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Holiday kick-off begins!!!

Saturday, December 13, 2014

With Hanukkah! emoticon emoticon and we are not even Jewish!
Yup...tonight we celebrate Hanukkah with our adopted Jewish grandparents....because 7 years ago, they invited us over and it became a tradition in our family, and as long as they live near us, we will be celebrating with them! It really is nice...all I have to supply is a clean house and they bring the food too....it's actually here in the fridge because it's all pre-made and frozen from one of Bubbie's marathon cooking sessions! Since their grandkids are far away....it really is nice to be a part of something special for them. emoticon

In fact...one year, they couldn't go up north to their family so they celebrated Christmas Eve at my house with my entire family!! emoticon Yup....that's how we roll in this house....the door is always open!!

Tomorrow is my baking day.....the kids requested certain cookies, so that is the plan...their favorites are on top of the list! And since I don't really bake that much....this is a short list! But I really do want to do something nice for the guys at work....so I will be making extra batches of each and making a big plate for them...because that is what you do on the holidays, even though they don't expect it. emoticon

Monday I get to see my besties.....the stars are aligning and that is a gift in and of itself!! To catch up and laugh is something I cherish...no gifts, just us. That makes me smile big emoticon

The rest of the week is wrapping up the semester and closing the office down for a 2 week break...allegedly the plan was to have an office holiday party on the last day....but the plan is fizzling due to lack of interest and low morale... which really gives a bummer to the whole season at work if you ask me. We will see how many people put in money today...last I checked, it was 13 and we needed 30...the jury is still out.

At work this week we had a campus wide staff holiday party....I ate a big lunch, so at 3:00, I was really not in the mood to eat or even try anything, except a coffee and cookie to make it look like I had something. My boss was like "really? you don't want anything?? God you are so good!" Honestly....I could care less about food and buffets and what-not....if I am not hungry, I am less likely to eat stuff....so I eat when I am hungry.

Which brings me to my work holiday party on Friday....if it happens, it is at 7pm...ummmm, I have to eat by 5:30 or you are going to be picking me up off the floor. No joke. My body NEEDs food around 3:00...and then, by 5..it's game on! Where's the food!?!?! Even going out to dinner on Monday...I have to eat something to tide me over! Planning is key here....game plan = happy me.

Christmas Eve and Christmas Morning are my days..and my sister and her family are staying with us...so we have to get shopping lists ready to rock ASAP!!! AND I have to warp presents....some of which are being shipped still!

My goal is to work-out 10 minutes a day...and so far, so good...even if it's just the Holiday workout from here on Spark.... it makes me feel better over all. I can be in my pjs and talking with my family and I just start doing the exercises..and the kids join in! Which really makes me happy :) They are strong (the 8 and 10 year old are stronger than me!) and healthy boys....I am blessed. emoticon

I hope you and yours have a great holiday season with a plan of action attached to it in some way to make it all a little less stressful!!
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DALID414 12/13/2014 9:21PM

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JAROL7 12/13/2014 7:46AM

    Enjoy!

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KANOE10 12/13/2014 7:39AM

    Happy Holidays to you my friend! You have wonderful days ahead with your family and friends. You sound like you are happy and although you are busy, you have everything well planned and under control. I like game plan=happy me! The only way to handle all of these events in a healthy way is to have a game plan. I also eat ahead or take a snack with me for some of these parties.

I am still shopping and wrapping this weekend. I will be traveling over Christmas so I am packing. I have a cocktail party today and have a plan to stay on track.

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Too much of a good thing...

Monday, November 24, 2014

Ahhhh....Kashi.

Depending on the food product chosen from that particular brand, it can be great emoticon or it can be bad emoticon emoticon emoticon
You get my drift.

I've run into this before, so why am I so surprised!?!? Because this was a new product for me...and I was so excited to have a healthy snack bar for work....

So today, I brought my whole sale club's worth of snack bars to work and had one at 10 am.

And everything was fine emoticon

And then I had lunch....a nice sandwich.

