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Not happy about today......

Friday, April 24, 2009

I am just feeling a little down.......got my adjustment and my chiro. told me no aerobics for 2 weeks, so I am down about it, but I HAVE TO GET myself BETTER!!!!

I am also bummed about my mom and her situation, but there really is nothing I can do at this time! She absolutely refuses to leave her home, or to even come down here to stay a day or two....so it is HER choice for now.......and I will abide by that. I have to tell you something that I did not tell you yesterday about my "goodbye" to my mom. I felt kind of hurt by this......she did not even thank me for coming and......it just hurt me. She said goodbye and I love you and I said it back to her; I don't know......it is stuff like that....that makes me NOT want to go too soon to see her! I mean, I take the time to drive 1 1/2 hours with ice on my back in the car to see see her; yes, I had a friend's dad's funeral to go to, but I did go visit her and played cards and did her laundry and cleaned her house a little. Oh, well, I guess I just have to realize that she was probably thinking it......so why didn't she just say it!!!!!??? emoticon

  
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BETRME100 4/26/2009 10:01AM

    I'm sorry that you're still hurting and that your doctor has put restrictions on your activities...but it's just for a little while. Once you're feeling better, you'll be able to get back to exercising.

Our moms...nobody can hurt our feelings like they can, you know? Even tho it's nice to hear the "thank you", you know in your heart that she appreciates all that you do. Is it possible that she feels a little guilty about you having to take the time out of your busy life to come down and help her out? I know moms always think they should be taking care of us, not the other way around. Just a thought.

I hope you have a peaceful, relaxing Sunday!

Kit

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COOKIE386 4/24/2009 10:00PM

    Sorry you are feeling down. When your mother seems unappreciative, just remember, she had to survive your teenage years!! (I only say that because that is what I am going through right now!)

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EMMASMART 4/24/2009 9:34PM

    It's just a Moment of time. As a part of your whole life it's just a tiny moment. You can do this.

Emma

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DEBBIEANNE1124 4/24/2009 8:09PM

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You will be getting back to normal really soon. I know you better than that. I'm so sorry aobut you feeling down, friend. I wish I can cheer up my former oregonian. I'd give ehr a pretty bright red bouquet of red tulips found on my blog. .
I, so wish I can cheer you up some.
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LINDA! 4/24/2009 6:38PM

    So sorry that the doctor has limited you with your exercise. I know that is a disappointment to you. But please do what he says and take care of yourself.

I know what you mean about your mother. Sometimes a little acknowledgement of what we have done for another would be appreciated. Sometimes my two oldest daughters disappoint me that way as well. Just keep doing what you have to do and know that one day she may give you a thank you.

Take care of yourself. Linda

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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 4/24/2009 4:41PM

    I'm so sorry about the exercise restriction. There was a time we wouldn't have minded if someone told us we couldn't exercise, we'd have been fine with it. Now, we love it, it makes us feel better. How wonderful ... until someone takes it away from us! I know this isn't really when you want to hear it, but congrats on being a person who has made exercise a habit!!

My Mom is getting like that. I travel so far to see her and there is no thought to the effort it takes me to make the 10 hour trip to get there and another 10 hours to get back home. I suppose their ages? Whatever it is, we're in a similar boat. Even if she didn't say it, I'm glad you went and spent the time with her. You made some more memories that you'll be glad you have.

Hugs, my sweet friend,
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GMASANDIE 4/24/2009 4:39PM

    I understand how you must feel. Please keep seeing her as much as you can. I have four grown kids. Two I may see once or twice a year. The other two drop by for a short time. I can't tell you what it means for an older Mother to see her grown kids. All of mine live within 50 miles of me. They will come to my town to shop and I never know it. I know two of them are especially busy. I also know growing old can be lonely. Oh we may have church, or senior groups and other things, but believe me, nothing takes the place of your kids no matter their age! I always say "thank you", but for some people those words do not come easy. Love u does! And the words I love you says it all. Sorry to ramble, just sharing from an older person's heart. emoticon

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JIBBIE49 4/24/2009 4:22PM

    Maybe she was remember all those times she got up in the middle of the night with you when you were little and sick, or the times she did without so you could have something you needed for school..........
I don't know why people don't say they are thankful. BUT, I went to Nathan's cancer camp luncheon today to bring him back home, and I met 40 of the most thankful people I've ever met. They were thankful for laughing.

