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It's not the prize - it's the SURprise! How to reward yourself

Wednesday, February 03, 2010

I take no credit for this wonderful idea - It's from Maurizia here on SP who was quoted in The Spark on page 135 - and which I quote again:

"I have a grab bag of sorts. I gave my friends $5 and they could buy me anything they wanted ... They wrap it and put it in a box that I keep at work so I'm not tempted to peek __ and the people with whom I work contributed to it also. When I reach the next 10 pounds lost, I get to reach in and pull out a surprise. It keeps me motivated...."

Well that's just about the coolest idea I've ever heard for a reward system. It is almost impossible for me to devise rewards because if I buy it, the surprise is gone. While I am not wasteful (beyond normal) with money, I do get myself the things I want or save for them if I don't have the money. I find it actually distasteful to deny myself something as a punishment. I'm just not that into punishment anyway. I hardly even punished my son - because we looked at things that went wrong with an eye to how to fix them, and as opportunities to see how to avoid mistakes the next time.

but this idea - man - I think this is totally cool! I've already enlisted 2 friends and I'm asking 3 more to participate... and for each 5 lbs I loose I get to pull a package out of the box!

I see now - it's not the prize... it's the SURprise! emoticon

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JLITT62 2/3/2010 7:56AM

    That is absolutely a cool idea! It would work really well, too, if I had any friends. It could've worked in Austin . . .

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RITAROSE 2/3/2010 7:54AM

  Thanks for blogging on this, even though I read it in the Spark it's good to consider the possibilities of doing this. Have a sparkling day! emoticonRitarose

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MSLZZY 2/3/2010 7:52AM

    What an excellent idea! Now to find some friends to do this! Hmmm! They were just here a minute ago.
Since I work alone in the office with my husband, I might have to look further LOL! What a great idea! Thanks for sharing!

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ANGELCOWBOY1 2/3/2010 6:31AM

    I loved this idea also when I read it!

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ITSMYLIFEAT42 2/3/2010 6:23AM

  What a wonderful surprise! Five friends = 50lbs...hmmm, I am going to have to try this too. Thank you :-)

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KMIRANDA2000 2/3/2010 6:22AM

    I LOVE IT!!! I was waiting until I get under 190 to buy myself my first REAL workout outfit, but I think I might also do this for every 5 pounds. Thanks!

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Refining my program with Read the Spark Team

Tuesday, February 02, 2010

This is the gist of what I tried to post yesterday.

I had such a good time with the Spark People January Boot Camp that I was inspired to join the Read the Spark 28 Day Program team for February. It's really just the basic SP plan I'm already doing here (at a much slower pace) but they email you and cheer you on and probably have little daily To Do suggestions that I am sure will help keep me on the path to my happy goals.

And since I didn't go in to work today after all, I had time to sit and retool those goals, refine them, think again about what I want and when and how to go about getting it. So. Here are the

Long Term Goals, edition II

1. I want to wear THAT dress at the Ginormous 260 year old family reunion in August 2010
2. I want to get an assessment of 100% from my doctor at my June 2010 checkup and maybe get off some of these medicines.
3. I want a BMI of 25 by Memorial Day 2010 (that means 150 by the end of May)
4. I want to feel confident around food all the time
5. I want to always be hydrated
6. I want to feel unhurried ... all the time AND, when I don't ...
7. I want to have a deep and readily accessible well of reserve strength and energy whenever I need them
8 . I want to get very good at Yoga good enough to eventually become a teacher so that
9. I want to share what I learn with others ... see above

To keep me on the road to getting these long term goals I've devised some

Monthly Mile Posts

1. See measurable progress in at least 1 of 3 areas:
1000 minutes each month

2. Try one new food or recipe each month something I've never had before.

3. Do one fun thing each month to celebrate the fact that I am on this journey. For February I'll make the vision collage and hang it up!

