Wednesday, January 01, 2014
An author I follow on Facebook, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, recommended this week that her readers pick one word as a kind of theme or grounding point for the New Year. She also advised that it not be one of the "big" words like love, peace, or hope. She suggested we pick a "little" word, one that is perhaps more personal or more concrete. In that word, she says, is contained all the big words, anyway.
What's your word for the year?
I keep changing my mind about mine. Sometimes I think it is "release," and sometimes I think I'll pick "boundaries." Of course, they're two sides of the same coin, so maybe it doesn't matter. But for now, I'm going with "release." I'm releasing attachments that don't serve me, whether they're relationships, things, or behavior patterns. I'm releasing harsh judgment and other habits of thinking that keep me from being the loving and strong person I want to be. I'm releasing the effort to control stuff that's not mine to control. See, that's where the boundaries come in!
I wish you all the best in 2014. Happy New Year!
Saturday, December 28, 2013
For many, there's an emotional and energetic slump as we head into the New Year. Now is the time to get busy -- not with busy work, but with awesomeness. Take a few minutes to focus on what makes your body feel awesome. Is it a walk in the winter air? A yoga class? A swim at your health club? Some winter sport activity?
For me, I don't feel more awesome when I indulge in the "I deserve to eat this chocolate," or "I am tired, I deserve to blow off my fitness routine," kind of thinking.
What I really deserve, and what you really deserve, is to express vitality! Be awesome, and just notice how it expands when you take yourself to the next level of self-love.
Have a wonderful weekend, friends.
Sunday, December 01, 2013
Whew! Moving took up the past 3 weeks, between packing, the physical move and unpacking. I still have some boxes to unpack, but after yesterday's big trips to the charity donation center, I am at least able to move around more freely. So it's back to my fitness program tonight. Woohoo!
Friday, November 08, 2013
Friday, November 01, 2013
I didn't start out to gain anything. Certainly not to rebuild my life. I was much more focused on what I didn't want than what I want and value. I started out to lose weight. I started out to ditch the fat, the unhealthy habits, the fatigue and malaise. I was all about what wasn't working in my life.
Somewhere along the way, that began to shift. I started not only imagining life without the things I don't want, but getting excited about what I was building. I started getting excited about the creative possibilities. Sure, following my food plan and fitness regimen was causing my body to drop pounds, but darned if I wasn't also getting *strong*. I began to crave more physical strength, and stamina, too.
I began to see this process as one of rebuilding my life as the physical strength I am building also became a metaphor for emotional and spiritual wellness. Now I see these areas of health as so intertwined that taking care of any one of them causes improvements in every aspect of my life. And I really don't know how this works, but the more effort I put into taking care of myself (following my food and fitness plans, getting enough sleep, drinking water), somehow I have *more* time and energy for work, parenting, and general "getting stuff done." How is it that self-care causes me to have not only more emotional availability, but also more time for things that matter?
I've been working lately on letting go of unhealthy attachments -- relationships that don't serve me, and also allowing my ex to get under my skin. I have to keep in contact with my ex (we share our daughter), but I don't have to let her push buttons. As I let go of attachments and expectations, there's room for new relationships and happiness -- or just room for the now. Deep breath (again). Instead of focusing on what I don't want in my relationships, the more I build on what works, or what makes me stronger, the easier it is to let the unnecessary or unhelpful fall away. This weight management journey is a powerful and agile metaphor.
I'm truly grateful to be on this journey of health and fitness. Thanks, Spark Friends!
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