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I knew that ... just forgot to do it

Friday, March 26, 2010


Oh. Don't eat dinner while watching television, of course.

I've been absolutely enjoying eating mindfully - Only when I'm hungry, Only what I want, Savoring every bite and Stopping when I'm full - these past two days. And I can feel the difference and I can see the difference on the nutrition chart - except - last night I sat watching television as I dined with Himself - we actually watch old tv dvd's and stop them to discuss plot flaws and guess the end of the mystery - and I never even realized when I got full. I ended up full - even a little too full though, not bloated or anything - but the whole experience of eating was lost in the tv story unfolding before me.

I am sure it was a good dinner. but I never savored anything past that first bite. (baked salmon - yum) Basically I threw away the pleasure of food for a television show I could have watched later! You'd think I didn't even LIKE food!

So. New rule in the Haile family.

Dinner is eaten in the dining room, not the den. Period. emoticon

Happily, I know Someone will go along with this. He's fun that way and always likes the opportunity to talk.

Of course. I knew this. I just didn't do it. I won't make that mistake again.

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ALEXTHEHUNN 3/26/2010 8:58AM

    This is an excellent reminder of what I should be doing. Thanks for the nudge in the right direction.

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JLITT62 3/26/2010 8:35AM

    It drives my DH nuts that I won't let him watch tv while I'm eating (we often eat lunch at different times, for instance, or I might be having some dessert when he's finished).

Which is pretty funny, considering as kids we begged our Mom to watch TV while eating dinner . . . and yes, she usually caved. I guess I'm stricter.


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PLAYBLUES22 3/26/2010 8:13AM

    Nice job I' just learning the same thing and believe me it does make a difference emoticon

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MSLZZY 3/26/2010 8:01AM

    I'll take my cue from you! Eat at the table and focus on what I am eating, tasting and savoriing each bite. You are so smart and I'm glad you get good support on this. I prefer not to talk with my mouth full LOL! Have a great Friday! emoticon

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A good day - with progress towards a goal

Thursday, March 25, 2010

One of my goals is to feel more confident around food - to feel calm and at ease in all food situations. I hate the sensation that IF a box of cookies is in the house I WILL eat it. Of course, I don't keep them around often, though during Girl Scout season I am likely to have several or many boxes of them at least pass through my hands. Most have been immediately donated to armed service folk overseas and a goodly number of them have been handed off to the 20 something young man who is on my staff - but a few boxes have made it home.

Anyway I am digressing ... Just know that I seldom have sweets in the house but I sometimes do.

The point is - I would like to be confident around food so that if there are boxes of cookies, or huge platters of macaroni and cheese (far more likely to tempt me) or pizza or any of the other juicy gooey things that can show up on a dinner plate, I can either take a healthy sized portion or pass - depending on how hungry I am - not on how irresistable the food is.

I want me to be the boss, not food. I am working hard to develop the ability to stand back and asses my physical needs - the ones my sweet little body will tell me any time I ask it how it is. I haven't been doing that very well the past month and my weight reflectes this. So yesterday I decided that for the next 4 days I intend to devote myself completely to asking first and then eating.

The idea is that I can do anything for 4 days. On Sunday I may commit to another 4 days or I may take a day off. Well. I suspect I shan't take the day off because I feel so good when I eat Only when I am hungry, Only want I want, Savor each bite and Stop when I am full. But I will still DECIDE about a second 4 day stint, I won't go onto autopilot just yet. The goal is to string enough 4 days together to make eating this way the norm but I am not there yet.

Best of all, eating this way will lead to the big goal of being confident about food - so I won't end up like this:

(That is a sleeve of Girl Scout Thin Mints, promising to still respect me after I wake up from eating his box mate)

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SANDYJAS 3/25/2010 11:26AM

    LOL! I love the sleeve man.

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SHEALUNA 3/25/2010 9:53AM

Love the cartoon! That's fantastic!

I feel the same way. I'm really learning to ask my body about and then LISTEN to what it has to say. Do I want this because I'm hungry or because I'm bored/emotional/etc.? One day we will do this naturally, but until then it is a constant, conscious decision.

Go us!

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JKTENTATIVE 3/25/2010 9:11AM

    You know the old saying about potato chips, "you can't eat just one." I have totally bought into it - in that I find it is so much easier not to eat anything on the "no-no" list, than it is to eat it in moderation. Your goal is actually much more advanced that this approach and I applaud you for it and wish you great success. Perhaps at some point I also will be able to find it inside myself to have a handful of pretzels without finishing the entire bag, regardless of my hunger level. For now, they are not permitted in my home. Yes - the self-scan you are employing is a tangible, achievable goal

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HARPERLADY 3/25/2010 8:49AM

    I hope your a success with asking and maintaining 4 days, I notice the more I eat healthy the less I am hungry during the day so I guess healthy foods really are more filling but when I get around pizza watch out so I try never to take a bite cause I know it will be a down fall or I have a salad on side with it to help fill me, best of luck to you

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JLITT62 3/25/2010 8:16AM

    Heck, sometimes just one meal at a time is an accomplishment!

It's hard to trust our bodies. They may know what's truly best for us, but our mind gets all tangled up in things. Here's to a great 4 days!

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ALEXTHEHUNN 3/25/2010 7:46AM

    Sometimes it even helps to break it down to 1 day instead of 4 - or even 1 hour.

I'm betting on you.

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Writer's overload - not writer's block

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

I'm writing so much at work this week, revamping our webpage, that I just haven't been able to write much else. When I have I've added to my knitting blog LikeTheQueen - which is about 75% knitting and fiber arts blog and 25% Life-0-Bess stuff. It is not at all about diet and nutrition mostly because it's aimed at a different audience. It is also old, on an ancient template that doesn't have lots of features and it's too big (I am not called MsLoquacity for nothing) to move. I've been dithering between starting a new blogger blog or continuing with the behemoth or moving to a different blogging host with the end result .. I just dropped my poor castle and began devoting all my blogging time to Spark People.

