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AN "AAHHH" MOMENT AND STATS: 02/01/11

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Weight: 189.2 lbs (up 5 lbs since 10/20/10)

Neck: 14 (up 0.5 inches since 10/20/10)
Upper Arm: 14 (up 1.5 since 10/20/10)
Forearm: 10.5 (up 1 since 10/20/10)
Waist: 37 (up 3 since 10/20/10)
Hips: 44 (up 2 since 10/20/10)
Thigh: 26 (up 3 since 10/20/10)
Calf: 15.5 (up 0.5 since 10/20/10)
Rib Cage: 34 (up 2 since 10/20/10)

I can't believe its been over three months since my last blog or that I've allowed myself to gain when I worked so hard to loose. I'd never before understood how those who had met their goal weight could allow themselves to gain it all back; the past couple of months have been an eye opener for me.

I was doing great until Halloween, but then I lost control; I thought I had a handle on the food situation and therefore could have an occasional "extra". There is NO occasional "extra" with someone who has a food addiction and/or is a food binger (I am both). I could easily blame it on the holidays or the stress in my life, but bottom line: I gave up on myself.

I've been in counseling for several months now and have barely scratched the surface; there are days I want to cancel a session and others where I feel like progress has been made. Learning to face your demons and to love yourself isn't easy, but I'm finally working on ME and its a good feeling.

The girls and I have settled into somewhat of a routine; we've been in our apartment for three months now and its been an adjustment: the holidays were quite different, but weren't as hard I'd thought; we've downsized & are learning to adjust our budget accordingly; I'm making payments to an attorney and have filed for divorce, child support & full custody of our girls; my husband hasn't made an effort to pay support or have a relationship with our girls; and my husband's family has continued to provide support & be active members of our lives.

Not much else to report, but I'd like to thank my SP family for their outpouring of love and support throughout my time of need. Keep spreadin' that SPARK and know your continued faith in me inspires ME to go that extra mile! God bless and hugs to all= )

Melissa

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JIBBIE49 4/20/2011 11:37AM

It sounds like you have adjusted well to your move. I have been reading a book called "What Things Really Cost" and she has a chapter on divorce. She points out the real cost of having to move & losing a house, often with the equity money used up to pay outstanding bills that need to be settled for the divorce to be final. I want my DD to read the book so it will open her eyes to WHY she has to stay in college and get a good career.

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1BEACHWALKER 2/28/2011 2:55AM

So sorry about the divorce! Don't let all of this, including the weight gain get you down! Sounds like you are headed in the right direction though. So keep going-stay strong! We are all here for you!

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100LBLIGHTER 2/26/2011 10:59AM

You know it takes a lot of focus to work toward any goal....athletes eat breath and sleep their sport....that is the way it is with weight loss and health in general....so when you have something in your life that is taking more focus...then the other goals are going to fall by the wayside. That is ok. What is that saying about chasing two rabbits...both get away. Now that you have gotten things more settled you can focus on another. Wishing you well on this phase of your journey. You know you can do it. Blessings, Grace

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1COUNTRY_GAL 2/15/2011 1:48PM

I admire you for dealing with all this with grace,strength,and eloquence and learning to love yourself and you only gained 5 pounds,you are amazing Melissa and you should be oh so proud how you are doing through this.You keep thinking positive and keep going to your therapy appointments,even when you don't feel like going,that is when you need them the most.

on working on you,this will benefit your beautiful daughters greatly and they will in turn see how to deal with life from your example.It so boggles my mind and I can't understand how there father could not be involved in there lives.I am so happy for you that his family remains supportive of you and the girls,God Bless Them and you and your girls!I know when the time is right,though,the farthest thing from your mind,is you meeting an

gentleman that is honest,fun,loving and treats you the way you deserve to be treated and never accept anything less ever.Love YOUrself always and anytime you need support you can call on me.You take care and love and hug your daughters daily as they are such an inspiration and beautiful,as is there mom!

Diana

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MORTICIAADDAMS 2/14/2011 8:26PM

I seem to always have problems over the eating holidays and gain 5 to 10 pounds.

It sounds like you are adjusting very well to all the changes. Making a new life for yourself.

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JUSTBIRDY 2/7/2011 12:17PM

Things are looking up!

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ACIMPEGGY 2/3/2011 4:43PM

Oh, honey, please don't give up on yourself! That would be very bad for your little ones, their grandparents and all of us.

I am sending light, prayers and so much love you wouldn't believe...