And then at 3pm, I was hungry and needed something...so I had a spare snack bar and had that too...and then, an hour later...it hit emoticon

Driving home is when it began emoticon and emoticon and emoticon and emoticon

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I got home and ate dinner because I was hungry, but still felt like crap....until the blueberry girl from Willy Wonka's chocolate factory was popped....that is when I started feeling better emoticon

But still.....it persisted and lingered. Rolling gut. emoticon Crying for relief emoticon My gut...not me per se.

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My favorite go-to feel better food!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Seriously......not one slice was in and I felt my gut change almost immediately. Like something magic is in that pineapple and WHALLAH! emoticon Feel better!!!

It truly is my feel better food!!

Thank GOODNESS!!!!! emoticon

It's still a little roiling, but a completely different processing...not painful, more like, "OK, let's get this healthy crap out of you now...and lay off those for a little bit now... moderation, honey, moderation."

Sometimes....even the "good stuff" can be too much of a good thing...another life lesson learned the hard way!

  
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NUMD97 11/26/2014 8:37AM

    Gotta love those "life lessons". Unfortunately, in my universe, sometimes it takes multiple tries to get it right.

Happy Thanksgiving, Annie, and if you travel, safe trip.

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KANOE10 11/25/2014 6:57AM

    I would not have thought to use pineapple, but it certainly worked. Your point is valid..even if it is healthy too much can cause problems.
I am glad you feel better. I definitely have to watch bars as they go down a little too easily.

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ANNIEONLI 11/25/2014 6:08AM

    Dee...it was the chewy dark chocolate almond with flax and chia seeds. I have 33 of them left in the box!!!! AHHHHHH!!!!
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DALID414 11/24/2014 11:05PM

    Was it the Pumpkin Flax Seed one?
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ANNIEONLI 11/24/2014 8:34PM

    Can't tell that story on Facebook! LMAO
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That's why I love Sparkpeople!!! Gut humor people get it here! We've all been there!
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BEINGERIN 11/24/2014 8:30PM

    Absolutely CLASSIC! emoticon

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The white flag

Saturday, November 15, 2014

I joke about raising a little white flag of surrender when things get too crazy, busy, chaotic.

I even do a little motion with my hands and my fingers raise a teeny tiny imaginary rope to raise the teeny tiny white flag up a teeny tiny flag pole.

Go ahead and admit it - I know if you are reading this you just tried it yourself. emoticon

But that is what I do and I say to people when they seem as stressed out as me... my girlfriend did it the other day - she has her own business and has 4 active kids, she was stretched too far, and the next time I saw her, she told me she raised her white flag! LoL

I think everyone has those times when things just build up, get too crazy and stressful and it projects into otherwise calm or fun things. That is not so good. The older I get, the less I have tolerance for this because I am coming to realize that I just can't anymore.

I just can't have the negative drama of people I don't want to be around...there was a time when I "HAD to" because of a volunteer organization... and since both hubby and I have left as leaders, it's been better. We are still in contact with the stressful being that exists there (there is always one pot stirrer in every group, right?) but it's so far removed, we can tolerate the stupidity better.

Every day, my husband and I plan who is going to be where that day and the next. We consult the fliers and the calendars to see if we miss anything. We coordinate with the kids, and we get people to help if we need it (here is the example of raising the white flag to get stuff done).

Recently....I looked at all of the leaves and I said "Enough" Last year the hubby raked over 50 bags - yes FIFTY bags! of leaves....and that is not fun, and that is a chore, and we are too busy to put 2 whole days aside to do that and not have any fun with people we actually would WANT to see.... so I raised the white flag!! I called our go-to lawn guy I have known for years! He will love the extra money for the holidays! and it will take him an afternoon with a crew instead of us killing ourselves over 2 to 3 days! DONE!

