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Went to ER as my finger cuts had not stopped bleeding and hour later.. or started again rather when I checked it. Plus one cut was right over finger joint. When you cut around a joint sometimes stitches r needed. This is my left pointer finger.. finger tip and second joint on back of hand. Cut by scissors slipping.. Tried to make a hole in a drink cozy with point of sharp scissors for son to use caribeener with it. Glad I had a tetanus shot recently. Glad he asked for help and it was me, not him. 
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IAMAGEMLOVER
7/16/2012 1:49PM
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A healthier choice would have been frozen dinners and microwave them. That is not a healthy choice really either. With this heat and especially humidity, it is really to hot to eat anything hot. If I want ice cream I buy Skinny Cow and I have it no more than once a week. I can't afford to eat out, so I buy from the supermarket where it is cheaper. If I need to soothe myself, I take a bath or hot shower, read, lay down for 10 minutes, watch a movie or call a friend. I don't want to fall back on the bad habit of soothing with food. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SJKENT1
7/16/2012 11:39AM
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Walking works great for me. Especially by water. Good for you in throwing away the rest of your son's cone. YEAH! I know how hard that can be. Remember that feeling of sickness - it's your body saying "please don't do this to us". I am trying to remember that before I indulge. I like to make excuses about why I indulge. Mine are good ones.. "I deserve it" or "I have had a tough, difficult time". Blah... blah... blah. I do not deserve to be overweight and sick - that's just being mean to me. And the soothing just doesn't last long enough to be worth it. Keep going girl - you are on the right track to staying on the right track. We're pulling for you. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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MAJORLY_SHAY
7/16/2012 10:20AM
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I can relate with not wanting to toss a perfectly good ice cream cone due to money issues. Growing up in a poor home, I think that's where the majority of my food issues lie. As far as healthy self soothers my usual suggestions are: A warm bubbly bath with the laptop either playing music or favorite movie Watching a cartoon you enjoy- just cause you're an adult doesn't mean you can't enjoy cartoons anymore! Get dressed up Read funny jokes Watch tv. Nap Do a favorite hobby: drawing, playing an instrument, etc, etc. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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CHALEY3
7/16/2012 8:25AM
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Things I like: Manicure / Pedicure / Facial / Spa Day Getting my hair done Bubble Bath Sitting or walking near water (river, waterfall etc) Bus really, you want to know the best way to self soothe? A workout!!! Honestly, we both know it's true. A workout makes you feel great, much better than any other self-soothing thing could. Walking, swimming, dancing, hooping.. it doesn't matter what kind of exercise, any exercise is so good for the soul! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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FITTOBE2
7/16/2012 8:02AM
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I enjoy: Relaxing in my lounge chair out on the porch watching the ducks/birds/critters. A walk outdoors enjoying nature. I've recently begun a little Yoga, relaxing! Listening to music - calm Reading. Praying Tend ing to my plants. Calming activities I hope this helps, and I hope your finger heals soon. Have a great day! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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CARMEL_466
7/16/2012 7:49AM
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Looking at some of your videos really soothe me. I love your walks and loving the water. If I had a dime for every time I came over here to watch the scenery in your videos, I'd be rich.. lol I know I have said this a lot of times but... You inspire me!!! 
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SHRINK_U
7/16/2012 6:23AM
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When my husband is out of state working I like to listen to music to self-soothe or read a book. When my husband is in town I ask him to come to bed with me and just hold me or rub my back even if it is during the day when I should be doing housework or something else. Sometimes I ask him to just talk to me. Those little get-a-ways help calm my nerves and re-focus. It doesn't always work for me .. but most of the time it does. So sorry about your finger :( Sometimes it truly does feel like When it Rains, it Pours. 
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LYNNWILK2
7/15/2012 11:30PM
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healthier choices in food for soothing, like a peach (which is juicy and easy to eat, satisfying and filling... also healthy. walking around the block paying attention to the ongoing activities of the neighborhood (you can get to know your neighborhood very well this way). knitting or some other art project like card making or simple doodling. I had been an emotional eater for most of my life, I made an exerted effort to break that habit, where when I am upset I go for food... now if I absolutely need soothing, the best thing I can find to do is to get a hug from a friend ( as I live alone, I often have to go to my friends house to receive the hug)... by then I am already calming down and feeling a bit difference. It is so much worth the effort of moving away from food for comfort but you have to test and figure out what brings you an equal self-soothing payoff.. for me it's time with friends or a friend. or accomplishing something (like cleaning out a closet or preparing a very healthy meal to be eaten later). Good luck on this one, I know it's going to be difficult but YOU CAN DO IT! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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BOGUSANNIE
7/15/2012 11:21PM
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I think self soothers are all individual... my daughter does mediation, with a CD...it's part of her cognitive behaviour therapy. which would help you too I think, when you feel this way. Writing in a journal, how you feel is another great thing to do. I personally don't think it's a good idea to ignore it...I really think self reflection is the best way to tackle it. Payton also has a box that she writes down how she feels about something and rates the feeling on a scale of 1 to 10...she then leaves it for the rest of the week, then she opens it and looks at everything she put in and re-assess it. the other thing, is she is only allowed a certain amount of time to 'worry' or feel sorry for herself....if she isn't in that time period, she has to fake it til she makes it... I think finding something that you to do, that you see as your happy place will help too....find it and use it. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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DEEO12
7/15/2012 11:18PM
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Walking Bathing, Playing on the computer Get hubby to rub those feet  Watering the garden Going through old videos and pics of the kids Take out can make you sluggish. Just know that tomorrow is a new day! 
