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Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Ok, keeping with my commitment to write at least a short blog entry every day, yesterday was a good day. I stayed within my calorie range, worked out in the morning and took a 30+ minute walk in the afternoon. I feel good.

Since the beginning of December I have completed a number of actions that should help speed me along to a more healthy and relaxed lifestyle:
1. Shed myself of all employees. Employees were a real source of stress for me. It seemed that I had to work twice as hard to ensure I could meet payroll. Now I am working just for me. I feel much more relaxed and less pressured.
2. Moved my office. With no employees, I was able to downsize and move my office to a bldg. less than a mile from by home. My 15 minute commute is less than 2 now :)
3. Bonus 2nd floor. As an exercise bonus, my new office is on the 2nd floor. Up and down the stairs 20 times a day is an exercise bonus.
4. Have a gym membership. The membership is part of my new health coverage. I have not been yet since I have always been more of a home exerciser, but will check it out this week. It will give me some variety in my exercise.
5. Re-initiated after lunch walks. When I was loosing weight, I walked almost every day after lunch. Not a big calorie burn, but one more hit.

These are just lifestyle changes that will help me be more relaxed and more fit. My mood indicator has definitely gone up.

Next on the agenda is to set my weight loss goals and rewards. 10 lbs in 6 weeks is the first goal. The reward....not sure yet. We are going on a short vacation at the end of Feb. The resort requires "gentlemen wear jackets and ladies dress appropriately"-- Maybe a new sexy outfit emoticon

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CELIAMINER 1/14/2014 3:07PM

    Way to catch that trend and turn it around! I'm working on that, too, even after admitting the weight I chose was not sustainable in the winter months and upping my center weight. Your blog was just what I needed today.

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PRINCESS_SOFI 1/14/2014 2:03PM

    emoticon I wish my health insurance covered a gym membership. I have a home gym but it would be nice to use fancier machines and a swimming pool.

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MJEFFERSON23 1/14/2014 1:51PM

  Very Good Blog!

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Difficulty Staying with the Healthy Lifestyle.

Monday, January 13, 2014

Since September, I have not lost any weight and may have actually gained a few pounds. It is not that I do not know what to do. I lost 50 lbs once, and it was not difficult. I can certainly do it again. It just takes paying attention to what I eat and exercise regularly. Though I have not put on all the weight I loss, I have put enough on that my knees are starting to bother me again and I just do not feel as good about how I look.

Well, to keep me honest and doing what I want to do, I decided to keep a public blog this time and admit when I go off. Do not get me wrong. I am not doing a stringent, boot camp type program. That just is not me. If I deny myself something, then I feel deprived and unhappy. What I want to achieve is balance. If I really want something--piece of candy or glass of wine--fine. What leads to the weight gain is not the occasional indulgences--its the habitual actions.

I know I feel better if I do not have a couple of glasses of wine before dinner, but it is a habit. So this is my commitment.

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TISH0125 1/13/2014 6:09PM

  Wine if fine in my book too!! I prefer dry red since I know I' can sip a small glass for a good hour or two & that's all I need :) Cheers to you & good luck with your goals this week! emoticon

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Back in the Game

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Well, here I am again. I reached my goal 2 years ago, but since that time 20 lbs have come back. The first 5 lbs came quickly, then after stalling for a few months, the pounds came on with a fury. No, it did not just happen. I have a lot of excuses:
1. Remodeled kitchen - 8 months of eating out nightly and my the rec room where I exercise became our living room, dining room and kitchen disrupting my morning exercise routine.
2. Wine - I began adding back a glass or two of wine nightly, which eventually became 3 or 4. For some reason my body does not metabolize wine well and the lbs add on more than the calories would suggest.
3. Laziness - it became easier to go out for lunch than pack a healthy lunch -- a hold over from the habits formed during the remodel.
4. Hot and Cold -- the beautiful Southern California weather had strings of too hot and too cold days for my daily walk.
5. Business Travel -- this has always been a challenge since I travel regularly on business and do not always have exercise facilities or healthy food choices.

I really thought I knew how to eat healthy and exercise regularly, but is amazing how a few "wrenches" in the routine ingrains new habits.

Well, yesterday morning I could not zip up a pair of jeans that had come back from the cleaners. Of course, I had noticed that all my skirts and slacks were getting tight, but this time, I could not even get into them.

OK, there is the motivator. Before I looked at losing weight as a game. I got points for eating healthy, doing my morning exercise, taking a walk after lunch, keeping my calorie count, etc. The points translated into weight lost.

So its back in game. Going for a second win!


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GODDREAMDIVA1 9/26/2013 1:21PM


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GONNALOSE5 9/26/2013 1:20PM

    It is great that you list your *excuses*, and not make them reasons. A good way to start on the right track back. emoticon

Comment edited on: 9/26/2013 1:21:19 PM

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The Entrepreneur vs the New Me

Wednesday, June 08, 2011

Through most of my life, I was relatively slender, then:
- Married +10 lbs. (130)
- Stopped Smoking + 10 lbs. (140)
- Medication with side effect of increasing appetite +10 lbs (150)

But the real knocker was when I started my own business 8 years ago + 35 lbs and it was growing (185 when I finally took control). All my attention, 15 hours + days-- 7 days per week, revolved around the business. There was no time for exercise or healthy eating.

I am now within about 6 lbs of my "stopped smoking weight" and looking to get just a little below that (between 135 and 140) which I think would be the most healthy for me. (I really do not think I would look that good if I was as thin as as I was in my 20's.)

