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Friday, April 12, 2013

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Thanks to all of you who left me so many kind messages on my blog post and nominated me as a motivating sparker.

  
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CBLENS 4/13/2013 6:52AM

    A big congratulations, you have definitely motivated me! keep up the great work.

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MKELLY72 4/12/2013 11:36AM

    Yeah!! that is so awesome!!
Michelle

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TINAJANE76 4/12/2013 9:10AM

    Awesome--I'm so happy for you!

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TORTISE110 4/12/2013 9:07AM

    Absolutely deserved!

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MSLZZY 4/12/2013 8:59AM

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150 pounds. Is it a 'bulls-eye' or is it just a technicality?

Friday, April 12, 2013

Well. Here is a conundrum. I have been on the long journey towards the land of good health. ( imagining here a sort of Disney-esque green field with forests near by and a trickling blue stream. There are talking bunnies and fawns and flowers in flat primary colors – maybe some tweeting birds fluttering around, bringing ribbons to twine in my hair. Definitenly have on a princess dress with a tiny waistband.) It's a broad landscape – with room for a number of “numbers” A weight range, fitness/activity points, numerical goals, even dress sizes. I slipped through the door by getting within 2 lbs of my goal – but I hadn't actually reached my goal. I was still walking there but had not arrived. Another cinematic image – Dorothy in the poppy field outside the land of OZ.

And Wednesday I came down with the stomach bug that laid Himself low on Monday. Needless to say, very little has passed my lips. A few bananas and some toast, part of the BRAT diet pediatritions used to prescribe for babies who'd been sick. I am now 2 lbs below my 150 goal.

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Let's face it – I got there by throwing up. So. Do I count it anyway? Or do I wait till I'm back in the saddle, so to speak. Eating solid meals. Making wise choices. I would like to touch that bulls-eye and move on with Other Things – but I don't want to “win by a technicality”. I think I shall wait till my official weigh in day – which is Tuesday and it's at the WW meeting. I'm sure to have gotten well enough to eat normal meals by then and if I'm “at goal” I'll count it and change my ticker on the blog page. OTOH, if my home scales say I've stayed the same I'll just wait until May when I would normally weigh again.

But I have to say - it was a lot of fun to see that red needle on the left side of the scale. emoticon

I'm still a little wobbly, though I am heaps better. I have work at home, so I've decided to take another day off. It's Friday and no need to infuse the library with any residual germs. This is one virus I would hate to pass on. Short – but brutal.

  
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VTRICIA 4/12/2013 6:26PM

    I hit a normal BMI after having a stomach bug, but I didn't ever throw up and I kept eating and well hydrated all through it because the baby had been sick first and I was his food supply. But that wasn't to get to maintenance per se. It just happened to be a goal I hit on the day I'd originally set when I joined SparkCoach.

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SLENDERELLA61 4/12/2013 5:30PM

    Your plan to wait until your official weigh in day is a very good one. That way you will know you deserve every ounce or tenth of that loss! And you will avoid an almost immediate rebound gain. Stick with that good plan! You'll get there for real.

Incidentally, I've hit my goal weight several times, but I don't stay there-- I fluctuate up by the next day . I'm not adding any PP+ or calories until I'm solid at my happy weight. The first time I weighed under the WW goal range, I said to myself that I must eat. I gained 8 pounds that week!! I learned a lesson.

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LRSILVER 4/12/2013 4:05PM

    It is so exciting to see that number even if you know it is water weight. I would count it and work on making it so.

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CHICVINTAGE 4/12/2013 2:12PM

    I'm with you as I came down with the same thing Monday afternoon. Bananas are my friend this week too. I also trying to eat calorie dense foods like peanut butter, chips and even cream cheese when I feel able to stomach something. And lots of water and tea of course. I don't want to lose weight by sickness and dehydration. Even worse I think is that my body may reacts to what's happening as starvation and start converting all calories to fat. That could plateau my efforts for much longer than just recovering from sickness. Yesterday was my worst day but I still managed 950 calories. Personally, I would wait until I was feeling better and well hydrated through and through before I counted myself at goal weight. Your organs and muscles could be dehydrated by that 2lbs as your body fights off sickness.

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JLITT62 4/12/2013 12:12PM

    We know that kind of weight is just water weight & usually finds us again when we're back to normal.

Feel better soon! Sometimes a little sickness does give me the push I need.

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MKELLY72 4/12/2013 11:36AM

    I like the idea of waiting til official weigh-in day too--although--I would also be super happy about seeing that "magical" number on the scale too. It's always exciting:)
Michelle

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KRISKECK 4/12/2013 11:07AM

    First of all, you are hilarious! And secondly, COUNT IT! And congrats! You'll have plenty of time to work on maintaining your current healthy lifestyle - not to mention planning all those numbers and having the birds twine all those ribbons through your hair!

