Sunday, January 27, 2013
There are times, when I'm laying in bed, or just sort of daydreaming, that I wonder what it would be like to be at the end of my weight loss journey instead of at the beginning. What would it feel like? What would I be doing? And so I thought I would write about a few of those things I could see myself doing.
First I think I would have more confidence in myself. I could walk in to any store and try on clothes. I could go into any activity or party, and feel like I was my best. I wouldn't feel like I had to hide on the sidelines or hope no one noticed me.
Second I could participate in any activity I wanted to. I could ride my bike wherever I wanted to go, play tag with my son, go hiking on all the different trails in my area, be a part of the church basketball teams, or even run a 5 K. Nothing would hold me back.
Third - I would never have to feel embarrassed by being out of breath after climbing the stairs or going for a walk.
Fourth - I would have more energy, which means more of the projects around my house would get done, because I wouldn't have to sit and rest between things I need to do.
Fifth - If I decided to go back to work when my son is in 1st grade, I would feel comfortable in a job interview, because I wouldn't feel like someone is judging me because of my weight.
Sixth - I would feel less stress and anxiety, because the exercise would help me deal with those emotions and struggles a lot better.
Seventh - I would feel happy, because I actually stuck to my goals and accomplished them, proving to myself I can do anything I put my mind to.
Eighth - My relationships would be stronger, because I wouldn't be worried about my weight getting in the way, or crying over how I just couldn't lose weight. And instead my focus can be on the other person.
Ninth - I would be able to give more service to other people, because I would have the strength and energy to help others, and I wouldn't be caught up in Self - Pity for myself and my situation.
Tenth - I will have made healthy living an everyday part of my life, so I won't ever have to go back to being the fat girl, but instead, I will have the healthy habits that will make me healthy. And in so doing will help my family be healthy as well.
Those are just ten things I see for myself at the end of this journey. I know the feeling of accomplishment and happiness is probably even more than I can imagine, and what I will be able to accomplish will be more than I can imagine. So I can't wait to get there and experience it.
I admit that even in the last couple of weeks, I have started to feel just a hint of some of those things, and I really like the taste and feel of it. So here is to becoming the future me!
Friday, January 25, 2013
I have always had an easy time forgiving other people who have hurt me. I may feel pain for a short time, but I let it go. And by the next time I see them, I treat them as though nothing ever happened. I guess I don't like to hold on to those negative feelings towards others.
However, when it comes to myself, I hold on to mistakes for a long time. I feel the guilt, and the negative thinking tells me how awful I am. I obsess over the issue. And so when I saw the challenge of forgiving ourselves for something from our past, I started thinking about what I needed to forgive myself for, and it was interesting the thoughts that came to my mind.
When I was a Preteen, or maybe my early teens, I was going through those fun body changes, and so parts of me were becoming a bit chubby in places, but may have eventually evened themselves out. I was shy and didn't really hang out much after school with friends. I mostly came home to homework and T.V. My brothers and sisters were all out of the house by then, so I felt a lot like an only child. But since I was the youngest, I became daddy's little girl, and so I could convince him to do just about anything. He loved to buy me candy bars and slurpees and it wasn't hard to convince him to order pizza, or fast food. And so food became my friend. I looked forward to us ordering pizza, or going to McDonalds. But as I was starting to develop that habit I remember my mom telling me that if I kept eating that way, I would gain a lot of weight. And that one day I would regret gaining weight, like when I started dating, or was an adult. And I said to her (I don't remember the exact words) something like "I don't care if I'm fat. I would rather be fat, than have to give up the foods that I like". Of course I was hitting those teenage years, and so I wasn't exactly wise. But the sad thing is, I feel like that was a defining moment for me. Because I could have chosen to change my eating, especially since we had a garden and healthy foods were around me. But I didn't. I kept on my course of eating huge meals, a lot of fast food, and not a lot of freggies.
Now I bring up this moment, because although I haven't thought about it for a long time, I realized that subconsciously that statement I made that day, has continued on. Nearly every time I am faced with eating challenges, I find myself using a version of those words. I find myself saying things like...."It isn't fair that eveyone else can eat it, so I will eat it too." or "It isn't worth the sacrifice, it is just easier to stay fat." It is sad, but subconsciously I think I have let those words define my life.
And so it is time to let go of the past. It is time to stop letting my past define me any more. I don't want to dwell on my regrets and bad choices when it comes to my health anymore. And so today I say. I forgive myself. I forgive myself for ever thinking that way. I forgive myself for the statement I made. I forgive myself for the choices I made because of that thinking. I'm not going to hate myself anymore. And I'm not going to let that statement define me any more. Today I change that statement from "I'd rather be fat, than give up my favorite foods." to "I'D RATHER BE HEALTHY THAN LET FOOD CONTROL MY LIFE" I am becoming a new me, and I'm breaking the chains of my past!