Another flag raised was for a snow blower!!! We have shoveled and broken our backs for the last 8 years... ENOUGH! We got a check from the state as a refund...well it paid for half of our new snowblower!! I have to go pick it up today! emoticon

Raising the Little White Flag has gone off in my head for myself this past week.... I feel like crap because I have been eating like crap on the weekends. No joke, every weekend for as long as I can remember has been a mess! Candy/sugar, coffee, alcohol, beef, cheese = a combo for grossness. I have raised the white flag on these items. Thank goodness the Halloween candy is gone! And I didn't even eat a whole lot of it! Time to start limiting the intake, that's all. After a long day at work, I texted my hubby "I need a salad" and WHALLAH! There it was when I walked in the door! LoL I have cut back on coffee in the morning as well....at least I am making a conscious effort to not make the second cup.

This weekend has nothing on the calendar, except to touch base with my family and pick up a snowblower. I will gladly take a weekend like that.


More fun....less stress.. that is the main goal I think emoticon

I hope if you read this, you get something out of my White Flag practice...and try it for yourself if you haven't done it before! The actual act of raising the imaginary white flag is therapeutic as well! LoL


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DALID414 11/15/2014 8:06PM

    I have a lazy white flag, on a stick. I just wave it back and forth a few times and throw it on the floor. emoticon

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ADARKARA 11/15/2014 4:24PM

    So glad you made those positive decisions to get stuff done! emoticon

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KANOE10 11/15/2014 9:02AM

    Each time you raised the white flag, you acted in a positive manner to improve a situation. That is a good visual tool to say to yourself, "enough is enough. Things are not going well here. I need to do something to change it."
I like that . I am raising the white flag today and like you want to eat more healthfully and lose a few up pounds before Thanksgiving.

That was an insightful blog!

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Once upon a blog...

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

I wrote one last Saturday....then I deleted it.

I wrote another the week before that....and then I deleted it.

I start to wonder why at this point....the whole deleting thing.

The writing thing has a lot to do with change, unsticking oneself so as to see another angle after the words are out there and on the "page"...but my angle has really changed in the last few months for some reason or another.

I find myself in that typical 9 to 5 job...with the myriad of workplace stresses and hassles that everyone has. The story is an ancient one. Throw the mom-guilt on it and living for the weekend and there we have it. But it's not really that way, because I like what I do...but in some ways...it is.

I am really thinking more of the whole fit-everything-in part of life that we, as a family, are going through now. Hubby and I became those ships passing in the night....so I said it, and we went out on a date on Saturday. He heard me...and THAT is a big thing.

The kids....they are great! They said to go out for the hour on our date. They have been staying home more and more alone now, here and there when it's needed and they are older - it's a rite of passage....and as a family, we are doing pretty good at it. Heck, they even went to bed with no one in the house: hubby left them after the quick kiss goodnight, I came home 20 minutes later and there they were...8:25 sound asleep. What kids do that?!?!?! Well...mine do...and I am blessed!

The reconnecting with the family is the hardest part of life right now. That's the focus it seems. Be in the present and not somewhere else. It's hard. Hard to turn off the internet and devices. Hard to say no, I am done working for today. Hard to not feel the mom-guilt when I went on the treadmill on Saturday.

Now that last one - the treadmill one - that one is something that I will have to get over sooner than later. The exercise part helps with the stress parts of life. That makes me a better mom.. so that mom stress-guilt...you can go to hell.

So why aren't I on the treadmill right now when faced with stress from the day that I know will drip into tomorrow? Because blogging helps too and it's 11:30pm....I am in my pjs.

Ahhhh....the good old excuse train coming right at ya! LOL

But lack of sleep (due to stress) is keeping me from resting my brain because then I will think about all of the stress-related scenarios which most likely will not come to anything, just like the last time I stressed out about this, but let's face it we all like to be liked and the part of the stress is that and making sure that I am pleasing everyone I have to, even though I wind up not pleasing myself at all, because god-forbid I be happy because another person is unhappy with the actions that they brought upon themselves and I happen to be the one who finally says something but god-forbid it gets taken the right way and not out of context because writing is crappy and people always skew things the way they want to see it without getting all of the facts in order in the first place.

