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It's not nice to hold out on your body

Saturday, January 30, 2010

No sooner did I give myself the rewards I'd promissed - I dropped to my 1/4 weight loss goal. I guess my body was holding out on me just to see if I was trustworthy.

All joking aside - there was a scale victory to go along with the two NSVs this morning. Since all my rewards involve getting time off from work (I have to use my vacation time but I have lots of leeway about scheduling that) I will have another afternoon off sometime soon to celebrate the good things that are happening to my body. I did leave 3 hours early yesterday and I did schedule a pedicure for 2 weeks from now, early in the morning, and then I'll head off to play somewhere - maybe kidnap a girlfriend and take her with me.

But I had another victory yesterday that was even more wonderful than a scale victory. I finally found the portal into yoga.

I have thought for a long time that yoga would be good for me even if I am not a serene cool stream flowing through a flowery meadow - type of person. I am more the tumbling mountain stream cascading over stones. Still and all - yoga has whispered to me for a long time that we were ment for each other.

And so.

there is a good teacher who gives classes at my gym. I will start going to them next Saturday. (our little world is shut down beneath 6 inches of snow... in the south that means Stay Home) But I also have all the tools at home. Mat, strap, blocks, videos and a little VCR playback machine. I've been following the steps a little bit - but I'd never made it through the end of the program. Yesterday I just did the last half - which is the relaxation part and when I got up off the mat yesterday morning I felt as if a fountain had opened up inside my body. Everything felt clear. Everything felt like it had been put back in place. And I had so much energy I soared through the day, getting every task on my TTD list done before 3 o'clock. I was still energized last night, without coffee or any other caffine type stimulant - just the flow from within.

wow.

no.

WOW!!!

And so. And so today I worked my way through the whole routine - 60 minutes of careful poses. This is a beginner's tape and the instructor goes very slowly and explains what she wants from you and why. I have a long way to go to be balanced and strong but I can see that this is a completley achievable goal. And so I have finally found the first picture I want to put into my visual.

I want to be able to do this pose and by golly - I will!

Glad I got a chance to post this since we have a ton of snow falling right now. Happy Snowy Saturday to everyone!

  
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MSLZZY 1/30/2010 10:37PM

    I may have to give yoga a try. It sounds interesting. And the 1/4 weight loss goal? emoticon

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BESSHAILE 1/30/2010 5:21PM

    I'm using some videos from Yoga Journal dated 2000. but here's a link to their site and their beginning programs on DVD

http://www.yogajournal.c
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JLITT62 1/30/2010 4:21PM

    No snow here, but is it cold. For the first time this morning we were below zero. I still dragged DH out for a walk with the dogs, kicking and screaming (almost literally!). Hey, it was in the teens by then.

I've been doing yoga a long time. I really enjoy it. I've taken a class or two here & there, but mostly use DVDs at home. In fact, I've had to give it up for a few weeks because my shoulder was bothering me, and it really bothers me not to be able to do my yoga! The shoulder is slowly getting better, and I'll concentrate on some upper arm strength with weights again before getting back to my planks.

Stay safe & warm!

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JKTENTATIVE 1/30/2010 2:54PM

    Yet another great post!
I have tried yoga a few times and I almost got to that wonderful point that you describe...but not quite. I have had several injuries in the past year, which is the reason I tell myself that I haven't pursued yoga. Now I am almost 100% restored from my injuries (shoulder and heel surgery), maybe it is time I really get serious about yoga. So many people I respect have told me that it would be great for me...Your posting has inspired me to take that next step...So...here is a new goal for myself which is a direct result of your inspiration...I will plan to take a yoga class at my gym in the next 2 weeks.
thank you for sharing!
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KIWIELLIE 1/30/2010 2:38PM

    That is so wonderful. No snow here... no rain either - we are officially in a drought area with high fire risk (northland NZ)

Could you tell me which yoga cd or DVD you are using. It sounds cool and I may like to give it a go.

Thanks.

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DMBEECHAM 1/30/2010 1:19PM

    That's an impressive pose! I've tried a bit of yoga here & there with the Wii Fit, but then our Wii was down for the count for well over 3 months. It's in good repair now, I guess I have no excuse to jump back in. Maybe I'll do it MWF mornings after the kidlets are off for school & T/Th when I get back from my morning class. Thanks for the inspiration!

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What's with this fear of rewards? A dialogue between Head and Heart.

Friday, January 29, 2010

Months ago I created a list of rewards for mileposts along the way to reaching the body I want. Most were numerical - reaching 1/4, 1/2 and3/4 of my goal but two were non-scale rewards. And I have reached both of them! and yet - I haven't accepted my rewards. what's with this?

Why is it that intellectually I acknowledge that smaller clothes and compliments from people ought to not just count, but perhaps even be a bigger reason than a scale number but emotionally I don't.