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NEPTUNE1939
7/15/2012 11:11PM
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Rest and stay away from K.P. duties! Hope all goes well, God bless, Earl
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DIBANANA
7/15/2012 11:11PM
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Putting on headphones with a special piece of music can take you away. You could get a massage but that costs. I quilt or do something on my to do list that is just for me. You need to look inside yourself and ask what would soothe you, Sorry you hurt your fingers. Diana Report Inappropriate Comment |
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JOYINKY
7/15/2012 11:05PM
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Time with a good book A walk on a beautiful day A long shower or soaking bubble bath Working in the garden A nap Getting my hair done Buying myself flowers Making a gratitude list Comment edited on: 7/15/2012 11:06:15 PM Report Inappropriate Comment |
My spark is weak since returning home. Hard to get back to tracking, exercising, and changing my schedule again.. Need a new routine for doing my exercise since I am now on a day shift and different people and things are in my space.. No energy to start working out at 10 pm when I need to get to bed at midnight.
I need a little boost, friends.. Messages on this post or my page or goodies or private messages are all helpful.
I did take a mile walk with my son and dog (well, the first .75 mile with them and then the last bit alone). We're going blueberry picking now (my son and I).
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change of plans, cut finger badly in two places, had first aid, typing one handed, how do i know if stitches are needed?
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AMANDA4YHVH
7/16/2012 11:01AM
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If the bleeding won't stop or it stops but then reopens with little reason later get stitches. As far as getting back on track do you have a smart phone? My huband and I downloaded the diet and calorie tracker by sparkpeople and it has definately kept logging food and excercise on our mind. It also has a calorie differential page that puts your burned and eaten calories together and shows you if you are in the neg. or positive calorie zone (negative being the good place). I read that a little over 3000 cal. is what is in a pound of fat so for each set of days my negative calories add up to more than 3000 I see that as a pound of fat. This is also helpful when the scale is stubborn (which happens to me often due to water retention) so I do not get discouraged.  Comment edited on: 7/16/2012 11:03:36 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SHRINK_U
7/16/2012 6:38AM
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 I know your spark will brighten soon. You are still walking and still on spark people-- you got this!! I am sending good vibes your way::::::::::::::: Thinking of you, Angel. 
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DEEO12
7/15/2012 10:54PM
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If you see any bones stitches are needed or if the cut is very wide/deep. I miss your dancing videos! Is there time for you to do one? I hope you find a way to get back into the swing of things and soon. You are such a wonderful person you deserve to be happy and being active on SP seems to make you happy.
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BOGUSANNIE
7/15/2012 10:05PM
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sending big hugs your way!!!
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CHALEY3
7/15/2012 9:44PM
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Sending support, hugs, and TLC!!
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BROWNCOFIDDLER
7/15/2012 9:29PM
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You've gotten great advice from other Sparkers and I'd agree with them. I can only draw from my own experience and this is it..... Yes, sometimes it's hard, no one said it was going to be easy, but carrying all the extra weight isn't easy either. At the end of the day it's black & white we either do it or we don't. I tell myself to just SUCK IT UP and get the job done. No whining, no excuses, no procrastinating. The change that comes from consistency & perseverance is priceless and you deserve it. Nike says it best ~ Just Do It!!! You'll have a better day tomorrow. Comment edited on: 7/15/2012 9:29:53 PM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SASIKHASI1
7/15/2012 8:30PM
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Get up a little earlier than usual and use that time to work out. If I do not work out in the morning, I miss it all together. By the time I get home from work I am too tired to care. Praying for your finger.