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TRACYZABELLE 2/2/2011 4:33AM

Melissa all you can do is go forward -- no need to beat yourself up about past mistakes, we are all works in progress. I will be praying for your success, strength and will power... or is it WON'T power saying you WON'T fall into the old traps.

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PURPLELVR7 2/1/2011 11:58PM

Will continue to keep you in my prayers - I know you can do this.

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GHW1968 2/1/2011 9:49PM

I too made great progress only to find myself back where I started. I have started anew in 2011. This is what we must do. We fall off the wagon, and we jump back on again. We also can't wait for ourselves to lose weight in order for life to start. It is ongoing. I'm so proud of you for the difficult decisions you have made. Kudos to You!!!

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MSLZZY 2/1/2011 8:51PM

Hang in there and do the best you can! HUGS!
The stress isn't helping you.

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CAROL3SAN 2/1/2011 7:03PM

So glad to hear from you Melissa. You are doing great despite the stress you were under. So glad to see that things are settling down.

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JELLI-LEAN 2/1/2011 11:09AM

Melissa~ You are going through a lot of stress right now, and amazingly 5 pounds really is not that bad. Some people gain 7 pounds just over Christmas. I'm sure when you are ready to tackle the weigh loss once the stress is under control it will come right off. I really don't think you gave up on yourself, you just had other priorities at the time!

It is good to hear that your life is in control, sometimes life can throw curve balls our way and spin us totally out of control. The therapy does help, I remember feeling the same as you, looking back I am so glad I went to counseling!

{{{Hugs}}} to you and your girls!

~ Janel :)

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PROMISE2DESIGN 2/1/2011 10:46AM

5 pounds isn't much in the realm of things! I think you've done a fantastic job consider everything you've been dealing with. Thanks for updating us! It's good to hear your uplifting attitude about moving forward. You're doing a great job.

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JHADZHIA 2/1/2011 10:31AM

Welcome back to Sparking Melissa! With all that was going on in your life, a 5 lb gain is actually not all that horrible. People have put on way more over the holidays with no stressors.
Now that you are back, and things are moving forward, you can get back on track and kick this gain.

All the best in your new life!

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LAURELSPARK 2/1/2011 9:53AM

It sounds like you are coping well at this time. Your kids could not have a more wonderful mom.....I know that everything you do is for them.

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DREENAMT 2/1/2011 9:04AM

So glad to hear from you Melissa. I am so glad to hear you are taking care of yourself and your daughters. I'm sorry your (soon to be ex) husband is foolishly missing their lives. But it sounds like you are doing all you can do for yourself and for them.

It also sounds like you have a helpful attitude about the weight. 5 pounds since October is 3 pounds less than most Americans gain during the holidays! Just don't waste energy beating yourself up now -- just reset your weight ticker and move forward from here. We've all been there. And you can start the scale moving downward again.

I think you are an amazingly strong woman. Love and blessings to you.

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RUFFIT 2/1/2011 8:50AM

You are a very strong woman!! I am very proud of you for hanging in there. It is awesome you have support through his family members. All the best in your journey. Keep me posted. Your

Moni

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MARPET44 2/1/2011 6:59AM

Major life changes are so stressfull. You are doing great for having all of the extra stressors of moving and going through a divorce. You have a hard road to travel, but I am sure that you are more than strong enough to handle it. Just remember Spark is here for you. Mary

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CANDOK1260 2/1/2011 5:49AM

hey, don't beat youself so bad you know you have a eating probelm you were on a blinge it over now s today is the first day of the restof yor life I asm happy that in-law are helping

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MISSMITSY 2/1/2011 4:18AM

So glad you're starting to feel better, keep holding on you can do it...

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TEDDYBABE 2/1/2011 3:36AM

You are certainly a strong girl and sounds like you are on a fresh road. One day at a time. You are the best.

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AWOOD1973 2/1/2011 3:27AM

Wow, Melissa! I had no idea about your situation! I am proud of you for moving in a positive direction, as I know it's been difficult! You are an awesome person, and I am so glad that although your X has not chosen to be a part of your daughters' lives, that his family still is. I wish you everything this year..., stability, love, and peace. You are a rock, and glad you aren't giving up on you and your outlook on life!

Take care, and keep us in the loop with blogging more, they are fantastic to read! :)

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COMFYGLAMDIVA 2/1/2011 3:10AM

Good to see you here and ready to get back on track. You can do it girl!

