Wednesday, March 21, 2012
An Update all about me and then talk about motivation - about mine and questions for you to think about.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
I am just so so tired now. So very tired!
To summarize it - I have been taking care of my best friend's kids, Ronnie, age 6, and Ruby, age almost 3 (next month) in addition to my own very active boy, Nicholas, age 5, since last Friday afternoon. It was a last minute emergency request when my friend, Daisy, asked me to help because her mother was being sent home to die and she was going to be sitting vigil.
I just wish she'd asked me sooner, not last minute. Also, I had only seen Daisy once for a few minutes since last Winter and Spring when we were much closer. So I felt a bit taken advantage of, but I knew she needed help. Her other childcare helpers were all family so she really needed me. I could not abandon her, though I've felt lately like we've really grown apart. I also really care for her mother and didn't want HER to be alone.
I did take the kids and I did my best feeding them regular healthy meals with my limited supply and more limited income. My son loved the company, but he is pushy and bossy and sometimes hard to get along with. My son is overly sociable and hers is very private and needs a lot of alone time he wasn't getting. Her daughter is at the age of defiance and demanding autonomy she's not quite ready to handle. And she's having a growth spurt. Yesterday this 2.9 year old ate a whole bunch of bananas. Today she ate four yogurts, including two of my Chobani yogurts that should have been off-limits. My husband stopped her when she got the third one of those out of the fridge. Phew! Wish he'd stopped her sooner, like at the first one and said, "No, please have a banana instead." I was out at a class. Today my son got very aggressive and defiant. I had to get after him over and over and over. He was very overtired.. going to bed late, fighting off a cold, and getting up at 6 AM every day.
I was just losing my mind from having this many kids and their interpersonal struggles for so many days. Sally (Daisy's mom) passed away Monday morning. But poor Daisy had not slept since Thursday night AND they had no funeral arrangements or burial arrangements set, so she needed to do that. I agreed to take them til Tuesday afternoon. But I was clear I needed to go to Animaterra on Tuesday night. That's my singing group. My husband asked to borrow $5 and I was short $5 for the sitter, so he said if he could borrow my $5 , he'd bring me back $10 so I'd have enough for the sitter ($20). But then today came and he didn't have any money for me and said he'd overdraw his account with an important check he has to write if he got out any more cash. Sooo.. I canceled the sitter. In the end, Daisy stayed here with her kids to babysit my son so I could go out. That helped a lot. Needed the time out.
I didn't get all my sparkpoints today. Alas.. another day. Too tired now. I did not go over my calorie range, though.. so that's a WOOHOO! I was so upset I was in danger of emotional eating to try to cope. I felt like that was the only thing I could CONTROL.. but why would I feel I should control it by overeating or choosing unhealthy options? I don't know. I guess it's a habit I need to break. I did pretty well. We had a pizza, but a thin brick-oven style shared with five people. I had five small pieces which was not too bad on the calories. I was low on fiber and low on fruits/veggies.. I had 3 or 4 servings today.
I thought I was going to lose my mind - without any outlet to recharge at all?! And especially my regular night out being canceled due to money issues?! So.. I was very glad to get out and see some other adults.. and sing to recharge my soul. Now to go recharge my body with some rest. That will help, too. No extra kids in the morning, just mine waking me up cuz he's bored and doesn't want to be alone. Or NOT waking me up cuz he's sucking down all the whipped cream I get to make the greek yogurts much more enjoyable. OH, and they ate all the granola bars and all the kid's yogurt that should have gone two more days.. so no idea what he'll get into for food before I get up. I have to try hard to get up with him and get him a decent meal. Oh yeah, and it's school picture day and parents can go in early for a photo shoot with their child, so we'll do that. I have no idea what to wear. A smile, I guess. You're never fully dressed without a smile. :)
Saturday, March 17, 2012
At the moment, I have all three kids sleeping in my son's room and all three are quiet! My DH and I will be able to both sleep in the same bed tonight. - WOOHOO!
I managed to calm a hysterical 2 yr old (who woke up half hour after everyone was asleep) and I finally figured out she needed her wet diaper changed. Go me. Oh yeah, and I was still able to put a new diaper on a standing toddler. Still got that skill. LOL! WOOHOO!
I took a walk with all three kids and my dog today- WOOHOO!
I said in my very short vlog that this was a record.. well, it is for ME! I'm sure many people do this, but I only have one child so it was new to me. I got my one mile walk in and I think they had fun. We met up with another family with two little kids.. a 4 and 6 year old, down at the end of the road in the middle of the cul-de-sac. Well, they live off of that and their dog ran up to play with my dog, so then the dad came to get the dog and the kids came to play. I did Rock Push-ups on the huge boulder (just like wall push-ups). So - GO ME again! - WOOHOO!
