Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Last week, as I was analyzing my own behavior patterns to see when I tend to crave sugar foods, I realized something was missing from my weekly schedule. I get plenty of exercise daily and make a real effort to eat correctly. It wasn't until I started to look at the big picture that I noticed that I often get out of the habit of doing something special just for me. I know, I know - exercise and healthy eating are doing something for me but they are now daily habits. What I am talking about is identifying something that makes me feel good like getting a massage, manicure or pedicure or treating myself to a new piece of clothing. Perhaps there is a connection between eating to comfort and a lack of feeling special.
I decided that if I depend upon someone else to make me feel special, I am not in the driver's seat and could incur a feeling of hurt when my needs aren't met to my satisfaction. Why then should I put myself in that position??? I mean other than the fact that I was raised to do it and have practiced that behavior much of my adult life. Taking responsibility for meeting your own needs - taking back the power, if you will - puts you in command of your own life. If someone else decides to make an effort to make you feel special, that is just icing on the cake.
Keeping all of this in mind; mulling it around in my head, made me decide that I want to take the bull by the horns and take care of my own needs. Last week I treated myself to a pedicure and this week I bought a couple of shirts to update my summer wardrobe. I now have an agreement with myself that I'll try to do this at least every other week. I'm feeling pretty good today as a result.