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Non Scale Victory I Never Expected

Monday, April 08, 2013

Woo Woo. There's actually a post I've been meaning to write ... and I'll get to it sometime this week - but I just had to post about a surprise NSV I got yesterday.



Shoes! My shoes! My (slightly high) platform wedgies that should have fit so well but that I have never worn because they don't - they hurt my feet and legs - don't! All this fitness and strength training I've been doing coupled with carrying around less weight overall made these cute shoes not just fit but feel great!

I'm wearing them today.

Warm weather is here at last after the longest coldest spring I can remember. Yesterday afternoon I had a few hours alone and I pulled out the two big tubs of summer clothes and went shopping. I tried on tops and skirts and dresses and shorts. I tried this with that and that with this. I tried belts and jewelry and shoes and that's when I discovered that shoes I used to think about wearing but did not - because they made my feet hurt or my knees - didn't do that any more. My strong legs and good balance and toned muscles keep it all together and those shoes are just fine.

and there is another Big Pile of things to give to the Goodwill. Only one thing is just perfect for my cousin - it's really more her sort of red than mine. She's cherry red. I'm tomato.

And I sat down with Himself and pointed out that we own clothes we never wear. Anything we think we like gets 12 more months and if we don't wear it by then - out it goes - no matter now nice it is. This is a no loitering closet.

Happy Monday to you all! May you have a NSV this week.

  
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MOBYCARP 4/11/2013 6:59AM

    I gave away a lot of clothes that no longer fit in 2012, but I *still* struggle with getting rid of clothes just because I want the closet space. I probably should put a closet review reminder on my calendar, because I only tend to think about it when I don't have time to make a considered, nonemotional decision.

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MOSTMOM1 4/8/2013 4:24PM

    Woohoo!!! Great NSV!

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ENG_TV 4/8/2013 11:23AM

    Cute shoes! Love the idea of a no loitering closet. Need to make that my goal too!

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CHICVINTAGE 4/8/2013 11:12AM

    That's fantastic! I love the shoes and have been looking for some just like them to wear with my retro bathing suit. Mind sharing where you bought them?

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DAYHIKER 4/8/2013 9:53AM

    Cute shoes and a great victory! emoticon It's a great encouragement to keep you keeping on and to those of us who are struggling as well! emoticon

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MSLZZY 4/8/2013 9:47AM

    Cute shoes and hurrah for cleaner closets. Someone will be blessed with what you no longer need-a true NSV!

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CAROLJEAN64 4/8/2013 9:10AM

    Love the shoes and love the idea of a "no loitering closets."

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SLIMMERJESSE 4/8/2013 8:43AM

    Woohoo!

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JLITT62 4/8/2013 8:39AM

    That is a great NSV!

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CELIAMINER 4/8/2013 8:38AM

    Me, too! Love the NSVs!

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MIDROAD 4/8/2013 8:36AM

    You're rocking those shoes, awesome!

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NELLJONES 4/8/2013 8:21AM

    We always think of weight loss in terms of pants, but it works for shoes, too. emoticon

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BARB4HEALTH 4/8/2013 8:20AM

    emoticon It is wonderful to have a comfortable pair of shoes and a great Victory!

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NSPIXIE 4/8/2013 7:56AM

    Awesome! I really like those shoes!

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1935MARY 4/8/2013 7:45AM

    Great I too, can wear shoes I couldn't . Bras that were to tight fit now. This is just Awesome. When the scale don't show it, the clothes always does. emoticon Those are cute shoes.

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Rewards? Figure It Out

Friday, April 05, 2013

I love it when I get that lightbulb moment - emoticon
that ah-ha sensation as a new idea, a new way of looking at an old issue, reveals itself to me in perfect clarity. This morning Spark People sent me one of those treasures in Dean Anderson's article "How to Use Rewards to Get the Results You Want"
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Rewards have always been one of my struggle issues. I find it conflicting to refuse to give myself something I can afford and somewhat neurotic to deny myself something because I have decided I am bad or a failure. The "bad" and "failure" designations are ... well, not me.

Of course, I find the idea of "giving" myself something I can't afford sets up a conflict of such proportions in my head that I see it sort of explodes and becomes an impossibility. (Love me some money management, you see.)