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LIBBYFITZ 2/1/2011 2:52AM

So glad you are back here and looking after your self. Sorry to hear about all the up heaval in your life. i wish you the best for 2011!

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AN UPDATE AND MY STATS: 10/27/2010

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Weight: 184 lbs

Neck: 13.5 (down 0.5)
Upper Arm: 12.5
Forearm: 9.5
Waist: 34 (down 0.5)
Hips: 42
Thigh: 23
Calf: 15
Rib Cage: 32

Not much has changed since last week and I'm not surprised; I've been busy, thus neglecting my daily exercise. I'm down one inch, but I believe the only reason I haven't gained or lost weight is due to high levels of stress (not getting much sleep & food isn't very appealing). I've maintained my 10 daily glasses of water, but my body is probably in starvation mode right now.

I went to my first counseling session this week and have committed to weekly sessions; I'm still shopping for medical insurance (for my girls--the VA provides mine) and I'm amazed by the expense. I applied for assistance via the state, but was denied due to income requirements; the VA has previously denied my claim (for dependant insurance), so I'm left wondering where's the assistance I've always heard about (for a single mother)?

I'm meeting with a divorce attorney on Friday to discuss my case; he's one of the few I've found (who can provide for all my needs) willing to accept a payment plan and to offer a free consultation (with a retainer fee of $2,500.00). The price of a divorce is shocking, but what's a girl to do? The last six months have been a lie (my husband was never in school--he's established a new life with another woman) and his exact whereabouts are unknown (although my instincts tell me he's in Georgia).

This could potentially complicate matters, but my main concern is my daughters. How any "man" could be so deceptive or abandon their children is beyond me, but that's his loss...not mine. My daughters are my world and its my responsibility (as a mother) to provide for them, whether their father decides to or not. I'm a strong woman and no matter what's thrown my way, I believe (with God's help) I'll be able to overcome it. I've never claimed to be perfect, but my girls know their momma loves them unconditionally and is here to stay= )

I'd like to thank everyone for their advice, support and other various comments. Its comforting to know my SP family is there when I need them! Perhaps some may find this odd, but Sparking is my outlet: a healthy way to give and receive support. Everyone has a different opinion as to how one should deal with their emotions--please don't criticise mine. My Spark time doesn't interfere with my ability to parent, nor does it prevent me from being able to complete daily tasks.

Sending ((((Positive and Skinny Vibes)))),

Melissa

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IAMAHOTMAMA 4/21/2011 1:34AM

OMG girl.. I did not know this. I have not talked to you in a while. Last I heard you were staying with his parents and he was in school and ya had sold your house in Willis. Call me ...936-444-9088.. I am here for you anytime. I am so sorry you are going through so much.

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JEANHOW 1/31/2011 12:45PM

Hang in there hon. I'm in my second marriage. My ex has no purpose in my life. I don't talk to him. My oldest sons are 26 and 29 now.
I won't say anymore on the matter because me and my sons have closed the book on that chapter of our lives. They know they are part of my family now and that's all that matters. Be strong, keep a daily journal, show the absence there of the father. But move forward for you and your children. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs* Jean

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DRB13_1 12/6/2010 2:42AM

Divorces are difficult, but necessary to reclaim our lives sometimes. Here's another shoulder to lean on from someone who has been there...twice. Focus on you and the girls, and if issues come up during the divorce aim to get out - not to get even. Ulltimately, you'll be better off.

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CANBDONE 11/28/2010 8:59AM

Ohhhh Baby, I know the pain of abandonment, lies, and unfaithfulness. It felt like it was me and my two kids against the world...for years! Things WILL get better....God has something very special in store for you...stay under His wings of protection. Rely on The One That Loves You Best...and I hope you have the support of friends, family, and a supportive and loving church family. We care about you...

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BUCKHOLDT 11/25/2010 7:24AM

I left my children. I never stopped loving them.
I got my oldest when she turned 14 and her mother couldn't deal with her. We were separated for ten years before we got a divorce and I remarried.

I don't know your advantage to getting a divorce.
I didn't know there was help for a single mom after the child was five. (And that may be controlled by income.)

I'll pray for you and your girls. I love all kids (except between 13 and 22).

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GROOVYCHICK9 11/24/2010 11:16PM

I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. You will make it through this because you are focusing on your girls and being their rock when they need one. You can rely on us as your rock to get you through the tough times. Take care.