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BLESSEDBEING
7/15/2012 6:17PM
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Hopefully the finger is OK now with bandages and pressure or stitches, if you got them. I think, according to Louise Hay, fingers represent the details of your life. Her affirmation "I am at peace with the details of my life" may be helpful at this time. In terms of reigniting your Spark, of course I recommend babysteps and loving yourself. You are more than your workouts and the numbers you track. Be gentle with yourself as you adjust to the new schedule and other changes. Focus on small attainable goals in terms of eating, exercise, emotional balance, spiritual practice. Don't push yourself too hard, and be kind to all your parts. Wishing you the best! Blessed Be, Amanda
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5KPRINCESS
7/15/2012 6:15PM
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If you want to accomplish it, you will find a way to do it! My sister is the perfect example: she is the only one who works in her family. She takes care of everything that needs to be done, which set her back with her health. Once she decided to make herself top priority everything started changing for the better. She's down 30 lbs, exercises every day, and eats healthy. Does she have support from her DH? Not really, but she does it anyway. When it becomes important to you, you will move heaven and earth to make sure your day is what you want it to be; everything else will fall into place. But no matter what you do, do NOT give up! This is just a temporary set back. I haven't been able to exercise for the past 3 days due to a back injury; I am disappointed and really bummed out, but I am so looking forward to hittin' the gym tomorrow! Stay strong and know that we are here for you!!!! Susie, your Wave Runner Sister Report Inappropriate Comment |
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CANNIE50
7/15/2012 5:29PM
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I think the first thing is to get the rest you need and then take some "baby steps" regarding food and exercise. A walk followed by a nutritious snack, drinking a big glass of water, laying out your exercise clothes including shoes (I keep mine in my bathroom so I see them first thing and it is automatic for me to put them on). Track a few simple things just to get back in the habit of tracking. THe most important thing (in my experience)? Encourage other Sparklers - tell them what has worked for you and you will, in the process, remind yourself that you have the knowledge and the willingness will follow. Take care!
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REACHING4HOME
7/15/2012 5:08PM
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READ A BLOG BY "INDYGIRL" ON PERSONAL QUESTIONS. IT WILL REALLY INSPIRE YOU. THEN GO TO HER PAGE AND FIND OUT SOME OF THE THINGS SHE HAS TRIED. SHE HAS HAD AMAZING SUCCESS AND THERE IS LITTLE THAT SHE HASN'T FACED. IT COULD HELP. ERIN Report Inappropriate Comment |
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ROMANTILLY
7/15/2012 4:20PM
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You would only need stitches if the 2 edges don't come together and it doesn't stop bleeding. That is the first criteria the MD's will look for. Good luck with the rest.
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NPA4LOSS
7/15/2012 4:06PM
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and soon the Spark will take over again. I am getting up 2 hours early  to try and get my exercise in because I am so exhausted by the time I get home. 
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CAPECODBABE
7/15/2012 3:35PM
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It's okay to reach out for support from all the sparklers that you motivate everyday! Tape up that hand and go pick some yummy blueberries!!! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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ERLYWA
7/15/2012 3:14PM
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Sorry you are struggling! Believe me, I know how it feels to lose some of your Spark and want it back so badly but being unsure how to get it back. I agree with your other friends who say to go small with your goals and build back up again. It won't take long to get that spark back as long as you're doing something towards your goals. You are a SUPER motivational/inspirational sparker here...so maybe try to think of what you would say to another Sparkfriend that was struggling, then use that advice on yourself. I know you'll pull through this slump; you are too strong not to! :) Report Inappropriate Comment |
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JLJOYNT
7/15/2012 3:04PM
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I am just completing my first week back on SP and am starting to remember how good I felt when I was on here before. I am just taking things one day at a time and making small changes. This past week I concentrated on heating healthy and keeping portions under control. This week I will add in working out daily and get my water in everyday. Just remember that you are worth it and that you can do it. Keep your head up and keep smiling.
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FITANDFIFTY2
7/15/2012 2:51PM
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Just take each day, one at a time, set your goal for that day,, and realize you can do it, if just for that one day (I had to start one hour at a time).. and you will find it does get easier!! We are there for you and each other!! Hugs to you, Spark Friend!
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GAKCARTER
7/15/2012 2:41PM
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You're at least doing something instead of sitting around and that's a big plus! You finger on the other hand if it looks really bad have it check! Take care and have a great week! Kelly
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MESAMA
7/15/2012 2:40PM
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If you can't get it to stop bleeding after about 10 minutes of constant pressure then I would inquire with a doctor or nurse... Hope it stops! As for motivation... Maybe get to bed earlier and get up in the morning and do your work outs? You have come so far and are so strong. You CAN do this and you CAN keep going! YOU ARE AMAZING! Chin up dear... You got this.
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THEATH1
7/15/2012 2:33PM
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I usually take some time to think about how good I will feel to meet my goals. Set some smaller goals or steps toward your goal and enjoy meeting them. Success begats success. It's addicting! Best of Luck Report Inappropriate Comment |
just keep trying to find a place to fit workouts in 
