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What's new with me?

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

I have been gone so much, and not really doing what I should be doing. But this is what has been going on:

Last week I found a renter for my condo! It's my uncle, and he's a police officer. Which is good, because my neighbor downstairs at the condo is a CRAZY WOMAN. Like, talks to herself in different voices and is paranoid. Anyway, I was scared about renting out my condo because I knew Crazy Donna would harass them, and call the police, and cause a bunch of problems. But she won't be able to do that with my uncle there. He's a big, scary, hairy, cop. Bwahahaha!!!! But the rent money will be great every month, because we've still been paying the mortgage and association fee... that was about $450/month we've been throwing away.

Last week I also got a graduate teaching assistantship for next year - which is awesome! It covers tuition up to 10 or 12 credits (I can't remember), benefits (health, dental, and vision), and a stipend. So I am no longer going to apply for a Head Start grant. I'm going to do my own dissertation, on a college sample, and do it as fast as I can. I want to graduate! My goal is August 2011. If I graduate by then, I can apply for a job at the other university where I work - they want to hire a stats person that can also work with students on research - and the interim chair likes me and wants to recommend me for the position. You need connections in Michigan, because there are no jobs here.

The fun thing about both of those things, is that I had 2 birthday cakes and I made 2 wishes. On the first, I wished that I would find a renter or sell the condo. On the second, I wished that I would get funding for next year. I got both. I had a third birthday cake this past weekend (why aren't I losing weight???), and I made another wish but I can't say what it is. But this wish will take longer than a couple weeks to fulfill... it will take about a year. We'll see if it works. I'll probably forget my wish by then - but then again, it has less to do with wishing, and more to do with making things happen. And I know how to set goals and make them happen, thanks to The Spark.

I went to Cedar Point on Father's Day! It was also the unofficial Gay Day, so the park was extra awesome. I rode on pretty much anything I wanted to, until my body couldn't take any more. We never ended up by the entrance for Millenium Force - we were going to hit it once or twice at the end of the day when we moved to the front of the park again. But I was so tired and sore and I could barely stand it anymore - I'm getting old and so are those rides! But it was a blast. I love Cedar Point. But I think it's time I go to a new park, because I have a lot of the rides memorized and it's not as exciting anymore.

But my dear pal JAYNINNE gave me and Airin those tickets for our birthdays, and it was great that she did! Father's Day is the day to go, and it was so much fun. I don't think we could have afforded to go if we didn't have those tickets. It was probably the best birthday gift I got this year - except for my patio which isn't in yet... I have to give that clause because the patio is going to be such hard work on Airin and Halen's parts. :)

I bought body fat calipers, because I'm sick of just the scale. It hadn't budged really in like 2 months, but I'm smaller than I was 2 months ago. Well... I measured my body fat - pinched an inch - and oh boy. If I were a hamburger I wouldn't eat me. I'm around 35% body fat. That's pretty awful. Good GOD I wonder what I was BEFORE... maybe it's better that I didn't know.

Halen is GONE! He's in Ohio with the in-laws. The house is quiet and peaceful. I love it. Isn't that awful though? I'm such a bad mom.

Speaking of bad moms, the Egg Donor called Airin yesterday. Friend of the Court sent her a bill and a letter explaining that she had to start making payments, or appear in court explaining why she could not make payments, or there would be a bench warrant for her arrest (in Michigan, which isn't very helpful since she lives in Pennsylvania). Anyhoo, the voicemail was panicky but compliant - so maybe we will see a child support check or two. We'll need it for Halen's therapy! Hahaha - I would love to collect from that wench. I've paid so much debt that she incurred, it's about time she pays up. She has never paid a penny in child support, and Halen is going to be 10 in October... her and Airin have been separated for 9 years now.

I wrote down some goals and reevaluated things about a week and a half ago, and I rearranged and updated my vision collage. I'm not doing very well with my goals though... I need to get myself back in gear. I've been on vacation... Well, vacation is over. My next 5K is July 11th, and I am aiming for 5 mph. I did about 2 miles at 5 mph today, and I was exhausted... it was 83 degrees, so it felt like well over 100.

