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Tuesday, August 05, 2014

Page 417 - 419 of the Big Book, A.A. World Series,1939, " Acceptance Is The Key", loosely interpreted states that whenever anything is wrong out there, it is wrong right here. Why I chose to think of that as my marriage, my world, crumbles around me. I hurt, but I keep eating healthy thanks to my daughter, keep meditating, keep reading spiritual writings, keep exercising, keep going one day at a time, thanks to God, my Lord Jesus Christ.

When I was a small child I would get beatings administered by my Mother that hurt so bad I could not cry. That's the way I feel today. I started to cry as the pain of it all takes my breath away and I can't. But for today God loves me, my family loves me and I love myself. And for today that is enough.

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MKBWNSUGAR 8/15/2014 4:15PM

    And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake. (The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 417)

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MKBWNSUGAR 8/15/2014 1:27PM

    Thanks for stopping by my page, I was wondering where you are, you are in my prayers. I was in an abusive marriage with my children's father and I left him after 3 years. 10 years later in my third marriage of 9 yrs he was emotionally abusive and in year 8 he hit me and that was it for me. We were divorced in a year.

I love that acceptance prayer in the big book. I have it on book marks and carry it with me all the time. Take care, remember if God brought you you to it, he'll bring you through it. emoticon

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DANLIN60 8/6/2014 11:11AM

    Becky, you know I am here for you as well as our Lord. You will make it through this hard time, I know you will and you will come out stronger than ever. Please remain strong and fight, my dear friend. You know how to reach me if you need to vent.


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GRACED777 8/6/2014 2:26AM

    I was in an abusive marriage for 28 years. I knew God could work with us if we let Him. He just wanted out and finally took it. I have been rebuilding my life since 1999, then had a serious stroke in summer 2008. Diabetes was part of it, as was high blood pressure. Both are in good shape at this time, thank you, Jesus! I too am working to become a healthy person emotionally as well as physically.

I once heard that our emotional issues, if unaddressed, can cause our physical issues. That's the idea I'm going on. I'll be praying for you too, Becky.

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Unconditional Love

Sunday, July 13, 2014

The term unconditional love came into use in the 1960's, supposed LSD drug culture and became more widely known in the 1970's pop culture with counselors and therapists.

I liked this term when I started having children in the late 1970's. I wholeheartedly understood it then because I could see how a mother could unconditionally
love her newborn child(ren) without conditions, actions, behavior or any other requirements. I grew up in a family wherein you had to meet certain requirements, standards, in order to be loved. You had to keep your room clean, bring home a school report card full of "A's", join the church, sing well in the church choir, perform your farm chores fast and well, etc...
So when I went off to college in the late 60's and heard this term and fully embraced it a decade later, I began to love the concept of unconditional love for my children, my husband, and for myself.
So for today I unconditionally love myself and my family. This allows me to accept them and me for ourselves and to love us just because we are. It is so beautiful, freeing and uplifting.

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SOUL2SHINE79 7/13/2014 12:19PM

    emoticon LOVE is a beautiful thing! Everyone deserves the feeling of unconditional love.....great post! Hope you have a wonderful day! :)

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Spark Goals and Accomplishments

Monday, June 30, 2014

Weight Loss Jan. 2009 - Jan. 2014
2009 - 233 lbs.
2011 - 196 lbs.
2014 - 184 lbs.
June 2014 - 180 lbs.
Weight Loss 3 Year MIni Goal (2017) - 150 lbs.
Weight Loss 5 Year Ultimate Goal (2019) - 135 lbs.

Journey to Accomplishment:
Take Vitamins/Minerals/Supplements
Log Food
Eat Healthy Fats
Eat Fiber
Eat 3 Fruits
Eat 3-5 Vegetables
Do not eat refined sugar, salt, casseroles, gravies, processed meat.
Weekly - exercise 6 days a week for 4 hours a day
Stationary Bike - 2 hours
Walk - 1 hour
Physical/Occupational Therapy - 1 hour

Mental/ Emotional Endeavors
Meditate 10 to 60 minutes daily
Read Health and Spiritual Writings daily
Gratitude List

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LADYPJAY 7/4/2014 11:49AM

    Hey! Thanks for the support and for sharing your successes with me. Is it possible to chat with you in a more private area? You seem to e one who is still responsive to my posts, and I would like to get to know you better to build the support for each other together. Sparkmail could work...Let me know. I love Sparkpeople but I need to get more pats on the back like you give me and I want to give more to those who are really using this site. Happy 4th of July! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CHERYL_ANNE 6/30/2014 7:51PM

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Every step gets you closer to your goal!

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It May Well Be / Be That As It May (Be)

Saturday, June 07, 2014

I remember my mom saying "it may well be that..."and sometimes "Be that as it may (be)". And it was usually followed by some ultimatum that we, (my brothers and sister), had to follow ( my mom passed away 12 years ago). I did not understand it then, I don't fully understand it now and I woke up this morning pondering this confusing phrase. Why, I don't know. What does it have to do with today? For me, if it does not have anything to do with my life right now, it is not relevant nor worth my time. I am only thinking about it because I feel God speaks to me through people, sometimes through dreams.
For example the thing about this phrase was that my mom would attach it to your present state, like "it may well be that you are tired but we are going to finish this task before we stop". I will pray on it and put it out of my thoughts.
If it crops up again, I will deal with it accordingly. For today I am concerned with eating healthy, exercising 4 hours daily 6 days a week, meditating, loving Myself-God-Family and reading spiritual writings.
I continue to thank God for today, for His grace and blessings in my life.

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RONNIE150 6/13/2014 6:43PM

    Thanks for the encouragement. emoticon

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No Ifs, Ands or Buts

Monday, May 05, 2014

I am ready today to live a life with no regrets, no excuses or apologies, no ifs, ands or buts. Also let me not forget the woulda, shoulda, coulda's.

So many things have happened to me in my 64 years here on earth, some bad, mostly good. What I have to remember is that due to God's grace, blessings and magnificent mercy I am still here after multiple strokes and one devastating stroke almost 4 years ago. Not only here but prospering.

Mind you I still have daily pain and swelling but my life today is better in more ways now than it was prior to my strokes. Most days are so good I have to pinch myself to assure myself that it is really happening to me.

Taken from the Christian hymn, by Thomas Ken, 1674:

Praise God from whom all blessings flow, Amen.

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MKBWNSUGAR 7/14/2014 12:30PM

    You are a miracle and glad to see you living the lfe that was given you to the fullest!!
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CIERAPOET 5/6/2014 5:51PM

    emoticon Praise the Lord!
NO excuses! We have to get in inside of our mind to keep pushing and pressing for what we truly want and believe that we can accomplish with God's Help. We must always understand we are NOT along but God is working WITH us and is truly is NO excuse! I made excuses for years and have paid the price of Diabetic apathy with the affects of NON compliance with what the doctors told me to do. I'm much smarter NOW! Thank God for HIS Wisdom! Thank you Becky for sharing!

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DANLIN60 5/6/2014 8:01AM

    God Bless You, Becky!!!

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