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Friday, February 05, 2010

I've brought home a new Home Workout book put out by Dorling Kindersly - the folk who put out such gloriously beautiful, horribly bound paperback books. It's called Home Workout: Pilates* Yoga* Abs* Body Toning. It has lots of 15 minute workouts and it comes with a DVD,,

The yoga section isn't very long but in the intro are these wise words:

"Acknowledge your limitations, taking things slowly and not progressing to the stronger stretches in the sequences until fully ready - but do not accept your current limitations as your fate. Yoga encourages us to explore the boundaries of what we can do, and to challenge ourselves, but without pursuing perfection, which may lead to physical injury and to unhelpful emotions such as anger or pride. the key to fulfilling yoga practice is to let expectations go, but to keep pushing into your 'edges'."

Well. this is certainly advice I need to hold close - because the more is better attitude - the Lots More is Lots Better - is just the sort of trap I'm likely to fall into. My back is still tender from Wednesday a.m. and I'm still just going to do a few gentle poses and the relaxation part till it is completely better - as my son used to say till it's "all fixed".

But isn't it interesting that this is the same philosophy in the Spark? To acknowledge movement forward ... not beat yourself up for not moving faster? To value each step because each step is worthy. Because you are worthy no matter where you are on this journey.

May you value yourself this weekend, where ever you are.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JLITT62 2/5/2010 4:49PM

    I love yoga, but I do have to be careful with it apparently. Yes, I sometimes push too hard, too. I can do it for years and be fine, and then just do too much & not enough ST & it hurts my shoulder. Which caused me to have to mostly give up yoga for several weeks. But now my shoulder is back to normal, and I'm making sure to get ST in so that hopefully I can balance it all out again.

I've found for me, personally, I do much better with a DVD or a podcast than books. I need someone physically telling me what to do, I guess.

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MSLZZY 2/5/2010 7:50AM

    The idea is to acknowledge your self-worth now and push yourself forward slowly.
Just like the baby steps at SP! Grat blog!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 2/5/2010 7:41AM

    Well said!

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Who is this woman? Thoughts on self definition...

Thursday, February 04, 2010

Some kind of subtle shift in my self-definition is happening. Softly, in little bursts of realization, I find myself standing at a check out stand in the grocery store thinking "oh well, but I am not the sort of woman who eats candy bars." or "oh, no. Cheetos are for other people. I'm want some carrots." I'm finding myself saying "no" to all sorts of things that used to be temptations - that used to sit just within my grasp and sing siren songs to lure me into some sort of instant happiness ... only to be followed by morning after regrets.

And yet ... if I've truly wanted something like a cookie I've just eaten a cookie .... note the delineating word "A" . A cookie. Not box-0-cookies or handful of cookie dough or something manic like that. Just - a cookie - which I thoroughly enjoyed. And then I didn't want any more.

I realized this week that I think of myself differently. I have a new definition of me. I don't believe I'm a woman who needs to be restrained. I'm a woman who wants to go some place wonderful.

It feels very sudden but I suspect it's something that has been growing on me for a long time. I believe what's brought it to the forefront of my awareness is the yoga practice. That hour of really paying deep conscious attention to my body - to my arms, my legs, my toes, to my spine, my eyeballs, my tongue - has introduced me to myself.

I know those arms! I love them. They want ... what is it they're asking for? Ah! Protein. Guess I'll have a few almonds. That skin? It wants lots of vitamins? Okay - how about a nice green smoothie?

I was a little afraid to post this today because it seems so sudden and it might sound oh ... like tempting fate, like jinxing things - but it's just too powerful a feeling to not share.

As my dear husband likes to say "I'm in the throes of one of Bess' Passions." Well, BPs have taken me to the most delightful places so I don't mind it that I'm all swept up in another one. In fact - I recommend passions to all my friends. May you find yours today and let it sweep you to a magnificent future!

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WYNSONG 2/4/2010 2:13PM

    That was just beauty full.

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ELLENB10 2/4/2010 8:43AM

    Mindful living is something we all need more of. Thank you for this post! Congratulations. What would life be without our passions?? I don't want to think about it. Some think of passions as a whim or a temporary thing, but those that are really important should stick with us, give us reason for going on.

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MSLZZY 2/4/2010 7:57AM

    Yoga is teaching you to love yourself! Very positive! It gives you motivation to think better of yourself, improves your self-image and self-esteem! emoticon emoticon

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JLITT62 2/4/2010 7:42AM

    I definitely feel I have found that place, have even been there for a while.

Right now, tho, to push thru the last few pounds, I have to be very, very careful with my treats. I still have them, but it's been a while since I've had a cookie, for instance. Just can't seem to work it in. Might be because a lot of my breakfasts sport peanut butter or chocolate.


I have been paying really, really close attention to how I feel after eating something. Did it satisfy me? Did it keep me full? If not, it might have to take a hike. For a little while.

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It's not the prize - it's the SURprise! How to reward yourself

Wednesday, February 03, 2010

I take no credit for this wonderful idea - It's from Maurizia here on SP who was quoted in The Spark on page 135 - and which I quote again:

"I have a grab bag of sorts. I gave my friends $5 and they could buy me anything they wanted ... They wrap it and put it in a box that I keep at work so I'm not tempted to peek __ and the people with whom I work contributed to it also. When I reach the next 10 pounds lost, I get to reach in and pull out a surprise. It keeps me motivated...."