Emotionally I have been telling myself "well, that person just remembered me as bigger than I am" or "oh I am clever at disguising my size with flattering clothes". Emotionally I have said "well, of course those pants fit - you've been working out". Emotionally I am saying "you have not been good enough to deserve those rewards .. . they were for after you actually lost X amount of weight."

Man. That emotional coach has a bad attitude.

My thinking brain says "look girl. the only reason you're doing all this is so that you have a body that fits in the space you want it to (those khaki pants?) and moves with the ease you want (working out girlfriend!!!)

My feeling brain screams "BAAAAAAD LUCK! Reward yourself too soon and you'll get lax and quit!"

My thinking brain says "What's with this fear of rewards? You earned these freakin' things!!!!"

My feeling brain tsks "Fat Fat Fat Fat Fat"

And that's when the thinking brain turns to the feeling brain and says "Wrong Wrong Wrong Wrong Wrong. If you deny the rewards you promised you are a liar liar liar liar liar"

And my feeling brain gasps and then blushes and then swallows and says "oh. you are right. And I hate lying to myself. "

Because, the truth is, my feeling brain isn't really a meanie - it's just ... well ... emotion driven and sometimes it gets afraid and tries to protect me from things it fears. In fact, I believe I see my Dad in that feeling brain of mine, poor thing. Always afraid to savor the triumphs.

And the truth is - I have not only gotten into those khaki trousers, but someone who understands what weight loss looks like, what body shrinkage really is, asked me if I was working on my weight (again) and told me how good I looked. And unlike hearing it from my darling husband who once told me I looked as slim as I did when he met me (and I laughed all the rest of the day ... that was 35 lbs ago!) so you know, I can't believe him. But B? Yeah. She knows. Her compliment I believe.

And the rewards for those two triumphs are

Fit nicely into those khaki trousers --- Leave 3 hours early the following Friday

First time someone says “Haven't you lost weight?” --- Schedule a pedicure and take the rest of the day off

So. I will leave work today at 3 o'clock and this morning when I am having my nails done I will schedule a pedicure for next week and make plans to take the rest of THAT day off too.

Remember - be true to yourself - don't let either your head or your heart fool you.

  
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LV4TAY 1/29/2010 7:42PM

    I love the way you isolated your thinking "self-talk" and your feeling "self talk" because that mean little "you aren't worthy" voice is so pernicious that I often take for granted that I have to listen to it.

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EARTHSEAME 1/29/2010 12:56PM

    Nice analysis. You deserve those awards!
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THEGORGESBLONDE 1/29/2010 10:24AM

    Thanks for this! I'm terrible at rewards, and I need to look at that.

Good for you! Get a cool pedicure! happy toes!

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JKTENTATIVE 1/29/2010 10:14AM

    Yes - I have the same worry...if I reward myself too soon, will I somehow lose my drive and motivation?
Now that we are attuned to that voice, let's make sure that that doesn't happen to us! You go girl and have your pedicure and time off...you deserve it and you should savor it! Use it to build momentum to keep on track and get to that next goal...connect that mind and body in a positive way...
Congratulations!
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DMBEECHAM 1/29/2010 9:35AM

    So true! I blogged about my lack of self-reward the other day. I completely relate to your "Thinking brain" and "Feeling brain" analogy. Sometimes I think I neglect to reward myself because I get sucked into thinking (rationalizing, more like) "why should I reward myself for something I should be doing anyway?"

Congrats on your accomplishments & enjoy your rewards!

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Every Victory Counts

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Even the tiniest ones.

And I have to remember that and also that they don't always come in nice neat little increments, each one bigger than the last one. Certainly not for everyone. Most definitely not for me, the classic ENFP scatter girl who always has 10 projects going at once and wants progress on all of them.

I realize that's the biggest message of SP but sometimes it's lost beneath the da capo retelling of someone's giant triumph. I really like to read other people's success stories - they inspire me a lot. But stories tend to be told in chronological order and just hit the high spots - so the tiny victories get forgotten - get lost in the telling.

and though, of course, we all live chronologically, we may not be victorious in a straight line. Weight may go down one month and inches go down another, energy may be up one month but strength another. And that is why I have to hold on tight to each victory as it comes along and celebrate it, appreciate it, remember how much effort it took and how proud of myself I feel for making the effort.

My victory last night was to NOT eat anything after dinner. I wasn't hungry. My inner devil was saying "its just yogurt. It's nutritious. It's low fat. You just want the taste of something sweet."

To quiet that wicked imp I had to pull out all the stops - use every trick I had.

First I asked myself if I was hungry. Nope.
Second I asked myself if I was hungry again Nope.
Third I asked myself if I could just skip indulging my craving for this one night and for a few moments I could say Yep.
Fourth I asked myself if I was hungry yet. Nope.
Finally I looked down at my tummy and asked myself "would you rather button THAT dress over this tummy or would you rather have a snack? THAT dress won.