When all is said and done, I am more like Ruskin who said, "The highest reward for a man's toil is not what he gets for it but what he becomes by it."

So how do rewards fit into a weight loss/weight management life? Ahhh - by not tying it to a scale. Not tying it to numbers. At least, not tying it ONLY to the number on the scale. Tie the reward to actions needed to live a healthy life - in other words .... get this ... Reward Those Healthy Choices!

Uh. Duuh.

Okay I know. You already got this. But for me this message was like a firework display, shedding colorful light on an issue that has eluded me.

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And it's particularly apropos in light of the work I'm doing to get stronger. Working with my personal trainer yesterday I pushed through some amazing physical barriers. There was a moment when I began a lift and hit a feeling of added resistance and then pushed through without any pain at all - though it took additional mental and physical effort I didn't realize I had. It was a magnificent experience - a Lifter's Push akin to the Runner's High.

As I read Dean Anderson's article I thought - Oh. Yes. That's the sort of thing that deserves a reward. A magnificent action chosen by me that took 100% of my abilities - and ... I did it! And best of all is that - having made that extra effort I am walking around, 24 hours later, still feeling so proud of myself.

And I think THAT is the greatest reward I could give myself.

  
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MSLZZY 4/5/2013 10:10AM

    Perfect! I read the same article and it got me to thinking I should try a find a reward for the next challenge. Personal satisfaction might just be it.

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CELIAMINER 4/5/2013 8:27AM

    Well said! I'm struggling with rewards, too, right now. I splurged on a Spark Goodie cleaning service to push me toward better organization, but a real cleaning service is not in our budget right now. Anyway, my ah-ha from Dean's blog is that it's time to shake things up a bit. I'm a little over a month from hitting my one-year maintenance milestone, and I have not rewarded myself at all for maintaining for nearly 11 months. Perhaps I'll start by freshening up my Spark page to make it more maintenance oriented and change the tired goals I check off each day to make them more meaningful and a little harder. Wow, starting to feel that old motivation again.

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Officially at Maintenance = More Goals!

Wednesday, April 03, 2013

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Yesterday was my one month weigh-in at my Weight Watcher's meeting. Yes. I do use both WW and Spark People to reach my goals. I figure I'll pick up any tool I can find to get where I need and want to be. And I weighed exactly what I weighed last time - 151.2. That's within the 2 pound spread that WW allows and still be able to count myself "At Goal" It was SUCH fun to be there with friends and to celebrate that first step in my new adventure.

But just because I've met the WW goal doesn't mean I'm stopping here. I kind of like this goal achieving thing and I've got New Goals I'm excited to start striving for. One is actually a different weight goal. I've mentioned this before - I'm an inch shorter than I was 9 years ago. I think I will be more comfortable at 145 lbs, so I plan to continue to eat at a weight loss level of about 1500 calories a day.

But I have other goals and the one most dear to me is to do 25 deep full body push-ups. When I can do that I'm going to treat myself and a girlfriend to a 2 day jaunt to Virginia Beach - this summer - with a stay at one of the pretty beach hotels. I have always hated push-ups and yet always had a strange attraction to them too. As I've been working this year with the personal trainer at the gym I've realized how much stronger I am. Two sets of 25 deep full body push-ups just doesn't seem that out of my reach any more.

Another goal I want to achieve this year is 12 months at maintenance. I'm thinking about creating a visual display of that one. Maybe special stickers on a chart that show each month I've kept the weight off. I'll think about it this week and see what I can come up with.

The big fun part of this is emotional boost being able to keep that weight down in spite of the 2500 calorie birthday dinner on Saturday. Staying at goal for a month is proof that I can live a life with celebrations in it without having to wear extra pounds.

Something to think about. Today. At Tara.

Happy Hump Day to you all.

  
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THOMS1 4/26/2013 6:02PM

    emoticon Great Job! emoticon

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MJREIMERS 4/22/2013 9:34PM

    emoticon on your accomplishment and emoticon creating new goals for yourself! I love developing muscle definition and those push ups will help! Keep at it and you will achieve ALL the goals you set for yourself!!

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KANSASROSE67 4/15/2013 1:35PM

    Way to go!!! Your reward sounds perfect...I don't love push-ups either but with a reward like that I'd go for it!

