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What you get for your 1220 calories

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Because that's what's in a slice of Cheesecake Factory White Chocolate Caramel Macadamia Nut Cheesecake. Just in case you wanted to know, you know? Just in case.

If you are doing weight watchers too... as I am ... that is 24 points per slice. Of course you can always have only half a slice and let your sister eat the other half. Especially if you've already indulged in lunch. A careful lunch, of course, but still restaurant lavish. It is the time between her birthday and mine and we have been planing to celebrate both milestones with new underwear. Good quality underwear is important for everyone but for the mature figure it is essential and ... though we may not like thinking of ourselves as mature figured ladies ... that's what we are. Such things don't come cheaply. We had been saving for this splurge shopping trip for a couple of months. It was natural to save for the calories as well and thankfully, I'm at a stage these days where if I do not want to eat dinner I don't feel so compelled to do so. I was still way over the daily limits by 6:30 so Himself had to dine alone.

Anyway - back to the 1220 calorie cheesecake. Was it worth it? Hmmm. Well. It was ... you know. It wasn't. The best part was the caramel and I would rather have just eaten straight caramel, or maybe caramel covered in a good quality chocolate. I realize now that I'm only modestly fond of macadamia nuts. I would rather have had cashews if I were going to blitz out the calories. And the caramel was so intense it sort of hid the white chocolate. what do you know. The name of that cake was the part that gave the most pleasure.

I think next time I will order just the original cheesecake. At 710 calories it logs in as 14 points instead of 24 and if I can remember to share it with a sister or a girlfriend I would only eat half of those!

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KANSASROSE67 10/25/2012 12:15AM

    I once shared an Applebees's Chocolate Chip Cookie Sundae with my 2 kids and it was DELICOUS! Then I went home and learned that if I had eaten it by myself it would have contained 1500 entire day's worth for ONE dessert!!!

Still, there are times when it would be worth it....

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MAHGRET 10/13/2012 9:34AM

    Wow. I had no idea,thanks for sharing the information.

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HELLENACKERMAN 10/13/2012 8:44AM

    That's crazy!! I can't believe there are that many calories!!

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MSLZZY 10/13/2012 8:24AM

    Call it a treat and go for original cheesecake next time.
My DD's MIL make pumkin cheesecake and rhubarb
cheesecake that are worth the eating experience. But
that is only during the holidays. All things in moderation.

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SHEILA1505 10/13/2012 8:18AM

    OMW - just one slice???!!!!!
And if you didn't eat the base??
And I'll bet their slice isn't the same size as the portion-controlled 1220 cal slice :)
It had better be worth it
Hmmm seems that it wasn't!

Oh I'm so glad that this doesn't factor in my choices - always a risk that they've cheated and put some gluten in the cheesey part to make it set ...


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YOGAWITCH 10/13/2012 7:51AM

    I am always amazed at the calories in restaurant food.

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Two Weddings - But No Funeral

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Way last January, our oldest friends dropped by with some important information. SAVE THIS DATE for their daughter's wedding, the first weekend in October. Not 2 months later we got news from beloved cousins to SAVE THIS DATE for their daughter's wedding, the first weekend in October. It was a tough choice, but we let family trump friendship on Saturday but we made sure to spend Friday evening up at the farm (a different farm) with P&T and their brideful daughter, D and all their new (and old) family. Our hearts were so filled with long ago memories - T bringing P over to our house on their first date. Playing the music at their wedding 2 years later. T's dog Clancy going crazy at the spring, as we flipped gourds of water over his head. P taking me to VaBeach during a hideously difficult period I had to plow through in the 80's.

This is an old friendship - a sweet strength in my life and I treasure it. There was a softball game and there was fried chicken. There was a bonfire and there were oysters. This is, after all, Tidewater Virginia. And though we couldn't be at the wedding I've seen pictures. It was adorable and the bride was beautiful. Just the way it should be.