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Cheers,
Kristin

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VMASSEY2 4/12/2013 9:22AM

    I hope you are feeling better Bess.

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TINAJANE76 4/12/2013 9:17AM

    I don't count sick, whether it means the scale says that I'm up or down. As exciting as it is to see that number, weight loss and maintenance by stomach virus isn't really a sound strategy, lol! I think your idea of waiting until your official weigh-in day of Tuesday to count it is a good one.

You're in maintenance land, that mystical Oz, already so don't fret too much over these last pounds. With time and patience they'll come off!

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TORTISE110 4/12/2013 9:10AM

    I like your wait and see attitude. But since you paid a high price for it, I hope you enjoy your day just the way, and weight you are!!

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MSLZZY 4/12/2013 8:59AM

    You know that you will bounce back when you are feeling better. I would take a pass on
counting it but I do know that you will reach that goal-for real!
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Don't Be So Emotional - You Wild Child You

Tuesday, April 09, 2013

Did you - DO you - ever hear that? I sure did/do. Especially as a kid I learned that you get along better if you put a lid on it. And I'm good at it. I have enough of a natural analytical mind (Left Brain School Marm) that I can usually find my way around, under, through - issues. Whenever I've taken those quizzes - you know them, the ones that ask "Are An Emotional Eater?" I always click NO. I don't binge - at least not the way I've heard people describe a binge - eating till you're sick, getting up in the middle of the night to find a 7-11 to buy snickers bars, scarfing down a pie and then baking another one and eating a slice so nobody will know you ate a whole pie.

Wait a minute

I did do that once - when I was pregnant but that was nearly 40 years ago.

so no. I didn't think I was an emotional eater. I did know I was a boredom eater.

BUT WAIT!

I'm almost never bored.

So how come I got all the way up to 199 lbs back in 1996? For that matter, how come I've bounced back up pretty high so many other times.

Ahh.

What I didn't realize is that I have a powerful but stealthy Wild Child Right Brain who will make herself known. If I'm not paying attention to her - she will just get bigger so I can't miss her! No - she won't binge. No - she doesn't grab the box of chocolates like Andrea McCardle did in the movie Three Weddings and a Funeral after winning the pity party story. But she will nibble and snick and snack and whisper "Just this once" and "We can start tomorrow" so sweetly my somewhat lazy School Marm Left Brain will go along.

I've recently had an opportunity to look back over my weight history and I realized that everytime my life hit rough patch, I got fat. At 10 I had the world's most evil school teacher who so tormented me and terrified me that I grew to 100 lbs. At 14 my parents put me in a school I didn't want to go to (that Left Brain Wild Child really did get in with a wild crowd) and I got all the way to 180. In both of those cases I just grew taller but I also grew happier as time went on and I finished high school with a cute figure ... although I didn't know it. I can only tell you so because I've looked at photographs of me back then. At the time I still thought I was fat. But that's another story.

In my 30's, 40',s and 50's I've had my share of troubles - quite like anybody else - and each time I donned fat to protect me. Still, I never thought of myself as an emotional eater. I figured I was a victim of genetics, advertising, weak will, indulgent Left Brain. Well. A victim I am not, but all of those things did contribute to my weight issues. It's just that, another major component in my struggle with weight has been EMOTIONAL EATING!

There. I've said it. I know the enemy and she's mine, holding a bag of M&Ms. It's my dear little Right Brain Wild Child who's feeling unacknowledged. So she acts out. And when she feels like her needs are being met, she cooperates with the weight loss effort and here we are - right where we wanted to be - at goal.

The important thing to remember now is ... to not forget her. To check in regularly and see
that she feels like she's being listened to - acknowledged - getting her needs met. It's all about playing fair with both sides.

And the next time I see the question "Are you an emotional eater?" I'll say "You Betcha!"

  
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PHEBESS 4/11/2013 8:36PM

    Yeah, my Wild Child likes to escape a lot! Fortunately, she's easily diverted by distractions and can forget about dessert and snacks. Until she sees something again.

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WATERMELLEN 4/11/2013 8:30PM

    Terrific that you've got it figured out!!

I like my Wild Child . . . but gotta curb the impulses too.

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SLENDERELLA61 4/11/2013 2:43PM

    What a surprising Ah-Ha! Thanks for sharing. I often don't understand why I overate. There are times I connect eating to feeling down or anxious, but more times I can't say why. I appreciate your honesty. I've got to do more searching for my own Ah-Ha! -Marsha

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MOBYCARP 4/11/2013 7:05AM

    That's one of the great revelations I've had from Spark People. I'm not a binge eater . . . except when I am. I'm not a compulsive overeater . . . except when I am. I already knew I had an issue with boredom eating and stress eating, but it took reading some recovering overeaters' blogs, tracking, and a pile of self-awareness to identify similar behaviors in myself. I was never morbidly obese, probably because I got bailed out by a very fast metabolism.