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GLASSART43 4/15/2013 9:28AM

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Congrats on reaching maintenance!

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FITMOMINNJ 4/15/2013 8:37AM

    emoticon Welcome to the maintainers club:)

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LOGOULD 4/15/2013 8:36AM

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!...and thank you for speaking to the importance of continuing to set and go after goals. The thing that keeps us on the teeter-totter is looking at a number on the scale as the destination, and once there, we quit striving. New goals to persue keeps us on track and getting better and better. emoticon emoticon

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GATORJOY 4/14/2013 9:38AM

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KAB7801 4/12/2013 10:13PM

    Congrats! Wish I was there. emoticon

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AMARILYNH 4/12/2013 12:34PM

    Congratulations on reaching (and staying at) your goal weight!! Awesome!! emoticon

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BROWNCOFIDDLER 4/12/2013 10:36AM

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Hearty congrats to you on reaching your goal weight and planning ahead to set more realistic, healthy goals for yourself. Great job!!

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_LINDA 4/12/2013 2:05AM

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That is fantastic! Way to keep your interest high and set new goals! Keep that fire burning, keep the Spark alive!
You go girl!!

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KEEPFIT2013 4/11/2013 11:43PM

    Great goals....... emoticon

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MOONCHILD8 4/11/2013 8:34PM

    You are Awesome! You rock! Best wishes on your goals. Linda from bean town emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ADRIENALINE 4/11/2013 7:56PM

    Totally awesome. We are in it to win it!!

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MKELLY72 4/11/2013 4:05PM

    Rewards and new goals are so rewarding to this process!! Great job staying on top of that!
Congratulations on your successes!
Michelle


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DESERTJULZ 4/11/2013 2:19PM

    Congratulations on reaching your weight goal! I love that you've set a fitness goal to take its place. :D

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BROOKLYN_BORN 4/11/2013 1:12PM

    Congratulations! You weight goal has been reached and you have that push-up goal in sight. Keep up the good work.


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_JODI404 4/11/2013 12:38PM

    emoticon on reaching Maintenance!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MY1FAN 4/11/2013 11:45AM

    emoticon keep up the great work.

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RUTHXG 4/11/2013 11:42AM

    Big emoticon on reaching your goal--& setting new ones to work on! So inspiring!

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THOMS1 4/11/2013 11:01AM

    emoticon Keep up the great job with those goals. emoticon

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SUSIEMT 4/11/2013 10:40AM

    Congrats on your maintenance! Keep up the good work and good job on creating your maintenance goals. You are AWESOME!

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MEXGAL1 4/11/2013 9:59AM

    Congrats! One thing I know for sure is that one can not go back to their old ways to maintain.
Have a terrific day.

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LIVIN2LOVE1 4/11/2013 9:57AM

    Congrats!
I love your push up challenge! I have the same love/hate relationship with push ups myself. Keep up the good work!

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MANILUS 4/11/2013 9:56AM

    Congratulations and way to go setting goals for what you want! You can do it!

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VTRICIA 4/11/2013 9:24AM

    Yay for strength training goal!

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HIKERBECKY 4/11/2013 8:52AM

    emoticon emoticon Great job!

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MANDELOVICH 4/11/2013 8:44AM

    Congratulations! I love all your goals and how great to be maintaining! Bravo!

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WATERMELLEN 4/11/2013 8:18AM

    Nice work and congrats to you!! I'm betting that you'll meet your pushups goal with the same determination and discipline!!

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MOMMY445 4/11/2013 7:58AM

    congratulations! awesome! woo hoo!

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KANOE10 4/11/2013 7:53AM

    Great job on reaching your goal weight and maintaining for a month. I like your new goals. Goals keep you motivated in maintenance!

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SLENDERELLA61 4/11/2013 7:53AM

    I use WW and SP, too: a great combination!! Love those annual Keys to Lifetime at WW. It's something I can carry around and look at, while monthly trophies here on SP are motivating, too. Love that more frequent reinforcement. Good for you for setting new goals. I got involved in running after meeting my goal. Never thought I would, but I love it. If there's a Galloway group in your town, you may want to check it out. So much fun!! -Marsha

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KELLIEBEAN 4/11/2013 7:48AM

    Congratulations! I was the same way about push-ups so I started doing a couple each night and kept building up. You can do it and what a nice reward when you do!