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46A39P 4/24/2009 3:26PM

    I'm sorry you feel hurt by her not thanking you. Maybe she is not doing that well...not wanting to leave her place...Sometimes people either say things that they shouldn't or forget to say things they should. Maybe she had a lot on her mind and it didn't occur to her? It is a little strange, and that I would think would customarily be said. Sometimes our folks expect from us more then appreciate. I'm sorry you didn't feel appreciated. It goes to show, a little goes a long way.

I hope you are feeling better.

Hugs,

Jean

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KIMBA39 4/24/2009 2:50PM

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Take care of yourself! You'll be back at it in 2 weeks, it may seem long, but it will fly by. Just concentrate on the fact that your back will feel better!!! Imagine the beauty of no pain!

Maybe you should journal on why you expected a thank you from your Mom. Has she said it in the past and didn't do it this time? Has she ever said it? Is her never saying it what's upsetting you?

I understand wanting to help you mother, but as you've said, you have no control over her decisions. You'll just have to accept it at face value and move on from there.

Best of luck to you during your rest period!



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Back from funeral and mom's....

Thursday, April 23, 2009

My friend's dad had a nice funeral and I made it on time, despite the 2 road work areas!!!!! It was good to see her, and I am sure I will be seeing more of her, since she may move in with her mom. She divorced many years ago and never remarried. Her ex was there and so was her son.....her mom is very lonely, which is understandable.

My mom was very glad to see me, and we again played cards; I think that is her biggest highlight! I also did her laundry. I did witness though compared to even seeing her on Easter Sunday that she is failing, and she told me again that she wishes she could just go and be with dad; I got teary eyed; she cried.....I had to make some phone calls on bills that are almost 2 years old for dialysis transportation for my dad when he was in rehab.....I am trying to get them to waive it, but that may not happen.

It is good to be back; I just wished I could get my mom to come down here to spend a few days, but she won't. Our bedrooms are all upstairs, and she has a hard time maneuvering those, even though I told her, I would help her both ways....It would just be such a nice change of pace....for both of us!!!!

Give without remembering--take without forgetting. Unknown

  
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ALASKAN 4/24/2009 2:24PM

    Welcome back Barbara,
It's good to have you back with us. I guess you had enjoyed your visit, but hard on the circumstances. I will keep your mother in my prayers when we have that time each night and to see your Mom health failing. It's always hard to see someone like a parent having a hard time. I had said a prayer for you while you were away and so happy that you got home safely. May God watch over her and give her the strength that she needs. I'm sure your Mom will think about your offer.

I have tried to get my Mom to move here where Iam, but she says it's too hot for her. She has a relationship with a man and I believe that is why she will move here too. I lost my Dad in 1/2000 and we keep in touch with one another. I try to call my Mom 2 or 3 times a month. I have told that I'm here if she wants to call anytime. We have been always close and it has been that way all the time.

But the main thing is, your Mom knows that you love her and look after her well being. She will always cherish your offer and maybe she will remember it. Just keep in touch with her and tell that you love her too.

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MARDAW 4/24/2009 10:03AM

  Welcome back! I hope you enjoyed your visit , even though the circumstances were not the best. It is too bad that you can not get your Mom to come stay with you for a bit I think it would do her a world of good. It is so hard to see our parents grow old and know that they are lonely.
My parents will not come visit me either. My Dad has lost his eye sight and it is not easy for him to get around in unfamiliar places. My Mom's sight is not much better and she has a problem with stairs. For the time being they are most comfortable in their own little place but, my finance being what they are I am not able to travel to see them. I see them once a year if I am lucky.
I cared for a woman who had Alzheimer's and she constantly told me that she wanted to go and be with her husband. It just breaks your heart doesn't it? My Grandfather was also the same way. It's just awful to feel so alone.

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JIBBIE49 4/24/2009 1:01AM

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CLOWN54 4/24/2009 12:17AM

    My father talks the same way, he misses my mother so much. I'm sorry it was a tuff day for you. its a hard thing we all have to do. I will be thinking of you and saying a prayer for you and your mother.

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TKT123 4/23/2009 11:41PM

    I am so sorry you had to attend a funeral today...and to see your mom failing, that is so difficult...my heart went out to you. Tomorrow will be a better day..hugs, Trudy

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LOULOUBELLE2 4/23/2009 6:35PM

    About 2 years before my Mom passed, she's talk like that so I know how hard it is to hear. But they need to say it as well as you to hear it, tough as it might be. I envy you being able to see your Mom...there are times I would love to talk to mine, to hug her and just know she was there, but she's with our Savior a far better place than here. That doesn't stop me from missing her though.
Love your Mom, see her as much as possible, call her often and above all pray for her. I hold you both up in prayers as that's where your strength will come from.
Glad your back safely.
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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 4/23/2009 5:05PM

    Bless your dear Mom. I know my parents keep saying that they are going together. Oh that they would ... oh that they'd never go!

