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Anniversary

Sunday, June 03, 2012

Thirty-three years ago today, I married the love of my life.

He still is.

  
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SOUTHSHOREGUY 6/5/2012 12:52PM

    A little late, but Happy Anniversary to the both of you!!

~~Bill

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JEN-LOVES-LIFE 6/4/2012 9:39PM

    Happy Anniversary a day late! What a handsome fellow you have there! Congrats on being in a strong relationship. I'm sure it is not always easy, but it is so worth it. I hope that the two of you got to spend some time together. emoticon

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 6/4/2012 7:31PM

    emoticonCongrats and Happy Anniversary! emoticon

There's nothing better than being married to the love of your life!

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BILLALEX70 6/4/2012 6:59PM

    Congrats!

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QUIDDITCHGRRL 6/4/2012 12:34PM

    Congratulations! Hope you have 33 more (and more)!!!

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BAKER1009 6/4/2012 6:48AM

    Awesome Debbie!! Happy Anniversary!!! emoticon

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 6/3/2012 11:34PM

    Awesome Job. Here's to another 33 years. I hope you had a happy day.

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SEASONS__CHANGE 6/3/2012 10:25PM

    Awe... I love this!

Happy Anniversary to the both of you.

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LKEITHO 6/3/2012 10:23PM

    Happy Anniversary!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/3/2012 9:35PM

    Congratulations! What a handsome honey you have there! Many blessings to you both for another happy 30!

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LOOZINITNOW 6/3/2012 8:28PM

    Happy Anniversary!!!!! emoticon

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BOBBYD31 6/3/2012 6:09PM

    congrats, that is something to be proud of

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/3/2012 5:38PM

    Happy anniversay to you both and what a cute couple you make.
Smiles
Deb

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KELTIC-CARA 6/3/2012 3:53PM

    emoticon Happy Anniversary and may you continue to dance together emoticon



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BOO-SHAY 6/3/2012 3:19PM

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRAVELNISTA 6/3/2012 1:39PM

    emoticonHandsome hubby! Happy Anniversary!

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DIFROMWYOMING 6/3/2012 1:22PM

    Awwww....what a lovely thing, isn't it, to be in love forever?
Congrats and hope you two can enjoy some time together today.

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FITGRL124 6/3/2012 12:33PM

    emoticon Happy Anniversary!!!

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BAYBELIEVER 6/3/2012 11:57AM

    What a cutie--you must be such a handsome couple! Happy Anniversary to you both, Debbie!

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LYNNANN43 6/3/2012 11:57AM

    What a cutie!

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CINDYKC2000 6/3/2012 11:54AM

    Happy, Happy Anniversary!! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 6/3/2012 10:42AM

    Awwww, congratulations to both of you!

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MACMOM57 6/3/2012 10:40AM

    Wishing you an awesome day.

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WOUBBIE 6/3/2012 10:35AM

    Happy Anniversary!!!

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    Happy Anniversary!! emoticon emoticon

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    emoticonHappy Anniversary to both of you.
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The Opposite of Loneliness

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

You may have already read about Marina Keegan in the news, or read her essay "The Opposite of Loneliness" but if you have not I urge you to read it:

www.yaledailynews.com/news/2012/may/
27/keegan-opposite-loneliness/


This young woman wrote the essay to her classmates who were graduating from Yale but as I read it I started crying because she spoke to me, too. We may not all be this young, but certainly the same is true for all of us at any point in our life.

"What we have to remember is that we can still do anything. We can change our minds. We can start over. Get a post-bac or try writing for the first time. The notion that itís too late to do anything is comical. Itís hilarious. Weíre graduating college. Weíre so young. We canít, we MUST not lose this sense of possibility because in the end, itís all we have."

Sadly, Marina died in a car accident this past weekend ~ rest in peace.

  
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JCDUBEA63 6/3/2012 11:59PM

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COMPUCATHY 6/2/2012 9:12AM

    Cool writing...and I can't help but think that the word that must be the opposite of loneliness is SparkPeople! Glad you are here. Glad we are not alone. Glad we are doing this together! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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NOTGIVINGUP49 5/31/2012 8:57PM

    So wise and so young to be gone so soon.

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BAYBELIEVER 5/31/2012 8:29AM

    Thanks for sharing this.

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DIFROMWYOMING 5/30/2012 10:49PM

    How lovely. I want to share this with my kids...all of them...thanks for sharing this.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/30/2012 10:46PM

    What a lovely piece. Thanks for sharing it. I feel inspired tonight. Love you, Dawn

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SLIMXTINA 5/30/2012 10:43PM

  Great article Thanks

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NEWME0519 5/30/2012 10:15PM

    Thank you for sharing!