A strange side effect has happened. My interest in work and the business are almost nil. Evidence of this includes that I am writing this blog rather than working on a report which is due.
There have been other factors that may have impacted this conclusion (reunited with my son, grandson in my life, and death of my mother).

I am definitely not giving 110% any more. In fact, I doubt I am giving 10%, which is certainly impacting the bottom line. Work has always been my #1 priority so I am befuddled by my change in attitude.

I am really not sure what I want to do. I thought about just locking the doors and walking away; however, my responsibility for 4 great (well, sometimes great) employees and current clients with contracts really prevents me from doing that. Plus, I wonder if I would get really bored without the stress of the business--its ups and downs.

Thought maybe writing this out would clarify this for me. Is there some other direction I should be taking now? What is it? Whenever I look at setting business goals and developing strategies to make it happen, my mind drifts to menu planning and other non-productive activities and nothing gets done. I look for distractions (like writing this blog). While I want to feel the same enthusiasm and excitement I use to feel about my work, it seems stifled for now.

Was wondering if anyone else noticed their priorities began to change as they began to reach their weight goals or have I just reached burnout.

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IBSHAUN 6/9/2011 10:44PM

    I have noticed that my priorities have changed - I think it's finding our balance. Take your time - you will find what is the best for you.

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GREENMOUSE 6/8/2011 8:56PM

    I agree that I think it's a matter of balance. At least I know for me, if I REALLY, INTENSELY get interested in something new, a lot of other areas suffer at first, until I find my balance.

It sounds like it MIGHT be the same for you. Your FANTASTIC results show your intense commitment to weight/loss/planning right now. Other areas suffer.

I guess the bottom line is for you to ask if your HEART still cares about the business, the people etc. Weight loss might not be enough of a work-area/hobby for the long run. You might need more. Only you can find that out.

Heck, some people DO go the whole way with weight loss and become trainers, diet coaches etc.

Give yourself the quiet time to look inside for the answer :-) emoticon

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SLIMTHICK2 6/8/2011 7:05PM

    I don't think you are experiencing burn out. Your interest has peeked in another direction and now you have to work on finding your balance and that takes time.
I've had a good shift since I started this journey I absolutely fall asleep in front of the television. If my husband doesn't put it on it will never go on most days. The only thing I love to watch is a good nature show other than that I'm not there in tv land anymore.
I'm still working on finding my balance though emoticon. All the best to you.

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The Journey Should Be Fun

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

I don't know if it just my choices, but blogs and articles that I have read recently all seem to center on willpower and sacrifice to achieve weight and health goals. This really turns me off.

To me the journey should be fun and enjoyable. For me at least, the journey started the end of last August when I was weighing in at around 185 pounds. I have loss a little over 33 lbs and am about 2/3's of the way to my goal weight. So I have been at this for 8 months and expect to be at it 3 or 4 more months (and that does not count maintenance). Some Sparkers have been working toward their goal weight for 1, 2, or even 3 years. That is a very long time to spend in a deprivation mode.

My approach is so much different. I track my food intake almost every day (I only missed periods during a major family crisis.). I have made a game out of it. I know what my calorie, protein, carb, and fat amounts should be each day. So it is a like a puzzle that I need to put together with various food items to fill out the picture of a balanced diet. It is a challenge, a challenge I have fun meeting by experimenting with new recipes and planning meals. I do not sacrifice to make my daily goal. I don't make it everyday, but I do win the game most days.

Exercise is also an opportunity to have fun and enjoy. I read the paper while on my stationary bike (something I rarely had time to do before) or play active Wii games, dance and participate in other challenges. I walk during my noon time break, which gives me a chance to meditate and think through problems. I use my strength exercise time to watch TV. I am always looking for new activities that might be fun. I just ordered TurboJam, which a Spark member commented was a lot of fun and online reviews agreed.

The goal is important, but the journey to the goal should be fun. Life is too short not to enjoy every minute. Enjoy your journey and make it fun!

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IBSHAUN 4/28/2011 1:02AM

    I completely agree! It should not be about deprivation. Funny because in the beginning I DID have to deprive myself of the foods I craved so much but they were so unhealthy. Now, I don't really want them. I find myself really wanting to eat better. From time to time, I do want the other stuff and I get it but it doesn't have the same satisfying effect. I like your idea of the game and the puzzle and making it fun for you.

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BENDIEB 4/27/2011 5:09PM

    SLIMTJICK2, I agree that it the weight loss journey should not be considered deprivation and to do so is a setup for failure. What I was trying to say, if perhaps inelegantly, is that if you view your journey as making sacrifices and requiring clenched-teeth willpower, you are making it a journey of deprivation rather than opening yourself to opportunity for joy. The journey should be as delightful as the end result.

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SLIMTHICK2 4/27/2011 4:38PM

    I liked your blog but I disagree with your comment about the duration of time some people spend on achieving their goal. I don't think the time spent on losing weight should be classified as "deprivation". If it's one thing I've learned from this site through it's articles and the blogs of successful sparkies is that deprivation is a negative and is not a successful approach to weight loss. It takes some people longer than others to turn their lives around when it comes to their health. It's a learning process and for a lot of folks, it's a journey that's filled with a lot of bumps on the way.
I do love your approach about making this challenge fun, I think this positive attitude will determine how we respond to the bumps that we meet.
All the best to you.

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CELIAMINER 4/27/2011 4:33PM

    Really like your attitude. I agree this journey should be fun, even though I sometimes feel lucky just to have survived to the end of the day with no time to do anything like play. I'll keep looking for ways to build in fun time. Thanks for you blog.

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