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That was a run-on sentence like no other.

But it happens all the time.

And so then...I stop writing... and talking... and I. shut. up.

I am seen and not heard.

Just like I was before I blogged.

And that isn't where I want to go back to, now, is it.

So what is the solution: add more moments; add more hugs; add more focus on the minutes of interaction with each person I love and MEAN it...instead of just doing the "yeah, I will get to it" or "yes dear, that's nice". Treat the day like it is...more.

More than just the 9-5. More than just the "hurry up and get ready so I don't get to see you" part of the day. More than just the extracurriculars that keep us going on the hamster wheel of life.

Add more thoughts vocalized to say "you are awesome at what you do"... and to say thank you and please.... and to ask for help instead of taking the world onto your shoulders.

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For me getting the positive usually means looking forward to something FUN...but right now, the something is hard to find depending on the week. This week is Halloween - something going on every day of the weekend. Fun stuff too. Same for the following weekend....and the next. Getting to some things will be hard though...and that kills the fun a little bit because it's just more running around to accommodate. Yeah, fun stuff. Good times.

Don't even get me going about holidays... positive: the kids put requests in for their cookies...the ones THEY like. For that, I love them dearly...that took away some stress already! LOL

I am starting to ramble, but you get my drift.

Anyway...that's about it...I think I might actually go to bed now that it's out.

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DALID414 10/29/2014 10:04PM

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SASSYSACY 10/29/2014 3:13PM

    I always enjoy reading your blogs.

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FORZACHANDMATT 10/29/2014 12:00PM

    I love this and I think your focus is totally in the right place! We are always running busy and don't focus on the little things - good for you!

And we are having the kids stay home a bit more lately too - it is a rite of passage - but I really don't think my kids would put themselves to bed - that's awesome!

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KANOE10 10/29/2014 8:40AM

    It is very hard to have a full time job and to manage time for your family ...and to find time to exercise. I also can feel guilty that I am doing an exercise dvd instead of spending time with my family. I hope you are getting more sleep. I think your idea of focusing on the positive and genuinely making your time with your family count is great!

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MSBEKANATOR 10/29/2014 12:46AM

    What a great blog! I think that is one of the things that is so awesome about blogging, you get to think things through, sound them out, and then once they are posted you become an encouragement to others! Thanks so much for sharing. There is a lot in your blog I needed to read tonight!

Becky

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Moving on

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Yesterday was an emotional day for me....because after a year and a half of closing the office I ran for my father... the office was dismantled for reconfiguration and change.

And change is good.....but at the same time, when I was cleaning up the things that have basically sat for a year, as if time stood still, I found things that brought back memories from my life 2 years ago...and it made me cry.

My dad found me in the bathroom crying...and patted me on the back. My brother did the same. Outside the bathroom I heard my dad say "She put her heart and soul into this place."

And I did.

And that is also probably why both my father and I let it sit for a year...because he did too.

After that little set back of emotions, we all got back to work...I cleaned out more things than I thought I was there for...and there was significant progress towards new and positive change.

"Significant progress towards new and positive change" - that's a good one that just came out. The place is still a shambles, it will be more dirty and busted up in the near future.....and yet, it is still positive because of the long term goal. It's a hot mess but a work in progress.

I will have to remember that one.


  
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DALID414 10/19/2014 2:21PM

    That is a good one!
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KANOE10 10/19/2014 7:45AM

    Thatust have brought back so any good memories of working there. Change can be painful. However, like you say. It is a work in progress to a long te goal. I am sending you a wa hug.

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PICKIE98 10/19/2014 7:20AM

    I know the feeling. I had to clean out my aunt and uncle's home after they died a week apart. These people were like my parents. I lived with them more than my family. I think my tears were used to scrub the kitchen floor. Loss and change are devastating on different levels. Nothing to be explained or ashamed of.. A big hug going to you.
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