4. On the first day of the month devise a reward to celebrate reaching these monthly goals and claim it by the last day of the month. No shoving this reward aside. If I meet the 3 other goals I reward myself. For February I will treat myself to a Candlelit Champagne Bubble Bath. (good thing it's on a Sunday)

In keeping with the basic Spark People Fast Break plan I have selected 3 Fast Break Goals (FBG) to fold into my life and I have added them to some of the things I'm already doing.

Daily Check List w/ FBGs

1.___Spark Time each morning with my cup of coffee, before I get on the computer I will read over my goals, think about them, tweak them if they need it, change them if they no longer seem appropriate. (FBG)

2.___Track my nutrition

3.___Drink my water

4.___Pack my lunch 4 out of 5 workdays (FBG)

5.___Do the SP Boot Camp strength training 4 out of 7 days at my gym

6.___Off the computer at 7 a.m. to go do my yoga workout (FBG)

so I see - I only have 20 more minutes to fool around on the computer - Happy February!

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JLITT62 2/2/2010 2:45PM

    Hmm, I may have to check out that sparkteam. I'm still stuck on week 2, life has been so busy lately. I always feel bad saying that, I really have so much free time -- it just doesn't feel like I do.

You are my second spark buddy who wants to become a yoga teacher. Hmm. I like yoga, but I'm not sure I'm that passionate about it.

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JKTENTATIVE 2/2/2010 8:47AM

    Thanks for sharing all these gives me lots of good ideas for myself to try out! Good luck!

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MSLZZY 2/2/2010 8:11AM

    Excellent goals and your reward sounds lovely! I may join you-is there room for two of us in that bubble bath? LOL!

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this is the last time I write my blog post in this little box

Monday, February 01, 2010

because it got eaten once again.

From now on I'll write it in word and cut/paste it here.


At Tara

so instead - here is a photo of a happy dog loving the snow.

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JLITT62 2/2/2010 5:46AM

    I always just hit copy before I hit post, just in case.

I wish mine liked the snow . . . would make life easier.

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MSLZZY 2/1/2010 11:22PM

    Happy dog-unhappy you! What's with that? Computers don't always play nice!

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MUVFASTA 2/1/2010 5:58PM

    So sorry about your blog post. I love the pic of your puppy enjoying the snow! Thanks for sharing!

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BOOPSTER69 2/1/2010 5:20PM

    I feel your pain - I hate when that happens! emoticon But, love the picture! emoticon

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CLAIRESML 2/1/2010 4:50PM

    oh such joy! my dogs loved the snow , too. 9 inches in sw va

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3.5 lbs 4.5 inches January progress report

Sunday, January 31, 2010

Whoa. Those are my January stats and I am pleased.

Did I say Pleased?


I dropped a decent healthy number of lbs. to drop but better than that, over the past few weeks I've really made the effort to think before I eat, to asses myself and my body and really decide what it is I'm hungry for ... or if I'm hungry at all!!

The derailment of my heavy duty workouts dissapointed me but it didn't stop me and I am positive it opened the door for something new and valuable that I'll come to love as much as my elliptical sessions. And I learned, both by reading and doing, that small bites of exercise really do make a big difference and can fit into my life neatly, easily.

Fitting it into my life - the lifestyle change - that's always felt like the illusive component. This past month I feel like I've stood in the doorway - no stepped into the foyer of my new life. And I like it very much! emoticon

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JLITT62 1/31/2010 8:50AM

    Wow! I am in awe. That's excellent. It's so inspiring to hear about other people's successes.

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MSLZZY 1/31/2010 8:14AM

    emoticon emoticon Sometimes we need to think and rethink what is going to work. "Think outside the box"! Try something new and change up the routine for SUCCESS! You are a winner!

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PUDLECRAZY 1/31/2010 7:54AM

    Great news! I love your story, very inspirational.

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TRACIWRIGHT79 1/31/2010 6:34AM

    You are inspiring! emoticon

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It's not nice to hold out on your body

Saturday, January 30, 2010

No sooner did I give myself the rewards I'd promissed - I dropped to my 1/4 weight loss goal. I guess my body was holding out on me just to see if I was trustworthy.

