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Tuesday, July 05, 2011

Why can't I stand up for myself and just do what I want?

I am mad at the world but mostly mad at myself. Why don't I care as much about my own feelings and desires as I do about everyone else's?

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RAINWATCHERDAR 7/7/2011 8:15PM

    Wow, Debbie... This is the very core of the challenge I believe we all share here. Never would we dream of minimizing the feelings of another person, overriding important concerns or opinions of another, or treat any one else with the disregard that we so often treat ourselves.

Being angry on your own behalf is tricky - I find for myself that the few times I have really felt anger at my struggle to be more attentive to my needs, I was able to funnel that energy into taking positive action towards making amends to myself. Anger can be a helpful catalyst if you channel it toward action, rather than becoming overwhelmed by it and having it stagnate into guilt or feeling helpless.

You deserve the best, as do I. We are learning how to lavish that "best" treatment and care on ourselves that we seem to so effortlessly pour into those around us.

I see your anger as a sign of healthy notice- a heyyyy wait a minute! I deserve better, I can have better, I expect better, I WILL claim better for myself without apology.

Think of how many years we weren't even bothered by this situation, I look back and feel sadness that in fact that was pretty much what I felt I deserved, who was I too complain? We cannot learn to stand proud and claim healthy boundaries until our eyes are truly open and capable of seeing all the overgrown areas needing our attention... The blurred boundaries, the surrendered territories we hadnt realized were being taken over.

It is a darned painful sight to behold when we are given these moments of stark clarity and SEE.

I believe in you!



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NEW_PARADIGM 7/6/2011 11:07PM

    Practice, practice, practice. And being OK with imperfection in doing so along the way. It does get easier!
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DEVORA4 7/6/2011 7:45AM

  Debby, Just do it, Say that you deserve to be your own best pal! emoticon emoticon

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NOTGIVINGUP49 7/5/2011 10:15PM

    I think Cat is right on, as I can relate. I only felt good about myself and worthy when I was doing for others. I put myself last on the list and often wasn't even on the list because I did't value myself. I didn't think I was anyone special and felt that my opinion didn't matter. The truth is, we are all special and worthy. You need to keep soul searching a little at a time and work on finding your worth by making yourself a priority. Make time for you. It may sound selfish at first, but you can't truly care about or for others until you care for yourself first. emoticon

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KAYWEB555 7/5/2011 9:23PM

    When I was a working gal, I'd do anything to keep my employers happy and excited with my work. many times I'd put the job ahead of family and friends. I don't know what to tell you other than please don't be so very hard on yourself. Everything comes to those you practice! Now you can take some time practicing to be a bit less polite with every one !
You are loved here by many. What ever it is you can find a way to over come!

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LOOZINITNOW 7/5/2011 8:43PM

    I have been there many times and just let it happen again recently. The key is to start small and stay consistent with it. Stand up for what you believe in and want. Eventually you will start feeling really good for being able to succeed at it. emoticon

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DYNAMICDEB53 7/5/2011 7:05PM

    Debbie, it is something many of us face. It is part of learning to love ourselves and really mean it. It starts out small, like this blog you are acknowledging it and seeing. Now its time to act on it. Its just a beginning. Take one little step and mean it. I know you can do it. Its not easy its a lifetime habit to give and give but its time for you to take a little and I know it will make you stronger for it.
We can still give to others a lot but we do need to make time for US!!!
Hugs and love
Deb

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LILANGEL181 7/5/2011 3:43PM

    You can do it! Start small, just like with everything else, and slowly it will get easier.
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DEBLYNN323 7/5/2011 3:32PM

    Unfortunately as women and moms, we put ourselves last. We unconditionally do for others and pray one day it is returned to us....and we continue to pray!

I don't have any answers for you as this is a constant struggle for me. I feel guilty when I need "me" time. But as others have expressed, it can be done, start with baby steps!

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 7/5/2011 12:11PM

    I think this is part of the job of mom. I think it is difficult to know where to put ourselves. Sometimes we need to say I need this and others it is very important to let others have what they want.

