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In Loving Memory

Thursday, May 08, 2008

This weekend my husband honored me and my family in a way that touched me deeply.

Many years ago my mother handed down to me an old antique chest of drawers which had a large beveled mirror held to the chest with beautiful curving arms, and had a 2x6 marble slab as the top. It was the first piece of furniture that my parents bought together during their first year of marriage in New Orleans, La.

During life changes and moves, the chest of drawers feel apart and became so brittle. All that is left is the mirror and this beautiful slab of marble.

I keep holding on to them, not knowing what I was going to do, but could not let them go.

Let me say that my late father was an incredible man. Educated at La Tech and Tulane University, he became among many other things; a master gardener, master carpenter, a zoologist, and a naturalist with the state of Louisiana.

He passed away from cancer over a decade ago and our family still misses him terribly.

This weekend my dear husband started digging a hole in part of our garden close to the gazebo. He then lined it with pond liner and surrounded it with gorgeous flat slabs of rock that he had gotten from north Arkansas. He cleverly situated the marble slab from my parent's dresser so that it looks suspended over the small pond, added a little statue of a mother elephant with two babies which spurts water out of their trucks, hooked up a small pump and presented me with a new water feature dedicated to my late father.

How incredible to sit in the gazebo and enjoy the sounds of the water falling off the slab and enjoy the sight of this beautiful feature surrounded by the many flowers that have been planted through the years.

My father would have loved it.

The picture you see is of my father in his flight suit during his college years in the ROTC.

In loving memory to you, Dad. I miss you still.

Your daughter

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NAVYMOM133 5/15/2008 11:21AM

    What a wonderful gift indeed. Your husband, and father, sound like truly wonderful men. What a blessing!

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LIZACARTER 5/9/2008 7:22AM


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MCBETH45 5/8/2008 5:44PM

    What a remarkable gift your husband gave you! Sounds like you have wonderful memories of your father...enjoy your little slice of paradise

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SURFACING 5/8/2008 8:29AM

    Aw, I'm tearing up! Your husband sounds like an amazing man.

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Who is this new me?

Thursday, April 17, 2008

This morning I went to a friend's blog and read about how she is recognising and dealing with the emotional aspects of the journey we are all on, and it got me to thinking.

I realize that I have been dealing with several issues...age and weight.

I sometimes feel that I have two emotional sides. One is the side that is proud of making it to this place in my life:

1) Almost 50 and still going strong

2) More independent and resourceful than ever.

3) Incredibly close and loving relationship with my husband.

4) Kids grown and doing well in their different paths.

5) Business owner with a second company that showed a profit from day one.

Her blog also made me realize that I am dealing with other issues that I tend to stuff down inside of me:

1) I am no longer the young girl that looks great in little sun dresses and I must watch what I wear in order not to look like that dreaded older woman trying to wear her daughter's clothes.

2) After 3 children and nursing for years, my stomach and breasts will never again look as they did when I was in my twenties.

3) And shock of all shocks, I look in the mirror and see an older woman! Grin. It seems, at times, that the person inside does not match the person outside.

So, where do I go from here?

I will continue to grow and embrace myself for who and what I am. I will try to realize that each age brings a new beauty, a graceful confident beauty.

We buy roses to watch them start from little buds to soon open up and reach full bloom with an incredible aroma.

As older women, we are opening up and exuding an intoxicating fragrance.

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GAYLLYNNE 4/26/2008 11:02AM

    Can I relate?? hahahah Of course! When I turned 50 I felt as if the world were going to collapse. My health was bad and I felt old. I couldn't even look in the mirror. It was awful. Between the hysterectomy and my husband leaving me there was no life....but, yes there was. After pulling myself up by the bootstraps I started to live again. I became more involved with my children (I had them late so they are still young) and now, with the help of sparkpeople I'm getting smaller and looking better. True, I want to be that 30 year old that was so hot everyone wanted to be with her LOL - but hey, I'm not. I have her inside of me screaming to get out!! Now, I have a wonderful boyfriend who tells me I'm beautiful all the time and that makes a huge difference. There is life after 50, we just have to remember to embrace it and live in and for the here and now. You are a perfect, beautiful example (although not quite 50 yet!)

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MCBETH45 4/21/2008 11:55AM

    Great blog-I feel the same way. Some days I look in the mirror and see all the yucky imperfections that have come with age. Sometimes I think, hey you look pretty good for 45! It's definitely been a struggle for me to age. Thanks for putting it into words and getting me to think about it. I try to remember how far I've come in my life and all the joys and accomplishments I have-I guess we've earned our lines and wrinkles & they've helped to make us the beautiful people we are!

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NAVYMOM133 4/17/2008 11:17AM

    What a wonderful blog! You know, that is really true. There ARE different sides to this journey, and the road doesn't end at the fountain of youth. Our skin, muscles, hair, everything is 40something, with a lot of living invested. I think you really raise something important questions for me - what *DO* I really expect to get out of this Sparkpeople journey to a healthier me? Do I have some false expectations that I am not even consciously aware of that may play a role in my level of success and gratification?
I just sent my youngest on his way into the Navy yesterday. My husband and I sat outside last night and talked for a while about how our lives are really going to be different without any kids around now. A whole new chapter in this Sparkpeople book that I'm absolutely ENGROSSED in!

Thanks so much for sharing! And I'm glad you've joined the 40-something team!! Welcome again.
Melly emoticon

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Springtime Workouts Kill Two Birds With One Stone!

Sunday, April 13, 2008

I love the springtime for more than one reason. I love the warming weather, the emerging flowers, the new life all around me. Most of all, I love it that my husband and I can get back out in the garden and loose all that winter pudge along with getting our yard it tip top shape.

You want an incredible total body workout? Try getting out a hoe or rake. Talk about work your abd, arms, behind, etc.

Not only are you making your surroundings more beautiful with the care and addition of flowers, veggies, and shrubbery, but you are making your body more beautiful also!

Yesterday I planted tomatos, spinach and kale. Got the beds ready for squash, cucumbers, pole beans. etc.

We also redid some flower beds and planted some sunflowers, begonias and pink pampus grass.

The soreness I am feeling this morning is worth it!

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MCBETH45 4/16/2008 7:05PM

    OMG! I am jealous, you must live in a warm climate to be planting already.....lucky. :-) We are just now seeing daffodils and the first buds on the trees. Won't be able to plant until mid May, sigh. It is an amazing workout to do yard clean up. Sounds like fun!

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XHASTEDMOMOF2 4/13/2008 6:34PM

    WOW!!! How awesome your day was!!! Now you know you will have to post pictures of your garden once it starts to take off!!


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GAYLLYNNE 4/13/2008 11:11AM

    I agree. It's so great that you can exercise and not really know you are exercising! Getting things done is a great way to kill two birds, I agree!! I wish it would warm up here in NY. Yesterday was nice but now it's back down in the 40's again!! Your garden sounds wonderful. I love veggies I've grown myself! I can't wait!!!

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FUNNYLILFROG 4/13/2008 10:24AM

    That's great! I think the best exercise actually gets stuff done, so you don't feel like you're just plugging away on the treadmill for venity's sake. Your garden sounds amazing!

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