound like fun, doesn't it?

emoticonRB Yeah. I'd love that.

emoticonLB And you could pick a different day each week if you want. We'll decide each Tuesday after weigh-in and then we'll have something to look forward to. I know you like the feeling of anticipation.

emoticonRB (grinning) I sure do.

emoticonLB So - let's get back to the question of whether we're At Goal or still Losing Weight? How do you feel now?

emoticonRB hmmm. I'm still unsure.

emoticonLB Dig deep. And remember - this is just a plan. A plan is like a map. We can use a different map and still get where we want to go. but you have to be honest about where you want to go.

emoticonRB Hmmmm. Well, see. When I look in the mirror with clothes on I'm so HAPPY. I LOVE how we look. I could dance all over the world. But when I look in the mirror without clothes on I am not so happy. I don't hate how we look, but I'm not HAPPY either. I'm just a little frustrated by the extra flesh.

emoticonLB You know - we're 60 now. We're going to have to be careful about our face getting even wrinklier if we get too thin.

emoticonRB I'm not talking about a teen age body. I just wish we weren't so fleshy on the front.

emoticonLB So do you want to keep losing weight?

emoticonRB I don't know. I'm so tired of it.

emoticonLB Of what? I think we're going to have to keep tracking and keep exercising and keep paying attention even if all we want to do is maintain.

emoticonRB Yeah I know that. I don't even mind doing that. I just wish we could add more food to the plate.

emoticonLB Are you walking around hungry?

emoticonRB No. I just sort of crave more

emoticonLB More ice cream?

emoticonRB More cheese.

emoticonLB Ahhhh. It's the VEGAN stuff isn't it.

emoticonRB Yeah. I think so. I don't want to do without cheese

emoticonLB Well, you know. We aren't really, now, are we.

emoticonRB Yeah but I hate not having permission to eat stuff - to do stuff. I feel BAD. I feel like a CHEATER

emoticonLB I agree. I don't like it either. Alright. It is official. We are not VEGAN any more. We are people who eat a MOSTLY plant based diet. We have ADDED tons of vegetables to our life. We are not restricting dairy any more. and we are STILL GOOD

emoticonRB LOL I love that!

emoticonLB Goodness by fiat!

emoticonRB ROFL Yeah. We are Good, we are Good we are Good!

emoticonLB We are Good! Now. What do you, my Good Right Brain Wild Child, want to do the month of May. Do you want to lose weight or stay at 150?

emoticonRB I want to lose 2 lbs.

emoticonLB. Done. Can you tell me why?

emoticonRB Yeah. If we lose 2 lbs we won't have to struggle too hard. We'll mostly be getting used to the size we are. We won't have to change too much. There will be room for some fun eating. BUT it'll be safer and I won't be so scared to go weigh in that first Tuesday in June.

emoticonLB Wow. those are really good reasons. Okay then - the goal is 148. The plan is this.

1. Track - and eat all the calories in the weight loss category
2. Exercise like we already do - and get in those push-ups. Va Beach - here we come!
3. Drink more water - you know we're slacking on this and it doesn't feel good ... and let's cut back on those durn sodas.
4. One Decadent Treat a week - no more than 300 calories. Pick the day of the treat on Tuesdays and pick the treat whenever you want to. And those calories can come out of our exercise collumn. They are EXTRA.
5. Tell me if you have any trouble with this plan

emoticonRB (Grinning) Oh yeah. I like this plan.

emoticonLB Great.

emoticonRB and we can wear our new shoes today?

emoticonLB Yup!

emoticonRB Yippeeee!

emoticonLB Love ya

emoticonRB Love ya back.

And here is a shot of Left Foot admiring Right Foot in the New Shoes

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CELIAMINER 5/8/2013 9:48AM

    I really look forward to your LB/RB blogs! Thanks for the smile (and the motivation)!

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SWEETNEEY 5/8/2013 8:02AM

    emoticon Is that what you call it, left brain right brain. I guess that's better than good or bad self. I know what you are going through. I experience it and one of my challenges is to quiet or kill the left brain.

