Sunday, August 01, 2010
Been there, done that. Every day I get multiple notices from SP in my email of new threads in my various teams from members with the same message. "I need help," "I am starting over and I need support," "I've lost weight and gained it all back and I can't do it alone," etc.
Everyone can benefit from support from others when they are trying to accomplish something that is very outside of their comfort zone. Everyone can benefit from knowing that there is someone they can talk to, go over their struggles, and get that word of motivation.
But--here I am, being a bit of a cynic again--everyone needs to understand that they, and they alone, have to actually put in the hard work to accomplish that goal.
I am speaking from experience here. I lost roughly half my weight before SP. I had no support, no one encouraging me to keep it up, but I had reached the point where I was ready to do it. After joining SP, it was a nice extra to know that other people in my shoes were out there, ready to give me a "you can do it" if I asked.
I'm not denigrating people who want support. Part of the process for them has to be their knowing that most of the time it will be them alone with that craving or the cookies in the cabinet, and they have to be ready to stand up for themselves.