Thursday, September 15, 2011
I've always said that happiness can be a decision. When you get up in the morning you can say to yourself, today I'm going to have a good day and be happy. I will not give in to boredom, pain, fear, anxiety or anger. I will count the blessings that I have been given and be thankful. If I feel overwhelmed and overburdened by life's situations I can do the best I can, ask for the help of those around me and turn the rest over to God.
This is not to say that I never feel pain, fear, anxiety or anger because I do feel all of them. I try not to let them consume me. I don't want to allow pain, fear, anxiety or anger to turn me into a bitter person or to drown in those feelings. I would rather focus on my blessings and choose to be happy.
As a happy person I tend to like myself better and want to interact with others. That feeling of inner joy gives me more energy and I want to move around more. This makes exercising easier. In turn, the endorphins I get from exercise reinforces my happy feeling and makes me feel even better about myself. When I'm happy I do less anxiety eating and more eating with purpose. I am more apt to set up a plan and stick to it. I'm not focused on punishing myself or someone else by binging or starving myself. When I'm happy, I treat myself gently, as I would a beloved friend. This is the way I should always treat myself regardless of whether or not I'm happy.
This all sounds so simple. Right? So why doesn't everyone just wake up and decide to be happy? It's just mind over matter and it just takes practice? Except that we all come with our own set of personal baggage. You have to start with baby steps. It takes lots and lots of practice. You can't give up on yourself because the results are so worth it. It isn't an easy task and you can't lose your focus. I've been working on this for years and still get tripped up on a regular basis. Now more often than not, I've finally reached a place where I'm happy the majority of the time. The pursuit of happiness; the decision to be a happy person is worth the work it took to get there!