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
I struggle so much with an anxiety disorder, that really seems to attract negative thinking about myself. I let myself wander into the "What if's" about everything. And I often come to conclusions that are way over the top, that cause me to worry when it isn't worth worrying about. I spend a lot of time, thinking I know what someone else is thinking of me. And it causes me to think the worst about myself. I spend a lot of time, thinking I will never be what I want to be, because I'm not worth it.
It is time for me to kick that thinking to the side. It is time to change the thinking to something more positive. It is time to learn to calm the anxiety's and see life for what it is, not my weird negative perceptions. The journey of losing weight isn't just about the exercise and eating for me, it is also a mental and emotional journey. It is about small victories every day and so I hope many of my upcoming blogs will be about my small victories!
Today's Victory - I woke up late, because I slept through my alarm. I started to wonder if I had time to get my exercise in before getting my son up for school. But I didn't want to miss out on my exercise, because I knew if I waited it probably wouldn't get done, because I was going to have a busy afternoon. I finally put my workout clothes on, but a bunch of little stupid things happened that kept slowing me down even more, until I just felt frustrated. I decided on a 30 minute Tae bo video that I have. After the first 3 minutes, I started having excuses come into my mind, like "you don't have time for this, or you are to tired today." Then I started feeling "Why do I keep starting challenges I never finish," and "Why am I even trying". I almost turned off the workout, because I had those same anxiety driven feelings that I always have. But then I found another voice. And it said "Don't quit on yourself", "You can do this", "Just take it one step at a time". And so I let that voice speak louder than the negative one. I clung onto it, and soon I found myself at the end of my 30 minutes. I would like to say I immediately felt better, but I found myself frustrated by what time it was, and wondered if I could keep my exercise going every day. But then I realized my victory in getting my workout in today. So I wanted to take a moment and celebrate that today I found the strength to exercise, to overcome negative thinking long enough to get my workout in.
I know I have many days ahead, and it may not be easy, but one day at a time, I will figure this out. I will declare victory! I don't want to give up on myself this time. So here is to many more victories ahead.
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
So it is the night before a new BLC challenge. I'm both excited and nervous.
I'm excited because it means new friends, new challenges, a lot of support on my journey and new expectations. I'm excited because in my mind I can see myself succeeding and being 12 pounds less on the scale, and making progress towards my ultimate goal.
However, I'm nervous because I have been here before. I have started new challenges before, with great excitement and determination only to pretty much give up a few weeks in. I let distractions, excuses, negative thinking, and loss of focus, cause me to stop trying. And I wonder if that is always meant to be my doom. I hope not.
So I try to push away all my doubts, fears, excuses and negative thinking away. Because this time I want to succeed.
I started this year with a few small goals of getting in my water, tracking my food and getting in 120 minutes of exercise a week. As for my water, last week I suceeded 5 out of 7 days, so there is still room for improvement, but at least I didn't give up. I did exercise 5 out of 7 days, at least trying to fit in some sort of exercise, meeting my 120 goal in fact I think I beat it, since I found myself capable of doing 30 minute workouts. And as for tracking. Well I didn't track every day, but I tracked enough to see how bad my calorie intake was. So now I have begun to make changes. I said this was a journey and a process that I wanted to keep moving forward on, so with a new challenge starting tomorrow, I want to update my goals now after 2 weeks to reflect I'm making progress.
1 - Get 150 minutes of exercise each week!
2 - Drink 8 cups of water every day!
3 - Continue to track my food but now aim to stay in calorie range 4/7 days each week (that will increase as I adjust)
4 - Get 5 servings of fruits and veggies each day.
I'm sure in a week or two I'll adjust them again, because that is what progress is. Progress for me is continuing to take steps forward for greater improvement! Yay for a new BLC!
And Yay for my Stop team, for helping me add in new healthy habits a little at a time!
This time I will be successful!
Tuesday, January 01, 2013
I was struggling with my emotional thinking, stresses and excuses so much that I decided to take a break for a few months from my journey to work more on my emotional health. I knew I could never succeed at the weight loss until I did so. The break did relieve some of the pressure and stress I put on myself, but I admit I also gained weight, because I wasn't being accountable.
But now it is a new year, a chance to renew commitments, set new goals, and make new plans. So I'm back and ready to work! I know I still have many lessons to learn about myself, my thinking and endurance. I know that it isn't going to all change at once, that it will take time and patience. I also know sometimes I will have to forgive myself, because I won't be perfect. But no journey is ever perfect, if it was would the end result feel so rewarding? I believe the struggles I overcome on this journey will teach me about overcoming other obstacles in my life. So now I just have to remind myself I'm strong enough to take this journey. One step at a time, one day at a time, one goal at a time.
So for this first week of January here are a few small goals:
Get 120 minutes of exercise this week!
Drink 8 cups of water per day this week!
Track my food every this week!
That will be my starting point, because every journey starts somewhere! Then I'll add in more fitness minutes as I go. I'll work on getting my eating into range as I go, and I'll work on other habits as I go. I will write in a journal/blog, to keep track of my progress. And by the end of 2013, I will be a New Me!
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