Glad you had a safe trip!!
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HIONLIFE93 4/23/2009 4:53PM

    Keeping you and your family lifted in prayer. Asking God to give you the strength to be there for your mom. It is difficult as they get older. And you always have your Spark Friends to lean on. We are here for you.

Joyce

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DEBBIEANNE1124 4/23/2009 4:50PM

    It must be very ahrd on you when moms talks like that. My heart goes out for her. she must really miss your dad. Be strong, sweet friend.
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Debbie

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DETERMINEDAGAIN 4/23/2009 4:38PM

    I'm glad that you were able to be there for both your friend and your mom. I hope things get better for them both. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I'm glad that you are still so positive!! Way to be!
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KIMBA39 4/23/2009 3:57PM

    It was nice that you were able to see your Mom again in such a short time span between visits. Is it possible for your friend's mom and your mom to spend time together playing cards or something? If your Mom is lonely it can make her health deteriorate faster than if she has company to look forward to. Or maybe there's a senior community center in her area??

Glad to see you're home and doing okay. Talk to you soon!

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A good RE class

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

All of my little 2nd graders showed up for the 2nd to last class; they learned how to receive communion with unblessed hosts.....wow what fun! They will be receiving their first communion on the first two Saturdays of next month....4 in all...services cuz we have close to 280 children making their first communion!!! I had each child write a thank you not to Jesus...as part of the service....they will all be in a basket to take up to the altar during offertory....Some kids read theirs out loud...."thank you for sacrificing yourself for me, thank you for my mom and dad and my pet, for everything, for the food and my house.....just a few that I remembered! It is important to be soooo thankful everyday! Thank you for coming to my blog, and I hope you have a blessed day.

I will be going to my friend's funeral this morning......leaving shortly and will be back tomorrow sometime late afternoon. I was hoping to get my mom out to the funeral, but she does not want to go; she knew the man who died, so I will go by myself, and I am sure I will see someone there I know. I am looking forward to giving Sheila a hug......the friend whose dad died; we have talked a lot prior to his death, and she told DH on the phone before I answered that "I have been a peach helping her through this" That was nice to hear and took me by surprise....we never know how we touch other people's lives, do we??????!!!!!!

Problems are guidelines, not stop signs.......unknown

  
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JIBBIE49 4/23/2009 4:19AM

    Second grade is so much fun.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 4/22/2009 3:53PM

    Honey, I'm so sorry aobut your loss. I didn't know you had a friend that died. I must ahve missed something. Do enjoy yoru visit with your mom when you do go.

We're ahving a gloomy day here looks even like it's going to rain after 4 glowious days of warm sunshine.

Take good care and may you be blessed by the Lord always.

Debbie

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KNH771 4/22/2009 11:55AM

    I bet the second graders are a lot of fun! You are very giving to volunteer for first communion year... I taught 3rd grade because I didn't want to do the extra work!

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KIMBA39 4/22/2009 10:39AM

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Didn't expect to see you posting again until after the funeral. Give Sheila a hug for all of us. Prayers with all....

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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 4/22/2009 8:19AM

    What a blessing your 2nd graders are. What a blessing you are! You are correct ... we just don't know the lives we touch so we touch gently and bless as we go.

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calf/back pain......need to NOT walk

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

I think I overdid it on Sunday with my 30 minute aerobic walk......my calf and back have been bothering me a lot since yesterday....getting a little frustrated and am icing right now! I will see my chiro this afternoon before I have my class, cuz will not be able to see him tomorrow.....leaving early to go to my mom's and the funeral of my friend's dad.

I teach RE this afternoon......only 1 class left after t his one! It has been a really quick year, and I have re-upped to teach next year 2nd graders again! I do love the little ones.....they are such little sponges!

If life can be rough with faith, imagine what it would be like without it! Unknown

  
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JIBBIE49 4/23/2009 4:20AM

    Yes, life can be rough. My Nathan is at Cancer Camp for Adults, so I didn't think I'd have to have him dealing with that, but I know he will come out stronger.

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TEACHINGAGAIN 4/22/2009 10:12AM

    I hope the chiro helps. I can tell you are getting frustrated, just take it easy though. Do you have anyone that can give you a massage? We have a vibrator from Sam's (bought three years ago) and it really helps me when my husband does that for about fifteen-twenty minutes. Also I am wondering if you did any stretching before or after your walk? My niece walks with me at the rec center and she got me into doing a little bit of it for the calf and back (I don't get down on the floor).
Anyway, it sounds like you are going through some rough things. Funerals are hard and it is good that you are there for your friend. Hope your mom is doing well!
Anita
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KIMBA39 4/21/2009 10:52PM

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Take care of yourself, you don't want to make it worse and put yourself out of commission even longer! I hope all went well at the chiro's!