And for the first time in a long time I felt that surge of power. that sense of mastery over the situation. I felt as if I really will do this.

this was my spark. this little silly 100 calorie step suddenly felt like a triumph.

yes. I must remember. Every victory counts and deserves to be acknowledged.

You remember it too - you victorious sparkers.

edited to add this link: www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=all
_you_need_is_lovetoughlove_that_is

  
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MSLZZY 1/28/2010 5:54PM

    emoticon emoticon A small victory but a victory all the same! Awesome! Keep on Sparking!

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JLITT62 1/28/2010 1:44PM

    That isn't a small victory, that's HUGE -- and it's one I'm really struggling with right now. And you're inspiring me! Altho I'll probably still have a treat after dinner, but at least it is something to work towards.

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Getting it down on paper

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Man. That is one hard thing for me to do.

Yesterday I boldly stated that I would take 10 minutes to write down everything I like about my body.

But I didn't.

Now - while taking my dogs for a walk in the morning I thought about the things I liked. It was sort of fun and sort of silly and yet it was also enlightening.

but I didn't write it down

I wrote down lists (with timelines) of Important Thing s To Do at work (since I have a bunch of projects coming up). I fulfilled my Just For Today 3 good things. (gonna do that again today)

but I didn't write It Down.

And I didn't do it because I didn't really feel it was important. Because honestly, if it were important I'd have done it. I ALWAYS do the important stuff.

so what's up?

don't I think I'm important?

don't I think I should take 10 minutes out of the 960 minutes I'm wake and write down what I like about myself?

do I think it's silly? arrogant? self-centered?

Was it shyness about putting it down on paper - making it visual? after all, I did give myself 10 minutes to think about this subject.

hmmmmm

I'm pretty sure I'm not the sort who always put myself last. I don't. I indulge in lots of good things. And I'm at the stage in life when the demands on me are less - no young children, husband still vigorous, parents in good care.

I don't know why I didn't take those 10 minutes - but perhaps I wasn't sure what to do with it afterwards. While I don't mind thinking good things about me and I can at least conceive why it would be a good thing to make that list - it's not something I'd post where everyone could see it. Hmmm.

Well. Hmmmm.

I don't have an answer. I guess I'll just have to think about it. On my walk. Which I'm going to go take right now.

Happy Hump Day to you all!!

  
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MSLZZY 1/27/2010 10:04AM

    I need peace and quiet and time to reflect. Somedays it's available and some days, life happens and the task is forgotten. I'll get to it, maybe even today.
No, not maybe! Today! Think positive and just do it!

I just took my 10 minutes now and put it down on paper. Don't tell my boss LOL!

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DAYHIKER 1/27/2010 9:42AM

    Maybe you need one of those little digital recorders to carry with you on your doggie walks!! emoticon I can relate as I have been dragging my feet at finishing the vision collage and today's my last day to finish it for my week 1 list. (sigh)

Happy Wednesday!!
Cindy

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JLITT62 1/27/2010 7:59AM

    Sometimes just blogging about things gives us the answer. You'll figure it out -- I know you will.

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Bess has got her groove back!

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

and she's rarin' to go. AND she's emoticon-ing SP all over the place.

Today there was a great article on staying motivated with two tips I am going to try starting today.

First: Do 3 things today that will move me towards my goals.

a. I will get out of my desk at work every hour and walk around the library, inside and out.
b. I will absolutely positively drink 8 glasses of water
c. Just for today I will eat only and exactly enough food that is Good For Me. No "small handful" of cheetos. No "just one" cookie. Just for today everything I eat will be within my calorie range and 100% nutrition.

These are wonderful things to do any day or all the time, but today I am going to concentrate only on doing them today.

Second: Focus on my good qualities!

woo woo.

So. Just for today I will take 10 minutes and write down everything about my body I like.

I might do that #2 every day - and focus on things other than my body as a spur to get me to move along a little faster in the Other Areas of my life that I would like to be better. I know I respond to praise ... but I don't often give it to myself. I think I actually forget the talents and skills I have that I may not be using and that might just make my work life better, my house tidier, my finances more productive.

Besides - it's not just a silly exercise in self aggrandisement. It's a reminder of things I like to do, know how to do, but have forgotten I can do well because LIFE just hasn't called on those talents lately. But they're there, lying dormant and waiting to be used.

I'm actually a fabulous budgeter and have made mere pennies stretch around the block and then some in years when I've needed to. I haven't needed to in a long time so I have gotten lazy about it. But it isn't THAT hard and I am ready to hone those skills again.

These two things alone are enough to make me emoticon SP all over the place, but then there were these chair yoga exercises that can be part of my getting up and moving every hour plan.

www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=7_
easy_ways_to_relax_on_the_job_without_
getting_fired .


Today I really do feel as if I got my groove back. I wish the same for everyone who reads this! emoticon emoticon

  
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MSLZZY 1/26/2010 11:31PM

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GINNYF1956 1/26/2010 8:10AM

  I love the drive you give me. Will give me a lot more push. Ginnyf emoticon emoticon

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