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Keep your mind focused on how you're living your daily life.

Tuesday, February 09, 2010

Well that was my tuesday horoscope. An apt prediction too since I am likely to be home again for another day or so. Although my lane was frozen hard and the tar roads around here were all cleared, my car was also frozen hard in a cradle of ice - so I couldn't get out to work yesterday.

Now - I am not one to go stir crazy in my own house. I can stay here for weeks and never get antsy. I emoticon this place so much I'm counting the days till retirement .. and THAT is years away.

But - 84 hours straight only inches away from the kitchen can lead to some bad slips. So far so good - and I will get to work this morning for a few hours - but this time we're expecting ice - and so when something starts to fall today ... I am coming home. I almost left it too late on Friday. Won't do that again.

More than ever before I'm having to focus focus focus. Am I hungry? would a glass of water satisfy me? Can I wait 15 minutes? But the most useful tool I've used this weekend has been to eat off of the smallest dishes in my house. Last night we had left over pot roast and I used a desert dish to serve myself and cut it into as many pieces as I could. The good news? 3 oz was enough to fill me up!

so, break out those dainty dishes and see how long you can stretch those small portions out. You just might find you're pleasantly full and well within your calorie range! Even if it IS pot roast. emoticon

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DMBEECHAM 2/9/2010 12:40PM

    I've been using smaller plates for most of my meals; it definitely helps with portion control and visually retraining my brain to recognize a realistic amount of food.

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HARPERLADY 2/9/2010 10:59AM

    we are getting a few inches of snow here. I have beenhaving those conversations as ell , am I really hungry? do I just like the taste? why am I in the frigde? etc, best of luck to ya and I was thinking of making all of mt dishes small ones emoticon

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DAYHIKER 2/9/2010 9:22AM

    I like the smaller dishes, too! They make me feel like I am getting a lot! We're snowbound yet again and I'll be going out soon to start working on keeping the paths we have cleared open. I am so thankful that I am content at home but this winter has definitely been more of a challenge with so much snow starting so early! I hope I can GET to Chicago the 21st!!

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JLITT62 2/9/2010 7:54AM

    I use the smallest dishes I can get away with all the time. Haven't quite convinced DH yet, when he cooks for me, he still grabs large plates. He'll learn someday! Maybe!

Stay safe.

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MSLZZY 2/9/2010 7:06AM

    I could see my DH with a dessert plate LOL! But it is an excellent way to make sure to only take what I need. Eat slowly, chew my food and enjoy each bite and put my fork down between bits. Besides, pot roast is so good. Who wouldn't want to make it last?

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DOOBIE893 2/9/2010 6:46AM

    Thanks for the tip.....desert dishes....even smaller than the luncheon plates I've been using. Make this a great day.

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Permission to Not Eat

Monday, February 08, 2010

I never think of myself as a Type A person - I am sure I am a Type B+ emoticon but the truth is - Type A is easy to slip into if you strive for excellence. I stop short of perfectionism but I do sometimes get driven and my experiences with the Nutrition Tracker are a perfect example.

First you must know I really really love that tracker and use it all the time, including running the report to see what nutrients I'm short on. I tend to skimp on calcium because while I like dairy products - I am not a big milk drinker. Also I have a lot of trouble with potassium and folate ... as I have whined often enough here. So it's good to be able to see where I am short and see if I can find something to lift my nutrient consumption.

And then that incipient Type A behavior sneaks in and says "Have a banana. Eat broccoli. It's dinner time - fill up on these nutritious foods. They are GOOD FOR YOU"


What if I am just not hungry?

Really not hungry. Feel fine. Feel full. Feel like I've had all I want to eat today. So what if it's 6:30 or 7:00.

I trust the system. I trust my self. I am eating good healthy foods all day and if my stomach says Basta! then I am not going to eat just to fill up a chart of nutrients. And so last night I officially gave myself permission to Not Eat if I'm Not Hungry.