Sometimes with a food issue you can be creative and make food for you and them. Sometimes you have to say, I am going to work out and then. Other times you just have to wish you were eating better and working out.

I hope you feel better soon.

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CINDYKC2000 7/5/2011 11:58AM

    DJ, you are a giving and loving person and want everyone to be happy. Mostly you are a mother who is used to putting herself second. I totally understand, as do many of us. Give yourself a break and then continue to strive to put yourself first every once in a while. It takes time, but I know you can do it!! emoticon

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CHAOTICKITTY 7/5/2011 10:51AM

    I wish I had the answer for you but sadly I don't. I just wanted to say that you are amazing and you *should* care about your feelings etc.. because you are a special person hon.

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SCRAPPY_RN 7/5/2011 10:03AM

    Sounds like me and a lot of other woman. You can put yourself first. Try it in baby steps with small things.
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CAT125 7/5/2011 9:31AM

    Sounds like you base your worth on what other people think of you. You can't always count on others to bring you joy, you have to bring it to yourself. Find what makes you happy and do it and don't feel guilty about it. Everybody around you is looking for happiness, do what you can and know that you can't please them all. Your happiness is just a important as theirs. emoticon

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LYNNANN43 7/5/2011 9:26AM

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Hmmm... it posted twice by itself. Spark must know that you needed more hugs:-)

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DRB13_1 7/5/2011 9:01AM

    I hear ya!
The book that I love regarding this is
BOUNDARIES by Cloud and Townsend.
Check it out!
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AHODGES7 7/5/2011 8:38AM

    You sound like you must be a female.
Unfortunately most women have been taught almost in every circumstance they come second. Second to men, second to fathers, mothers, brothers, teachers, clergy.
Well, basically just second.
Later on, second to bosses, boyfriends, then husbands, then babies, toddlers and teens.
In other words, everyone comes in front of - or before - YOU.
How does this make any sense?
If mothers or women (as people tend to believe whether they admit it or not) fall apart, have a break down, become ill, the rest of everyone else's world falls apart too.
In OTHER words, you need to treasure yourself FIRST. Admire and love yourself FIRST. Cater to your needs FIRST.
(everyone else is doing that, so it isn't selfish of you, you are just following the pack . . .)
Logically, IF you want to stand up for yourself you have to BELIEVE you are worthy of being stood up FOR.

Deserving, Worthy, Intelligent, Important, Admirable, You count for something!
Lovable, Beautiful, Gifted (in many, many things!)

Have you ever thought you would give your life if someone else could live? I have. More than was logical. I believed everyone was more important than I was.
IF we feel so passionate about sacrificing our very existence for someone else, perhaps we should feel more passionate about keeping ourselves together for someone else. But somehow that just doesn't wash.
So we do it for OURSELVES.
It validates us as women.
We mean something to ourselves.
I mean something to me.
I am special. Interesting. Worth it.

The beautiful body within? I claim it for ME. I want to feel good about myself and caring for myself helps me to do that.
I already care for and about other people more than is necessary, while not giving a whit for myself.
This cannot go on. You are RIGHT. GET ANGRY!
You have RIGHTS! Take them!
You have a mind. Educate it about YOURSELF!
You have a body. Give it what it needs to please you, to be you, to represent how YOU feel about YOU.
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Keep Looking UP!
Andrea


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DAWNWATERWOMAN 7/5/2011 8:31AM

    Geez.... if I only had the answer to this one... I know my life would be better. You're in my thoughts honey. If you need me, call me. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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TEDYBEAR2838 7/5/2011 8:24AM

    Can we put others ahead of ourselves, yet not at the exclusion of ourselves?

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Quick Update

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Just in case you were wondering - my test went fine. Don't have to do it again for 7 years. I do have a bit of diverticulosis, but a high fiber diet should make sure it doesn't cause any problems.

My SILs just left - DH went to bed over an hour ago. Time for me to get some rest.
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SCRAPPY_RN 7/5/2011 10:04AM

    Great news! Thank you for the update

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CLAVINOVA 7/4/2011 8:37PM

    Glad to hear that all is well and thanks for your comments on my blogs too!