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EMMASMART 4/21/2009 8:35PM

    I hope your aching calf is soon a memory.

Emma

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BETRME100 4/21/2009 7:11PM

    I hope you're feeling better soon.

Kit

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KNH771 4/21/2009 6:06PM

    I hope you're back to normal soon. Blessings for your friend who lost her Dad.

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LINDA! 4/21/2009 4:03PM

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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 4/21/2009 3:54PM

    You are in my prayers, my friend. Have a safe trip to your Mom's You will be missed!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 4/21/2009 3:26PM

    Oh Barbara... I do hope you feel better really soon.
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Debbie

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Good......good morning!!!!!

Monday, April 20, 2009

Well, we have to sell our newest car...our Mini Cooper. We only got it in October, and at that time, DH's work was paying for the gas......it is an hour each way for him to go to work...with traffic. Anyway, they are giving him an older car to use....Affinity I think. Anyway, we already have 2 sports car, my VW bug, a Jaguar, and we do NOT need a 6th car if we keep the mini, so it is up for sale. I had to take him and the mini to the detailing place......his work will pay for that, so we can get it in top shape to sell. DH is saddened that he needs to sell it but with my bug being almost 11 years old, it makes more sense to sell the Mini, plus I still love my bug.....like I bought it yesterday! It is just TOO fun to drive; not that the Mini is not, but I just LOVE my bug.

I am heading up to my mom's probably Wed. AM.....a good jr. high friend's dad died yesterday and his funeral is Wednesday. We only reconnected at one of our class reunions 2 years ago, and now we talk to each other weekly. I love that we do that, and she came down here at Christmas time to visit. She was with her mom and dad when he went on to heaven, and for that she is thankful......I am too, cuz it was special to me when my dad died with my mom, sis and myself around him......at home too.

I have my snacks and my meal plan outlined for today......eating to be satisfied, not stuffed. It has been a long time since I had that "stuffed" feeling, and I definitely prefer the "just satisfied" feeling.......I have more energy when I follow that mode!

We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie
(Probably out to be daffodils)!!!!!!

  
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HUMMINGBIRDFLY 4/20/2009 10:34PM

    Have a safe trip...I know your friend will appreciate you being with her during this time. Your Bug made me think of my first car, a baby blue VW Bug. I really liked my Bug too. Thanks for the memories.....Myrna

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ALASKAN 4/20/2009 9:52PM

    Hello Barbara,
You have a safe trip and be careful. Sounds like you will have fun and all. It 's nice that you can reconnect with your friend be there for her in this time of need and she will appreciate it too. I'm emoticon to hear about your friend's Dad. I will keep them in prayer and in my thoughts too. emoticon Talk to you soon, and take care. Always, ERNA

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DEBBIEANNE1124 4/20/2009 4:52PM

    Your cars sound so cool! Robert has had Jaguars and Ferari's and now he's got a Saturn CS2 a sporty thing. It's a hassle for me to get out of. U huff and puff and grunt and groan. Too small for me and i am 4'11". I want a van like a Suv we went to Tacoma in. that was a great smooth drive. robert thinks the upkeep on those are too expensive. Oh well.
Have fun at moms house.

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TXSPLA 4/20/2009 1:05PM

    You have planned everything very well. Take care on your trip. I'm glad you re-connected with your friend.
Peggy
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KIMBA39 4/20/2009 12:43PM

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Have a safe trip. I'm so glad you were able to reconnect with an old friend. It's important to have good friends that have known you for a long time. Prayers are with the family...

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POLYANASUNSHINE 4/20/2009 10:01AM

    Have a safe trip. Sounds as if you have everything all planned out for your meals. It is nice that you will be able to be with your friend at her dad's funeral. I too reconnected with someone that I had lost touch with and it makes you feel all good inside. emoticon

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JACOBYSNANNAMOM 4/20/2009 9:03AM

    Take care on your trip. That's nice that you have connected with your friend again & to be with her during this time of sorrow.
Sounds like you are doing great with planning your food before the day begins!! Maybe I need to follow your idea, then I shouldn't overeat.
Too bad you have to sell your mini, they are so cute.
Have a good day & have a safe trip.
Marla

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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 4/20/2009 8:26AM

    Have a safe trip. So glad that you reconnected with your friend so that you can be with her when she needs you most.

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