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KANOE10 5/8/2013 7:53AM

    Love your cute new shoes. Great blog. I think you are wise to allow yourself one treat that you truely enjoy. You are doing great in staying motivated and focused!


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MSLZZY 5/8/2013 7:42AM

    I love these conversations! I wonder what it would be like to talk to you face to face LOL!
I think we would have a great time! HUGS! Oh, yeah, cute shoes.

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Why Push-ups? a LeftBrain/RightBrain conversation

Sunday, May 05, 2013

I have a summertime goal to do 25 real military style push-ups. The reward for when I reach this goal will be to treat myself and a girlfriend ... who's on a minuscule budget and can't afford such treats - to an overnight mini-vacation at the beach. I'm a scant 100 miles from a great beach town. We'll go on a week day, so the crowds will be smaller, and pretend to be teenagers again.

To push myself harder - so this isn't just a pipe dream - I've actually told her about the treat. And I told her it was a reward for me reaching a private goal. Another spur to keep me working towards this goal is the time factor. We have to do it on a week when she doesn't have her kids. And I have to have an open space in my calendar at work. Summer is the busy season work, and though I have extra staff then too, it's tough (though not impossible) to get away between mid June and late August. The best week would be the first week of June - 4 short weeks away!!!

I'm not being fanatical about this ... just workin' at it. But the question remains ... Why push-ups? Why am I tying a desired treat that I could give myself anyway to some arbitrarily (well, maybe not so arbitrarily) selected physical activity?

Let's check in with the two Brains of Bess and see if they can shed some insight on this.

emoticonLeftBrainSchoolMarm So. What's with the push-ups? Why do you want to do 25 push-ups?

emoticonRightBrainWildChild I want to be strong strong strong. I want to soar!

emoticonLBSM Push-ups are hard.

emoticonRBWC I love them. I love hard. I am flying. I will look like Olga Korbut.

emoticonLBSM No you won't. She's blonde. and tiny.

emoticonRBWC I want to have strong muscles in my back and to stand up straight and not get a hump. I want to get rid of the back fat. I want to go neener neener neener to the 95 pound weakling/curled up old lady stereotypes. and I want to look hot hot hot.

emoticonLBSM (rolls eyes)

emoticonRBWC You want to too. you know you do.

emoticonLBSM Yes. I do too, but do you realize what it takes to do 25 guy push-ups? We have to lift a lot of weights and do a lot of other exercises. And why do you want to tie this to a trip to Virginia Beach?

emoticonRBWC hmm. well - because - going to the beach is an extravagance.

emoticonLBSM Since when did you shy away from extravagance?

emoticonRBWC It'll be hard to get away. We'll have to convince Himself that it's a good thing to do. He'll whine.

emoticonLBSM (laughs at the thought of Himself whining to WildChild)

emoticonRBWC And besides, otherwise we wouldn't go to the beach AT ALL this summer. I want to go to the beach. I'm willing to do the work to get you to agree that we can go. I'm willing to explain to Himself. I'm willing to do the exercises. I will do ANYTHING to go to the beach and play in the ocean and eat and swim and walk in the sand. And SHOP.

emoticonLBSM Wow. That's a huge concession from you. You really want both of these, don't you?

emoticonRBWC yes yes yes yes yes I want them both.

emoticonLBSM Well. Those seem like good healthy reasons. And it sounds like fun, too. I'm not all that interested in the push-up thing but I'd like to go to the beach.

emoticonRBWC You are SO lazy!

emoticonLBSM I am not lazy - I am measured.

emoticonRBWC Lazy. Chicken.

emoticonLBSM well, yeah. I am a little chicken.

emoticonRBWC You know you'll be glad we got this strong. You know it. Please please please. Figure it out.

emoticonLBSM Weh-ul. Okay. Then we need a plan. Because there's only a few weeks left till we're caught up in summer. In fact - we only have 4 weeks till June. That's 13 strength training days for doing push-ups. And we're only at 15 'real' push-ups. We'd have to add almost one a day to reach 25.

emoticonRBWC Can't we work out more days?

emoticonLBSM I don't think so. I don't know. Maybe. I'll ask W. the personal trainer. But I don't want to make a plan and a schedule and have you quit on me.