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MACMOM57 7/4/2011 6:46PM

    So glad it all worked out. 7 years good for you I have to do every 5.

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MRDPOLING 7/2/2011 10:33PM

    I used to know someone else who has diverticulosis. Not a nice thing to deal with.

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COMPUCATHY 7/1/2011 10:06PM

    Glad to hear your good news! Yay! Get some good sleep! Spark on! emoticon

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DEBLYNN323 7/1/2011 1:00PM

    emoticon...rest easy!

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 7/1/2011 12:23PM

    So glad to hear it. Glad you are done with the test.

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GAIASCHILD 7/1/2011 11:23AM

    Hooray!!!

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    emoticonGood test results are a blessing.

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TEDYBEAR2838 7/1/2011 8:13AM

    SO glad the test results were good!

Sound like you are tired too. Hope you rested well.?

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KAYWEB555 7/1/2011 7:59AM

    Great, so glad that all is fine and that all you need to do now is get rid of all the gas they pumped into your body !
Wasn't worried, usually silence means all is well and they go about living life. Glad that is the case. Your a trooper !
Now lets get on with the living healthy lifestyles by doing a really special Challenge ! Are You in with me? I'm about to go over to the Team Site and sign Up !

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NEWME0519 7/1/2011 7:22AM

    Great news about the test results!
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DAWNWATERWOMAN 7/1/2011 3:09AM

    Enjoy your sleep. Glad that everything went well for you my friend. Love, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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DEVORA4 7/1/2011 1:48AM

  emoticonyour test went well, happy 4th

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AMYISSUCCEEDING 7/1/2011 12:15AM

    Glad to hear your good news. Hope you are doing okay. Have a Happy and Safe Fourth of July.
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NOTABOUTHEFACE 7/1/2011 12:03AM

    Glad all is well!

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LYNNANN43 6/30/2011 11:52PM

    Pretty darn good news:D

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Survived the Weekend

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Got through the weekend without too much trouble. I was able to stick to the low residue diet but I sure do miss my fruits and vegetables. I did go over about 100 calories and tons of sodium yesterday due to unforeseen circumstances.

First my DH did some work on our water heater yesterday. He was trying to flush out some stuff at the bottom and it was taking a while. He decided to take advantage of the water being off and replace some rusted valves in the basement. This wound up taking all day (with a couple of trips to the store) so we had no water until well past dinner.

Ordinarily it would not be a big deal but my SIL (Nelson's grandmother) arrived in town Friday night and she, my niece, and all 3 of my niece's kids came over in the afternoon and stayed and stayed and stayed... My DD was visiting, too, so there was a lot of people to feed. We decided to order pizza to be delivered. I wasn't going to eat pizza and I couldn't eat a salad so I got a sandwich. Of course the nutritional info online was only for half a sandwich, so I wound up going over. Not beating myself up about it though. Had room to spare the day before and today. Tomorrow is all clear liquid all day so there is no danger of me messing up! I sure did feel that sodium overload this morning, though!

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COMPUCATHY 6/28/2011 7:49AM

    You're doing great...really rolling with the punches. Hang in there! Keep up the good work! Spark on! emoticon

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SCRAPPY_RN 6/27/2011 9:28PM

    Sodium overload is the PITS! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers

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DIFROMWYOMING 6/27/2011 6:25PM

    I'll be anxious to see how your flush goes after all this...it will help me plan mine! emoticon

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/27/2011 6:04PM

    Glad you made it through the weekend and can get this test all done.
then it will be back on track and doing what you really want to do for yourself.
LOL have to love DH's all over and their plans for home fixing.

Take care and it will soon be all over.
Hugs and smiles
Deb

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KAYWEB555 6/27/2011 5:50PM

    Soon the real fun begins and I will be thinking about you and wonderfing if you will have a large weight loss to end the 25# quarter challenge. How about 25#'s ! LOL what else can you see that has humor attached to it. Just a scoping ! Will be keeping you in prayer ! Make sure that you have all your water hook-ups taken care before you really start the prep !

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BESTMEICANBE51 6/27/2011 7:03AM

    So glad you survived. Your in my thoughts. Good luck.