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SEASONS__CHANGE 5/30/2012 9:28PM

    Thanks for sharing this Deb... very inspiring and sorry to learn of the horrible accident.



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DYNAMICDEB53 5/30/2012 7:12PM

    Beautiful words and sad that she could not see them fulfilled for her. But we can remember her by remembering them.

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SCRAPPY_RN 5/30/2012 5:19PM

    Very eloquent and I am so saddened that her life ended so young....

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TRAVELNISTA 5/30/2012 3:36PM

    Beautiful essay! Sad outcome for one so young.

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RAE_LEIGH22 5/30/2012 1:37PM

    What a fantastic essay! I can see how it would touch so many people.

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CINDYKC2000 5/30/2012 1:20PM

    What a wonderful piece. And how sad that her life ended so soon and so tragically. It reminds us of how short life really is so live your best life today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

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SOUTHSHOREGUY 5/30/2012 12:56PM

    Debbie,

This hit me hard, and touched me at the same time. I honestly don't know how to put how I feel about it into words, except to say what you said: it is me. I hope you don't mind, but I shared your link.

Best Wishes,

Bill

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Nephew Update

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Merrill continues to make progress at the Children's Institute. His left eye is blurry and the doctor felt it might be part of his balance problem, so he is now sporting an eye patch. He has an appointment with the eye doctor on Tuesday, and depending on the results, he may be coming home in a week or so. He will still need to have someone with him at all times, but it is certainly forward progress.



Thanks to all of you for your prayers and well wishes.
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SCRAPPY_RN 5/30/2012 5:22PM

    Great news!!

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DEBLYNN323 5/30/2012 7:42AM

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LOOZINITNOW 5/29/2012 10:45PM

    Glad to hear the good news! Very cute pic!

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MKPRINCESS007 5/28/2012 9:09PM

    Great to hear it Debbie! :) Love the picture...........makes my heart happy! :)

Karen

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DYNAMICDEB53 5/28/2012 9:01PM

    Wonderful news for your family!!! :D

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TRAVELNISTA 5/28/2012 8:59AM

    It is so great to see him smiling! emoticon emoticon

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PATTYS74 5/27/2012 7:54PM

    great news Dj....he is adorable

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MACMOM57 5/27/2012 5:08PM

    Great news so glad to hear that.

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SEASONS__CHANGE 5/27/2012 4:38PM

    YAY! and love his cute smile!

((whew)) such good news!

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NAYPOOIE 5/27/2012 2:59PM

    Glad to see him looking so good.

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WOUBBIE 5/27/2012 1:54PM

    Wonderful news!

And tell Merrill he looks totally hardcore. (I checked my "teen lingo" with my sons and they approved this message.)

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RAE_LEIGH22 5/27/2012 1:50PM

    That's fabulous!

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BAYBELIEVER 5/27/2012 12:02PM

    Awesome. That is definitely forward progress!

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GAYLA1271 5/27/2012 10:51AM

    Great news!!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/27/2012 10:21AM

    Wonderful news!!!!!

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LYNNANN43 5/27/2012 10:04AM

    I went to a great balance doctor:-) They really do help.

SOOOOO happy for Merrill's progress!!! emoticon

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CINDYKC2000 5/27/2012 9:24AM

    That is awesome news DJ!

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Working on the Positives

Saturday, May 26, 2012

I bought myself a notebook yesterday and I listed 5 positives for the day. It was a bit of a push, though, to come up with 5.

I don't have anything written down today. I haven't left the house all day. Well, I did make progress in my office and I paid some bills online, so I guess that is two positives for the day. Now to think of three more....

  
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KATHYGOULDSMITH 5/30/2012 3:25AM

    I would have trouble with a positive journal too. I have a Gratitude journal that I write in each day one thing for that day I am thankful for. It has been a wonderful tool. However, there have been days when I struggled to come up with even one thing I was thankful for.
If you knew how your kindness affects the people on this website, you would have nothing but positives about yourself!

More power to ya!
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WOUBBIE 5/27/2012 2:56PM

    Hmmmm. What kind of positives are we talking here?

Positive actions?

~Posted on SparkPeople
~Paid bills
~Persevered even though didn't feel particularly positive
~Progressed on office work
~Positively looked for positivity!

Positive things about you in particular?

Hmmm. What 5 things would your DH or your kids or your good friends list? I kinda think they could come up with quite a few more than 5..... How about God? I'm sure God sees some positives as well. It's just all in your perspective.