I'm very happy for you! Keep moving forward!

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LRSILVER 4/11/2013 6:45AM

    Congratulations. Great goals!! Enjoy this new phase of your journey. emoticon

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WENDYANNE61 4/11/2013 6:23AM

    That is brillant - I love the idea of creating new goals to keep things exciting and moving in the right direction. emoticon

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FELINA 4/11/2013 6:23AM

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Congratulations on reaching goal ! Great idea to add maintenance goals !
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TORTISE110 4/11/2013 5:35AM

    Boy, nothing like maintenance to make us realize we have made a life style change and have not been on another "diet." I'm so happy for you!! Have a razzle dazzle day, enjoy your time in the spotlight and thank you for being my friend at Spark!

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POPSY190 4/11/2013 4:25AM

    Great blog and new goals!

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CHICVINTAGE 4/8/2013 11:15AM

    Congratulations!!! Doing a fair amount of "real" push-ups is one of my goals too. I'm doing modified ones right now and they are so hard it's hard to imagine doing the real ones anytime soon. I'm determined though! Maybe I should have a reward like your for reaching my goal. It sure sounds fun!

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KRISKECK 4/3/2013 4:06PM

    Hurray! That is awesome.

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HAKAPES 4/3/2013 3:15PM

    I like your goals, and your approach of using all available tools to help you to get forward. Congratulations for the month!

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MSLZZY 4/3/2013 10:19AM

    Good goals, even the pushups. I'll wait to see how you do LOL! You are handling maintenance pretty well so far.

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MIDROAD 4/3/2013 10:00AM

    So very happy for you! I hope to soon be able to post a blog announcing I've reached goal also. Thank you for your inspiration! So glad to see you planning new challenges too. Best wishes and hearty congratulations!

Jeannie

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TINAJANE76 4/3/2013 9:01AM

    Many congratulations on reaching goal! Looking forward to cheering you on through many, many maintenance anniversaries now.
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CELIAMINER 4/3/2013 8:57AM

    Good show, Bess! Glad you're working hard at maintenance, and thank goodness for our maintenance team for support and great leaders.

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I Shoulda Bought More Candy!

Monday, April 01, 2013

I'm starting a new streak of living each day as healthily as I possibly can. I started one 37 days ago and though there have been some days when I knew the entire day was not a perfectly healthy day, I'd always made more healthy choices than UNhealthy ones. This weekend I really can't make that claim. It was a birthday weekend that fell on a holiday weekend so excessive dining opportunities abounded. I knew this and had prepared some strategies, but not enough. So what went wrong this weekend? emoticon And what went right? emoticon

WRONG - On Saturday I really did want to go to that all-you-can-eat restaurant and Himself is always good for one and it was the day before his birthday anyway and it was going to rain on Sunday so who wants to drive away from Paradise in the rain? But I knew the dessert table was going to tempt me beyond resistance. In fact - I was intending to indulge in some sweet goodness. But I also knew that the desserts, while looking varied, were actually going to taste sort of ... commercial - and maybe even bland and a little metallic - although sweet. I knew that - but conveniently forgot it. I also knew that one slice of carrot cake from an all you can eat buffet would equal 12 points or 600 calories. And I could have remembered that their ice cream is always watery - and Ice Cream is an important food group. So I chose and chose and chose all those high calorie things and durn. None of them really tasted good enough to give me that 'I HAVE BEEN REWARDED AND INDULGED" feeling.

And when that's what you've been wanting - that's what you've been planning for - that's what you actually gave yourself permission to enjoy ... and you don't get it? BAAAAAD NEWS.

And now, feeling deprived and let down, along came Easter Sunday with all it's memories of candy laden baskets (Yes I know - there is a deeper meaning to this day but I am talking about my heathen wild child right brain with memories of chocolate bunnies and unlimited malted milk robin eggs and BLACK JELLYBEANS!!!) And so along came another

WRONG - I didn't purchase enough of the right kinds junk food to make me feel festive!
What's that?
Yes.
I had plenty of healthy choices in the kitchen - fruit, whole grain breads, low fat cheese, crispy vegetables. But it was a Holiday and a Birthday. There was no exciting treat candy goodie around. Nothing to feel special and rewarded and 9 years old. I spent a good bit of time indoors on a rainy Sunday afternoon looking for that candytreatgoodyyummy sensation.