For us, though, Saturday meant an early start to Bedford where COUSINS live and where another wedding was gearing up. This is the family of cousins whose little girls came every summer to Bess's Girls Camp - to play with my big girl art toys and swim down the red moon path. The bride was the great granddaughter of our precious Aunt Anna - the family matriarch who never abused her power but who also made her thoughts known to all, even if she didn't drive and lived 200 miles away.

We are just one thread of this vastly woven plaid of a family - the Tidewater thread that glides under and around the Arkansas thread, the Tennessee thread, the South Carolina thread, and all the other Virginia threads - glimmering and winking our own colors to blend with the beautiful cloth that is family.

The drive is one of my favorite pathways across Virginia. At least a quarter of the way is down Rt. 60, a long steel-blue ribbon of highway that shakes itself out over the rolling landscape of Piedmont VA, through Powhatan, Cumberland and Buckingham counties. We got to the motel in good time and ran straight into the bride's Uncle R, in the lobby watching the Arkansas/Auburn game. So yes. I took the clothes upstairs - a dress, a small overnight bag and a suit (I thought).

Only. It was not a suit. I had taken BD's suit coat to the cleaners that week, along with some summer things of mine that needed to be prepped for winter storage, but not the trousers. I packed the overnight case for us both but assumed someone else had gotten his own suit together. Teach me a lesson, right? There at the motel I discovered that while I could take the top half of my husband to a wedding, the bottom half was not going anywhere with me. Not in those ripped dirty jeans.

"I'll just have to go as I am" was his first flippant effort to mask panic.

"Not with me you won't," was my reply. "There's at least a Walmart in this little town - we can find you something that's at least clean"So off to the tiny shopping center we went to discover a Goodwill store right next door. A very nice Goodwill store with a pair of size 38 grey suit trousers that were as close a match to his jacket as anybody could wish - certainly a closer match than anybody looking at us would notice. For $3.50. See?

With that kind of luck I should have bought a lottery ticket!

The wedding was just about the happiest, smiling-est, hugging-est wedding I've ever been to. I took lots of very fuzzy photos - the bride's were the worst - but I got some good snaps of huggin' cousins and while the rest of my pictures aren't worth displaying, they're sure fun for me to look at.

Best of all? With TWO weddings and all that travel, which means that much less opportunity to exercise, I gained only .4 lbs. And yesterday I was back in the gym at the bootcamp class. I plan to reach my goal before the November winds chill my little corner of the world. Here's a picture of me with Himself, all dolled up for the festivities.

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KANSASROSE67 10/10/2012 2:04PM

    Love the pants story! Glad you had such a great time.

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SHEILA1505 10/10/2012 10:16AM

    What a great weekend!

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MSLZZY 10/10/2012 8:07AM

    You averted a disaster with quick thinking. Goodwill
does have some very nice clothes. You just need to
look a little longer than in a regular store.
So glad this worked out. Your description of the
family, the scenery and all the rest was delightful.
You sure have a way with words.
And that little bit of weight gain was balanced
by all the good times you had. HUGS!

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Stay in the picture

Thursday, October 04, 2012

I seldom agree with the Huffington Post but this article they had today was so poignant and so true for us all - that I wanted to be sure all my spark friends saw it ... just in case you didn't:

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MSLZZY 10/4/2012 9:35AM

    For many years, I was the one taking the pictures. Then
came the time for 3 generation pictures with DH and MIL
and I was never included. One Sunday, I walked away
from my DD's house and cried. Why couldn't I have
been included in just ONE of those special moments?
Did I not count? Yes, I know it was DH's side of the
family that was celebrating 3 generations. Both of
my parents are gone and I will NEVER have that kind
of opportunity to see my mom, myself and my DD's
in such a picture. How much time would it have taken
to include me? I finally told my DD's how I felt and since
then, at least one picture includes me, albeit I am told
to stand on the far side. Hurtful, but at least I am there.
One day they may wish I was there but for now, I know
I was there and they chose to focus on someone else.
Do not cry for me but give thought to who you include.
Someone is waiting for their time in the limelight, too.

