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Even SparkGuy has to hit the re-set button

Monday, July 14, 2014

If you haven't seen it already, I encourage you to check out SparkGuy's blog about the challenges he's been facing this year - and how he's pushing through it.

It's not just you - even SparkGuy can't do it all, all the time.


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STEVENK87 7/18/2014 6:50PM


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NOWYOUDIDIT 7/14/2014 10:49PM

    Life happens when you make other plans!

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    Consistency & Perseverance excellent words to live by !

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    That's right!

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MAINEALI 7/14/2014 2:38PM

    Thank you for the link. What a wonderful blog post. Have a great day!

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JENNY888 7/14/2014 12:17PM

    Thanks for posting this link. I had not seen the blog.

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DUKEFAN86 7/14/2014 11:42AM

    I was encouraged by his blog post, and am glad to hear his mom is doing better.

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What do you think? Need your input

Friday, July 11, 2014

I know my weight is more of a "psychological" or "emotional" problem (rather than a problem of gluttony).

Yes, I overindulge sometimes. But it's not often.

Yes, I have some weird eating patterns sometimes (I woke up at 4 am this morning totally STARVING. It was all I could do to stay in bed and not get up and make pancakes)

Yes, I eat large portions, sometimes. Not all the time.

Yes, I skip breakfast a lot (except this week on the 5% challenge, lol) emoticon

But thinking back over my weight life (the ups and the downs) I see when
I gained weight for 'no reason' - nothing had changed in those times except my emotional status.

I get that. There was stuff happened in my life that was awful and I packed on the pounds.

When I got out of that situation the pounds literally fell off. I lost 80 pounds in the course of less than 8 months.

What I don't get is why I'm fat now. Nothing horrible is happening to me now.

I've spent a lot of time thinking/praying about it (like, the whole last year) and I don't have any answers.

This is my question: -- -- --

-- -- -- Is there any point in trying to lose weight if I can't pinpoint the CAUSE (the emotional trigger or whatever)?

I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.
Even if they're tough ones. I probably need tough.

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DEERLADY45 7/12/2014 1:17PM

    But Dear it is for your health! Dont quit keep going ! ive been thru it all and yes i have felt like throwing in the towel but even tho i am large my Health is good and if i quit it i will only hurt me and my health so im in it Girl.. wont quit and i dont want you to quit either HUGS,BONZ emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NOWYOUDIDIT 7/12/2014 1:40AM

    emoticon I think I'm too complicated.

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KNYAGENYA 7/11/2014 6:26PM

    It is good to pin point as you travel on this path. It does not need to be immediate but can be helpful for your food choices.

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LOFLLAMA 7/11/2014 5:41PM

    Do you count calories? If not, try it for a 3 day period to see if you are just eating too much. Do you exercise? If you don't...START!

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    Gosh, I wish I knew the answer.

I ended up writing a too long chat... will send you a copy in a Spark Mail. If our Blog Post comments had the wide response space like our Spark Page comments, I probably would have left the monologue here.

Don't give up. You will find what works for you to reach your goals.


Hugs, Audra

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NEWVINE 7/11/2014 1:20PM

Never give up. Even if you don't know why you arent loosing weight, the healthy changes you are making are better for you. This is a long journey with many ups and downs, even when you are eating right. Relax Stop thing about why you don't loose and start with baby steps.There is no time limit, and some of use have a harder time loosing weight then others.Keep pushing and in time you will see changes. emoticon

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    I wish I could help you! Sometimes I deal with the same thing!!

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CROUCHINGFLEA 7/11/2014 12:50PM

    I don't know if it is necessary to know the reason that you gained the weight. I initially gained a lot of weight due to the births of my two children, then had a major emotionally difficult time for a while and gained more weight, then started on a medicine that made me gain a ridiculous amount of weight in one month. Is it important for me to know the reasons I gained that weight... I think when I gained weight from the medicine it was important to know, but other than that, not really, as long as I stopped gaining the weight. If your still putting on weight, then yeah, you need to figure out why.

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SONFLOWERGAMMY 7/11/2014 12:45PM

    It could be a habit that has been developed over the years, irregular hormone or blood sugars, unresolved issues that have not come to your attention or a million other things. As believers we read in scripture to care for our bodies. That is why I keep trying, because many times I have thought it might be easier to just call it a wrap, and if God shows me another reason and I need to deal with it I will but if not I keep trying because His Word tells me to.
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ROCKPORT9 7/11/2014 12:36PM

    Yes, it is always good to try to lose weight. Less weight...better health.