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COMPUCATHY 11/21/2010 8:24PM

No criticism here! I think you are awesome! And SP is a wonderful place. I often find, I'll spend some time on Facebook catching up on a few people...and then I decide to go over to Spark...and it's where I REALLY want to be. I can count on positive and happy information. It's such a great group of people. You're in the right place. I hope that these issues with your husband and the insurance work out for you soon. You are right in putting your faith in God. He is the one who knows the plans that are right for you. Keep sparking!

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LUCKY-13 11/13/2010 4:13AM

You have my support, prayers and positive thoughts as you go through this transition! I know you're going to do an excellent job of taking care of your kids, and please do the same for yourself.

Hugs,
Lucky

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KIWINURSE 11/12/2010 3:30AM

We are here for when you need us! SP is a great place to come for support, I am sorry about everything that is going on for you and your girls. You are doing a great job and I am impressed that through all this you are still blogging! Keep up the great work.
Christine

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ENUFF81020 11/12/2010 12:59AM

Hi there Sweetie,
First of all, you are doing so well with your health and physical needs--great job.
Secondly, there are times when you have to make the tough decisions--I am sorry for what you are dealing with--and that cost is enormous for someone trying to change their life--but you know what is best. Please let us know how to support you in your efforts. You are there for us and it is time for us to help you out.
You are an amazing lady--and you will come out on top of all of this!!
Gentle hugs,
Sylvia

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MOLGRA2 11/11/2010 11:09AM

Melissa

I am so sorry you and your girls are having to go through so much. I saw the mess my mother went through during her divorce, and I know how devastating it is to realize you have been lied to for so long. If you ever need to vent, please feel free to email. I don't think any sensible person would even consider your spark time takes away from how you care for your girls, please don't worry about that. I am sure you are a GREAT mother! It is obvious you love your girls whole heartedly! I don't know if it helps you any or not, but during my parents divorce, I kept telling myself 'That which does not kill me will make me stronger. God WILL NOT give me a bigger cross than I can bear!' That is what helped me through-especially when I was called and ordered to testify. Best of luck to you and your girls!

PS - not sure how the laws are in your state, but I am pretty sure where we live the state has a program for affordable basic health care for kids. Maybe yours does too.

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KAITLYNSNAMMY 11/9/2010 11:49AM

Hang in there, Melissa. I'm sending you those (((positive vibes))) and prayers to help get you through all of this.

Susie

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SPARTAN40 11/3/2010 8:50AM

I'm sorry you have to go through such a mess. You seem to have a fantastic attitude. You're right. Your girls need you more than ever now. Hang in there!

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TRACYZABELLE 11/3/2010 3:57AM

Melissa I am sorry you have a messy divorce to deal with as you are trying to make you the best you can be. Thinkgs will fall in place and you will get there. Best of luck to you.

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DEVORA4 11/3/2010 2:32AM

You will do it. I believe in you! What is more important is that you believe in yourself.

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DAWN19591 11/2/2010 9:55PM

you go girl I have been there my husband was a truck driver well you get the idea, he lie to me for so many years till it caught up with him. I raised 3 children on my own and never looked back things can be diffcult but you will be fine. God Bless you hold your head up and be strong. your spark friend, Dawn

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CANDOK1260 10/30/2010 11:10PM

Hope You have a good week. Alos be certain . I am praying for you and your kids. You will get through this God will help You

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HOPE2011 10/30/2010 7:29PM

We love you! Anytime you need us, we're here!

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BRAVAH 10/30/2010 6:08AM

Dear Melissa,

I am so sorry to hear about the new challenges you are facing. You are a strong woman and I know that you will make it. I am sending love and positive thoughts and vibes your way!

Cheers,
Heidi

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2BHLTHY4LIFE 10/29/2010 10:55PM

You are so amazing,you are the

Mom and deserve the best Mom award

Your daughters will grow up to have the highest respect for you and I admire your strength and dedication to there needs and I pray you take some time for YOUrself,you deserve it Melissa!I am here if you need me,I am just a click away.You can always count on my support and admiration and prayers

Diana

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MINDYJ1 10/29/2010 10:48PM

I hope everything works out for you and your daughters.

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BUFFYSMOM2 10/29/2010 7:55PM

Hang in there

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LIBBYFITZ 10/29/2010 2:28PM

Hello my friend, i havn't been getting you blogs recently as no notification! Have just read your last blog. Hugs and wishing things were better fot you. take care. Libby

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EDOWNEY1972 10/29/2010 12:55PM

You are awesome and inspiring!