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RAINWATCHERDAR 6/27/2011 6:20AM

    sounds like you did wonderfully, I am so glad... if you've had colonoscopies using less dietary restrictions before the prep you should tell a big difference. I live in Rochester NY home of University of Rochester, lots of research in medicine etc and the several day dietary changes are a relatively new thing. Be well and take good care, my dear friend!!!

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LYNNANN43 6/26/2011 11:31PM

    You are one, crazy busy lady, Miss Debbie!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/26/2011 10:28PM

    sodium overload is the WORST! Hope that you make it through the day with little trouble my friend. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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MACMOM57 6/26/2011 9:05PM

    Glad to here you survived. Wishing you a great ay tomorrow.

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Need to Ask Questions...

Saturday, June 25, 2011

When I was at the doctor, she offered to let me postpone my colonoscopy if I thought it would interfere with my weight loss progress. Since I am already 3 years behind the recommended schedule, I said I wanted to do it now. I did not ask why she would think it might interfere...big mistake.

I need to be on a 'low residue' diet for the weekend. I finally found an exact description of what is allowed this morning:

The following foods can be eaten as part of a low-residue diet:

Refined breads, cereals, crackers, chips and pasta with less than 1 gram of fiber per serving (Note: Ideally, look for products with zero grams of dietary fiber per serving.)
White rice
Vegetable juices without seeds or pulp
Fruit juices with no pulp
Milk, yogurt, pudding, ice cream, and cream-based soups and sauces (strained)
Tender meat, poultry, fish and eggs
Oil, margarine, butter and mayonnaise
Smooth salad dressings
Broth-based soups (strained)
Jelly, honey and syrup

So I can do the vegetable juice without seeds or pulp - I drink low sodium V8 all the time. I think it is OK. I can also do the tender meat, poultry, fish and eggs. Aside from that, I don't eat/drink ANY of this stuff. I don't even have most of it in my house. This is going to be a tough weekend!

I do have to say I would not postpone the test for anything at this point. The mother of one of my DD's best friends was just diagnosed with colon cancer. She was having routine tests before a hernia operation and they saw 'something' on the scan. She should be having surgery on Monday.

EDIT after Jan's Post: Supposedly the low residue diet makes the prep a little easier and more effective. If you are not all 'cleaned out' they may have to do it again. I am really not too anxious about the test itself - it is more about the 'unknown', the results. I always feel this way about the doctor and tests.

  
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TRAVELNISTA 6/26/2011 8:30PM

    Hmmmmmmmm never heard that one before. All I had to do was drink this yucky stuff in a bottle - 2 bottles to be exact. Eat nothing but could have clear chicken broth or any kind of jello other than a red or purple.

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DIFROMWYOMING 6/26/2011 9:49AM

    I had one scheduled Friday, and cancelled it. Got sort of freaked out about it. But I will re-schedule and do this diet first even though my Dr. never mentioned it...it does sound like it would make the prep easier. No issue for me on the pastas and such since I have Celiacs anyway....The fruit juices will have to go, too, as their too high in sugar. I'll think of you as I'm suffering through mine! :)
All will be well, and it will be good to get this out of the way.
Hugs, Di

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KAYWEB555 6/25/2011 11:15PM

    You are a braver woman than I Debbie ! I have over the years had 20 of these test and never was told that diet to eat. Usually they put me on broth, jello yellow or green only, and colorless drinks no cola for the three days before the test. Times have changed since my last one 5 years ago. While I was in the hospital I was told that I was over due for one and that I should get it ASAP. I aske really with all that I'm going through right now. Yes! I just can't imagine with the diabetes being off so badly how doing this test right now would effect things. Praying all comes out okay for YOU !

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/25/2011 10:44PM

    Glad that you're taking care of you & going ahead with the test. Bright blessings to you my friend. It will be worth it. Love, Dawn emoticon

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NOTGIVINGUP49 6/25/2011 10:04PM

    Deb, I know the test is nothing to look forward to, but don't ignore it anymore. My mother had colon cancer so I know the importance of getting the test done. With the diet there are not a lot of options, but it is one of those things that you just do it, because Jan is right--you don't want to have to have to do the prep all over again because you were not cleaned out enough.