And what happens when you are craving something and it's not there. You know, don't you? You wander around eating everything and anything that might slake that sugar-lustful thirst. I gnawed my way through the kitchen eating mostly fruit. But what I wanted was Chocolate Bunny.


(Oh chocolate bunny - come to me)

Now - 2 Russel Stover chocolate bunnies are 600 calories. 60 robin egg malted milk candies would have equaled 600 calories. I can eat a lot of robin eggs but I don't think I could have eaten 60. I think 20 of them would have satisfied my sugar lust. But there was no amount of bananas or oranges that would hit the spot. I know. I tried them both. Lots of them.

Obviously I am going to indulge myself with sweet treats - which is my illusive holy grail. But I owe it to myself to indulge in the treats I really like, the ones that are really good, the ones that will actually satisfy my longing. The second rate sorta stuff - even if the quantity appears to offer me endless options - will always disappoint me and even too much healthy food is too much. If she doesn't get at least a little bit of what she wants, my inner brat will always throw a tantrum in the kitchen.

Ah well. That was then. This is now. And there were RIGHTS, as in:

RIGHT - packed a healthy lunch on Saturday
RIGHT - walked all over creation
RIGHT - took the dog for a second walk on Sunday
RIGHT - did my 11 pushups. (today it is 12)

It wasn't a total wreck of a weekend - but it was not a healthy choice weekend. The best thing I've done so far - the healthiest choice I've made in the aftermath of the debacle is to analyze the situation, figure out what I really wanted and store the wisdom I've gleaned from this thoughtful process for next time. Because next time I will go ahead and have the chocolate bunny and quit looking for it in my empty kitchen. Yes. Next time I will buy More Candy!

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MOBYCARP 4/11/2013 7:08AM

    There are people who have to cut out candy and sweet treats entirely. And there are people who don't. I'm one of the latter. I don't think there's been a single day since I started SparkPeople (and for a long time before that) when I didn't have some candy. Of course, most days it isn't very much candy; but there it is. I can be happy with a little, but I can't give it up entirely.

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IAMHIGHLYFAVORD 4/1/2013 12:11PM

    Thankfully - no kidlets here! We did have some corn CHEX drizzled with chocolate sauce tho'.... but it is certainly better than a chocolate bunny or an Easter Crème Egg! AND, it satisfied the sweet tooth and was our anniversary treat! I really enjoyed your post!

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CBLENS 4/1/2013 11:28AM

    My husband got up yesterday morning and declared the Easter Bunny missed us, to which I told him I sent him a message to skip our house. But boy was I eyeing the stuff when I was at the store.

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JLITT62 4/1/2013 7:58AM

    Don't you just hate eating around what you REALLY want & desserts that disappoint?

Ah well, it happens & as you point out, today is day 1 of healthy eating again.

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MSLZZY 4/1/2013 7:44AM

    When that sweet treat eludes you and nothing else will satisfy, you hunt for something to take it's place. Been there, done that. I had my m&m's this weekend and no regrets.
Thankfully, they are gone and I can now get back to business. Have a great week!

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BLUENOSE63 4/1/2013 7:22AM

  Yep I hear ya on that one! I wanted the chocolate eggs and I ate them in moderation but exercised the hell out of yesterday as I knew it could get ugly with the chocolate....they are my absolute favourite and are the favourite of our 11 year old son.

