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That was fun!!!!!

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

I am so happy to report that my first 55+ Fellowship..........the new name (was Senior Fellowship Network) was approved unanimously!!!!!!! We had our installation and wore a lovely yellow corsage......the luncheon was great and only had one small dessert and baked chicken with a little pasta, veggies, squash. The meeting went sooooooooo well and it just felt so good to be there and welcoming people and so many were congratulating me for taking over the presidency and also several told me if I had not stepped forward, it would have gone away, and here it has been in existence for close to 20 years!!! That was the Lord's doing.......I just felt a call!!!

Out the door soon to teach RE........my sweet little 2nd graders!!!!!!

Grace is available for each of us every day......our spiritual daily bread....but we've got to remember to ask for it with a grateful heart and try not to worry about whether there will be enough for tomorrow. There will be!!! Sarah Ban Breathnach

  
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CROBINGO 10/15/2009 8:44AM

    Sounds like it was a really great event!

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BETRME100 10/14/2009 6:23AM

    Sounds like you all will benefit from your selflessness...isn't it nice to do something that makes you, and others, feel so good?

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MA2DAPPLES 10/14/2009 12:56AM

    Congratulations!

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SPARKLINJEWELLS 10/13/2009 11:06PM

    great job

and how great, that you're having so much fun!

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LINDA! 10/13/2009 9:34PM

    I am so happy for you!!! It certainly sounded like a wonderful day. emoticon

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LOULOUBELLE2 10/13/2009 8:12PM

    So glad that everything went well.........A Yellow Corsage, how pretty for this time of year. I bet you wore it with a smile too.
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DEBBIEANNE1124 10/13/2009 7:12PM

    So glad you enjoyed that!
Hope today was a good day for youa s well.
Debbie

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KEENTINA 10/13/2009 5:47PM

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KAT7457 10/13/2009 5:14PM

    I am happy for you congradulations!! many hugs

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Got My Focus BACK!!!!!

Monday, October 12, 2009

I think volunteering at my church in different groups is helping me to make changes within myself. I just feel more optimistic! Today I am planning a short talk to my 55+ group......our first get together since I took over as president. We will have a nice luncheon and chance to meet the parish staff and also it is our installation of officers with a blessing from our priest! I also am planning my RE activities for tomorrow when I get home from the luncheon (2:30 or 3PM) then back at 4 for my class that starts at 4:30. I also made low fat brownies for my 55+ luncheon and the evening commissions meeting. It was our turn to provide goodies! I NEVER add oil to my brownies.......either apple sauce or lf yogurt or even nonfat, and instead of the eggs, I substitute egg whites.......2 for one egg. Anyway, I think doing these positive things, planning and all has given me a boost in the self esteem area and I have my focus back!!!

I have not heard from my mom and when my dd called me this morning, and I told her that I haven't talked to gm since Friday, and do not plan on talking to her till the end of the week, and said I am hoping she might call. DD said, "mom, she won't......she thinks she did no wrong!" She is probably right, but I still feel good about my decision in not talking with her; I am very upbeat right now, and I just don't want to hear any negativity from my mom!

Thanks to all of you for your support; I really appreciate it so much!

A dream is what you would like for life to be and hold, but a goal is what you INTEND to make happen. Dennis Waitly

  
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VISUALLYRICS 10/13/2009 8:48AM

    ((Wonderful!)) Your focus is so key to reaching your goals!!!!
I am GLAD you have it back! Just LIVE for today like there is no tomorrow!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

((hugs)) ~ Laura

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CROBINGO 10/13/2009 8:02AM

    You should feel good about your decision not to talk to her right now. Makes sense! Great job on the focus back!!!

One thought. My father once said something to me when I was finding someone particularly frustrating and I could not get past it. I asked him how I could change the situation and person. He told me that I could not change the person, but I could change my feelings about the situation and what I expected from that person. That was about 30 years ago (yes...I am old) but it is so true and it has worked for me when dealing with many people (including family members). I don't remember it often enough but when I do, it helps.



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GOING2LOSENOW 10/13/2009 4:10AM

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ENUFF81020 10/13/2009 1:19AM

    Good for you, Barbara!!

It feels good to be back with your goals and plan, doesn't it? I have been doing the same with my activity lately and it is a great feeling. It is also great for you to take control of negativity around you and not let it pull you down.

I hope you have an awesome week, that just keeps getting better and better. Take care of yourself.

