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A void in my life with a hope for the future

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

I saw my daughter today enter in the court room in handcuffs and shackles. It was the most heart wrenching thing I've seen in my life. I felt I was going to faint. My husband told me to be strong. My daughter had a blank expression on her face. I think she's angry that we refuse to post bail. I know that when her mind clears she will know that we did the right thing. The day she was arrested she was planning to leave town with an acquaintance she met on Facebook.
I feel the punishment doesn't fit the crime because her ex has temporary custody of their children and he knew that she is unstable and binge drinking. He left her on a Friday night and disappeared until Sunday morning when he found out my grandchildren ages 11 and 7 walked over to my house at 4 am not knowing that their mom was out drunk. The hypocrite( in my opinion ) called the police on my daughter and when the police asked me about the incidence I could not lie. my daughter is in jail now not knowing when she will be out. But I know that in our county jail she is safer than out in the streets for now. I try not to think of her but it's so difficult when even the smallest thing, like a bottle of suntan lotion or even my cell phone reminds me of her. We tanned together and we text each other umpteen times a day. I can't wait until this nightmare is over. emoticon

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CAPECODLIGHT 7/20/2014 11:55AM

    I'm just catching up on Spark. As much as your daughter's ex contributed to the situation, she needs to take responsibility ultimately for leaving her children unsupervised. I hope by now things are better.
You must be so frustrated in wanting your daughter to turn her life around and being concerned for your grandchildren. I used to work in a detox facility and can attest to the fact that with help, people do get their lives back on track. I pray that your daughter is taking these steps.
Hugs and strength to you.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/18/2014 10:03AM

    So sorry. Tough love is the toughest thing any Mother has to do for her child in situations such as this. Painful. HUGS and prayers.

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JANNIEWANNIE 6/18/2014 12:10AM

    I can sympathize with you. Our grandson broke our hearts and is incarcerated. Praying for all of you. J

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Depressed and missing my little girl

Monday, June 16, 2014

My youngest daughter was arrested for the first time in her life. She's 30 yrs old coming this 5th of July. She's bipolar and an alcoholic. She had her own home a nice boyfriend and a great job. She's beautiful ans so stunning she turns heads both genders all the time. On the outside she's amazing. On the inside she's full of turmoil and lost. She's always been different from the norm, always quiet as she observed and absorbed the world. She was her older sister's shadow. Always envied her sister's beauty and like ability, not realizing she had her own. When she was 14 a new boy in the block took an interest. She ran off with him at 15. She married him and suffered ten years of physical, mental, verbal and emotional abuse. He introduced her to drugs and kept a watchful eye on her believing every man wanted her and she wanted every man. After the last beating and seeing him with another woman she came to her senses, so I thought. Ever since then she has been on a self destructive mission, taking with her any stray man. Everyone that knows her loves her and pity's her. Her scars and bruises are a daily reminder of the life she leads every weekend. This weekend she asked me to bail her out, but I want her to get the help that she needs and I'm hoping she will finally come to her senses and take hold of her life. I miss her already and I wonder what will happen. In the meantime I am depressed and hurting that my little girl is in jail. Emotional eating is on a rampage and at the moment I don't care. emoticon

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MSILVER94 6/17/2014 8:55AM

    I am so sorry to hear what is going on and I know it hurts. But I do think you are doing the right thing to let her get the help she needs. You want this to hopefully be a wake up call for her and maybe the only way for her to get sober. Does she take medicine for her bipolar? Because I know self medicating with other drugs is very common. I will say a prayer for you, her and your family. Be strong, you know you are doing what is best.

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CAPECODLIGHT 6/17/2014 7:17AM

    I am so sorry to hear your news. Hopefully, your daughter will get the help she needs. Here, in Massachusetts, there is an alternative to jail time if people go into drug rehab. It seems to help a lot of people make the needed changes in their lives. It must be so hard for you to wish you could do more but know that enabling her is the wrong thing. Try to find an alternative to relieving your stress other than eating. Find an Al-Anon group to join, if you haven't already. My thoughts are with you and your daughter.

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NEWBIRTH2014 6/16/2014 10:39PM

    Keeping you and your family in prayer emoticon

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Some of the symptoms of weight gain

Sunday, June 15, 2014

My Dad passed away, my Mom has a mysterious pain. My brother is losing his eyesight. My son was evicted. My daughter's boyfriend was arrested. My other daughter is depressed. A friend's divorce paper's are final and so she's isolating herself in grief. My sister thinks I'm hiding money that my Dad supposedly gave me before he died. My step mother asked me for money I don't have. My fence is half painted. Some of my perennials were mowed over. I've taken over my households finances just to find out we're 20 thousand in debt. So, why am I gaining weight? emoticon

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CAPECODLIGHT 6/15/2014 7:13AM

    S-T-R-E-S-S! Sounds like you have a pile of it right now, but you get to choose how you react to it. Make sure you are getting some good exercise, regardless of what you are eatingÖ the endorphins increase a sense of well-being. That will help relieve your stress and then maybe decrease your eating.
You have quite a laundry list of stressors. Break them into things you can do something about and things you can't. Pick just one thing to work on - maybe an easier one. I would guess, it is easier to paint the other half of the fence than get out of debt. Getting some easier things done will help your mood. Then break your big problems down into smaller achievable milestones - reduce debt to $19,500 by paying $X extra on the bill and not eating out for lunch (as an example).
Good luck and keep us posted.

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B-LYNN1ST 6/15/2014 1:28AM

Youíre gaining weight because you canít shut off compassion for others. Itís normal; I canít shut off compassion either, especially when itís my parents, my kids, and my siblings.

When the heart goes out with concerns, the mouth opens wide emoticon Ėitís a normal reflex we all deal with. When Iím stressed I eat, when Iím worrying about someone I deeply love I eat, when Iím worrying about the management of my household I eat, when I donít hear a peepÖI eat! emoticon It will all come together soon and youíll get back to you. Just take care of you as well as your family concerns, but donít leave you out in the midst of all their personal issues and life concerns. It will work itself out, but donít you dare lose you while things work out. emoticon FIGHT BACK! emoticon
You've come to far to go back to this... emoticon

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GOLFINMOMMA 6/15/2014 1:22AM

    You just listed all the reasons. Now put yourself first and take care of yourself. You will not be able to deal with all of this if you do not take care of yourself. emoticon

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It's a Celebration

Sunday, January 05, 2014

Everyone had a turn mentioning their New Year resolutions when a timid, overweight, young person proudly said, " This year my goal is to lose 50 pounds, and when I do, I'm going to go to places I've never been before, like, The Golden Corral, and Old Country Buffet. Woo Hoo!" emoticon

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VW_STEPH 1/6/2014 6:58AM

    LOL :P

Happy New Year! Hope 2014 is amazing for you!
Thank you for stopping by my page!

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Warning: this joke stinks

Monday, December 16, 2013

After the little fly farted the big fly said.. "Gross! Smells like poop! What did you eat?! " emoticon

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YMWONG22 12/16/2013 11:46PM

  This is a case of the pot calling the kettle black! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GINA180847 12/16/2013 11:06PM

    Good one!

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