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SFREY217 10/4/2012 7:55AM

    *tear* Thanks for posting this ...... I really needed to hear this today !

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ROXIGIRL 10/4/2012 7:37AM

    Thank you! So true,this article made me cry - so silly of me...

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Can't lose with exercise - Can't lose without it - or why I love the English Language

Wednesday, October 03, 2012

Himself and I are watching one of those Great Courses on video, picked up at a used library book sale; The History of the English Language. It's fascinating to see how language changes and moves and becomes something different depending on where its speakers go and with whom they come into contact. All sorts of quirks and oddities pop up in English - more than in almost any other language, in large part because the language lends itself to borrowing. The contranym in the title of this post is a great example of eccentric English.

We have an idiom "You can't lose with ______" that means you will win with whatever it is you have. You are unable to lose, with lose meaning 'fail'. But when the verb 'lose' is used in a particular context, it can have an unspoken but implied object which, in the case of Spark People, is the word "weight". Thus it means "you are unable to lose (weight) without also having __________." And in my case and on my journey to optimum health, the blank must be filled with exercise.

For the past 3 weeks my exercise routine has been sorely interrupted. Out of town trips, afternoons in the city, new baby puppy, sudden work details (you know the sort - the kind that Must Be Attended To) cropping up just at 5 o'clock. Throughout most of September my visits to the gym have been hit or miss - and mostly miss.

I like my routine which is 4 days in a row at the gym, (M-Th) a day off (F) a day of heavy duty housework (S) and long walks on Sunday. I do different things at the gym on different days. I may swim or use the elliptical or do strength training - but those 4 days are the core of my fitness routine. When I'm regular about them my body grows stronger and fitter and more stable. But when I miss a day here or a day there - YIKES! - not only do I feel 'off" but I also gain weight. Not good.

The past 3 weeks my weight has crept up by ounces and the past 3 weeks I've only made it to the gym one or two days a week. So on Sunday I pulled out my ancient thick foam step-aerobics step and popped one of my old favorite CDs into the player and worked up a great sweat.

Ahhh. It was like meeting up with an old friend. I remembered all the reasons I loved step-aerobics - the speed, the snappy music, the quick elevated heart rate. It's not the hip cool exercise these days so there aren't any classes in my rural, sparsely populated area. Zumba is the big thing here, but I am less attracted to it - though it's fun enough. It's just that there's something about the regularity of step routines that satisfies my little orderly Virgo soul.

emoticon (see? even Spark People doesn't have a step emoticon.) emoticon

And so - It's obvious to me that with all the Other Interruptions that will naturally intrude on my autumn routine - and believe me, there are many! - I had best incorporate Step-Aerobics back into my week: on Sundays for sure - and perhaps on some of those days when I know I won't be able to make it to the gym after work.

Oh .. and the scale this week? It was down again - I am still flirting with goal - but this time it's the 'come hither' flirt, not the 'stay back' one. Let us hope that this week, in spite of TWO weddings on the weekend - I shall stay within my calories and post another loss on Tuesday.

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JLITT62 10/3/2012 2:22PM

    Good luck with those weddings & squeezing in exercise!

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R-U-JELLEN 10/3/2012 1:49PM

    It is interesting how the language changes. One of the phrases that bothers me is "I could care less". The phrase was always "I couldn't care less" meaning, of course that you don't care at all. Now, everyone,even newscasters, etc. use "I could" which actually means that you must care some. Another interesting choice of words here in West Texas is when you take something out of the freezer to "unthaw" it. Never could understand that turn of the phrase!

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SHEILA1505 10/3/2012 9:50AM

    I enjoy Step too :)

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MAHGRET 10/3/2012 9:45AM

    Great post, thanks for sharing the inspiration.