All joking aside - there was a scale victory to go along with the two NSVs this morning. Since all my rewards involve getting time off from work (I have to use my vacation time but I have lots of leeway about scheduling that) I will have another afternoon off sometime soon to celebrate the good things that are happening to my body. I did leave 3 hours early yesterday and I did schedule a pedicure for 2 weeks from now, early in the morning, and then I'll head off to play somewhere - maybe kidnap a girlfriend and take her with me.

But I had another victory yesterday that was even more wonderful than a scale victory. I finally found the portal into yoga.

I have thought for a long time that yoga would be good for me even if I am not a serene cool stream flowing through a flowery meadow - type of person. I am more the tumbling mountain stream cascading over stones. Still and all - yoga has whispered to me for a long time that we were ment for each other.

And so.

there is a good teacher who gives classes at my gym. I will start going to them next Saturday. (our little world is shut down beneath 6 inches of snow... in the south that means Stay Home) But I also have all the tools at home. Mat, strap, blocks, videos and a little VCR playback machine. I've been following the steps a little bit - but I'd never made it through the end of the program. Yesterday I just did the last half - which is the relaxation part and when I got up off the mat yesterday morning I felt as if a fountain had opened up inside my body. Everything felt clear. Everything felt like it had been put back in place. And I had so much energy I soared through the day, getting every task on my TTD list done before 3 o'clock. I was still energized last night, without coffee or any other caffine type stimulant - just the flow from within.




And so. And so today I worked my way through the whole routine - 60 minutes of careful poses. This is a beginner's tape and the instructor goes very slowly and explains what she wants from you and why. I have a long way to go to be balanced and strong but I can see that this is a completley achievable goal. And so I have finally found the first picture I want to put into my visual.

I want to be able to do this pose and by golly - I will!

Glad I got a chance to post this since we have a ton of snow falling right now. Happy Snowy Saturday to everyone!

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MSLZZY 1/30/2010 10:37PM

    I may have to give yoga a try. It sounds interesting. And the 1/4 weight loss goal? emoticon

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BESSHAILE 1/30/2010 5:21PM

    I'm using some videos from Yoga Journal dated 2000. but here's a link to their site and their beginning programs on DVD


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JLITT62 1/30/2010 4:21PM

    No snow here, but is it cold. For the first time this morning we were below zero. I still dragged DH out for a walk with the dogs, kicking and screaming (almost literally!). Hey, it was in the teens by then.

I've been doing yoga a long time. I really enjoy it. I've taken a class or two here & there, but mostly use DVDs at home. In fact, I've had to give it up for a few weeks because my shoulder was bothering me, and it really bothers me not to be able to do my yoga! The shoulder is slowly getting better, and I'll concentrate on some upper arm strength with weights again before getting back to my planks.

Stay safe & warm!

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JKTENTATIVE 1/30/2010 2:54PM

    Yet another great post!
I have tried yoga a few times and I almost got to that wonderful point that you describe...but not quite. I have had several injuries in the past year, which is the reason I tell myself that I haven't pursued yoga. Now I am almost 100% restored from my injuries (shoulder and heel surgery), maybe it is time I really get serious about yoga. So many people I respect have told me that it would be great for me...Your posting has inspired me to take that next is a new goal for myself which is a direct result of your inspiration...I will plan to take a yoga class at my gym in the next 2 weeks.
thank you for sharing!
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KIWIELLIE 1/30/2010 2:38PM

    That is so wonderful. No snow here... no rain either - we are officially in a drought area with high fire risk (northland NZ)

Could you tell me which yoga cd or DVD you are using. It sounds cool and I may like to give it a go.


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DMBEECHAM 1/30/2010 1:19PM

    That's an impressive pose! I've tried a bit of yoga here & there with the Wii Fit, but then our Wii was down for the count for well over 3 months. It's in good repair now, I guess I have no excuse to jump back in. Maybe I'll do it MWF mornings after the kidlets are off for school & T/Th when I get back from my morning class. Thanks for the inspiration!

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