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KALISWALKER 7/11/2014 11:53AM

    I suggest you try the Full Plate Diet, so you are really filled up and can tell your brain you are FULL. You can read 'The Full Plate Diet' pdf version online for free. I tried it in August 2012 and continue to look for foods with high fiber.


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28 Days to Success - Day 3

Tuesday, July 08, 2014

28 Days to Success by Tommy Macken is a Free ebook that offers daily steps to take toward being successful in business.

I'm not starting a business but I liked the idea of a little program that is only 28 days long - even I can probably manage to stick to it for 4 weeks.

The first week has been really simple - get up earlier, exercise daily, spend some time reading (read whatever you want) and take a few minutes to repeat an affirmation.

I've modified the plan by replacing the affirmation with a Scripture verse (there's only one verse in the KJV Bible that mentions success!).

I don't know where this little program will take me (I haven't read ahead) but I like that it includes 15 min. of exercise as one of the fundamental steps.

Yesterday was too hot and humid to exercise - - suffocatingly hot - - and I was too dizzy to even do chair exercises. Got my workout done this morning before the humidity takes over today.

Sorting out my kitchen 'junk' drawer will be the highlight of my day - it's so stuffed I can barely wrench it open without spraining my wrist. Time to purge!


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CRAZYPADER2 7/9/2014 6:21AM

    It sounds like a great program. Keep up the good work.

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    Looking forward to your "Book Report" in how many days? 21?
Thanks for sharing.
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NOWYOUDIDIT 7/8/2014 11:34AM

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ROCKPORT9 7/8/2014 10:22AM

    Sounds like a good change of pace book. Keep you thinking! emoticon

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Roll the stone

Thursday, June 26, 2014

I like words. I used to read the dictionary for fun (seriously). I like how words go in, and out, of fashion, change meanings and get twisted into new words.

I also like doing word studies from the Bible - why was this word used and not that other, more common word? What does it signify?

Yesterday I was pondering the words in Proverbs 16:3:

Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.

That word "thoughts" is translated as plans, mighty deeds and power in other places.

I've never understood why we would commit our works to the Lord FIRST and THEN our plans would be established.

Wouldn't it make more sense to commit our PLANS to the Lord and let Him establish our works? That's always puzzled me and it was still puzzling me yesterday when I was thinking about it.

I looked at the word for "works" - it's translated as: works, deeds, labour, occupation, and such. Nothing enlightening for me from that.

So I decided to look at the word "commit " --- maybe there was something there that made the difference.

That word commit? -- the Hebrew word "galal" (Strong's #H1556 see link below) -- it's translated as roll - like roll on the ground.

Or like in Gen. 29:3 - they rolled the stone from the well's mouth to water the sheep.

Now I'm more puzzled --- "commit" means roll?


There are other words in the Old Testament that are similar - stay with me here, I know I don't explain it well --- committing trespasses and committing adultery and committing abominations --- those are all different types of "commit". I'm no scholar, but they seem to me to be more "action" verbs, something people are actively doing, versus this statement of intent type word in Prov 16.

Why would commit be equivalent to roll - and it flashed through my mind that to roll a stone over the mouth of a well or cave is kind of similar to rolling a stone over the mouth of a tomb, like when Jesus was entombed after His death.

So I went to Mark 16 and found the Greek word for "roll". It didn't really help - it just means roll and it's not used in any other way in the New Testament.

But above the word was an entry for a Bible dictionary:

" This word is used in the Gospels to refer to the stone that was in front of the tomb of Jesus. In Palestine, graves were usually in a depression and the stone was rolled down an incline to cover the mouth of the tomb. For a small grave, about twenty men were required to roll a stone down hill to cover the door of the tomb. The Bible tells us that the stone covering the door of the tomb was a large stone. The women would have needed more men than even a full Roman guard of sixteen men to roll away the stone. This was a major task. " bit.ly/TAX7q6

Twenty men! To roll it downhill - - - let alone to pull it away again!

Once that stone was in place there was no going back.

You were committed.

Commit thy works to the Lord - it really jumped out at me.

Stop dithering and DO IT.
Not just start, but roll the stone over the door and don't look back.