Well, time to start washing some vegetables and fruits. Airin and I are pushing ourselves to eat healthier and move more this week. I have to get back in the swing of things.

This is me at my baptism when I was a baby - Avery does look like me quite a bit.

  
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MEADSBAY 6/23/2010 8:18PM

    Happy happy good news all around!
Love your baby pic- tongue and all.
Avery DOES look a lot like you!
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A long overdue blog post.

Monday, June 14, 2010

Well, I've been on braincation the past couple weeks.

On 5/30 I ran my first 5K. Since then I've been working on speeding up - I ran it in 41:17. Last night I think it took me about 38 minutes, so I've been improving. My next 5K I want to do is July 11th at the cemetery where my Papa used to work, and where he and my Grandma are buried. I'll have to stop by when I'm done and say hello. I miss my Papa especially.

I've been teaching an online class, which has been so easy it's awesome. But I have so little do do for work, that it's hard to focus on other work-related stuff. Like, there's a Head Start dissertation grant that my advisor really wants me to apply for, but I don't even feel like writing the grant. And I really want to finish quickly, and I feel like doing this grant will make it take longer to graduate. I have to graduate by December, 2011 - otherwise, the graduate school might have to give me an extension. They keep saying they don't like to give those out anymore. Whatever.

Avery is going to be a year old in a few weeks - on July 2nd. He's getting so big, I just can't believe it's already been an entire year. It seems like I just had him - but here it is, summer again. It's wonderful and heartbreaking at the same time.

Halen has been driving me crazy. And now it's summer vacation and he'll be here all the time. He's always lying, or being a jerk, or something.... he never has ONE day where he's just well-behaved and I don't have to discipline him multiple times. I wish I could send him back to live with Airin's parents, but of course Airin doesn't like that idea. He just makes everything so miserable. I guess if I didn't have such high standards - like expecting him NOT to lie, or wipe his poop in the boy's bathroom, or throw tantrums at school - we would probably get along better. He's the only thing Airin and I really ever argue about.

I'm working on reassessing my goals - what have I accomplished, what do I still need to work on, what's next? I'm going to work on that tonight after the boys are in bed and I have some time to myself.

I haven't been eating as well as I should, and I'm paying for it. I've been stuck around the same weight for a month. I still don't fit into my shorts. I have one bathing suit that fits, but it doesn't fit as well as it used to. I'm not as far along as I wish I was.

I'm down to nursing Avery just once a day, in the morning when he gets up. I have been trying to cut back my calories to readjust. Sparkpeople says 1200 - 1550/day, which seems like barely anything after being pregnant and then nursing for a year. Well, let's just say, I did not stick within my range. I tried and failed every day - most days hovering between 1700 and 1800 calories. So I decided I would slowly work my way back. Last week I was supposed to aim between 1400 and 1700 calories a day. Maybe that would have worked, except it was my birthday. So there were lots of treats, and I did not stay within my calorie range. I've been too scared to weigh myself to see the damage. Maybe tomorrow I'll weigh myself.

Once I do 1400 - 1700 for a week, then I'll move it back to 1300 - 1600, and then 1200 - 1550. And hopefully by then I will be all adjusted and the scale will be moving again.

Well, I guess that's all there is for now. Things have been pretty dull. I'll post about my goals tomorrow. Maybe.

  
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KOEHNA 6/17/2010 6:55AM

    I think you are doing the right thing with your calories. I was always told that you are supposed to eat more if you are breast feeding. This way you are not hurting yourself or Avery if you do it the way you are. emoticon

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MEADSBAY 6/15/2010 10:30AM

    Look at the little man!
You're doing great.
Stay kind and positive with yourself.
and Halen.
The more unlovable he is- the more he needs your love.
I know whereof I speak.
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JAYNINNE 6/14/2010 10:42PM

    I like your plan to scale back your calories in smaller doses. The difference between your old calorie range and your new one is pretty huge.

Congrats on the running faster. I haven't been very consistent with it. I did really well for a while, but then I had something funky going on with my calf/shin and I decided to give it a rest. Plus running in the heat makes me feel like I'm going to pass out.