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PUGRAD1995 10/28/2010 8:45PM

You must follow your heart and let your girls know at the right time why you did things. My parents never divorced, and they probably should have. The tension and avoidance that our family endured until my father died pretty much broke apart our family and it has taken years to bring it back.

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LITTLE_QUEEN 10/28/2010 7:32PM

My dad did this to my mom years ago, I really never forgave him for what he put her through, he even took off in a truck that was still being paid for in her name, I so feel for you and hope everything turns out well, It is to bad he is not around, he is the one that should be paying for their insurance.

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FIGHT2SURVIVE 10/28/2010 7:23PM

There is something called "Divorce Pro Se" which means that you do all the leg work yourself. I got my divorce that way, but it was in the state of Wisconsin. I also knew my way around the court house and where to file what papers. I was not looking for a settlement - which I think is something you will need. I just wanted out as quickly as possible. I don't know if you will have the luxury of that option. Of course I still had to pay for all the forms and the filings for the paperwork so all together it probably came to about $400.00. But statutes have changed and each state is different. Don't let him get away with anything. Mine still had to keep up my medical insurance and was supposed to pay child support - which he did but I had to fight for it every month and he had more money than God. Do what is best for you. You have to be your own top priority now.
Erin

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ELLFIN3 10/28/2010 4:45PM

Sounds to me like you have everything under control-or as much under control as can be in the situation! No wonder you had a migraine!! Feel better and know I am here for you! I am not here to judge you, just support you!!

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PROMISE2DESIGN 10/28/2010 4:35PM

Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
~Eleanor Roosevelt

You are an amazingly strong woman and I am glad to be here for you. You've got a level head for everything you've got going on. I've never been one to care much what other people think. Hence the quote! Have a blessed week and enjoy Halloween activities with your girls!

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MESSA82 10/28/2010 4:06PM

WOW... you have had your hands full! So sorry babe! I know that you can find your strength and run with it! Just know that you are deeply cared for and can call on us for when you are weak! Sometimes the longest journey is the most fulfilling!

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LAURELSPARK 10/28/2010 3:09PM

Keep your chin up. I have no doubt that you are a terrific mom!

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NLS2013 10/28/2010 12:53PM

Adding my support! I'm so sorry for all you are going through. Be kind to yourself and lean on the people who care about you! You will get through this.... one little step at a time!

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JHADZHIA 10/28/2010 12:41PM

Everyone has said things so eloquently, that there is nothing more for me to add, except that you and your daughters are in my thoughts and may things all work out for you. Sparks is a great place to find support. A healthy lifestyle includes being mentally fit, and there is nothing wrong with getting unpleasant things off you chest. Writing about them is very releasing.

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CHOPOLA 10/28/2010 11:57AM

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OLDERDANDRT 10/28/2010 11:51AM

You'll get the exercising and nutrition back on track. No worries. You are

!!!!!

to the girls, too!

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150-HERE-I-COME 10/28/2010 11:39AM

Sending a million

to you and the girls!
I am here for you in any way I can help and wished I lived closer to give you a shoulder to lean on. You are an amazing, strong woman and YOU WILL come out shining in the end!! Hang in there and message me (or call me! my # is posted on my FB page!) anytime! Now....sing it with me!....I WILL SURVIVE! (((HUGS)))

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JUSTBIRDY 10/28/2010 11:35AM

hope you get back to regular exercise soon!

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CHANGE_4_ME 10/28/2010 11:28AM

The others who posted before me pretty much said it all. I am just jaw dropped at your situation. I'm sure your lawyer will say the same thing but this man should have to pay the insurance for the girls. I'd say make him pay your lawyer fees too or at least some of it. You are so much better off without this guy. You deserve better and nobody should criticize you for dealing with it however you choose. You should be applauded for not taking a baseball bat to GA and knocking some decency into him.

Now single mother help....sorry to say it's not as available as people think. Being a single parent I can tell you that I've had to pay for lunch at school for the kids and even pay for state funded insurance. My ex is in jail because he wouldn't pay his child support so I received very little help there. He'd work long enough to tangle the system and go months without paying. It's a long story. I make to much to qualify for housing help or food assistance. I only qualify for medical now on just Jerica because I quit my second job. I can advise you to check into partial disability through Social Security. If you can get approved you will get medical BUT so will the girls and they may draw actually even receive a small check each month. I know there's a stigma placed on drawing and being labeled but sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do. I will also advise you not to do it until after the divorce or at least talk to someone about making sure the hubby can't get any benefits off you while you're going through the divorce. I'm not sure on how the benefits work if you're still legally married.