Commit to commencing, and continuing, action, and He will establish your plans.

Commit to action, even if you don't know where it'll end up or where it will take you. Just get up and get doing something.

Like I said, I'm not saying that's what it is, this is just an application that I made from what I read. There are so many ways I can use this right now - in decisions that have to be made in our family, in my fitness, in eating and diet, in wanting to be purposeful in my writing.

Time to roll the stone.


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NOWYOUDIDIT 7/1/2014 3:20AM

    Beautiful! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEGKORN 6/27/2014 1:41PM

    What a motivational perspective! Roll that stone! Commit and carry through! Here we go.........

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MISSLORI5 6/27/2014 3:48AM

    The Lord doesn't do things for us we can do ourselves, He just provides the right prompting at the right time, then He lets us make the decision whether to go forward to stay stagnant. I love your blog, and most of all, I love that you are a student of God's Word! Never stop asking questions! You will grow and become, just as God created to be!! emoticon emoticon

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    So glad I caught this post...
Thanks for sharing.
Hugs, Audra

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CROUCHINGFLEA 6/26/2014 4:31PM

    emoticon Loved this! And it makes sense the way you put it. Thank you for posting this. emoticon

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MYTURNNOW2013 6/26/2014 3:13PM

    20 men downhill, imagine how many to go up! Great blog!

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    OMG! I love to study Biblical word meanings as well. I can spend hours just picking apart one verse researching all the word meanings and uses. It makes such a difference and helps put the life into scripture.
This was a wonderful insight and you did all the leg work for me! A true gift!

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DLITE719 6/26/2014 2:27PM

    Very thought provoking. I like it.

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ROCKPORT9 6/26/2014 12:49PM

    Do it! Roll that first stone and commit!.....I like it!

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Sunday, June 22, 2014

Anyone who knows OVERACTIVEELBOW knows how sweet and kind and caring she is. She is a boundless spring of encouragement and empathy. I wish I lived down the road from her so I could bother her...er, drop in on ... her in real life. She is a much better friend to me than I am to her.

Being an awesome friend she took the time to respond to something I wrote on one of our team walls the other day. bit.ly/1rmRgQQ

"Motivation... find the reason you really truly desperately want to get healthier... the reason that is just for YOU. JUST FOR YOU!! You know the drill..." she said.

I do know the drill.

And I have my list of ten or more reasons why I must get healthier.

The truth is, deep down I don't believe I deserve it.

It's why the instant I took my focus off Sparking, back in January, to focus on more serious things with DS, my weight shot back up to where it was this time last year --- almost 30 pounds I've gained in a few short months, after I was doing so well.

My weight loss wasn't sustained because even after nearly a year of good habits there's something underneath all that that says 'I'm unworthy'.
I'm working on those deep issues - and finding solutions to them.

As a Christian I've had a very dogmatic church background. Now I'm fighting some of the 'truths' I've learned in church -- where the preacher is "king" and anything he says goes, even when he's wrong.

As a child whose parents were both drunkards, fighting all the time, I learned to be quiet and stay out of sight and under no circumstance to question them about their behaviour even when it was frightening and bewildering and frankly, inexcusable. "Do as I say and not as I do" was a major theme in our home.

As a daughter to a man who brought women home behind Mom's back, in Mom's own bed, when she was away working, I learned that sex was a commodity to be traded, with no meaning other than to satisfy physical lust.

This conflicted greatly with what I learned in church, of course, and that dissonance has haunted me most of my life.

As a step-daughter who was not adopted by my step-father -- while my brother was and took his name -- I learned I did not count. I was not worthy.

Married to my abusive first husband, who told me openly that he married me only for sex and who promptly "fell in love" with someone else (he divorced me and married her - they're still married thirty years later) I've carried the shame of being a "divorced woman" around for decades (divorce, and particularly remarriage after divorce, under any circumstance, is not an option in the churches I grew up in). I learned again that men were not to be trusted; that love meant nothing and that I wasn't worthy.

All of these things have shaped the way I think about myself and about the world. I got the messages loud and clear. I'm not good enough. And I've believed it for a very long time.

The "church" part of me counters with "Of course you're not good enough. No one is good enough. We all deserve hell." That's the message that was preached in virtually every church service I've been to (I stopped going about 10 years ago) It was never balanced with "God loves you" because the preachers didn't want anyone to get uppity. It worked.

