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Wedded Bloat

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

This weekend it really hit me just how powerfully the habits I've created with Himself contribute to my OUR expanded waistlines. Himself was away all last week and while he was gone I:

got in 5 extra laps at the pool
had 5 fruits and vegetables a day
stayed within my 1500 calorie limit
lost 1.5 lbs

He came home on Friday and so I missed my Saturday swim, drank wine with every meal ... which contributed to the dessert desire, and the festive meals desire and lo and behold - this morning those 1.5 lbs are right back on!

One weekend of food debauchery wiped out one week of careful living - this, in spite of taking two walks that totalled 8 miles!

It would be an impossible situation if one of us were the skinny bones and the other was the marshmallow. It isn't so. Both of us need to drop some lbs and it's time we find some Other Ways of enjoying ourselves besides noshing down at the table. I'll be putting the old thinking cap on this week to come up with some solutions because Something Must Be Done!

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AEBROWNSON 10/12/2010 10:06AM

    Sounds like at least one of you needs a little more buy-in to the whole idea of getting healthier...and I don't think it's you LOL! Have you talked with DH about what happened--then maybe the two of you can come up with a solution, rather than just you trying to take care of the issue for both of you.

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JLITT62 10/12/2010 7:40AM

    It's funny how being lonely can cause you to eat more, but being around other people can cause you to eat more too!

Wish I had some suggestions for you . . . it's a tough nut to crack.

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MSLZZY 10/12/2010 7:17AM

    You do so well and the, life happens! Turn it around and focus on what you need to do to
make it happen. Be persistent and consistent! Maybe include DH on walks so he can see
and feel the benfits of a healthier lifestyle. HUGS! emoticon emoticon

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SHEILA1505 10/12/2010 6:41AM

    Isn't this the truth!
My recent trips away were awesome, great company, lots of attention etc but oh, boy, the poor choices to forget portion control, have additional wine cos of party mode and all the hard work of an entire year went down the drain :( It's not as if anyone twisted my arm either - just my own stupidity!

Now you have had a wake-up call and will have to modify your recipes so that you can both benefit - good luck! Have fun with the research and experiments :))


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Hitting the wall - today's Best of Sparkpeople email

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

Hitting That Big Old Wall - How to Keep Going When You Feel Like Stopping, by Julie Isphording, really struck a chord with me today. I feel like I've been hitting that wall all summer long and with far less success than Julie encourages you to grasp. The truth is - it's been easy to just coast along, not eating badly but not eating well either. Just ... over eating a little - just enough to keep my weight lodged firmly in place. Because it has been hard. It IS hard to lose weight. Every one of you here, who have successfully lost weight, has worked hard at it. It's hard to resist temptations. It's hard to plan ahead. It's hard to make good choices and it's hard to remember what those good choices are!

And it is easy to go along with the status quo. In my own case, my life is sweet and satisfactory and I have lived in the same place so long that people think I'm just fine the way I am. I am only reminded of how much I want things to change when I see candid photographs of me. Ugh. Then I am not just reminded - I am floored - sometimes I am horrified.

But I know I am capable of doing hard things - of even lasting to the finish line. I am reminded of the time I truly hit a wall at work - performing a task that daunted me by it's enormity. I sat on the floor one day, surrounded by old fashioned catalog cards and just thought "I am defeated." and felt the complete and utter magnitude of my defeat. and then - since not finishing this task really wasn't an option .. somehow I continued working. And eventually, if shabbily, I did complete that task.

A less arduous and daunting incident of coming up against a wall .. or at least noticing how close that wall is - has happened as I've been swimming laps. Several weeks ago I remember gasping after the 10th lap and wondering if I had what it takes to go that one more lap. I took a bit of a breather and then plunged in. Today I will swim 25 laps and I'll have to push myself for those last 2 - but I have this sweet history of being able to go Just One More Lap so I am more confident of my success. I know that wall will be up there, but I believe in my ability more now. My consistent application of the JOML principle has built that confidence and added a bit of pride to the mixture.

And so. Perhaps what I need is a series of small Just One Less Bites. Perhaps today is a good day to fold that thought into my brain. Yes. I like that. Today I will take Just One Bite Less and see where it gets me in, say, 6 weeks!

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JLITT62 10/6/2010 9:16AM

    When I was in the middle of my journey, I often left just a few bites over. Now I rarely do -- so much less food to eat! But sometimes I still do.

Thankfully, I could swim almost forever. I don't push myself too too hard with the swimming, tho, especially my night swimming when it's almost meditative for me. But I like your JOML. I do that when I use the kickboard. Each week I'll try JOML.

Summers are hard. They seem like they should be so easy, but they're really not. But now is a great time to regroup & refocus!

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SHEILA1505 10/6/2010 8:23AM

    You know Bess - last night I'd done well with my calories - I wasn't hungry and had a couple of hours to go till bed-time. I was just about to have a pot of yogurt with strawberries and seeds and I heard Skype calling me! After an hour of chatting to favourite people, I went to bed early and never bothered with the late-night snack. So - finding a distraction saved me blasting my way thru another 200 calories - and it would not have ended there :))

Good luck - you more than have what it takes


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IFDEEVARUNS2 10/6/2010 7:42AM

    Small steps, small bites; you're on track! And I know you can do it, and so do you.

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MSLZZY 10/6/2010 7:21AM

    Just one bite less can lead to success! Very positive! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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More about that bear and a bit about people's different expectations

Monday, September 27, 2010

Just a bit more about seeing a bear up close and personal. He was about 25 feet from the car. He was a young thing and didn't look all that well fed for the winter. The drought in the mountains is as bad as the drought here at home so there maynot be as much to eat as usual. This may be why he was so close to the highway, since bears usually shy away from humans. He'd evidently found something tasty because he was nodding his head as he licked a stem. Although I'd been snapping photos all day long my hands fumbled as I tried to take his picture, I was so excited. He, otoh, just lifted his head and stared back at me.