You know that old question about perspective, right? Is the glass half empty or half full? Well, it depends on the speed of the bartender.

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See? Perspective!

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KAYWEB555 5/27/2012 2:08PM

    You got up and took breath of life !
You ate healthy for the first meal!
You are contacting friends with encouragment !
You show your best side to the world !
You paid your bills !

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RAE_LEIGH22 5/27/2012 1:48PM

    That's absolutely fantastic! What is better than positive reinforcement? I have noticed when I look for the positives my day always goes better -- or great! As long as I don't let the positive mindset turn into a negative one by getting annoyed by someone else's behavior or anything similar, things go very well.

I read in a book not too long ago that when you're feeling any type of negative emotion it's helpful to just STOP and start thinking of every possible thing you can relating to gratitude. I'm sure you have a million things in your life that you love, not just about yourself or your weight, but also about your family, friends, the clothes you wear, the eyes you have to read this, and so much more! It sure helped my aunt lose 30 pounds and still going!

Recently I've told you what a great and motivating person you are. You've got this, girl!

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LYNNANN43 5/27/2012 10:08AM

    I shall help you finish...

3. Your infectious smile.
4. Your amazing devotion to your friends & family.
5. You huge, loving heart:-)

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CARILOUIE 5/27/2012 9:23AM

    I find my journal to be one of the most useful tools for me.

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TRAVELNISTA 5/27/2012 6:48AM

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RUN2MYDREAMS 5/27/2012 4:05AM

    You simply amaze me! I SO wish that we lived closer...you CAN do this Debbie!! Hugs

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 5/27/2012 12:22AM

    Pretty good idea girl! I'm afraid with my snarky nature mine would start getting ridiculous on less productive days. 1) Exercised 2) Hit Calorie Range 3) Hit Water Goal 4) Admired toenails 5) Didn't die

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LBENEDICT7 5/27/2012 12:10AM

    great idea !

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DIFROMWYOMING 5/26/2012 11:28PM

    I think I can always think of 5 positives if they are about the world or people around me...but if I had to list 5 positive things about me specifically...that book would be pretty empty! Something to ponder...thanks. Love you, Di

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LKEITHO 5/26/2012 11:19PM

    Sounds like a great technique!

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MOXIE-IN-MOTION 5/26/2012 11:10PM

    This is a really good idea.....far too often, we focus on the negative.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/26/2012 10:57PM

    I love this idea. I think I am going to push myself to do this with you! SERIOUSLY! Love you, Dawn

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Challenge Review

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

I have been participating in a challenge for the past 10 weeks. My weight loss goal was to lose 22.4 pounds. At my weight that was definitely reasonable. However, I am going to be lucky if my weight is the same tomorrow as it was 10 weeks ago. Once again, I used lifeís sorrows and disappointments as an excuse to stray from my plan.

My goals for the challenge were fairly reasonable:
- stay off sweets and baked goods
- plan my lunches
- make a basic plan weekly before shopping
- keep a positive mental attitude

As my results show, I pretty much did not accomplish any of these goals. I was doing OK for a while, but since my nephew had his accident, I let the addition of his 6-year-old brother to my household and list of responsibilities just through me over the edge. And I have not had class the whole time he was with me Ė that changes on Tuesday!

We also had an assignment to set some additional personal goals about half-way through the challenge. Again, mine should have been reasonable and achievable (especially since I did not have class):
- put away all the papers that have accumulated during tax season and my current class
- get caught up on reviews that I have to type up and get rid of that paper
- clean out the pantry and refrigerator/freezer
- set up a work out area in my office

Again, pretty much did not get any of these done. My class notes are put away but I have two boxes of papers that need to be filed, as well as a pile on my desk that has accumulated over the past two weeks. I have done just a couple of reviews and keep carrying that paper from home office to work office and back again. I had made a dent in the pantry but with the addition of Nelsonís snacks and school lunch supplies, I have a bigger mess than I had before. I also made one change in my office to accommodate a work out area, but it has been negated in the past two weeks.

So where do I go from here?

I developed a general outline doing our last assignment for the challenge:
1. Start positive self-talk.
2. Start a journal for positives (and carry it with me every day).
3. Start making time for exercise every day. If I am honest, I do feel better when I exercise.
4. Start eating in a way that makes me feel better mentally and physically.
5. Start speaking up for myself - don't let people walk all over me.

