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Tools In My Kit

Thursday, May 02, 2013

The other day (in my quest for that bonus wheel spin emoticon ) I took the poll "Inspirational songs or sayings" I selected inspirational sayings. My own musical taste runs to classical or 17 and 18th century folk music or else other deeply ethnic music, none of which are trying to pump you up or challenge you with taunts about how much physical suffering you can do for the cause. No duh. that music was written when it was often hard - even impossible to get enough food to even stay alive.

anyway - I do love me some inspirational sayings and there are several that I've carried around with me on this journey. The first was a gift from my Weight Watcher leader and came last spring when I had been futzing around, sitting at the same weight for more months than I like to admit to. She told us that she did the same thing, dancing around those last 10 or 15 lbs, till her husband asked her one day "So. Do you plan on paying Weight Watcher's $10 a week for the rest of your life?"

That was a KaPow moment. Truth? If that was all I had to do to get and reach my goal, I would think $520 a year a cheap investment. If I could just buy weight loss I'd probably pay a lot more than that for it. I pay more than that for my satellite internet connection and I probably have paid that much for food I didn't eat that eventually went bad. So - No. I did not plan on being a perpetual paying member of Weight Watchers.

and of course, what he meant was ... if you are not going to walk the walk, perhaps you shouldn't lie about it. It was a gear shifting moment for me.

I've shared Tool #2 with you before but it's worthy of a second or even third repeating. It has to do with exercise and it's timely because in today's SparkPeopleBlog by Nicole she states (wrongly I think) that anyone who says they like the hard work of exercise is lying. It's not true. Well. It's not true in the way that blanket claims are never true. Had she qualified it with "most people ...." I'd have agreed. In my case, I LOVE exercise. But I often don't feel like making the shift - the change from what I'm already doing. One day while muttering to myself at the end of the work day about "Do I want to go to the gym? Do I want to go home? Do I? Don't I?" one of my staff walked by and said

"If you are asking yourself that question it means you NEED to go to the gym"

Oh My Goodness! Bulls Eye. Bingo.

How true that is. If I can't go to the gym, I already know it. Any Thing Else means I go to the gym. It's not up for discussion. Nothing else is an option. Either there is some compelling reason why I can't go to the gym or I go to the gym. I've never missed a gym date since he said that to me over a year ago. I don't even think about it. I kiss my husband every day. I pet my dogs every day. I brush my teeth twice a day. I go to the gym 4 days a week. period.

Today, one of my favorite Spark People bloggers, Pixilicious : www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5341964


talked about boredom eating - one of my challenges. She said - next time you're prowling around the kitchen looking for "something" (a.k.a. ooey, gooey, I'm hungry whiny sugary, salty, whatever) to eat, ask yourself "Are you hungry enough to eat an apple?"

If you aren't, you probably aren't hungry anyway. You're bored, mad, tired, sad - you are something other than hungry. So don't try to fill an empty spiritual hole with tummy stuff.

But if you are hungry enough to eat an apple - follow her advice. "go get a big old apple".

Wow! Thanks Pixie - that tool is going into my kit!

Happy Thursday to you all.

  
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KANOE10 5/3/2013 9:55AM

    Now that was an excellent blog. I particularly like the last tool. are you hungry enough to eat an apple?...makes you realize that if you are..then it might be normal hunger. If you are not..then it is emotional eating.

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MSLZZY 5/3/2013 9:29AM

    I packed an apple today. Guess I should eat it LOL!

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TORTISE110 5/2/2013 8:11AM

    Enjoyed this!

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ELRIDDICK 5/2/2013 7:01AM

  Thanks for sharing

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LRSILVER 5/2/2013 7:01AM

    Great blog. Great advice. emoticon

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Active Saturday!

Sunday, April 28, 2013

I wear a Weight Watchers Active Link. I love it because it helps me remember to "Git up offit" as my next door neighbor used to say. Not to me, of course. He was an ancient gentlemanly farmer and would never speak to a woman that way - but he used to say it to Himself and it always made me laugh.

anyway - I really did Git-up-offit yesterday. Saturday is usually house cleaning day around here anyway but I had to go into town before I jumped in on the routine stuff - and if I'm in town on a Saturday I am going to go to the gym. The plan was 30 minutes of aerobics and 30 of weights but there was a zumba class that I've always wished I could take ... just getting started. So instead I got in about 20 minutes of weight lifting (20 pound dumbells - YAY me! - and 13 pushups!) and then danced for an hour.

I'm not sure I'm going to go back because I tend to flop around a lot when I'm dancing and I have a bad spot in my neck and in my lower spine ... and Zumba is a very shimmying sort of activity. I may be to fragile for it. I had a little dizziness for a few hours after the class and I know that's a sign that the neck vertebrae were pinching a nerve. I have to be careful with elliptical machines for the same reason.