Hope this helps. I'm here if you need whatever. I'll even PM you my cell number if you want to call or text. I know sometimes in the past (and now) that I'd like to just pick up the phone, vent/confide to another person just so I know I'm not carrying it alone. Peace be with you Melissa.

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DREENAMT 10/28/2010 11:27AM

This is a LOT to bear. But you are Bear Gurl so I know you can do it. It sounds like you are keeping your wits about you and doing what you can. Know you are not alone.

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YOUNGNSMYLIE 10/28/2010 11:12AM

You are amazingly strong and you will make it through this. Your daughters will never forget your strength and courage, and just remember we are here to support you! Take care,

Y.S.

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RONIE11 10/28/2010 10:45AM

We are survivors... we will not let men ruin our happiness... I'm proud of you for moving forward instead of being in a puddle of self pity... Your girls are so lucky to have you... its important that they don't feel abandoned but loved instead... He will some day regret his cowardly actions and that will probably be something you will never see... this other woman will be at the other end of this some day.. what goes around comes around.. my first hubby was involved with another woman and I told her to watch out... and she laughed at me... but not for long.. he never changed... he just lives with his regrets...
SP is not just here for calorie counts and articles... its a full suport program... you are always welcomed to spark and to grow as a human in any area of your life you feel the need for.... Hugs ...Ronie

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BJWESTON70 10/28/2010 10:36AM

Yes Melissa - you are strong and I believe that you will be fine. The most important thing, as you said, are your daughters.

I am so sorry to know that you are going through all of this. You would think with all of the programs in this country that you would be able to get some help with medical insurance. Don't give up - keep fighting and trying.

As far as your husband is concerned - it IS his loss, not yours. All you can do is whatever you have to do to make the best life possible for you and your girls. Just keep the faith and things will work out for the best.

Although we don't know each other that well, but I want you to know that I will be here for you, to lend an ear and a long distance shoulder to lean on. You are a beautiful person and don't let anyone lead you to believe anything different.

Take care of yourself! Sending lots of hugs your way!

and

(friendship)
Billie

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MY STATS: 10/20/2010

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Weight: 184 lbs (down 2 lbs)

Neck: 14
Upper Arm: 12.5
Forearm: 9.5
Waist: 34.5
Hips: 42
Thigh: 23
Calf: 15
Rib Cage: 32

Down two pounds since last week, but my measurements didn't change= ) To say I had an "off" week would be a gross understatement...next week will be better! Thanks to all who have shown me support this week--love ya!!!

HUGS,

Melissa

HUGS,

Melissa

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ENUFF81020 11/12/2010 1:00AM

WooHoo--Nice loss and great work all round. Keep up the good work!!

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TAMARASART 10/27/2010 12:08PM

You can do it - Just keep working at it.

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GLMOM2 10/26/2010 9:12PM

Keep up the

work!

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1BEACHWALKER 10/26/2010 12:06PM

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DEDIKATE 10/26/2010 7:02AM

You're doing great! You can do it.

Kate

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LAURELSPARK 10/22/2010 7:51PM

Two pounds is great..............you've got a lot on your plate right now (pun intended). Take care!!

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NLS2013 10/22/2010 4:04PM

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SKINNYPAT62 10/22/2010 1:59PM

You are doing a great job; now slap me!

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MSLZZY 10/22/2010 8:31AM

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PHYL220 10/21/2010 7:12PM

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NATPLUMMER 10/21/2010 3:18PM

Don't knock 2 pounds. That's awesome! Keep at it.

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ZURDTA- 10/21/2010 3:06PM

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YOUNGNSMYLIE 10/21/2010 2:57PM

YAY two pounds is fantastic! Keep going!

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JELLI-LEAN 10/21/2010 1:17PM

two pounds is awesome Melissa!

{{{Hugs}}}~ Janel :)

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150-HERE-I-COME 10/21/2010 1:17PM

Two pounds is

! Don't shrug at it

Keep on keeping on!!

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BARBARAROSE54 10/21/2010 12:50PM

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OLDERDANDRT 10/21/2010 12:29PM

You are doing it! Just stay the course!!! You are

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CHANGE_4_ME 10/21/2010 12:17PM

2 pounds Woohoo!