I will be taking a day off on Friday because Nelson has a 1/2 of school and I am off on Monday so that gives me a good 4-day block to get these things done. I need to be in a good place before I start my next graduate class on Tuesday - it promises to be intense.

  
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RAE_LEIGH22 5/26/2012 10:24PM

    You have incredible goals -- attainable but effective. I love the part about positivity!

It's difficult to not let "people walk all over you." I personally am such a people pleaser that it makes it difficult to stand up for myself. I've been consciously working on that for a while, and it seems to really take time. But it can be done!

I also love the part about eating in a way that makes you FEEL better. I think if a person can find a way to feel good NOW, even before they're at their goal, things go much more smoothly.

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BAYBELIEVER 5/25/2012 7:51AM

    Positive self talk?? Hmmmm. Maybe that is where I should start. Because, truthfully, I probably don't even know where to begin. Saying something like "You are beautiful" just makes me cry.

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/24/2012 4:04PM

    Debbie, you are amazing and it sounds like you have a great plan in place.

Have a super fab holiday weekend :)

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SOUTHSHOREGUY 5/24/2012 11:33AM

    Debbie,

It seems like you are facing one obstacle after another. But I just know that you will overcome. Stick with it and you will attain your goal. You may not make it when you want, but you will get there. I do have one question, though. You said your goal was to lose 22.4 pounds. Can you please tell me just where that 0.4 pounds came from?
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BAKER1009 5/24/2012 9:00AM

    Life has certainly provided it's challenges for you lately!! Hang in there, Deb! emoticon

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BLUESKIES139 5/24/2012 8:02AM

    I am so glad I was part of your team! Even though you strayed away at times you still stayed strong for your family. Sometimes things happen and there is not a whole lot we can do. I have a feeling you will reach your new goals you have set :D

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NEWME0519 5/23/2012 10:50PM

    Many of us are in the same boat as you. You're definitely not alone!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/23/2012 10:14PM

    I'm proud of you. Your honesty & openness is exemplary. Keep your eye on your new goals & you WILL reach them. I KNOW that you are SERIOUS! Love you, Dawn

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FITGRL124 5/23/2012 8:48PM

    Positive self talk sounds like a great place to start!!!

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WOUBBIE 5/23/2012 8:28PM

    I love the "positive self-talk" goal! That will energize you and make it easier to get other things done!

FlyLady loves to use post it notes as reminders of all kinds of things, and some of those things are to "Take Time for Myself" and "Give Yourself a Hug".

I lean toward MKPRINCESS's thought of just picking 1 or 2 small goals and master them first. I absolutely HATE failing at something and I channel stress a little too well, so succeeding at a couple of really small, doable goals makes me feel better than struggling with 5. And I'm really really stubborn, so it takes me a long long time to establish habits and routines. (Been working on taking 3 supplements once a day all month, and STILL keep forgetting. I actually took them in the middle of the night once when I woke up and realized I blew it again!)



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SEASONS__CHANGE 5/23/2012 8:17PM

    Love the positive self-talk... I do this myself. It takes some practice, but after doing it for awhile it becomes a habit.

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GAYLA1271 5/23/2012 7:05PM

    One day at a time, one challenge at a time, one goal at a time, one pound at a time.

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MKPRINCESS007 5/23/2012 6:51PM

    Hey Debbie.........I would say that you challenges that you have had during this challenge have been extraordinary! Having a loved one so seriously involved in the hospital, and taking on care of a 6 year old are no small changes. Be kind to yourself! I feel that you place a lot of burden on your shoulders and then are frustrated by everything not being achieved. I honestly had one goal for myself this month. 1,000 fitness minutes. I am going to accomplish it for the FIRST TIME since I started Spark, over 2 years ago. I didn't give myself 5 goals, just one. It worked better for me. Dive into one of these goals and one ONLY. Complete it and move on to the next. You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Love ya!
Karen

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 5/23/2012 6:33PM

    I hope that you can find a way to make it happen. I know it is hard with kids. But, I also know that they adapt to our healthier life if we can figure out how to make it work. I hope that you can make it work and it will be easy for them. Good luck as you move forward.

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KBLASEN 5/23/2012 5:47PM

    Life happens, just get back on track now that you realize where you're at! Are you close to a YMCA? They usually offer 1/2 day care for school release days. It is reasonable and there are scholarships if needed. If you're anything like me the time something actually takes to do stretches and becomes huge and overwhelming then I finally do it and if I use the timer it takes 15 minutes and I realize I've wasted more time worried about not doing it and putting it off than just doing it would have been!

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GAELA-I-CAN 5/23/2012 5:05PM

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