Yay for our day tomorrow!

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A real journal entry.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

I have been hashing things over a lot the past couple weeks, and this morning I wrote this on real life pen and paper - egad!

5/27
"Life is too short to hate someone."
-and that includes myself.

I make myself miserable because I'm not meeting some lofty expectations. I get angry becasue I only have ONE LIFE and I'm fat. But I should be angry that I have ONE LIFE and that nasty little voice in the back of my mind is making me feel like $hit. It's ruining my sunny days, my 20's, enjoying Avery's babyhood. And it's not fair.

There are fat people who love themselves, and there are thin people who hate themselves. Weight has nothing to do with it.

I am never going to be that perfect person that I try to be, because she does not exist. Yes, Airin's ex was pretty and had a great body (but really, she could have been any girl) - but she was a nasty, irresponsible, manipulative, crazy bi+ch. And she wasn't ALWAYS pretty - sometimes she was downright skanky looking. A slut - a STRIPPER. And a cheater, and a terrible wife and mother. She's uneducated by her own choice. She is a terrible person. And...

I WILL NEVER BE LIKE HER.

Airin was interested in her when he was a selfish, stupid boy - she was a sex object. He was 19. Now that he's his real self again - the guy I knew when we were growing up together - he wants ME. He had to knock her up to marry her - to "do the right thing."

He married me because he really loves me, and thinks I'm beautiful IN MY OWN WAY.

I am intelligent, well-educated, a good (scientific) writer. I'm responsible, dedicated, hard-working. I am loyal and Airin trusts me - and I don't make promises that I can't keep. I am a good mother, a good wife. We have FUN together - I'm not just an object or a prize - because we are best friends.

Yes, I am the largest girl Airin has been with (even when I was thinner) - but SO WHAT? That's only temporary anyway. Even in the last few months it's been melting away. And it's just ONE not-awesome thing about me.

I have beautiful green eyes. I have a big genuine smile. I have pretty soft brown hair. I have nice legs (well, mid-thigh down at least). And good eyebrows too (tweeze!!!).

I have my master's degree - I'm not some high school drop out. I own my own car, my own home (well... sort of - I own 2 homes). I am raising my own children. I'm not acting like some 18 year old in a 28 year old's body (really? Who aspires to work at a bar and a coffee house getting paid under the table?).

I need to stop hurting myself. I would never let anyone else talk to me the way that nasty little voice speaks to me. I am a good person, and I am always trying to be a better person - I deserve better than this!

This self-defeating behavior that I cycle through every couple months is not fair to me and it's not fair to Airin. It makes him so uncomfortable when I bring it up. He's a great person who deserves a great wife - I need to stop bringing up the past and rehashing it. I need to let it go. He made mistakes just like anyone else - and they really did hurt me and our relationship for awhile - but they only continue to have their power because I let them.

It's time I get REAL. Three - four years ago is done. Ten years ago is done. Thirteen years ago is done! It's stupid to worry about it anymore.

Airin and I have a great relationship. We are happy and it shows. Even Airin's (evil) grandma - who probably assumed we're unhappy because we don't go to church - says that she can see we're a happy family and that I love my boys and being a mother. I love Airin, and I love to spend time with him. He loves to spend time with me. How amazing is that!? We're really MEANT TO BE TOGETHER.

So - I have been training to run this 5K - and I'm there! I'm ready! I can do 3.25 miles, WITHOUT the adrenaline rush and the crowd. I trained my body!

I also passed quals - I'm ready to start my doctoral dissertation. I passed quals WITH DISTINCTION - how AWESOME. I've trained my mind.

Now I need to train my body to be thinner, stronger, fitter.

And I need to train myself to be kinder to myself. To support myself. To not let the negative downward spiral to take over.

PROGRESS not perfection!

I'm stronger, fitter, better than I was before - even a month ago! A year ago! I have so many accomplishments to show for it. I can run a 5K - 20 lbs heavier than when I tried to run before! I could never run 3.1 miles - even in junior high. I am at a personal best! I have my MA and passed quals - at my personal best! I'm taking care of the way I look. I'm in a nice home - the nicest yet! I have a beautiful baby - the best I could ever hope for and more. I have the man I wanted for so long - my bestest friend I ever had.