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MSLZZY 2/8/2010 9:45PM

    Excellent plan. As long as you are full and satisfied and have eaten enough of the other good things, I'd say you're doing just fine!

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TRENTDREAMER 2/8/2010 7:31PM

    I totally hear you on this. I've been upping my calcium and Vitamin E. Folate and Potassium are next. Yeah, one day below the desired level isn't going to end the world, but I still face the temptation to strive for the 100%.

Awesome blog!

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HARPERLADY 2/8/2010 11:05AM

    way to go! I think like that also, if I am not hungry I am not gonna eat just for the sake of one thing or another, thats what got me here in the first place, still a struggle tho, I get bored a lot emoticon

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ELLENB10 2/8/2010 8:45AM

    If you are eating a healthy, balanced diet all day long,I would agree that you wouldn't need to eat if you're not hungry.
The Nutrition Tracker is awesome. It has been an eye-opener for me. Sometimes I have to stop obsessing about numbers, too, and listen to my body when it says "enough"!

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DAYHIKER 2/8/2010 8:40AM

    I have wondered about that at times, too, Bess. But I also decided I'm not going to eat if I'm not hungry and have covered my minimum calories for the day. That's why we take a vitamin/mineral to cover those shortfalls.

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JLITT62 2/8/2010 7:46AM

    Definitely no reason not to eat if you're not hungry! I wish I had that problem. Since cutting back more it seems I'm always just a little bit hungry. I figure eventually my body will adjust.

My leader had some very wise words on the subject. Essentially, if it only happens now & again, don't worry about it. But if you're consistently falling short on food, you've got to take a closer look at what you're eating.

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is what you see even something you want? Getting visual

Sunday, February 07, 2010

I think someone could cash in big time if she decided to start marketing to us aging boomers. I know the most spoiled generation ever has had it their way a long time, but we're still here and we're still the wealthiest demographic out there.

I have been trying to create a vision board or a dream board or even a scrapbook page displaying some sort of image of what things will look like when I've met my goals - and I can't find anything to put on it! I have spent an embarrassing amount of money and time, with magazines and on the internet looking for pictures and I am flummoxed and stymied! All the images are aimed at people significantly younger than I or at people with tastes so drastically different from mine I am beginning to feel a bit alien.

I don't want to look like the bodies on Shape, Fitness, Self and BoffoBod magazines. They all look like the same hip-less body of a 20 year old girl with a different heads airbrushed on top. At my age I can't imagine glitter eyesahdow drawing attention to my crows feet. I will never have Pantene Hair again. And there is no way on this green earth that I will ever wear 10 inch heel cut out leather platform boots with my chiffon mini skirt and see-through spaghetti strap tank top.

Okay I hope you are all laughing along with me because this is definitely not a rant - it's just a silliness. but I am serious about wishing there were some folk out there tempting the 50+ set with goodies now and then. Take for example - getting a new hairstyle. There are lots of magazines out there with so called hair styles in them BUT for a girl who grew up putting her hair in curlers every night - it's difficult to see myself with the blender-headed spiked dos in the magazines, even if they are cute on taut necked sleek jawed 20 year-olds. Where is the hair style magazine that helps us visualize disguising turkey neck or incipient jowls.

It's the same with fixing up my house - I have poured through every Elegant Bath magazine on the stands at Barnes and Nobel and I can't find a bathroom I would put in my house ... or even find at Lowes or Home Depot - in any of 'em! Where do they dream up this stuff and who in the world actually buys it? A pedestal sink that looks like a sea shell? Can I possibly dunk my head in that to prep my hair for the Nice 'n' Easy I have to use every few months?

I am also a little disappointed in the color palettes used in the scrapbook world. Everything has that same greyed look of fake sepia tones. I love the IDEA of a scrapbook type vision collage - but I have yet to find the look, and especially the colors, I want to stare at over the long period.