But the happy news is that I am mixing up my exercising this week with days at home doing yoga, days at the gym doing more calesthenic type cardio and (I hope) at least one sweet 70 degree afternoon home early enough to take the dogs for a walk.

Happy Hump Day to you all

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MSLZZY 3/24/2010 12:47PM

    emoticon emoticon Keep it up!

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JLITT62 3/24/2010 9:44AM

    70 degrees. Oh, how I wish! Last week (one day) but we're back in the chilly, gray 40s & 50s for a while. And trapped downstairs while they install the kitchen cabinets (yippee! Finally!).

I've been blogging since before it was called blogging, actually, so I have my own Website. But I'm planning to let go the judysworld domain, and combine everything into cookbookmaven, which will take a bit of doing. But that is where my passion lies. At the moment.

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HARPERLADY 3/24/2010 8:54AM

    sounds fantasic with your workouts emoticon hope you get you blog running smoothly emoticon

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Come join me on The Daffodil Walk

Monday, March 22, 2010

Well, my friends.

Sunday was a day of such bliss, such relaxing happy leisure, such soul soothing comfort I believe my body grew 10 years younger.

I also accomplished something I've needed to do forever. I made a record of where I need to plant daffodils along the lane up to my house so that come next autumn I won't accidentally shovel into bulbs that are already in the ground. These are naturalized daffodils planted by the edge of the forest. I could never figure out a reliable way to mark the spots until it hit me - That is what a digital camera is good for.

And instead of taking still shots, I used the little video program so now I have a 10 minute clip that points out all the empty spots. I know what I am going to ask for, for my birthday in September. One bushel of daffodils!

If you'd like to take this walk with me, I've posted it on my facebook page.

(added later .. hmmmm. Let's see if this link works)

Happy Monday to you all!

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JLITT62 3/22/2010 1:45PM

    I don't have a facebook account, unfortunately. But it definitely sounds like a good use of a video camera! And daffodils are so cheery.

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AEBROWNSON 3/22/2010 9:10AM

    Unfortunately, I couldn't see your daffy I have to be your facebook friend in order to see? If you want to friend me, my name is Ann Brownson and I'm at Eastern Illinois University.

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SCRAPMA 3/22/2010 9:03AM

  Thanks for your beautiful comments. I was just thinking about planting some flowers in the yard. Since I started Sparkpeople just yesterday, My husband and I went for a walk and he said "you used to work in the yard all the time, maybe you should start again, the sunlight would be good for you". I tend to hybernate due to chronic pain and that is the worst thing I can do.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 3/22/2010 8:08AM

    It sounds glorious! Can't head to FB during the day, so later today I'll check it out. emoticon

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Introducing Custard - my cowardly dragon

Sunday, March 21, 2010

If you are familiar with Ogden Nash's poem about Custard the Cowardly Dragon

you will recognize how much he typifies the Reptilian Brain. Afraid all the time, he's able to rise to the occasion if a true danger looms. I'll keep him around for those moments of real threat, but the rest of the time he can stay in his Nice Safe Cage.

This week's weigh-in did not offer up any good news for someone wanting to wear ThatDress by August but it also didn't come as a surprise. There was a small gain. That it was no larger than it was is no thanks to me and my poor choices. I certainly know why I ate out of control this week and I think recognizing Custard's role in my mindless eating will help me in the coming weeks.

The next time I have a project I dread - even fear - I will have a sober and reassuring chat with my little dragon, after which we shall both of us laugh and then tackle the task or find another way of dealing with whatever demanded it in the first place.

And that is that.

Today is now. Today I am going to eat such healthy food and in such exactly the right amounts as to lift my confidence up into the clear blue sky of this second day of spring. May you all feel and do the same.

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SHEALUNA 3/22/2010 5:03AM

    Bob the Lizard had a moment this weekend, but he and I talked it through (No, I've no idea why my dragon is a boy dragon instead of a girl dragon. That's just the way he rolls.). He was much better behaved after that. I think these dragons need a lot of soothing that involves words not food!

Good for you for not getting down about your gain and instead putting on your big girl panties and getting on with business. Here's to a glorious, healthy spring!

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MSLZZY 3/21/2010 10:18PM

    Interesting friend you have there! Good luck and I hope today went as planned!

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CRAVE_FREE 3/21/2010 10:19AM

    Impressive that you both named your inner lizard and it has its own poem! I'm still trying to find the perfect name for mine. I think something pansy and froo froo will make my lizard weaker! Thanks the inspiration!

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ALEXTHEHUNN 3/21/2010 9:39AM

    So simple and yet how it can trip us up! Thanks for reminding me of the importance of these simple steps.

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MOOOOW 3/21/2010 9:22AM

    I met custard the week before last. We had our talk this last week and my WI was good. I thank you for reminding me to meet the dragon head-on and with school beginning tomorrow I am sure that my students will place many dragons in my path. Together my students and I will walk right by them.
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JLITT62 3/21/2010 9:12AM

    If nothing else, you faced up to your fears & accepted the results of your action. And that ain't cowardly, that's HARD! So good for you.

We all have bad weeks, for whatever reason, and the key is just to keep on keepin' on. Which I know you will do.

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JKTENTATIVE 3/21/2010 9:10AM

    Be sure to drink lots and lots and lots of water. It will help you in many ways. I find that my level of struggle each day is directly related to my water intake. If I drink 4 - 5 cups of water by 10am, the whole day is soooo much easier.

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