But yeah, the emotional stuff needs monitoring. I still eat from boredom and stress, but these days it gets worked into the daily nutrition plan. I just have a bit more angst coming in within range on the bad days.

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LRSILVER 4/11/2013 6:48AM

    I think your story mirrors mine. I too am an emotional/stress eater. Once we acknowledge and divert this, things improve.
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WEDDWT 4/9/2013 2:51PM

    She loves it when you call her "my dear little" wild child, she feels so accepted and listened to.How do I know this? I have one too. I have promised to never forget my wild inner child, but when life gets chaotic, I tend to ignore her, and then she can become very demanding! emoticon
Thank you for reminding me today to keep my promises!
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3016DEBRA 4/9/2013 12:37PM

  I think it sounds like you know yourself pretty well...I just know I like to eat! emoticon Thank goodness I've reached my goal & hope to never have to do this again emoticon

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CBLENS 4/9/2013 11:44AM

    I'm a boredom eater.

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DAYHIKER 4/9/2013 10:45AM

    A great blog post Bess! I suspect most of us have emotional eating issues of one stripe or another and facing it can make all the difference.
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CELIAMINER 4/9/2013 9:04AM

    Yes, I'm an emotional eater...and a boredom eater...and a just-because-it's-there eater. I eat. I'm a Foodie, and I like it. Now, I just have to steer myself away from "the near occasions of sin" and toward moderation.

Loved the blog...really made me think!

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SKIRNIR 4/9/2013 8:23AM

    I am an emotional eater. I don't binge, but food can help my mood. I try to remind myself that it is only temporary, but when you are really down, it can feel so tempting to bring your mood back up with food, even if only temporary. But then I usually feel just as down if not a tad more down afterwards, so now, I tend to avoid it. And yes, one does have to keep their mood eating in check, hence why I do still track everything I eat, even though I have been at maintenance nearing a 2.5 years now. Been a little heavy lately, so reducing calories a bit and increasing exercise a little too. I won't gain that 50+ pounds back! I won't!

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1PEACEBUNNY 4/9/2013 8:19AM

    Admitting to emotional eating for most people brings shame like admitting to being a drug addict. I checked no most of time when asked this same question so I thoroughly agree with most of your post. I think I just learned this year that I am an emotional eater. It took a lot just for me to admit that to myself so I get it. I try to cure that side with healthier eating habits, I don't always succeed but I always try and I think this is what will make the difference in those us that ultimately reform from it. Ditto on the wild child but I always just ran mine out and reigned her in as an adult and now just letting her be free is helping me tons so yeah I understand this whole post. But you've come along way and will go further now that you understand you, keep at it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SWEETNEEY 4/9/2013 8:02AM

    Yeah, I would answer no I am not an emotional eater - I just love to eat. i guess love is an emotion. Nice story - love it.

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MSLZZY 4/9/2013 7:55AM

    You have a pretty good grip on things so stay in touch with her but live a life you can enjoy.

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JLITT62 4/9/2013 7:54AM

    I think I'm a mostly recovered emotional eater. I definitely was one, once, but now when stressed I tend to lose my appetite - altho boredom eating can still be a problem. Not at home, because I'm rarely bored, usually while traveling. I love to go places but the actual getting there is usually boring to me!

Recognizing our problems is always the first step to fixing them!

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Non Scale Victory I Never Expected

Monday, April 08, 2013

Woo Woo. There's actually a post I've been meaning to write ... and I'll get to it sometime this week - but I just had to post about a surprise NSV I got yesterday.



Shoes! My shoes! My (slightly high) platform wedgies that should have fit so well but that I have never worn because they don't - they hurt my feet and legs - don't! All this fitness and strength training I've been doing coupled with carrying around less weight overall made these cute shoes not just fit but feel great!

I'm wearing them today.

Warm weather is here at last after the longest coldest spring I can remember. Yesterday afternoon I had a few hours alone and I pulled out the two big tubs of summer clothes and went shopping. I tried on tops and skirts and dresses and shorts. I tried this with that and that with this. I tried belts and jewelry and shoes and that's when I discovered that shoes I used to think about wearing but did not - because they made my feet hurt or my knees - didn't do that any more. My strong legs and good balance and toned muscles keep it all together and those shoes are just fine.

and there is another Big Pile of things to give to the Goodwill. Only one thing is just perfect for my cousin - it's really more her sort of red than mine. She's cherry red. I'm tomato.

And I sat down with Himself and pointed out that we own clothes we never wear. Anything we think we like gets 12 more months and if we don't wear it by then - out it goes - no matter now nice it is. This is a no loitering closet.

Happy Monday to you all! May you have a NSV this week.