If everything is so wonderful - a job I always wanted, home, baby, husband, etc... - why do I hurt myself because of my WEIGHT? I'm healthy! I'm really blessed!

So shut the F up negative voice. You make no sense. I am more than the size of my a$$.

I WILL lose this fat. I WILL be an active, fit, healthy, woman. I WILL wear a bikini (next summer!). I WILL live a long healthy HAPPY life with my wonderful family. I DESERVE IT. Time to bust a$$ and get what I want. Every time I try - I SUCCEED!


Lucky me - MY FAMILY!

  
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MEADSBAY 5/29/2010 10:32PM

    Oh
my
god.
I put off reading your blog until I was in a better frame of mind to reply.
And now I am literally fighting tears.
I am so happy for you.
You SO deserve every wonderful thing that ever happens to you.
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elizabeth

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BEECHNUT13 5/28/2010 7:48AM

    Yea, that stupid little voice is a jerk! I'm kicking his a$$ to the curb! emoticon

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JAYNINNE 5/27/2010 4:55PM

    This is great! It's about time you see yourself the way I do. Tell that stupid little voice to STFU!

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ARIANROSE 5/27/2010 2:27PM

    Wow. That's a very powerful message! Hope the inner-critic sits up and takes notice!

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RIVERUN 5/27/2010 2:00PM

    YOU GO GIRL, THATS WHAT I LIKE TO HEAR. WOOHOO!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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APATRICIAO521 5/27/2010 12:20PM

    BEst wishes to you. You have come to some amanzing conclusions here and you are now in the right mindset to make some positive changes in your life. Congrats on all you have accomplished!!!

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F-U Scale.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

So, the scale told me I gained 1.5 lbs in the past 6 days. Yes, I did have some cake. Yes, I did have some Doritos. But when I went over, it was only a little bit. And I've been running 4 days a week, and walking or at least strength training the other days. I'm running over 3 miles now, non-stop, which I never could have done before.

But... I got on the scale, and it said I gained weight. It's also the Wii Fit scale, so it makes that "bum bum bum" sound, and says "That's obese!" Yea, yea, I know. Every f-ing time, you tell me I'm obese. I get the fricking point.

So... I re-evaluated the calories I should be eating daily. I was eating extra because I was running so much, and because I was still nursing Avery. But now I only nurse him a little in the mornings - he is almost completely weaned. Or, well, let's face it: I'M almost completely weaned.

I'm going back to 1200 - 1550 per day. That is where I was before I got pregnant, actually. That will be a calorie deficit of about 500/day, or 1 lb per week. Running is another half pound or so, making it about 1.5 lbs/week. Let's see how this goes.

Even though I haven't been losing weight, this running thing is definitely making me smaller. I fit into a bunch of pre-preggo shirts today, which I'm pleased about. Some are tight, some should wait a little longer, but they are ON and some even look decent.

Here are a couple articles I found regarding the F-U scale issue:

http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/well
ness_articles.asp?id=691

http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/moti
vation_articles.asp?id=1465

This morning, btw, I ran 3.1 miles. This afternoon I did some planting. And then this evening I walked about 2.5 miles or so. So whatever the scale says - I'm training. I'm getting stronger. And I'm getting smaller. :)

  
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BEECHNUT13 5/26/2010 10:16PM

    Thanks everyone! I'd like to think it's all turning into muscle...

Neen - my periods always throw me off too, in the same way. I swear, sometimes I think we're related.

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JAYNINNE 5/26/2010 9:06AM

    In my experience, the scale gives me great numbers during the week before my period and then turns around and gives me awful numbers during the week of and the week after my period. It can be really discouraging, but it might help to look at your weigh-ins over the course of a couple month to see if your body is on a schedule like mine.

And as always, even if the scale isn't giving you good news, your clothes are and everyone who sees you can tell the difference. You're making amazing progress!

