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Summer is almost over

Friday, August 08, 2014

I can't believe the school year starts next week already. Back in my day, school didn't start back until after Labor Day. My oldest is not excited at all. She turned 13 this summer and has hit "teenager" faze hard.
My youngest is starting middle school at a new school so I think he's a little more excited. He'll be leaving the house in the morning on his own and riding a school bus for the first time. I'm really nervous for him. He has been going to a very small private school for the last 6 years so this is going to be a huge change for him.

Looking back at summer, I wish I would have planned things better. We didn't get to do nearly enough "fun" stuff like we have in previous summers. It seems like it just went by so fast. We did get to the lake a few times and to a water park a few times but that's about it. Maybe next year we can actually go on a vacation. Need to start planning.....

I did manage to stay on track with my exercise and eating for the most part this summer. Haven't really lost much weight but haven't gained either so I guess thats good. My drinking has not been the best either but this last week we have been really busy everyday with volleyball practice and getting ready for school that I haven't had a drink since Sunday. If I can stay busy until 7pm then any urge passes and I'm good for the night. It's those day's that I have nothing planned in the afternoon that get me. Weekends tend to get me too....

Well summer, you will be missed at our house. Especially by my 13 yr old daughter.......


Long track meets

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Let me start out by saying I love that my kids are active. There are so many kids these days that just sit in front of the tv all day or their video games and never exercise. Lots of them shoving in junk food while they do it. While my kids do the same occasionally, it's not a daily thing. My DD plays volleyball and does track. DS plays basketball and does track. School starts and volleyball season turns into basketball season which turns into track. We have some sort of practice all thru the school year.

Well, last night was our first track meet of the season. Having done track meets for the past 3 years I should be used to them by now. We had to be there at 5 and my kids last run was at 9:30. 4 1/2 hrs!!! There were still several more races after we left. I bet some kids were there until at least 10:30.

Now to me that seems really late but there really isn't much they can do to make them shorter. I hate that they are on a school night but they have tried having them on the weekend but always got poor attendance. They tried starting them earlier but the parents had a hard time getting kids there that early so again many races had poor attendance.

My kids have to get up at 5am every morning and I drop them off at school at 6am so I can be at work by 6:15. Its was a very late night for them considering they are usually in bed by 8:30. We got to bed last night at 10:45.

I have thought many times of taking them out of this sport but they both enjoy it so much. There are only 4 meets a season so really its not that bad. Both kids did really well. They are both very short and only like to run sprints so they don't usually place but they always have a good time and it makes them feel good about themselves. I guess that's all that matters.

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HMBROWN1 4/24/2014 8:10AM

    Sounds like you are super busy! It's great your kids are so active and not just video game players. Have a great day!

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Long lost friendships

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Yesterday when I got home there was a present sitting on my front steps along with a card and an azalea bush from an old friend that I haven't talked to in about a year. We've been friends for 35 yrs and for some reason just stopped talking about this time last year. I'm not sure what happened between us. There was no fight, nothing major that happened between us that would cause us to 'pause' our friendship. I thought about her often and knew we would talk again some time but just didn't have that need to talk to her like I used to.

Looking back at this time last year, I realize I was in a very bad place emotionally and think that was probably the cause of it. All we used to talk about was our problems. She was having financial problems among other things. My marriage was falling apart, I was having a really hard time eating healthy and exercising on top of having a really hard time controlling my drinking. She knows me so well and I think I didn't want her seeing that I had totally lost control of my life and was so unhappy with it. I was always the one she turned to for help.

Now I can't believe how much has changed. My marriage is better now than it has ever been, I'm loving my new clean healthy lifestyle and am starting to exercise on a schedule again so I feel great again. My drinking isn't perfect but I can control it now and have lost the urge I guess to 'drowned my sorrows'. I feel like I am in control again.

Anyway, after I got settled in for the evening, I gave her a call to thank her. We started talking again and it felt like no time had passed. We talked mostly about my dad passing and my siblings, she was once very close to my family. I think we will keep in touch like we used to. I am so happy with my life now and I think she is in a better place too.

I guess sometimes we need to step back from some friendships for just awhile to find ourself again. I needed to work on my life instead of just bitching about it. I know I am a different person now and she probably is too.

I hope we stay in touch and get to know each other again.

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MELISSIMAUS 4/23/2014 4:33PM

    I loved reading this story! And I'm so glad you and your friend reconnected. I've had similar experiences with several friends, and it's such a good feeling when someone you'd lost touch with comes back into your life. Glad you're in a better place personally, too.

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Starting a new journey

Monday, April 07, 2014

Throughout life we start many new journeys such as graduation, married life, having children, starting a healthy lifestyle. I've started all of these journeys at some point in my life. A new journey I started 2 weeks ago is living the rest of my life without my parents. My mother died 5 years ago and now my father died 2 weeks ago. It is a very odd, scary feeling not having any parents. I know many people live their whole lives either without parents or they may just not be close to them. I was very close to both of my parents. Even though I moved out at 18 and have been very independent my whole life, I still looked to them for advice and companionship. We spent alot of time together, whether it be on vacations or just hanging out on weekends. They were always a phone call away with any questions about cooking or plants or basically anything.