  
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MOBYCARP 4/11/2013 6:59AM

    I gave away a lot of clothes that no longer fit in 2012, but I *still* struggle with getting rid of clothes just because I want the closet space. I probably should put a closet review reminder on my calendar, because I only tend to think about it when I don't have time to make a considered, nonemotional decision.

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MOSTMOM1 4/8/2013 4:24PM

    Woohoo!!! Great NSV!

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ENG_TV 4/8/2013 11:23AM

    Cute shoes! Love the idea of a no loitering closet. Need to make that my goal too!

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CHICVINTAGE 4/8/2013 11:12AM

    That's fantastic! I love the shoes and have been looking for some just like them to wear with my retro bathing suit. Mind sharing where you bought them?

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DAYHIKER 4/8/2013 9:53AM

    Cute shoes and a great victory! emoticon It's a great encouragement to keep you keeping on and to those of us who are struggling as well! emoticon

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MSLZZY 4/8/2013 9:47AM

    Cute shoes and hurrah for cleaner closets. Someone will be blessed with what you no longer need-a true NSV!

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CAROLJEAN64 4/8/2013 9:10AM

    Love the shoes and love the idea of a "no loitering closets."

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SLIMMERJESSE 4/8/2013 8:43AM

    Woohoo!

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JLITT62 4/8/2013 8:39AM

    That is a great NSV!

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CELIAMINER 4/8/2013 8:38AM

    Me, too! Love the NSVs!

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MIDROAD 4/8/2013 8:36AM

    You're rocking those shoes, awesome!

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NELLJONES 4/8/2013 8:21AM

    We always think of weight loss in terms of pants, but it works for shoes, too. emoticon

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BARB4HEALTH 4/8/2013 8:20AM

    emoticon It is wonderful to have a comfortable pair of shoes and a great Victory!

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NSPIXIE 4/8/2013 7:56AM

    Awesome! I really like those shoes!

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1935MARY 4/8/2013 7:45AM

    Great I too, can wear shoes I couldn't . Bras that were to tight fit now. This is just Awesome. When the scale don't show it, the clothes always does. emoticon Those are cute shoes.

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Rewards? Figure It Out

Friday, April 05, 2013

I love it when I get that lightbulb moment - emoticon
that ah-ha sensation as a new idea, a new way of looking at an old issue, reveals itself to me in perfect clarity. This morning Spark People sent me one of those treasures in Dean Anderson's article "How to Use Rewards to Get the Results You Want"
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Rewards have always been one of my struggle issues. I find it conflicting to refuse to give myself something I can afford and somewhat neurotic to deny myself something because I have decided I am bad or a failure. The "bad" and "failure" designations are ... well, not me.

Of course, I find the idea of "giving" myself something I can't afford sets up a conflict of such proportions in my head that I see it sort of explodes and becomes an impossibility. (Love me some money management, you see.)

When all is said and done, I am more like Ruskin who said, "The highest reward for a man's toil is not what he gets for it but what he becomes by it."

So how do rewards fit into a weight loss/weight management life? Ahhh - by not tying it to a scale. Not tying it to numbers. At least, not tying it ONLY to the number on the scale. Tie the reward to actions needed to live a healthy life - in other words .... get this ... Reward Those Healthy Choices!

Uh. Duuh.

Okay I know. You already got this. But for me this message was like a firework display, shedding colorful light on an issue that has eluded me.

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And it's particularly apropos in light of the work I'm doing to get stronger. Working with my personal trainer yesterday I pushed through some amazing physical barriers. There was a moment when I began a lift and hit a feeling of added resistance and then pushed through without any pain at all - though it took additional mental and physical effort I didn't realize I had. It was a magnificent experience - a Lifter's Push akin to the Runner's High.

As I read Dean Anderson's article I thought - Oh. Yes. That's the sort of thing that deserves a reward. A magnificent action chosen by me that took 100% of my abilities - and ... I did it! And best of all is that - having made that extra effort I am walking around, 24 hours later, still feeling so proud of myself.

And I think THAT is the greatest reward I could give myself.

  
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MSLZZY 4/5/2013 10:10AM

    Perfect! I read the same article and it got me to thinking I should try a find a reward for the next challenge. Personal satisfaction might just be it.

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CELIAMINER 4/5/2013 8:27AM

    Well said! I'm struggling with rewards, too, right now. I splurged on a Spark Goodie cleaning service to push me toward better organization, but a real cleaning service is not in our budget right now. Anyway, my ah-ha from Dean's blog is that it's time to shake things up a bit. I'm a little over a month from hitting my one-year maintenance milestone, and I have not rewarded myself at all for maintaining for nearly 11 months. Perhaps I'll start by freshening up my Spark page to make it more maintenance oriented and change the tired goals I check off each day to make them more meaningful and a little harder. Wow, starting to feel that old motivation again.

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