Well that's just about the coolest idea I've ever heard for a reward system. It is almost impossible for me to devise rewards because if I buy it, the surprise is gone. While I am not wasteful (beyond normal) with money, I do get myself the things I want or save for them if I don't have the money. I find it actually distasteful to deny myself something as a punishment. I'm just not that into punishment anyway. I hardly even punished my son - because we looked at things that went wrong with an eye to how to fix them, and as opportunities to see how to avoid mistakes the next time.

but this idea - man - I think this is totally cool! I've already enlisted 2 friends and I'm asking 3 more to participate... and for each 5 lbs I loose I get to pull a package out of the box!

I see now - it's not the prize... it's the SURprise! emoticon

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JLITT62 2/3/2010 7:56AM

    That is absolutely a cool idea! It would work really well, too, if I had any friends. It could've worked in Austin . . .

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RITAROSE 2/3/2010 7:54AM

  Thanks for blogging on this, even though I read it in the Spark it's good to consider the possibilities of doing this. Have a sparkling day! emoticonRitarose

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MSLZZY 2/3/2010 7:52AM

    What an excellent idea! Now to find some friends to do this! Hmmm! They were just here a minute ago.
Since I work alone in the office with my husband, I might have to look further LOL! What a great idea! Thanks for sharing!

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ANGELCOWBOY1 2/3/2010 6:31AM

    I loved this idea also when I read it!

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ITSMYLIFEAT42 2/3/2010 6:23AM

  What a wonderful surprise! Five friends = 50lbs...hmmm, I am going to have to try this too. Thank you :-)

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KMIRANDA2000 2/3/2010 6:22AM

    I LOVE IT!!! I was waiting until I get under 190 to buy myself my first REAL workout outfit, but I think I might also do this for every 5 pounds. Thanks!

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Refining my program with Read the Spark Team

Tuesday, February 02, 2010

This is the gist of what I tried to post yesterday.

I had such a good time with the Spark People January Boot Camp that I was inspired to join the Read the Spark 28 Day Program team for February. It's really just the basic SP plan I'm already doing here (at a much slower pace) but they email you and cheer you on and probably have little daily To Do suggestions that I am sure will help keep me on the path to my happy goals.

And since I didn't go in to work today after all, I had time to sit and retool those goals, refine them, think again about what I want and when and how to go about getting it. So. Here are the

Long Term Goals, edition II

1. I want to wear THAT dress at the Ginormous 260 year old family reunion in August 2010
2. I want to get an assessment of 100% from my doctor at my June 2010 checkup and maybe get off some of these medicines.
3. I want a BMI of 25 by Memorial Day 2010 (that means 150 by the end of May)
4. I want to feel confident around food all the time
5. I want to always be hydrated
6. I want to feel unhurried ... all the time AND, when I don't ...
7. I want to have a deep and readily accessible well of reserve strength and energy whenever I need them
8 . I want to get very good at Yoga good enough to eventually become a teacher so that
9. I want to share what I learn with others ... see above

To keep me on the road to getting these long term goals I've devised some

Monthly Mile Posts

1. See measurable progress in at least 1 of 3 areas:
1000 minutes each month

2. Try one new food or recipe each month something I've never had before.

3. Do one fun thing each month to celebrate the fact that I am on this journey. For February I'll make the vision collage and hang it up!

4. On the first day of the month devise a reward to celebrate reaching these monthly goals and claim it by the last day of the month. No shoving this reward aside. If I meet the 3 other goals I reward myself. For February I will treat myself to a Candlelit Champagne Bubble Bath. (good thing it's on a Sunday)

In keeping with the basic Spark People Fast Break plan I have selected 3 Fast Break Goals (FBG) to fold into my life and I have added them to some of the things I'm already doing.

Daily Check List w/ FBGs

1.___Spark Time each morning with my cup of coffee, before I get on the computer I will read over my goals, think about them, tweak them if they need it, change them if they no longer seem appropriate. (FBG)

2.___Track my nutrition

3.___Drink my water

4.___Pack my lunch 4 out of 5 workdays (FBG)

5.___Do the SP Boot Camp strength training 4 out of 7 days at my gym

6.___Off the computer at 7 a.m. to go do my yoga workout (FBG)

so I see - I only have 20 more minutes to fool around on the computer - Happy February!

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JLITT62 2/2/2010 2:45PM

    Hmm, I may have to check out that sparkteam. I'm still stuck on week 2, life has been so busy lately. I always feel bad saying that, I really have so much free time -- it just doesn't feel like I do.

You are my second spark buddy who wants to become a yoga teacher. Hmm. I like yoga, but I'm not sure I'm that passionate about it.

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JKTENTATIVE 2/2/2010 8:47AM

    Thanks for sharing all these gives me lots of good ideas for myself to try out! Good luck!

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MSLZZY 2/2/2010 8:11AM

    Excellent goals and your reward sounds lovely! I may join you-is there room for two of us in that bubble bath? LOL!

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this is the last time I write my blog post in this little box

Monday, February 01, 2010

because it got eaten once again.

From now on I'll write it in word and cut/paste it here.


At Tara

so instead - here is a photo of a happy dog loving the snow.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JLITT62 2/2/2010 5:46AM

    I always just hit copy before I hit post, just in case.

I wish mine liked the snow . . . would make life easier.

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MSLZZY 2/1/2010 11:22PM

    Happy dog-unhappy you! What's with that? Computers don't always play nice!

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MUVFASTA 2/1/2010 5:58PM

    So sorry about your blog post. I love the pic of your puppy enjoying the snow! Thanks for sharing!

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BOOPSTER69 2/1/2010 5:20PM

    I feel your pain - I hate when that happens! emoticon But, love the picture! emoticon

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CLAIRESML 2/1/2010 4:50PM

    oh such joy! my dogs loved the snow , too. 9 inches in sw va

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