Ahh well. I havent given up on creating my vision board. It may end up filled with cartoons I draw myself but I will have something to gaze at and dream about one of these days - something to inspire me to persevere. It will come.

But I will close with this clarion cry:

Remember marketers!! I have disposable income and I'm finished with college tuition payments! emoticon

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SUESMITH73 2/7/2010 6:14PM

    I did find a great picture of an older woman crossing the finish line in a race. That worked great on my vision collage since one of my goals is to run a 5K.

Other than that, I used pictures of things I like to do & want to continue doing in the future. A picture of my grandchildren because I want to see them grow up.
I added great quotes & bible verses. A picture of me at my start weight & of my husband doing something that we like to do together. My vision collage is on my SparkPage if you would like to see it.

Not everything has to come from magazines.

But you are right that venders do not cater to baby boomers. Even though we have the money to spend.

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CLAIRESML 2/7/2010 2:14PM

    great blog! I completely agree. have a nice sunday

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DAYHIKER 2/7/2010 9:23AM

    I so hear you, Bess!! That is why I had not put mine together. Then I thought how it made me feel to see some of my travel pictures so I put together my collage with a few of them instead as a remembrance of WHY I want to stay fit and healthy! I hope to go mountain hiking again and I love walking all over Chicago when I go to my son's. emoticon

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PUDLECRAZY 2/7/2010 8:28AM

    Funny, I was just thinking similar thoughts. I am planning to post photos of beautiful women on my blog today.

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MAMADELIGHT 2/7/2010 8:24AM

    You are so right. I thought after reading your blog to google celebrities at 50 who look good. I got Madonna. That is it. I may have to put a picture of Dara Torres (40 something Olympic swimmer)on that vision collage.

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Who's that talking? Oh! It's ME!

Saturday, February 06, 2010

Yesterday's daily Spark Entry "have you found your inner normal eater"

touched a sympathetic chord within me and I've been pondering how to express myself about this ever since. You see - about a year ago I read Paul McKenna's book I Can Make You Thin

and in spite of the hubris in that title - it's a very good book. His message is the same as the mindful eating message, the HALT message, the "Inner Normal Eater".

I not only read the book, I took his advice to heart and followed it with wonderful results. I developed a friendship with my stomach I probably haven't had since I was a child. I found delight in foods and the pleasure of being mildly hungry before I ate my meal and I dropped about 12 pounds pretty much effortlessly. I also stopped eating a lot of things that I was substituting for the things I really wanted to eat. I discovered I really dislike cheerios unless they're dry but I really love raisin bran with milk. I also stopped feeling like food was the enemy, out to trip me up and make me fat.

So. so what happened? well . Well, while I had begun to strengthen the relationship with my inner self, it wasn't the only yammering voice in my brain and when a family crisis flared up in May and then a long illness began dragging me down in July .... by the time I surfaced, that inner voice had wandered back into the hinterdepths of my psyche while the whining, victim-like, failure oriented voices squabbled in the front of my mind. By September the old familiar fat had come back to live at my house again.

Those voices were so loud I knew I needed some sort of external structure to help me start listening to my wise inner normal eater - my PM voice. that's when a friend turned me on to Spark People which had the right balance of structure and flexibility to suit what I needed at the time. It also offered this blogging opportunity - which I knew would benefit from. I have a knitting blog and was thinking of using it to help me with my weight/health/fitness issues but the SP blog is so much more useful. It provided me with the ready made audience of like-minded folk I knew I needed.

I feel like I've spent the past 4 months setting up shop for my healthy eating inner voice - creating the personal environment that had to be in place before that inner voice would start talking again. Or perhaps creating the right calmness so that I would start listening to it again. Because I truly believe that within me is the natural healthy native guide through the world of food that I was born with.