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/25/2011 8:59PM

    Debbie I have had that test before, but never asked to do the diet. Just a fast and that the prep which makes you pooped it all out. That was not fun either.
But I agree if you are do for the test they you should have it done. Yearly my Dr has me do a colon screen, it all looks good I dont have to do anything for another year, unless??!!!
I really hate having any test but the unknown is even worse. I hope and am sending positive thoughts and prayers out to you that all goes well.

Hugs and more hugs
Deb

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MACMOM57 6/25/2011 4:34PM

    Debbie that is interesting I too have not hear of it. I have the test done twice so far. My mother died from colon cancer but that was years before such test were around. I agree with the other posts eat what you feel. Please remember we are here for you and know we are thinking about. Its easy to say don't worry about it but some times its just too hard. Good luck I know you will be fine.

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TEDYBEAR2838 6/25/2011 2:54PM

    The night before... is what makes me ill thinking about it

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NEWME0519 6/25/2011 12:10PM

    I like the idea of the all protein for 3 days! So eat only what you would not eat from the list. Good Luck on the test & the results!
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FLUTTER-BY)L( 6/25/2011 11:21AM

    There are so many choices we have to make with food. Make the best choices you can. I would eat ice cream for 3 days if I knew that it would find colon cancer early. My mother in law is a colon cancer survivor. That was a very rough treatment. It still affects her now. She had 16 feet of colon removed. Just eat what sounds good from the list. Stop eating when you are full and eat well for the next few weeks after it is over. You can do this and it will just be a blip in your memory later. No stress. Just do the test. As I said my husband has had 3 that were just fine. emoticon

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BESTMEICANBE51 6/25/2011 10:42AM

    I have an upcoming colonoscopy myself. One,I had some fecal tests come back positive for blood and I have a history of Lymphoma and two I'll be 50 in Oct..The anxiety is the worst part.Good luck on your tests.


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RAINWATCHERDAR 6/25/2011 10:20AM

    I did that diet for mine and it made the prep so much easier physically, I recommend it- allows the body a much gentler transition. Whatever you decide will be ok, trust your own instincts. How we frame these choices and even brief deviations in our food plan is so key

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LKEITHO 6/25/2011 10:09AM

    Good for you for going ahead and getting this important screening done!

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ACTIVE_AT_60 6/25/2011 9:44AM

    I am not sure what the doctor was thinking when she offered to postpone your colonoscopy and the reason she gave.

Get it done with, it is not as terrifying as they say. Comfortable -NO, uncomfortable - it is all in the eyes of the beholder ....

Good for you that you are getting it done.

As for the diet. Like DARK_CINDERELLA - have not heard about a low residue diet before leading up to a colonoscopy. On the other hand there might be a reason (medical reason that is).

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DEVORA4 6/25/2011 9:41AM

  Granted I am NO dr. BUT I have been around the block a few times. Sorry to say, I've not heard of such a pre diet before. E mailed my SIL who has had one recently and she agrees with me.

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DARK_CINDERELLA 6/25/2011 9:30AM

    Just a question, but why do you have to follow this diet? Most colonoscopies only require either a clear liquid diet for the days leading up to it or a bowel prep the day before. I have never heard of such a diet for a colonoscopy.

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 6/25/2011 8:40AM

    Ideal? No. Life saving? Possibly. Worth it? Absolutely!

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Running on Empty

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Nelson is still in the hospital but will probably be coming home tomorrow. I have been there every day since he went to the ER. I am fried - I am so tired I cannot see straight. I came home tonight and cried for 10 solid minutes.

But I did not eat any junk food, although the candy bars at the snack bar were calling my name. I did not pull over at any of the fast food places either, even though I knew there was no dinner at home and I would have to cook when I got there.

My DS sent me this text the other day - "...you're an amazing person, and it's important that you know that."

I need to remember this.

  
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MRDPOLING 6/24/2011 2:50PM

    I hope you are able to get some rest and are able to recharge abit before returning.