And worry not - my doctor is fully aware of this backbone of mine. We've just decided that as long as I can manage it without surgery we will just watch it like a hawk.

but the class was fun and full of women I know who are delightful people. the teacher is adorable - in her 50's - a high school teacher with a twinkle in her eye. And that's how I started my day.

It continued with a major house clean. I can sometimes live with skipping the usual Saturday jobs for a week by not looking at the dirt - especially if I know I'm going to be away like I was last week. But 2 weeks? not. I live in the country. I live on the east end of a farm (blowing dirt from plowed fields goes with the prevailing weather patterns - west to east). I have dogs. I have guys. I have dirt. A full house clean is worth a lot of activity points!

and when it was all done, Himself asked me to join him on a 2 mile walk. Woo woo. By the end of the day I'd earned 9 activity points ... which, according to Wikipedia, is 900 extra calories burned over and above the normal calorie baseline.

This is good. this is very good since I know that this week I've indulged in Restaurant Fare, Belgian Chocolates, and conference meals.

Today I'll be active, of course, but I'm not planning on it being a 9 pointer. I have 3 boxes of daffodils to plant - dug from an old 17th century back yard - not that these are all 17th century daffodils - probably they're no more than 75 years old but there are a lot of them and they're headed for the lane that leads up to my house. It's a 1/10th of a mile stretch that gets afternoon sunshine and filtered morning light. In the springtime it's spectacular - but there are gaps - and right now I can see where they are. I shall be diggin' in the dirt for hours this afternoon.

May your Sunday be blessed with all the love in the world. And daffodils.

  
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MSLZZY 4/29/2013 7:19AM

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JLITT62 4/29/2013 5:15AM

    I'm really not a good housekeeper - I really just don't enjoy cleaning - how that is a stress buster for some people is just beyond me! But it's funny, I will make the effort to clean more before a trip so I can not clean when I come home!

Too bad zumba didn't agree with your neck, cause it's fun & a great workout!

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LRSILVER 4/29/2013 4:49AM

    Sounds like a great day.

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KANOE10 4/28/2013 8:55AM

    What a great active day. emoticon Enjoy your daffodils!

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MYBABYTHEBRIDE 4/28/2013 8:51AM

   
You are a busy bee! Hope your back is feeling a bit better today.

Wishing you blessings as well. emoticon



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Sumer Is Icumen In

Thursday, April 25, 2013



I always thought it meant summer is on it's way but according to wikipedia - it means it's already here.

Modern English
Summer has come in,
Loudly sing, Cuckoo!
The seed grows and the meadow
blooms
And the wood springs anew,
Sing, Cuckoo!
The ewe bleats after the lamb
The cow lows after the calf.
The bullock stirs, the stag farts,
Merrily sing, Cuckoo!
Cuckoo, cuckoo, well you sing,
cuckoo;
Don't ever you stop now,
Sing cuckoo now. Sing, Cuckoo.
Sing Cuckoo. Sing cuckoo now!

Either way, I'm ready for it - tired of this cool weather, I want to swim in the rivah!

  
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LRSILVER 4/26/2013 6:51AM

    I cant wait for warm weather.

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KANOE10 4/25/2013 9:05AM

    I am tired of this cool weather and stilly layering up. I want warm days also, Great poem.

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Feeling Rich

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

I'll admit it. I love to spin the spark points bonus wheel. emoticon Every day I fool around earning points just so I hit the 25 mark and get that second chance. I can't even tell you why it's so much fun since I have an ancient computer and sort of slow satellite Internet service. It's really not like spinning a real wheel. Here at home the wheel sort of jerks around like someone spilled jelly on the gears. But I still love doing it. It's like finding money.

Goofy, I know.

Today is Hump Day - which usually means Story Hour Day for me. I still do the Wed. pre-school story hour - just about the only public thing I regularly do any more since I have so much good public service staff. They don't need me for that and they do need me to be doing Other Things in the back room. But I seriously heart those little wide eyed chaotic loving wee ones. We have a little ritual too - when it comes to craft time. I keep the crayons all mixed together in a shoe box. When I pull it out I ask them "And what does Mrs. Haile like best about crayons?"

they all shout "The THMELL!"

And then we all get to sniff the box. I really do love the crayon scent - so much that I asked for a bottle of crayon perfume for my birthday (asked my son - Sons always give their mothers what they ask for)


I keep this at the library and any child who wants a spritz on his wrist gets one. Very waxy scented library on Wednesdays.

then I ask them "And what do I like Second Best about crayons?"

And they shout "The SOUND!"

and then I slowly pour the entire box on the table, letting the rattle fill the room. And then we all put our hands in the big heap of color sticks and spread them out so everyone can enjoy them, while I remind them that when I see So Much Color I feel So Rich - as if there was everything you ever needed to make the world beautiful.