He looked so much like a cuddly pet (obvious stuffed animal conditioning) that it was all I could do to refrain from getting out of the car and scratching him behind his furry ears. As we gazed enraptured, a bunch of the rudest motorcycle guys pulled up behind us and laid on their horns, reving their engines and completely ignoring one of the great opportunities of driving down Skyline Drive. Their honking and noise spooked him and he ran off into the woods.

Too bad for them.

It got me to thinking about how people look for different things in life. Those jerks (we ran into them later on and they continued to behave like rotten 14 year old bullies) obviously wanted a different park experience - which is certainly their prerogative. But they didn't want us to have our sort of park experience and actually crowded around us honking and reving instead of just zooming on to their windy destination. It was rather appalling that a bunch of people would really think it was their job to punish someone they met on the highway who just happened to want something different from what they wanted.

Strange experience - it sort of left me twitchy about all the other motorcyclists who came and went as we tooled along. Odd how human nature can sometimes be so ugly and how quickly prejudices can blossom after a bad experience.

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JUSTDUCKY1405 10/3/2010 10:09PM

    So many people, living their lives soooo differently... really makes you wonder! Do you think those people who have their heads shoved really far up their butts ever wake up? Sad if they don't!

Sorry they ruined your bear experience! I can imagine why you were so simply intrigued with your present moment and why you would get so upset with their blatant disrespect for the wonderful now!


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JLITT62 9/27/2010 8:30AM

    I suppose you gotta take the good with the bad. Those motorcycle jerks sound like they're probably real insecure, which is why they've got to make such loud noises -- to make themselves feel like big men. Sad.

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MSLZZY 9/27/2010 8:18AM

    Those people probably have no appreciation of nature-sigh!

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BESSHAILE 9/27/2010 7:45AM

    Oh - my own prejudices lasted only till I got off the parkway. People who will bully drivers in one place might just be up ahead waiting to bully you again. My first experience of road rage, though, wasn't on a crowded freeway, but on a beautiful scenic drive with a 35 mph speed limit. weird.

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WESLEYV 9/27/2010 7:29AM

    Great experience for you seeing the bear. Too bad a few motorcyclist will give you a bad impression of all the others who are not so bad.

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Saturday, September 25, 2010

Sometimes when you go with the flow the most amazing things happen. I had plans to take Friday off and visit a friend I haven't seen in almost a year. Alas - her whole family is down sick with some sort of crud and we put that visit off to a healthier time. But with the day off already arranged it seemed just too bad to not make something of it. Himself suggested taking a ramble down Skyline Drive and we were heading west by 9 o'clock.

And while it was a gorgeous trip altogether with sunny skies and lots of breezes flowing up the mountainsides, the most exciting thing of all was rounding a bend and spotting this fellow:

Truly - some things are breathtaking

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MSLZZY 9/25/2010 11:39PM


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ELLENB10 9/25/2010 1:11PM

    Serendipity, indeed! Treasure those moments!

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JLITT62 9/25/2010 12:42PM

    Wow, you must've been awfully close to him!

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WEDDWT 9/25/2010 12:13PM

    He looks a little skinny, I don't suppose you shared any of your nuts and berries and allowed this sublimely wild creature to find his own trail mix. Glad you had your camera! Never know what you will see while you're out and about!

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SHEILA1505 9/25/2010 11:10AM

Was that scary, too?

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That little extra push

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Early this month I started swimming laps at my gym pool. I believe the first time I did it I swam five laps. It took a bit of asking around to find out how many laps it takes to swim a mile and the answer is some fractional one - so I have settled for 34.5 laps. I decided that each time I went to the pool I would swim one more lap. Saturday before last I really had to push myself to swim 11 but last Saturday I realized that when I'd swum 14 laps I could have swum another if I'd had to. Ditto on Monday when I pushed it to 15 and when I walked away from the gym I got really psyched at the thought of swimming half a mile on this coming Saturday.

But though I love the idea of routine - life seldom gives it to me. I will be doing something else this Saturday and there is no way I can get to the pool between now and then either. So yesterday I just decided to give that little extra push and bump up the laps by 2 instead of 1. And when I'd swum 17 laps there was no reason to not do the extra half lap and be sure I'd gotten in my half a mile.

I've been surprised at how long it takes me to swim half a mile - 30 minutes - which is twice as long as the average swimmer - though those are race times and for people between 40-49 and I am nearly 10 years older. But I am not in any hurry right now. What I am working for is endurance. If I find someone to give me some speed tips great - but what I want to be able to do is swim a mile. That's the distance from one side of my river to the other. I'd like, next summer, to swim across the river.

Of course, on swim days I sleep like a log through the night; another added bonus. but isn't it nice to realize that sometimes it only takes a little push to do something big?

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ELLENB10 9/23/2010 8:25PM

    Congratulations! I've always admired people who can swim distances! emoticon

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WEDDWT 9/23/2010 4:50PM

    Great! Have you noticed a diff in your lower back? Keep up the good work!

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JLITT62 9/23/2010 8:49AM

    "isn't it nice to realize that sometimes it only takes a little push to do something big?"

What a great insight!

I am not a fast swimmer. I don't do anything fast! It's just my nature.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 9/23/2010 8:27AM

    Great job!

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MSLZZY 9/23/2010 7:58AM

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SHEILA1505 9/23/2010 6:35AM

    This is H U G E ! Bess! Well done :))

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