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TIBURONA 5/26/2010 12:56AM

    Just keep on doing what you're doing. You body may still be building muscle from the running which is heavier than the fat you are actually loosing. Maybe you should weigh-in a little less often to let your body equalize everything. Plus, you have to remember that bodies do not do math the way we were instructed...at times calories in - calories out does not lead to a predictable outcome.

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JDYJMM2000 5/26/2010 12:26AM

  The weight gain could be just an increase in muscles which is not a bad thing.

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SHIRL20 5/25/2010 11:42PM

    The scale is its own little monster. Sounds like you've got the exercise piece in place and are watching the foods. Stamina up, fitting into old clothes.. you're on track. Keep it up.

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LIFEBK 5/25/2010 11:32PM

    Congratulations on you running, it sounds like you are making great progress! Keep it up! As far as the scale goes, I find it is very unpredictable if weighing in on a weekly basis. I have decided to only visit the scale once a month, this way I can limit my possible freak outs . . .

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Refocusing Not on My Butt.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Finally - FINALLY - went grocery shopping today. I've been meaning to for a week now. There's a yummy bowl of pears, peaches, plums and apples on the table. There are about 5 lbs of bananas on top of the microwave (to turn into banana 'ice cream' - deeeelicious). We also bought some little vegetable plants and picked up some planters from my dad's house to plant them, since our backyard is so overgrown and messy from the 10 years it was neglected. Hopefully cantaloupe can grow in a pot... hm... we might end up taking up some grass after all.

Found this on the dailySpark - it's from forever ago:
http://www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=
the_magazine_photo_people_cant_stop_di
scussing

and here's the picture that no one could stop talking about back in August:
http://lifestyle.msn.com/your-life/bigge
r-picture/article.aspx?cp-documentid=2
1301585

A real life woman!

I actually DON'T compare myself to models - truly. They are airbrushed and hungry. I do compare myself to my husband's ex-wife though, and she has a great body. Incidentally, I also saw pictures of her not wearing clothes once (that was awful), and indeed, great body (at least when she was 18). It looked great fairly recently too. And after she had a baby.

I really don't give myself credit. I hate where I am now, but I've already come such a long way. I decided that I would make a scrapbook journaling all the progress I've made. Finishing quals, losing a bunch of weight already, running a 5K (SUNDAY!!!). Stuff like that.

Here are some pictoral improvements:

July - about a week after I had Avery. The last I was weighed, I was 225 lbs (while I was pregnant) and after I had him I went down to about 215 or so. But I didn't weigh myself.


July - this is a couple weeks after Avery was born. About 215?


September - Labor Day weekend in Vegas. I think I was around 200 lbs. My stomach was still way huge.


January - around 195 or 200 lbs.


February - This is after I had been watching what I was eating for about a month. I had lost about 5 lbs at this point.


March - This is after watching what I was eating for about 3.5 months (but for a month or so I wasn't very good about it). I am about 190 here I think.


I don't have any pictures of myself for April... but I'm definitely getting smaller. Even when I look at my pictures from March, there's a huge difference. Running has really tightened me up a lot. And my face is a lot smaller.

And I've done so many other awesome things. So... I need to quit comparing myself to ex-wives that have really fast metabolisms and can eat pizza whenever they want and still be hot. That's not fair to me.

  
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KOEHNA 5/24/2010 9:22PM

    You keep up the great work I can wait to keep watching the progress that you make.
Remember it's working and your smile shows it.

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FITKAT2010 5/24/2010 6:55PM

    It's a disservice to compare yourself. You will never measure up to what you see. You aren't supposed to. You are you. The other people you view in comparison have problems also. Their problems are not as visable.



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RIVERUN 5/24/2010 4:48PM

    You are a sparkling diamond my dear, just look at that beautiful smile. Ex-Wife can,t hold a candle to you. You are WOMEN , let me hear you ROAR. You are AWESOME, don,t let anyone tell you different. Jan emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RIVERUN 5/24/2010 4:47PM

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GOROSIEO 5/24/2010 4:41PM

    You know I keep thinking would we be this hard on our friends? We are really hard on ourselves.

Be proud of your accomplishments and just who you are. Don't go through life wishing you were some skinny chick who can eat pizza. Old cliche still works-Grow where you are planted.
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