I feel okay, I was well within my caloric limits -- Happy April

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Courage

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Over the past few days the subject of courage has nudged it's way into my consciousness. My own courage, or lack thereof, is my weakest attribute, followed closely by procrastination. It's a lack of courage that keeps me from starting a lot of things that I think about doing. It's the fear of failure. It's the fear of setting expectations in other people that I may not be able to maintain. It's the fear that I'll make someone else angry and then won't have the mental adroitness to defend myself. It's the fear of finding out the fantasy activity isn't so hot after all and now I don't have my mental escape destination any more. Fear - followed by procrastination - "I'll think about it tomorrow - at Tara"

Mind now, I'm not afraid of all sorts of things. I never fear getting up in public to speak - which is supposed to be the #1 fear of the general population. Nor am I afraid to a new hobby - especially if it's an art genre. (and thank you for those compliments in my last post. Worry not - I don't sell my self short. It's just that I had to learn it all - none of that drawing came naturally to me)

But I am afraid of stuff. I'm most afraid of being caught up in a wrangle. And of cruel words. And last week I knew I had to beard a lion in her den (do female lions even have beards?) The moment I thought about it I quaked and had to drag my brain back. I even promised myself a reward as soon as I did this daunting task. I told myself that once I'd made the phone calls, gotten the confrontation over with and done my best, I could buy that lovely neutral red jacket I'd found at Macy's on my Monday shopping foray. It was even on sale! All day Friday I kept pricking myself with reminders to "make that call". By closing time, I'd chickened out.

I spent an uncomfortable weekend knowing that Monday I would have to do the unpleasant task I put off on Friday. And on Monday we had wet slushy snow that threatened my ability to even go to work and do this daunting task. But the snow quit, I got to work and I put on my big girl panties and tackled this confrontation.

Only to be deflated and elated by finding out that everything I asked for was going to be given to me. Unlike last year, when the whole process played out in a humiliatingly public arena, this year I need only be present. I may slide into home plate unnoticed! It was all I could do to keep from reeling. In fact, once I was out of the building and down the block on my way back to my own office, I did a skip and a shout and then a happy dance!

Facing fears is an important part of winning this weight battle. Facing fears often reveals misconceptions about reality that block our own natural courage. Facing fears also lets us know exactly where we stand. If things had turned out differently for me yesterday, at least I would have time to regroup. recruit my support and step back into the arena. I may even have suffered a complete defeat - but I would not have died. I would only have had to make a new plan for how to live within a defeat. And sometimes, like yesterday, facing fears shows me that things are different this time. Things will go my way with ease and grace. and truth to tell - I'm still glad I wasn't in that public arena when I did my little happy dance. That sort of thing is a private act and deserves to be witnessed only by blue skies (or snowy ones) and the neighborhood cats.

Facing fears is part of a healthy life every bit as important as eating nutritious food and exercising your muscles. And it must be a topic of interest to many because not only did Pixilicious post about it today but Oprah made it the lead topic for her April issue of O magazine. Yesterday I ate within my calories/points, I got in lots of exercise and I faced my fears.

and you betcha - I ordered that jacket. I already know it's a perfect fit and it fills a serious gap in my wardrobe.

Be bold my friends and face your fears. You'll feel so much better.

  
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ALEXSGIRL1 3/30/2013 11:08AM

    I have a problem of backing down and letting the other guy wn or get his way . Even when I know my way is better wiser etc i still back down. I rather someone think better of themselves then me . I really should stop doing this soi often I am not Mother teresa. I am happy you faced your ears and rewarded yourself with that beautiful red jacket way to go!!!

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HAKAPES 3/27/2013 4:28PM

    Confrontation is not my default style either, I'm like joining much more. However, I realized it's good to be able to confront in a healthy way, then I went to learn Gordon communication, and I enjoyed it a lot. I learned how to send confronting messages in a way that they are OK for me to send. And what happened, I became even better in joining.

Yes, fears. Sometimes I feel like if we wouldn't fear so much, just 10% less, we would do so many things in life.

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KANSASROSE67 3/26/2013 12:17PM

    I too fear confrontation more than anything else...but I'm learning. I try to ask myself, "What's the worst thing that could happen?" Usually, as you said, whatever it is still wouldn't be the end of the worst...and usually the worst doesn't happen anyway.

Great job...I'm glad things went well for you!

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MSLZZY 3/26/2013 9:10AM

    Excellent advice! So glad it all turned out so well. Now you can enjoy that new jacket and a sense of success that only comes from facing your fears head on and winning.

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JLITT62 3/26/2013 8:35AM

    Public speaking is definitely one of my fears & yes, I let fear hold me back too often.

Great blog!

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DMEYER4 3/26/2013 7:24AM

  congrats on facing your fears and conquering them. The jacket is beautiful and looks great

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