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MSLZZY 10/3/2012 9:27AM

    You are changing things up out of necessity bu that
is a good thing. I may have to dust off my CD's as
well. Have a great week and enjoy the weddings.
Hopefully there are plenty of healthy choices. HUGS!

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AZMOMXTWO 10/3/2012 7:54AM

  but you still have a great time

enjoy life and keep trying

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October 12 in 12

Tuesday, October 02, 2012

Well. As our dear Robert Burns reminds us, the best laid schemes gang aft agley, and if there was ever an agley September, this was it. Whew. Everything just seemed to interrupt everything else. It was a "lower my head and plow on through" month.

Mind now - it was not a bad month. It held a Birthday - complete with 3 deserts, 2 happy birthday songs and presents. It had a New Puppy in it. It included buying a completely Bess-like dress at way more than I usually spend. There were a number of parties and there were may loving birthday wishes too. But ... it was also a doughy month - a 'swimming-in-pudding' month - a long hard tough chew of a month and for the first time I can ever remember - it was a September I was pleased to bid goodbye.

All the astrologers are giving me uplifting October horoscopes though, and I am ready to welcome them into my life. Ready for life to be a little bit easier, a little bit more predictable. Adding a New Habit to your life is difficult when things turn all upside down from day to day. Let us hope this more settled period will help me score higher on my Habit-0-Meter.

First off - the habit for October is:

10. Ditto at work - Select something from the 5-year Plan and step one step closer to achieving it - or to realizing it's not the goal we wanted to achieve and getting it out of the plan.

This is the mate to "reading the 5-year Plan every day - September's habit. I won't be able to tell if I'm actually forming this habit (which I have always heard as "Good For You") unless I stick to September's habit - a good thing since I did not do all that well at reading the plan every day last month. I started off with enthusiasm but crowded days and a little internal anxiety about Other Things made it easy to drift away from my focus. Now that I acutally have to do something each day besides look at it - maybe I'll look at it more often. But ... Daily is a bit of over-kill. Weekly will be often enough.

As for the score card on the rest of my habits, let's just have a quick review.

September: Read 5-year plan daily - uh. hmm. how about 10 times or 33% which is a failing grade except that .... even that 30% was a Big Help. I will pass me - but, just barely. D+ emoticon

August (and September) Draw every day ... well. I drew about 20 days out of the month - whic is about 66% of the time so - see above, right? Another D+ emoticon

July: Charles Schwab List at work - yes. even when I didn't obey it at least I knew if I was slipping off the point. Not perfect - but I would say a B+ emoticon

June: One Step Towards Big Life Goal .... I'm still blaming the kinds of things that were happening last month so I'll give myself a C
May: Compliment someone every day hmmm. my bad. another C emoticon

April: Exercise even here, with my beloved exercise I was a slacker. C- for me emoticon

March: Water - nope. Pretty bad with this one too. Not a failing grade but maybe a D+ emoticon

Feb: Prayer - here I did much better. I made a conscious effort to pray every day. Not always at the same time - which I think would make it easier to do - but every single day I took some time out to pray. This was an A fer sure. emoticon

Jan: Track what I eat. Well. I did. I tracked all those coconut cakes and did you know an Applebee's shooter desert - yeah - I'm talking about the small desert - is 13 Weight Watcher's points which translates out to 650 calories or 1/3 the daily total for an adult female. Yikes! Not good. So. I tracked. But I gained weight - and I don't track for the fun of it. I track to some purpose and the purpose is weight loss or weight maintenance. Not weight gain. So that is a C as well. emoticon

Hmmm. C habit maker. Average. Not, alas, what I hoped these Good Habits would lead me to. I can be aveage without trying. Let us hope I will do better this month. At Tara.

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MSLZZY 10/2/2012 7:48AM

    Just keep trying. At average, you are still better than
a lot of others. But perfect-nope, none of us are and
it will never happen. Just do your best. HUGS! emoticon

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