Saturday, January 11, 2014
I found this little gem in a SPARK article entitled "Secrets to Motivation Part 2..."
"But history is not destiny. From a psychological point of view, emotional "reality" is the product of whatever story you tell yourself about how things are and why you are the way you are. If you want (or need) to change your reality, then change the story you are telling yourself. This does not mean denying or ignoring your past or present circumstances, or inventing a nice fairy tale to take their places. If you are a single parent with a full-time job, a person with major medical or emotional issues to contend with, or someone who is so large that physical activity is very difficult, this will be harder for you than for some others. You need to acknowledge that and be realistic about the changes you can hope to make and how easily you can make them. But you CAN rewrite your story so that these circumstances are not the determining factor in your success or failure. Your new story can be about how your creativity, ingenuity, and perseverance enable you to find full or partial solutions to these challenges, and to do the best that you can with what you've got to work with.
The story you are telling yourself at any moment is the foundation of your motivation, or lack of it. Make sure you are telling yourself the story you need to hear. And the best way to really come to believe your story is to see it come true in the small, well-chosen steps you take every day."
I have begun a new challenge with my Hogwarts team that has involved digging through some pretty emotionally charged mental baggage. As part of that challenge I was doing some reading/research for tools to help tackle some of my baggage and came across this amazing quote. How powerful is the idea that "history is not destiny"?! Our patterns trap us, only for as long as we mentally allow ourselves to be handcuffed by them. I also am very moved by the idea that " emotional "reality" is the product of whatever story you tell yourself about how things are and why you are the way you are. If you want (or need) to change your reality, then change the story you are telling yourself. " I have some serious health issues that are at times very overwhelming and I have chosen to mentally allow them to overshadow the moment/days/weeks of surprisingly great health. I know there are others that face these challenges moment by moment in perpetuity and I am stuck in my own little paranoia of "waiting for the sky to fall." It truly is such a waste. Time to start a new chapter.
This chapter is going to star me as the heroine rescuing the victim I have become over the past few years. In the past I have chosen to be depressed, at times hopeless and angry over my health challenges and I have failed to act in healthy positive ways on the many days and moments that were good. Reality is, my disease will claim me again at some point, but by acting and enjoying healthy lifestyle now I claim victory over it today. And today is my story. Today is the only day I truly have any power over. When I go to sleep tonight I want to rest my head on the pillow knowing that today I was a heroine and did not allow my disease (the villain in this little tale) to steal a day of healthy life away from me.
I hope you conquer your villain today, whatever it may be and do not allow history to be your destiny. Chose to tell yourself the story you need to hear today to be the superhero in your own life!
Best wishes to all of you. I am very grateful to the Spark community. Wonderful resources and wonderful support! Thanks all!