Rituals are wonderful for children. Kids love to feel like they are catching up with us grown-ups so when they can remember something they feel like they're part of the team. and a ritual very quickly becomes something they remember. This ritual is something they love and expect and get every week. It makes them feel like they're going in the right direction.

I also think it is important for all of us to feel rich. Most of the sorrow in the world (I humbly claim) seems to stem from a feeling of lack - from thinking there's not enough to go around. At a library - there are so many books - so many choices - enough to feel as rich as a king ... or a queen. It's the same with a big box of crayons. And as one of the first lessons in life - I love teaching little kids that there's not only enough - there's enough for EVERYONE to feel RICH!

Huh - So. I never know where a blog is going to go when I start typing. Who knew I'd wander into story hour today. Ah well. Happy Hump Day to you. May you feel RICH!

  
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JLITT62 4/25/2013 7:54AM

    "Most of the sorrow in the world (I humbly claim) seems to stem from a feeling of lack - from thinking there's not enough to go around"

I agree.

The question remains how do you change that?

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MKELLY72 4/24/2013 1:11PM

    What a great story!! My best friend and I used to color together as high school students (and beyond) and the smell is something we still talk about loving!! I will have to see if I can find that for her! Fabulous!
Michelle

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GETULLY 4/24/2013 9:51AM

    What a great story! Thank you for sharing. I, too, get a rush spinning the bonus wheel.

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KANOE10 4/24/2013 8:06AM

    Nice blog. I teach young kids and love to see them happy and learning. You sound like you are doing a great job with your pre-schoolers.

Have a wonderful rich day.

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MISSUSRIVERRAT 4/24/2013 8:03AM

    Great attitude! Thanks for sharing the concept of feeling rich.........it is so much more than having a certain amount of money. Very few people understand this, it seems to me.


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BROOKLYN_BORN 4/24/2013 7:45AM

    I also push for that 2nd spin every day. I have slow satellite Internet service too.
Crayon perfume? Never would have guessed that. Nice blog!

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So What's the Plan - another Left Brain/Right Brain conversation (long)

Sunday, April 21, 2013

emoticonSo where's the plan? Have you written it yet?

emoticon No

emoticonWhat? You promised. You're always breaking promises to me.

emoticon No I'm not. But I can't make a map of how to get somewhere unless I know where we're going and I can't make that decision all by myself. You have to contribute too. Like – what do you want to do right now?

emoticonI want perfection and freedom and chocolate and cheese

emoticon Right. Let me rephrase it so that you can make a choice. Do you want to continue to lose weight or do you want to stay at your present weight.

emoticonSkinny I want Skinny You can never be too rich or too skinny. I want to look like Patty Hayes.

emoticon Good God. She's been dead for 15 years. And the last time we saw her she was 16 and was tall and skinny and adolsecent. We never could have looked like that and we never will. Our bones are too short.

emoticonOh. Yea. Right. Then ... I don't know what I want.

emoticon Hmm. Okay – what do you want to look like that's NOT Patty Hayes?

emoticonI want to look Hot Hot Hot.

emoticon You already do look Hot Hot Hot and you know it.

emoticonHeh heh heh. Yeah. We looked hot last night, didn't we?

emoticon Quit fishing for compliments and answer my question.

emoticonWell. I want to wear a size medium.

emoticon Come on. You know that one manufacturer's size medium is another manufacturer's size Large and another's size small.

emoticonWell. I want to wear a size 12 or a size 10.

emoticon that's still no answer. What about a size 6 or 2 or 0? What if I took some white-out and turned that size 10 into a size zero?

emoticonNo. No. that's creepy. That's cheating and besides, we're too old to be that skinny. No. size 10 or 12 is good.

emoticon I think you're putting too much emphasis on sizes. Whats' in a number and why is a size different from a weight?

emoticonHmmm. Well, a size is how you look. I don't care how much we weigh so long as those little pretty clothes fit and look good on us.

emoticon Okay – I'll grant you that. But we can't go trying on clothes all the time to see what size we wear. We don't have that much time to monitor this stuff – so pick a weight. Any weight. And that's what we'll work at staying at.

emoticon143 lbs.

emoticon Well. That came fast. Why didn't you say so at first?

emoticonYou didn't ask me.

emoticon Funny girl Why do you want to weigh 143 lbs?

emoticonBecause I think I will feel safe at that weight.

emoticon Oh. Well. That's a sort of a good reason. We can do that. It means losing 6 more pounds, you know. Are you sure you're not just picking this number so you can keep eating less and more restrictedly ... you know .. you're not just chickening out on trying to maintain.

emoticonHmmm. No. I'm not playing a game. I really want to weigh 143. At least. I really want to see what I look like and what it feels like to weigh that right now, at this age and this time.