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DONNAEDA 10/13/2009 12:34AM

    I think by giving of yourself to others you feel optomistic about life. I always believe that by giving you get so much more than you give. Congratulations on your presidency. I know you will do a great job

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LINDA! 10/12/2009 10:55PM

    Sometimes we have to keep negative people or thoughts out!!

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JACKIE4019 10/12/2009 9:18PM

    Sounds like you're to busy to eat. You are keeping your hands and mind busy. emoticon

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HORSELOVER7562 10/12/2009 8:37PM

    Wow! Have you been busy or WHAT!? I'm glad you are sticking to your decision and that you are remaining upbeat! I'm not sure if to hope that your mom DOES call or that she does NOT call. I worry that her negativity will ruin your upbeat attitude. So I just will not hope for either one. What happens will happen either way.

Just remember that she cannot change how you think of yourself, only you can do that. Keep the upbeat attitude and know that we all think you are AWESOME and doing a GREAT JOB!

Tracy

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ANMAIREE 10/12/2009 7:04PM

    Such a busybee, good 4 u emoticon & BEST WISHES

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LMCGEEN 10/12/2009 2:18PM

    Very busy but it sounds like it is good fo ryou!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 10/12/2009 12:08PM

    Boy oh boy you are keeping busy.
that is wonderful.
I should follow that example myself.


Don't be so offended if your mom doesn't call.
She will come around though.
Debbie

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CODEMAULER 10/12/2009 11:56AM

    Good for you! Don't let insensitive people influence your decision to make it the best day ever!

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Oh, my mother!!!

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Well, I try to overlook the selfishness and the thoughtlessness of my mom, but......I've decided to just not talk to her this week on the phone! Her conversations with me are just getting me down........so much that I almost went to the store to buy some chocolate,BUT I did not!!! OK, here is what happened. I called her yesterday.....started out fine; she asked me what was new and I told her that I was preparing for a big day this coming Tuesday (I am the new president of the 55+ fellowship at my church) and that is the same day as my RE class and back in the evening for a commissions meeting; and I told her this.......a very busy day....being at my church from 10:30 to almost 9PM....with two drives home for 1 hour inbetween. You know what she said......."Poor Bill, what is he going to do for his meals!!!!" I wanted to hear, you have a lot on your plate, but it sounds like fun and hope your back holds up or something to support me! NO........didn't get that, so I just said "are you kidding me?" Did I just hear you right? She laughed and I told her I was too upset to talk any longer and then told her goodbye and hung up! I then proceeded into the kitchen, ranting and raving! I made a huge batch (6 cups of hot air popcorn and sprayed it with spray butter) and ate it all!!! then called my DD.......and told her all the above! She said, "mom does that really surprise you........because grandpa never fixed his own meals!!" And, mom, she is not supportive!!She is not thinking about you! IT is true........I will have food for Bill......even tho I know he can take care of himself. I am so done going out of my way, calling my mom every day. I am planning on going up there for the weekend of the 24th, and now I really don't know if I want to be around her!!!! Didn't I just blog on my nonsupportive mom last weekend????? Yes, is the answer!

(oh, yes, we are picking up the car this afternoon........they said it was bad gasoline and dh has been getting gas from that station for years so we will see)!

Thanks to all of you for letting me vent.......I feel better and no chocolate for me!!!!!!

  
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CROBINGO 10/13/2009 7:54AM

    Great vent! Actually it sounds like you handled yourself great (even with 6 bags of popcorn...good choice by the way if you were going to eat something munchie)!

I agree with one of the other postings. Families are so great and they have the ability to get to us the most! We accept the more from them than any other people in the world...and keep going back for more because they ARE family. Each of us has a family member that just gets to us, I think.

I love reading your blogs, by the way. You are clearly a strong, vibrant, faithfilled and interesting person. Know that even when your Mom makes you feel differently.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 10/11/2009 7:24PM

    I think it's because of your moms age. Mine was the same way. Always something sarcastic coming out of her mouth. The older they get the more unpleasant they are to be around.
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Debbie

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KATELJM 10/11/2009 5:46PM

    Family can be your anchor and they can be your curse.

The bottom line is: you are an adult.

Just because your mom has a problem, you don't have to make it your problem. None of us is perfect, and that also applies to our parents.

Part of growing up is making the most of the advantages we have and learning how to compensate for the rest. If we don't get the positive reinforcement we want and need, we have to give it to ourselves, and not give power to others to control how we feel.

I will never forget the night before a big job interview, when I spoke with my Mom on the telephone. She asked, "Why would they hire you?" I replied, "Mom, don't call me, I'll call you."