Now, I've blogged before about my marriage problems and actually things are still really good between us. While my dad was sick, my DH was there for me and is there for me now. I feel like we finally have a good marriage and have come to realize in the last couple of weeks that our little family is my only family now. I have brothers and a sister but they have their own lives now too. Birthdays, holidays, vacations will just be my little family now.

My new journey is coinciding with my new clean lifestyle journey. I think that is very fitting. I feel a sense of responsibility now to my children to be as healthy as I can be and live as long as I can. I don't want them to lose me when they are only 40.

Along with eating mostly clean and using mostly clean products, I am going to continue to exercise at least 4 times a week, hopefully 5. I am going to sleep at least 7 hrs a night and do yoga/meditate at least twice a week. These are all things that I already do most of the time.
Along with those things, I'm going to either be completely AF or mostly AF. This is going to be very hard for me but with so many bad things coming at us in every direction, drinking causes damage to our bodies that can be completely avoided. This is going to be my number 1 goal. I am also going to make Dr. appts that I have been avoiding. I need to have a complete physical, a mammogram, and a dermatologist checkup.

I am making a vow to take care of myself not only for me but for my family.

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BAMAJAM2 4/9/2014 1:48PM

  I am so sorry about the loss of your dad. Cherish the special memories of him, and keep the bonds of your "little family" strong. God grant you His peace.

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GIRANIMAL 4/7/2014 4:44PM

    I'm so sorry about the loss of your father. emoticon

Sadly, I can relate to essentially being orphaned, and it IS a weird feeling. Both my biological father and step father are long estranged (and possibly dead) and I lost my mom a little over 8 years ago, when I was 28. We were very, very close. Except for an also-now-estranged stepsister, I'm an only child. I am married and I do have my MIL and two brothers-in-law, but of course it's not the same.

I am sooooo fortunate though to have two of her very close friends (so family friends, really) without whom I don't know who I would have made it through her death, so I sometimes call on them when things are really tough, I just need a "mom" ear, etc. But I must agree, sometimes it IS very scary. I often forget that "normal" people have that safety net in life, and then there are other times when I am painfully aware of it/my lack of it -- and sometimes, in my super Judgey McJudgerson moments, even angry at how much so many of them seem to take it for granted!

But I love how you're looking at your clean lifestyle as a related emergence of sorts. Such a positive approach! Your folks would be proud. emoticon

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CAPECODBABE 4/7/2014 11:07AM

    I'm so sorry about your dad. I know what you mean, now you are the grown up.

I'm glad things are going better with your marriage and congrats on your healthy eating and lifestyle.
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Clean Lifestyle

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

So, I wrote last week about DH trying to lose weight and get healthier and how I just wasn't motivated at the moment. Well, finally I feel motivated!! We did alot of talking about our lifestyle and I don't know how or why but something has clicked in him. I have slowly been trying to get the family to eat "clean" and up until now it was just me. Now he's all in!

I've read blog after blog about what chemicals are doing to people and how we can become healthier by eliminating as many chemicals as possible. It's not just in our food but in everything we use. It's really quite overwhelming if you think too much about it. But we've come up with a plan to do little things here and there to eventually get us on the right track to a clean lifestyle.

First thing we are trying to do and I have been trying to do for awhile is to eat clean. To me this means buying organic veggies and fruits, diary, eggs, and meat. So far doing pretty good with everything except the meat. Organic meat is soooo expensive. Will definitely have to learn to budget for that. Also we are trying to stop eating canned goods. That is really hard to do but as items are being used up in the pantry I'm replacing with either jars, frozen, or fresh. Packaged foods are actually a little easier for us to stop using. I've started making things that I used to buy in a package homemade, like mac n cheese and noodles/rice.

Things I will work on the next couple of weeks for our clean eating-
Buying organic meats
Make homemade seasoning packets and dressing
Replace kids "snacks" with clean alternatives
Replace kids high sugar drinks with something they will actually like

I will work on these things a little at a time. Other area's I want to work on are-

Cleaning supplies
Detergent/fabric softeners
Air fresheners
Paper products
Food containers
Hygiene products

Like I said, it's a little overwhelming if you try to make all these changes at once. For the most part, my strategy is going to be as the product is used up, I will replace it with something that has less chemicals and is better for us and the environment.

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GIRANIMAL 3/21/2014 4:37PM

    I agree about easing into this - otherwise it can be so overwhelming! I read/saw/heard somewhere recently the idea of not getting neurotic about it, or the stress of that sort of makes your effort moot. That really clicked with me, a perfectionist to my core. emoticon

I have made lots of switches over the years - and yes, a lot of it can be very expensive, but I have found some tricks and resources, so let me know if you wanna chat!

Are you on Pinterest? I find so many amazing, brilliant ideas on there!

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