Looking at your measurements and comparing them to mine- I'm not sure how to explain it but I find it intriguing (i guess) that two people of nearly the same weight can have such different measurements. That's why that number on the scale isn't gold to me anymore. It's how I feel, how I look and the other numbers that keep me going and of course my wonderful support system of online friends. =]

Have a great day girl!

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YOHLI07 10/21/2010 11:58AM

Hey, great job. Don't undercut that two pound loss. Keep up the good work!!!!!

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FLWRCHLD97 10/21/2010 10:21AM

You can do it, two pounds is nothing to shrug at. It's an accomplishment. Every change for the better, whether you consider it small or not, will add up in the end.

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CAROL3SAN 10/21/2010 9:27AM

Keep on doing what you are doing....its working!

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PRUPLEBEAR 10/21/2010 9:20AM

Great job!

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MISSMITSY 10/21/2010 9:15AM

Good on you! You're doing awesome, way to go!

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PRAYINGSUZIE 10/21/2010 9:05AM

Two pounds!!! YAY!!!! You are doing awesome!

Suzie

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CKENTFIELD 10/21/2010 8:51AM

2 lbs is great. I have lost weight without it showing anywhere. Don't know what to tell you about that. Keep on trucking!

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RUFFIT 10/21/2010 8:49AM

Love ya too!! You are doing awesome! Keep it up!!!Moni

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WITH ALL MY HEART

Friday, October 15, 2010

I'm overwhelmed and humbled by the love my SP family has shown my daughters and I; the words of advice and unconditional support help remind me there are still good people out there. Although my Sparking may be sporadic at times (throughout this ordeal), please know I'll never leave SP and I'm only an email away (I'm also on Facebook). There's no need to feel ashamed about asking for my advice or support; I'm a pro at helping others; ) LOL

That which doesn't break me will only make me stronger is my motto and I refuse to allow my current circumstances to break me; I may lean a little, but I'll soon snap back to attention= ) God bless you all and I hope you have a FABULOUS weekend--I look forward to getting to know the friends I added the week!!!

XOXOXO,

Melissa

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DISNEYPARIS 10/25/2010 4:50PM

I loved Afakit's post on the 20th

- couldn't have put it as well.

Hang in there Melissa, you are

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LIFEISSWEET2 10/20/2010 3:06PM

Same to you....if you need me, I am here for you.

Alice

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AKAFIT 10/20/2010 1:23PM

If you survived, BASIC training (I think you mentioned you were in the Army), you will survive this. We are HERE and you are STRONG. Keep moving forward one second, minute, day, week, and month at a time.

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SPARKPIXIE 10/19/2010 6:22AM

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RUFFIT 10/18/2010 4:11PM

Hey Melissa,
You hang in there. You definitely know where I am, if you need me. Take care of yourself and your family. Moni

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LINDA! 10/18/2010 3:56PM

You are going through so much right now. I pray that God will lessen your burden. Take care and know that you have so much support here.

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MYLIDDLEDALLAS 10/18/2010 12:27PM

Kudos to you for staying so strong throughout this! Your daughters are blessed to have such a wonderful mom!

We're here if you need us!!

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FLWRCHLD97 10/18/2010 11:37AM

You can do it, you are AWESOME!!!

SP friends are the best, that's one of the reasons why I LOVE SP...hope you had a great weekend!

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JELLI-LEAN 10/18/2010 11:20AM

and

for you Melissa!

Don't forget that there is a Silver Lining in every cloud!!

~ Janel :)

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SPARKLOVE 10/17/2010 8:16PM

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GINADOWNUNDER 10/17/2010 6:58AM

I hope that so far this weekend has been good for you and your girls. I know that overall things are not rosy for you but hopefully you can find moments in your day to make you happy.
You deserve it!
Gina

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ZURDTA- 10/17/2010 6:03AM

just lots of

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MTNGRL 10/16/2010 8:44PM

Melissa, you give us all so much support and encouragement. Just know that we will do the same for you. I value your friendship and advice. You have cheered me on and I am doing the same for you. I hope your and your daughters can feel the love we have for you. Hugs!!

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WATCHMEGO2 10/16/2010 7:57PM

Hugs to you. Love ya girl!

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JOSIECL 10/16/2010 11:24AM

To be dealing with all that you are, and you still make time to help others. You are a true inspiration.

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LITTLETEALOVER 10/16/2010 8:44AM

Your strength humbles me. How you can even think about offering support to others while you are going through such an ordeal is truly amazing!