Before I can "find the reason I really truly desperately want to get healthier... the reason that is just for ME" I need to believe that I deserve it.

There are elements of truth I can learn from each of these situations:

-my parents weren't perfect, they could only do what they knew to do; no one's childhood is perfect

- my step-father was over thirty years older than my mother - he was from a generation that valued sons. He offered my mother a name and a home and an escape from her life with my father. It wasn't about me; he was just from a different generation.

-preachers forget that not everyone is as far along as they are (or as far as they like to appear to be) -- and preachers aren't perfect either (despite what they say).

-church and faith do not exist to serve preachers. My eyes should be on God alone and not on some guy in a suit at the front of the room.

-my ex was just an 18yo kid like me -- we had no business getting married (we were "encouraged" to do so by the preacher, the same one who expected his every word to be obeyed - he felt we were going to 'fall into sin' because we spent too much time together). Neither of us had parents who offered us any guidance so we did the best we could with what we knew. It just didn't work out.

Slowly these truths are starting to sink in - but it takes a very long time to erase the legacy of voices in my head and replace them with better ones.

I think I'm getting close. I kind of see a glimmer of it, a glow, like just before a sunrise. It's not morning yet but it's not completely dark anymore either. And my night sky has stars in it like Audra who help me so much by believing in me when I can't believe in myself.
Thank you, my friend!

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    Oh, Golly, Gee.... Lynn I wish I lived just down the road apiece from you, too. Your strength so inspires me. You are a word-smith and I sure could use your expertise to do Bible studies. I still have not figured out what, it seems, that everyone else just seems to know how to do automagically.
Your Heavenly Father, God, loves you just the way you are... He loves you so much HE wants the very best for you. Trust HIM, and know that HE is with you every step of the way. I know that it may be hard to trust your Heavenly Father, especially when so many earthly males have done such a great job of letting you down, not being there for you. But God is full of HOPE and TRUST and HE will share all of that with you. I Believe. It is good to know that You Believe also.
I truly do hope that I am as good a friend as you need me to be.
Love and Hugs, Audra

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NOWYOUDIDIT 6/23/2014 2:22AM

    emoticon Great insight! I can relate to a lot of it! Our preacher always prays before the sermon "Forgive the one who speaks- for his sins are many"

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LIZSPRINGSTEEN 6/22/2014 10:00PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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KALISWALKER 6/22/2014 2:24PM

    It wonderful that you have an adult perspective to view your young life. It will help you find a healthy balance in your life and move forward to become the person you were meant to be.

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    It sounds like God would like you to hear the same scripture He gave me to memorize this week.

It is Zephaniah 3:17
The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.

What a beautiful picture of almighty God saving us, delighting in us, quieting our self critisism with his love, and rejoicing over us with singing. I don't know exactly what Gods voice sounds like but I can only imagine it is greater than the mighty roar of the magestic lion, as soft and gentle as a cool breeze on a warm summer day, joyous like the songs that spring forth from the birds in the early morning, soothing like the sounds of a babbling brook or gentle rain, powerful like the crashing ocean waves and filled with the sounds of love like those of a cooing baby resting in his mothers arms or the wispered "I love you". It is beautiful, I know that much!
Many blessings,

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ROCKPORT9 6/22/2014 11:28AM

    I hear you saying things, and I hope you are starting to believe them. You have two many situations that could tear a person apart. I have never met you in person, but through our Spark interactions, I know you to be a strong, loving supportive person. You are so worth being the healthy person you want to be! Big hugs and prayers, Laurel emoticon

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MARYBETH4884 6/22/2014 10:57AM

    Oh I wish I could hug you!! First of all, everyone God made is worthy of love!! No one can ever love you more than God!! No matter what you have gone through or are currently going through, you are always in the palm of God's Hand!! Just ask and he will send peace through the storm. He won't necessarily stop the storm, but he'll guide you through it! Hard times and bad relationship are not created by God or punishment from God. They just are situations that exist, or they are created by imperfect humans trying to do the best for themselves sometimes. You are so worth loving yourself and becoming a happier and healthier person!! emoticon emoticon

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BUSYGRANNY5 6/22/2014 10:51AM

    What an open honest blog! Good for you for finding your own truths!
Keep on keeping on!!!!


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