Yesterday was the most wonderful day spent with that native guide - that inner voice. I remembered all the tricks - putting the fork down between bites - putting that sandwich down and clasping my hands between bites - savoring each delicious heady taste ... ohhhh perfectly steamed broccoli, lightly sprinkled with Parmesan cheese... yum! and asking myself several times throughout lunch and dinner "Are you full now?" And the moment I felt full - I stopped. I waited. I chatted with my companions. and then... I stopped.

Half a sandwich. Half of dinner. They're in the fridge. They will make nice lunches today. Or I can feed them to the dogs. It doesn't matter. What matters is that I am listening to that inner normal eater and I really like what she's saying.

May you hear your own wise council and may you happily follow it down this healthy new path. emoticon

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MSLZZY 2/6/2010 6:25PM

    You have learned a valuable lesson. I'll have to listen to my inner voice as well.
Thank you for sharing! Have a wonderful weekend!

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HARPERLADY 2/6/2010 3:35PM

    great post , I think we can all learn from it emoticon

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DAYHIKER 2/6/2010 2:57PM

    Wonderful!! Sadly, I am with Judy...if I don't track I gain. (sigh) But then, normal is not usually a word associated with me anyway... emoticon

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JLITT62 2/6/2010 1:47PM

    I have made great strides, but I don't think I'll ever be a truly normal eater. Or maybe I am, but I have to be a very AWARE normal eater. I have to track my food. I have to have a plan. Without those things, I just don't seem to succeed.

Is that normal? Not for a lot of people. But it's what works for me.

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ELLENB10 2/6/2010 11:27AM

    What a wonderful post! I am going to take a look at your links and start listening more carefully to that inner normal eater!
Thank you.

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JKTENTATIVE 2/6/2010 9:57AM

    Wonderful...and inspiring...again. Thank you for sharing.


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PUDLECRAZY 2/6/2010 9:22AM

    I'm glad your inner voice is talking nice emoticon

Lovely advice for all!


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not even 6 degrees between yoga and Spark People

Friday, February 05, 2010

I've brought home a new Home Workout book put out by Dorling Kindersly - the folk who put out such gloriously beautiful, horribly bound paperback books. It's called Home Workout: Pilates* Yoga* Abs* Body Toning. It has lots of 15 minute workouts and it comes with a DVD,,

The yoga section isn't very long but in the intro are these wise words:

"Acknowledge your limitations, taking things slowly and not progressing to the stronger stretches in the sequences until fully ready - but do not accept your current limitations as your fate. Yoga encourages us to explore the boundaries of what we can do, and to challenge ourselves, but without pursuing perfection, which may lead to physical injury and to unhelpful emotions such as anger or pride. the key to fulfilling yoga practice is to let expectations go, but to keep pushing into your 'edges'."

Well. this is certainly advice I need to hold close - because the more is better attitude - the Lots More is Lots Better - is just the sort of trap I'm likely to fall into. My back is still tender from Wednesday a.m. and I'm still just going to do a few gentle poses and the relaxation part till it is completely better - as my son used to say till it's "all fixed".

But isn't it interesting that this is the same philosophy in the Spark? To acknowledge movement forward ... not beat yourself up for not moving faster? To value each step because each step is worthy. Because you are worthy no matter where you are on this journey.

May you value yourself this weekend, where ever you are.

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JLITT62 2/5/2010 4:49PM

    I love yoga, but I do have to be careful with it apparently. Yes, I sometimes push too hard, too. I can do it for years and be fine, and then just do too much & not enough ST & it hurts my shoulder. Which caused me to have to mostly give up yoga for several weeks. But now my shoulder is back to normal, and I'm making sure to get ST in so that hopefully I can balance it all out again.

I've found for me, personally, I do much better with a DVD or a podcast than books. I need someone physically telling me what to do, I guess.

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MSLZZY 2/5/2010 7:50AM

    The idea is to acknowledge your self-worth now and push yourself forward slowly.
Just like the baby steps at SP! Grat blog!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 2/5/2010 7:41AM

    Well said!

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