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MISSMITSY 10/16/2010 7:43AM

You're so wonderful! You're going through something and your main focus is still on others! I hope you have a great week, you deserve it...

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COMFYGLAMDIVA 10/16/2010 2:59AM

Melissa you are a wonderful person who I know will come out of this storm stronger than before. You do what you need to do for you and your daughter.

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MSLZZY 10/16/2010 12:04AM

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LINDAGRAVEL 10/15/2010 10:32PM

Hope you and the girls have a wonderful weekend my friend

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PURPLELVR7 10/15/2010 10:28PM

Hope you have a great weekend

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BKWHITE3 10/15/2010 10:22PM

Hope you have a peaceful weekend. Take care of yourself and your girls.

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2BHLTHY4LIFE 10/15/2010 9:38PM

Hello Melissa! I haven't known you very long,but you are the sweetest person,I have ever met here.You have left such kind inspiring words of encouragement on my Spark page and I want to thank you and I cherish our friendship.I hope you find peace along your journey's you are on,and also your daughters.They are so lucky to have a strong,kind,loving and caring mom that is an

example for them. You are always welcome to lean on me,I am also on FaceBook,just joined not to long ago, you are welcome to add me.It might be easier for me to add you,I am using a different name than Spark user name.Be strong and things will settle down and become routine for you and you are very smart to do counseling too! My parents divorced when I was only 14 and we didn't have any and I personally am suffering some trauma emotionally to this day.May God Bless you and your daughters and with his loving,caring guiding bright light show you the way to happiness and strength for all of you.You and your daughters have a wonderful weekend too!

Diana

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JHADZHIA 10/15/2010 9:28PM

I hope you enjoy your weekend Melissa! You are a great Spark friend. You do have to take care of yourself and your daughter's needs though. Can't do that sitting on the computer!! Just know that I am with you in spirit and hoping for the best for you and your precious children!
Hugs,
Linda

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MY STATS: 10/13/2010

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Weight: 186 lbs (down 4 lbs)

Neck: 14
Upper Arm: 12.5 (down .5)
Forearm: 9.5
Waist: 34.5
Hips: 42
Thigh: 23 (down .5)
Calf: 15
Rib Cage: 32

Down four pounds and two inches since last week; this makes a grand total of 13.5 inches lost since September 5, 2010! Zumba and the Flat Belly Diet seem to do this body good= )

HUGS,

Melissa

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MSLZZY 10/16/2010 12:05AM

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FITJEANS 10/15/2010 9:23AM

thats

. zuba sounds

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SELF-LOVE 10/14/2010 7:20PM

The 34 inch waist would have me doing Cartwheels ...

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JELLI-LEAN 10/14/2010 12:17PM

Great job Melissa! I start FBD today, hope my stats are as good as yours!

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CHANGE_4_ME 10/14/2010 11:52AM

Great job! I am going to have to do something. I have been at a stand still for nearly a month so if I don't see a change Sunday I am going to change my game plan.

So glad that it's working out for you!

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UNSTOPPABLEJEN 10/14/2010 9:40AM

Way to go!!!

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GARDENER091 10/14/2010 9:16AM

Congratuations! How wonderful.

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PROMISE2DESIGN 10/14/2010 8:01AM

Woohoo THAT is awesome! I bet you are a smokin hot momma!!!!

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150-HERE-I-COME 10/14/2010 2:25AM

Fantastic! Keep it up!!

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SINCEKINDER 10/14/2010 12:39AM

Way to go!!!

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CAROLYN1ALASKA 10/14/2010 12:19AM

That's wonderful!

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MOLGRA2 10/14/2010 12:07AM

GREAT JOB!!! Awesome loss!

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JHADZHIA 10/13/2010 11:54PM

You are doing awesome in spite of the stress you are going through!!!!
I am not usually in favor of any fad diet, and they say you can't target an area for the fat to come off anyway, but boy, what ever works for you!! Keep up the great work!!

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DEVORA4 10/13/2010 11:36PM

Not you can do it, You are doing it!

debby

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MISSM0929 10/13/2010 11:30PM

This is awesomely amazing and very motivating for the rest of us. I saw the book on the Flat Belly Diet, but I'm not so sure I could stick with it, although with success like yours, I'm tempted to try.

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NPA4LOSS 10/13/2010 11:28PM

I noticed at the Y yesterday that they have a aqua Zumba class!

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