I hooped for about 15 minutes outside with kids playing around me. Also vlogged when they were outside. This was all good. - WOOHOO!
I managed to feed the kids well all day long AND myself, too. - WOOHOO!
None of the kids sustained any major injury today. - WOOHOO!
I got a nap and a shower today and then was able to handle the kids by myself when my husband decided he had some work he had to do in the office (self-employment type stuff he should have already done, but had to do right now. Great timing, right?) But the point is that I did it. He helped watch them for 2 hrs and it totally wiped him out. I feel accomplished to have taken very good care of these kids and be able to help their mom.. It was/is a challenge, but I'm doing it. - So.. WOOHOO!
Edited to add: I just completed a full one hour dance party.. dancing to good dance music on Pandora, playing on my Roku player. I enjoyed this and felt very grounded to my body and spiritually connected as well. - WOOHOO! The only problem with doing it this late.. ending about 11:45, is that it takes me about an hour to come down enough to get to bed after that. Well, at least I got it in. :)
What do you have to say WOOHOO about today? I would love to hear it! :)
Saturday, March 17, 2012
A quick visual update of my day with three kids.
This is pretty short and sweet.. I said that taking a walk with three kids and my dog is some kind of a record.. Well, yes, but it's only a record to me, of course. It was a challenge I overcame because I really wanted to take a walk to get in some exercise. So that's a Woohoo!
Friday, March 16, 2012
So I have had a very challenging day..
not so much because of food, though I'm CRAVING chocolate right now..
but because I had a very fussy boy who has a bad cold and some errands to get done.... and just when I was about to get started I got a call from my best friend, Daisy's fiance' asking if I can take her kids because her mother isn't doing well. I needed a couple hours to get my errands done, thought she had found someone else, but then she still needed me to take them. At first I thought it was for a couple hours, but turned out Daisy is sitting vigil for her mom. Her mom is expected to die soon, though when is anyone's guess. She has advanced terminal cancer and is refusing to eat.
SO, I have her kids, a six year old boy who was my son's best friend last year when they were in the same class, but he moved up to kindergarten and we don't see them much any more, and a two - almost three year old little girl who is trying to state her independence.. very challenging. Their Mom, Daisy, became my best friend last year.. but really I have not seen her since last Spring. I saw her once when she dropped off her kids in the summer, but we haven't gotten together at all. I really miss her, but don't feel much like a valued friend. Still, I couldn't abandon her now.
Bedtime was very hard. I had her two kids on the bottom of my son's bunk (double bed size) and my son on the top (single bed size). None of them would settle down, mostly my boy.. So I had to eventually move him to my bed. Not sure where my husband will sleep, but he comes in about 2 to 3 am anyhow. My son went to sleep at 9:30 and the others finally fell asleep about 9:45, only about an hour after I started putting them to bed. Ugh!!! (Oh, and the treat box with the only chocolate in the house is in my bedroom where my son is sleeping. And I have seen him wake up from sleep when he hears me opening the lock and the hinges from the other room! So no chocolate for me tonight.)
So I never got to do any cardio today. I was going to do a dance party this afternoon or evening, but then I had the kids come and was busy prepping dinner and they were playing out here. Now I have my son in my room right next to the living room and I don't know if I can put music on or if it will wake him. I think he's a deep sleeper, but maybe not. I did put on some meditative music to help me calm down and help him go to sleep.. but that was like an hour ago. Try it now? I'm not sure. Perhaps I just need to be happy they are all sleeping and try for cardio tomorrow.
Oh, and I had my orthopedic appointment about my knee and need to go to physical therapy and get an anti-inflammatory medication. The doctor thought it would cost about $5-10, but it was $130 at the least expensive store. I can use a lot of ibuprofen for the same effect, apparently. I'll talk to the doctor about it Monday. If this doesn't work, they'll do an MRI and go from there. This injury happened last year on black ice at my son's school. I did paperwork at the time, but I didn't see a doctor until now as it has gotten unbearable and recently started popping out of alignment while walking, causing excruciating pain. He did not say I should limit my walking or other exercise, except if it hurts. He didn't think I should risk doing the 2 mile walk in two weeks or the 5K walk in three weeks.. but I think there are usually helpers on a race route that could get you a ride if needed. Still, I haven't registered and will wait til race day or just about, paying the premium because I won't know til then if I'm up to it.
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