emoticonRBWC Pleeeeeeeeeease. I Promise I won't quit.

emoticonLBSM But I don't want to injure our body either. I am just not sure. Besides - we have never yet done a real, deep push-up. How do we know if what we're calling a push-up is a 'real' push-up?

emoticonRBWC We can ask W. the personal trainer.

emoticonLBSM hmmm. Yeah. We could ask that too. But how about we put it off till July. We could do it the week of July 14.

emoticonRBWC That's forever!

emoticonLBSM It is a long way off but ... it also gives us time to really reach the goal. Besides - the beach in hot hot hot July will be more welcome.

emoticonRBWC But it's not as pretty.

emoticonLBSM But it's more achievable. Besides - think how much you'll love jumping into the ocean on a sweltering hot July day. Think of how much fun it will be to walk Atlantic Ave. in the twilight. Deep Green Ocean Swells - salty sweet taffy. hmmmm.

emoticonRBWC Oh yeah. Yeah.

emoticonLBSM so you're okay with the July date? If you are ... I'll book the hotel room this week.

emoticonRBWC Oh! Really? Commit the money? Okay! I'm good with July.

emoticonLBSM We'll tell H this week then. So she can arrange to be off work. And we can put it in our work schedule too.

emoticonRBWC Yippeeee! I can't wait. I can't wait!

emoticonLBSM Well, I'm getting excited too. But remember - once we've made the reservation and scheduled with H there is A B S O L U T E L Y no going back on this. It's a total commitment.

emoticonRBWC I know. I promise. No whiny quitting.

emoticonLBSM Me too. No lazy quitting.

emoticon RBWC Thanks. I love you.

emoticon LBSM Welcome. I love you too.

So. There you have it. Why I've set a goal of 25 push-ups and tied it to a week day mini-vacation at the beach. I'll keep you posted - and of course - there will be photos of the beach. In July. When it's hot hot hot.

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LOL, this was very cute, and I hear your conviction! You can do it!

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LRSILVER 5/5/2013 3:49PM

    Great. Hope both brains get together and let you meet your goals.

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BARBARASDIET 5/5/2013 10:51AM

    I hope to be able to do pushups someday!

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MADEIT3 5/5/2013 10:33AM

    The person here who told you the best way to do push-ups is to do them - absolutely correct. As the mother and grandmother of career military men, let me add my two cents - you need to "drop and do five" - or ten, or twenty, or thirty - at least every couple of hours through the day. I'm not able to do a full military pushup at my age and physical condition (I live with the effects of two rotator curr injuries) but I push out against the wall five to ten times a day, ten time each go. So good luck to you. Good luck, and I can't wait to see you've achieved the goal!!!

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    Too cool, Bess!

I think it's great that you can/will reward yourself for achieving your goal. I'm too jealous!

Push-ups are a great exercise! I'm working on strengthening my back and triceps as well! Strong is good! We're on our way!
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KANOE10 5/5/2013 9:32AM

    You can do it. Great idea linking your goal to a reward. Great blog.

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WATERMELLEN 5/5/2013 9:28AM

    Sounds good to me! And: you'll only look hotter in your bathing suit when you've achieved this goal, right?? (So nice of you to treat your gf!!)

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EMMACORY 5/5/2013 8:48AM

    You are so brave!! I do wall push ups but not a military style one. You are one strong woman! I will be rooting for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CASEYSAUER 5/5/2013 8:34AM

    After being in the military, I can tell you the best way to learn how to do the push-up......DO THE PUSH-UP. Sounds crazy but it works. I wish you luck. Do I still do the push up? OH NO! Never again, Not unless held at gun point and threatened with end of life!

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SANDICANE 5/5/2013 8:18AM

    My goal was to be able to do push ups too! I got down on the floor to do my first one and couldn't move...not a single part of me.

So I started on the wall.
After awhile I went back to the floor. ANY movement up and down counted as a pushup. Now I can do 30. I never try to do more than I try to go deeper and my goal is for my nose to be 1" off the floor on the "down" part, by the end of 2013. I never had all those funny conversations with myself that you did...they are VERY entertaining. You go girl! You GO! Enjoy every sweet victorious pushup!!!!


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