Saturday, March 14, 2009
One of my goals for this week is to put into place boundaries and to do so without getting angry or frustrated with other people. This is not as easy as it sounds however. My whole life I've felt like I have to justify every decision and every emotion that I've felt or made. In the process, I've given up much of my own power to other people. I find that I wait for their approval for my decisions and feelings. What's wrong with this picture? Why do I place myself into situations where I am constantly vulnerable and living on the edge? I need to reassess my wants and needs and how I'd like to deal with certain situations. I need to be cheerful about what I can and can't do, cut out the guilt trips and take a stand from the very beginning when dealing with people who push my limits. I need to do this before I'm backed into a corner and start snarling, for my own sake as well as my overall relationships with others. If people know what to expect because I've communicated clearly, what my limits will be, many stressful situations can be avoided and some of this self created stress will resolve itself. This will help me to take care of myself and offer some degree of self protection. So, for the remainder of the month of March, I will try to set 1+ boundary per day in a very pleasant way, without feeling that I have to explain the reasons why I'm setting the boundary. I will journal my daily results and look for areas that need work and patterns that arise. Since this is a learning experience, it's okay if I mess up as long as I can look at the dynamics of the situations. I'm also going to look at how this affects my eating patterns. Am I eating to medicate myself from stress? I can certainly see how this could possibly hook into emotional and stress related eating as a result.