Fortunately, five years before she passed, MDM changed, and I don't know why. I always suspected that she made a comment to a friend, and that friend called her on it. Ever since then, we were "good."

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NONIE_C 10/11/2009 4:19AM

    It's funny (and, no, I don't mean ha-ha) the way our loved ones, and moms especially, can really push our buttons. Your mom reminds me of my grandmother and the way she could be so heartless, manipulative and cruel to my mom. She actually came out and told her she never liked her once! There are a million and one reasons why people do the thoughtless and cruel things they do, and often those reasons are rooted in something that we should pity them for. But regardless of what kind of energy you want to give to the reasons of your mom's actions, I tell you this: Do not take on her issues!!! They are hers and not yours. When she laughs, you should just laugh back. She doesn't get it, and it seems likely she never will. But you know who you are. Be like the duck and let it all run off. Don't let her get inside your head and heart. Just don't give her that power and, who knows, maybe if she doesn't get the reaction then she'll stop pushing the buttons. Either way, you need to disengage from it. And the other thing is, you can only EXPECT people to be exactly who they are. If they decide to change, you'll know it, but don't expect it; you'll just get your heart broken. And that's no fun.

Vent all you want and need. Know that chocolate won't solve problems, and should be used as a reward, not a punishment. And above all, know that you are fabulous!

Good luck on Tuesday, superwoman. You'll get it all done and you'll feel great about yourself!
Take care,
Nicole
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SPARKLINJEWELLS 10/10/2009 10:53PM

    um

sorry about your mom

my mom's great, it's my dad i have to tiptoe around, but, that's been for a zillion years

it gives me great perspective on how to love someone, but maybe not like them

hope you find a way to sanely get thru these conversations!

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CHARLIESANGEL10 10/10/2009 10:38PM

    Yes vent , not chocolate! I walked past a reeses the other day, thought about buying it(the 4 pack, no less), & then I thought of you---your "just do it" motto & your beautiful smiling face--you look a lot like my mother-in-law, who is beautiful & like the mom I wish I had; so, I skipped the chocolate & came here & blogged about my boobs crisis & I, too, feel better & no calories!!! It helps us to see others struggles because it gives us strength & ideas, too......I always know I'm in trouble when my mom starts a sentence like this, " I'm about to tell you something that only a mother can tell you & it is because I love you." That phrase is always followed by a whammy!!! Thanks for being you & I'm sure your church is better for having you there.

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LINDA! 10/10/2009 7:33PM

    Yes, your husband will be fine. My sisters and law and my mother in law (now deceased) were just like that!! I was the only independent female in the group! Good for you for doing things you want to do. I am sure your DH is supportive of you. It is a shame that your mother isn't. That is something that I am certain is quite a heartache for you with your mother. She doesn't seem to "get it" that you would like some support. Hugs to you. I wish it could get better. emoticon emoticon

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NEWME0519 10/10/2009 5:46PM

    Thanks for sharing your Mother relationship struggles with us! It gives me a better insight and helps me put my issues with my Mom in perspective.

I hope that you have an enjoyable & pain-free day on Tuesday!

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FORMERTEACHER 10/10/2009 5:21PM

    My advice is to say something like, "Oh I don't know. Ask Bill!" or something like that. It's good for men to do for themselves sometimes...

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CODEMAULER 10/10/2009 4:50PM

    ARGH! Family sure can pack a wallop! You've got your thinking straight, don't let Mom derail you. We're here for you so vent away! ~ Trish

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HORSELOVER7562 10/10/2009 3:17PM

    I'm sorry your Mom hurt you so badly. I have a good relationship with my Mom but my two sisters do not and I see them hurting her and her hurting them all the time. I just don't get why people have to be that way. You just keep doing a good job! And how IS your back, by the way? Decompression still helping?

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TKT123 10/10/2009 2:15PM

    No one hurts us as badly, or makes us more upset then the person that gave us life...no one. I understand..hugs, T

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RASCALSMOMMA 10/10/2009 1:18PM

    Barbara we are in the same boat Momwise! or in our cases Mom-is-not-wise! I have been hoping that she would notice my weight loss and what do i get? For wearing the same shoes that she thought i should cut the straps off the summer before, that now fit (and are a little big!), I got--nothing. Excuse? "yeah i notced them but didnt say anything cuz they were still to tight" Grrr I let her have it today and told her that on my left the shoe was falling off and the right didnt leave any impression at all and that I was proud of myself for what I had done. She finally said; "I see I was wrong; I owe you an apology". Magic words. I hope your problem is as "easy"to cure (btw it took me 5 months to get that from her today!) Hugs to you and congrats on your busy life! Laurie