emoticon Okay – that actually sounds pretty .... sound.

emoticonThere's more! There's a slimness I catch a glimpse of when we're walking past a window or mirror. I've just begun to see it – but it's fleeting. I'd like to see it all the time. And I think it will take being 143 to get there. I want that to be my normal.

emoticon Okay – this is good stuff. So you really want that svelt feeling don't you. And we're not there yet. Sometimes we are but not most of the time.

emoticonYeah yeah. You understand.

emoticon Good enough. How big a hurry are you to get there?

emoticonOh. Hmmm. Pretty big hurry, I think.

emoticon Why?

emoticonWell. Well. I want to wear that red polka dot dress in the attic.

emoticon Ahh. Yes. And it's a summer dress. It needs to be hemmed, you know. Well, to get there we have to continue with the 1500 calories a few more weeks. Maybe 2 months. Are you okay with that?

emoticonHow far away is 2 months?

emoticon 8 weeks is June 17.

emoticonOh. that's a long time away. Can't we do it sooner?

emoticon I don't know. That's going to be up to you and to me. We don't have a lot of parties coming up. Really only one. Maybe 2 if we have company. But that's a lot of weekends home alone with the refrigerator. And it will mean working out pretty seriously.

emoticonWell, I like doing that you know.

emoticon Yes but it will mean getting off the computer at 7 instead of 8.

emoticonyeah. Well. Okay. Let's do it.

emoticon How about we try it just for two days? This week we'll get off the computer on Monday and Tuesday at 7. 'Cause we're going to visit Mama on Wednesday and have to leave at 7:30 anyway. But we can go to the gym on M, T, and W. - Uh Oh! – I just remembered. Graves Mt. Lodge is this week.

emoticonAAAAAACK!

emoticon Yeah. That is going to take some planning. We have never yet successfully limited ourselves at GML.

emoticonI knooooow. Whaaaaaa. I don't wanna go.

emoticon Too bad. We have to. But what do you say, instead of saying we'll eat only one bread or only one that or no desert – and then eating them anyway and feeling guilty and lousy, how about if we decide we will pause before every single bite, put down the fork and ask “Are you hungry for more? Is it worth it? Do you really want it?” And if the answer is yes we pick up the fork again. And if the answer is no – we stop eating.

emoticonHmmm. I like that.

emoticon It will take a different sort of discipline but it might be just the difference we need. Let's give it a try anyway.

emoticonOkay. I'll really try.

emoticon Okay – I'm exhausted by all this planning. What do you say we just plan for this week.

emoticonNo No. I want more. More Plans. More safety.

emoticon Geezo Flip.

emoticonPleeeeeeeeeeeease.

emoticon Well. Alright. How about this. It's April 21. The next time we weigh in will be on May 7. That's just over 2 weeks. Let's try to weigh 148.6 pounds on the May weigh in. That means the morning scale will have to show something like 145. Let's aim for 1 lb in 2 weeks with 4 meals eaten at Graves Mt. Lodge thrown in. And let's try to earn 35 exercise points both of those weeks. It means curtailing our playtime on the computer but I think we can do it. Besides – we're moving into the prettiest time of the year. May.

emoticonOkay. But you'll come up with another plan for the next 2 weeks afterwards?

emoticon Yes. I will. Each time we weigh in we will come up with a new goal and a new plan. But you have to participate.

emoticonI will.

emoticon And as a reward, when we reach 145 we'll take a day off.

emoticonAnd another at 143?

emoticon Yep. Another at 143. Maybe a 4 day weekend!

emoticonOkay. I like this.

emoticon I like it too.

emoticonLove you

emoticon Love you too.

  
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WATERMELLEN 4/22/2013 5:54PM

    You two really understand each other and are working together!! That red polka dot dress is gonna look AWESOME (and svelte!)

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TINAJANE76 4/22/2013 5:45PM

    Love your inner-dialogue! It's not easy settling into maintenance and deciding exactly exactly where you want to be. I basically see maintenance as a circle that looks something like this: set goals, develop a plan to achieve them, work towards them, reevaluate, repeat. It's a bit like weight loss but with a lot more experimentation, especially once you reach the point where you want to keep things the same. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress with the polka-dotted dress!

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CELIAMINER 4/22/2013 9:25AM

    So love this! Now get off the computer!
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KANOE10 4/22/2013 7:52AM

    Cute positive dialogue. I enjoy your writing. Good luck with the two week plan. You both can do it!
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MSLZZY 4/22/2013 7:36AM

    Loved this conversation! I can only imagine what my LB/RB would have to say. I may have to introduce them to you-then again, maybe not LOL!

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PEZMOM1 4/21/2013 9:32PM

    Awesome conversation.
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