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RAINWATCHERDAR 6/24/2011 6:53AM

    I have not been here for several days and now coming back am so sorry that I have not been here to give more support!! I hope today will bring positive progress and healing, and that you have been able to find some rest and renewal yourself.

I am really proud of you - these moments when we are simply worn to the bone and somehow must take each little step to feed ourselves, to somehow find rest, these are where our truest victories and progress shine.

the darkness of exhaustion and worry, heartache and pain also make the thinnest rays of shining light all the more brilliant and remarkable.

HUGS and much loving support, my friend!

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KAYWEB555 6/23/2011 10:48PM

    Why have we not said something like that to You before Debbie !
I know that emoticon is a word we have used with you. emoticon is another word that has been used when speaking of you! emoticonyes, that one also ! You just have to remember that we think the emoticonabout you .
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MOVE-DAILY 6/23/2011 2:04PM

    Wow! That is a real accomplishment to turn away from the snacks and fast food. Important day!

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LKEITHO 6/22/2011 10:49PM

    Sorry for all the stress, but you are doing an awesome job!

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NEWME0519 6/22/2011 3:02PM

    Awww sweetie! Things may slow down when Nelson is released from the hospital.
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DEBLYNN323 6/22/2011 2:16PM

    Awww....how sweet!

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/22/2011 1:33PM

    Yes you are and you do need to keep seeing that and believing. Things will settle down once Nelson goes home. I hope that this weekend you will have a little you time and get some rest.
Hugs and smiles
Deb

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RED_WRITINGHOOD 6/22/2011 9:14AM

    What a sweet thing for you son to do. You are an amazing person and just needed a reminder. I hope Nelson gets to come home soon.

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KBEHUNE 6/22/2011 8:36AM

    It is always nice to be reminded that your son knows your are amazing! Please remember to take care of yourself through all of this!

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TEDYBEAR2838 6/22/2011 8:04AM

    What a beautiful note from your son!

I hope Nelson gets to come home SOON!

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ANGELOO29 6/22/2011 7:43AM

    You are amazing, no doubt!

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WOMANCHEF 6/22/2011 6:58AM

    You are doing such an amazing job - being there for Nelson and still caring about yourself. Try to get some sleep!

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MACMOM57 6/22/2011 6:25AM

    You are an amazing person. How sweet for him to say that. I hope it helped boost you a bit. You need some rest. Start with one day at a time. Give that loving man a big hug.

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DENRNAJ 6/22/2011 6:06AM

    I feel for you that you are going through this situation right now. You are important to all of us.
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STEVENGO2 6/22/2011 12:38AM

    Debbia you sure are an amazing person along with being a good friend. I hope everything works out for you and Nelson!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/21/2011 11:34PM

    Your DS is 100% right! You ARE an amazing person. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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MAMADWARF 6/21/2011 11:31PM

    All I have to say is if you can avoid those stumbling blocks, you are a rock star! way to stay commited to yourself! awesome!

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BAYBELIEVER 6/21/2011 11:25PM

    Debbie, Of course you are running on empty! Nelson is getting better so that part will pass. Then you can re-group and recover. I am glad Nelson is feeling better. I am happy for you that you were still able to avoid candy bars and golden arches (or other decorations) on the way home. And your son is right, you are an amazing person! I have known it for a year!!

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TEENY_BIKINI 6/21/2011 11:15PM

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You are definitely amazing.

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LINDABENEDICT 6/21/2011 11:08PM

    You sure are a great person !!!!! Hope Nelson gets home soon, and hope you get some sleep.

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LOOZINITNOW 6/21/2011 11:01PM

    Get a good nights sleep and remember the words that your DS texted you. You are amazing!

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LYNNANN43 6/21/2011 10:59PM

    Sleep deep & well tonight, Miss Debbie.

And let me know when you'd like to go on a Walk & Talk.

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 6/21/2011 10:59PM

    No truer words were ever spoken. (Okay, texted)

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CHAOTIC-KITTY 6/21/2011 10:56PM

  That's a great idea... that you remember your DS texting you what they did! Because YOU *are* an amazing person! :) That's great to hear that you didn't cave into the candy bars that were calling your name. :) Hope you can get some rest.

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