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KINZIEZOO 10/10/2009 1:17PM

  Must be a generational thing! Fortunately my mother isn't like that but my grandmother sure is! NEVER asks about ME or my job; FIRST thing is always how my husband is doing & about HIS job - like MINE is of no value! Before we got married (& after) she kept asking what I was gonna do with all my pets when we got married & was he gonna "let" me keep them!! LOL I finally started saying, well, I'm letting him keep his children, so he has to let me keep mine too! LOL

Just TRY to blow off those insensitive comments & questions from your mother - KNOW that it is not personal, just HER particular lifestyle & generation.

Keep up the good work & God bless you!


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Life span of hurts......Robert H. Schuller

Friday, October 09, 2009

Here is another entry from my daily devotional. It seemed fitting since I've read a few blogs on grief, divorce, pain.

Each hurt has a different life span.

Divorce has a long life span, especially when children are involved. Death has a long life span too. Dr. Joyce Brothers told me the other day after her husband, Milt died that she grieved for over a year after his death. Many well-meaning friends tried to hurry her through her grief process, encouraging her to "get over him." Day by day, little by little, life got better. She ran on auto pilot to make it through the day. Then one day, she found herself smiling again.

Yes, hurts have different life spans. The point I want to make is this: the pain you are feeling today, whatever your hurt, will pass in time. It will leave a scar. But you will get through it. TRUST GOD and your own healing process.......you WILL smile again......I promise.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

  
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DONNAEDA 10/9/2009 5:58PM

    thank you so much for the posting. So inspirational.

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LOULOUBELLE2 10/9/2009 1:47PM

    So true, yet as you well know, some pain continues on for a long, long time. Especially when children are involved.
I still struggle with the loss of my precious grandson over 16 years ago and a grand daughter 8 years ago. One never expects to say goodbye to lives so young.
But there is hope as time seems to soften it.
Thanks for sharing Barbara.
Hugs,
ME

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JACKIE4019 10/9/2009 11:48AM

    So true.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 10/9/2009 10:45AM

    Very informative and good to know, Barbara.
Thanks

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DEBBIER9 10/9/2009 10:35AM

    Yes time does heals and hopefully the memories make the heart smile. emoticon

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TKT123 10/9/2009 10:32AM

    Thank you, I really pray that one day I will smile again and mean it..right now I feel I am going through the motion if you know what I mean. I am feeling really ashamed of myself because I know that she is in a better place..I know that she is out of pain..but, I am selfish and want her back...a lot of guilt I am feeling because of this..thanks for filling my heart with hope ...

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A Minority of One.....by Robert A. Schuller

Thursday, October 08, 2009

I liked this in my Power for Life daily devotional and wanted to share it.

Have you ever felt like a minority of one?

A little boy in Italy at the end of the last century did. He believed God had called him to sing. One day he visited a voice teacher to get an appraisal. The teacher listened, and after he was finished stated emphatically, "Your voice sounds like wind crashing through a shutter. You're the WORST singer I've ever heard."

Not to be detoured, the boy looked for any opportunity to learn to sing. He sang Neapolitan folk songs on the street and at age nine, joined the parish choir. It wasn't until he was a teenager that he took his first voice lesson. Who was this boy with the big desire to sing? Enrico Caruso, one of the world's greatest tenors.

NEVER let others' opinions keep you from pursuing your God-given dreams.

There is a future hope for you, and your hope will NOT be cut off. Proverbs 24:14

  
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CROBINGO 10/9/2009 9:38AM

    Incredible blog! Great story too...I couldn't wait to read to the end. You are so right on the power of one.

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PATTIANNT 10/9/2009 8:43AM

    Awesome, really gives perspective to how we let others influence us. Listen to the positive!!!!!!
Patti

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ZABINAS 10/8/2009 8:52PM

    What a great story. Thanks!

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WILLOW49 10/8/2009 7:55PM

    Great! Thanks for sharing with us :)

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LOULOUBELLE2 10/8/2009 5:45PM

    Love it when you post these passages...I just might have to get a copy of that book......
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DEBBIEANNE1124 10/8/2009 12:22PM

    Exactly!

Have a wonderful day, friend!
Deb

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TKT123 10/8/2009 12:13PM

    I love Robert Schullers positive thinking ....we can all relate this to our weight loss...believe in yourself and you can do anything..thanks for posting this..hugs, T

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