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A Lifelong Romance

Sunday, June 23, 2013

I keep thinking that my initial reaction to this quote was to reject it as trite and irrelevant to my journey. But the longer I sit with it, it points me to all the many ways I have sought value outside myself. Grasping at relationships with others is one form of this. As is losing weight for the "wrong" reasons -- to assuage a damaged ego, to get compliments from others.

What does it mean to really love oneself? Beyond giving oneself approval, I think it's about listening deeply to what is true for oneself, following the guidance of that inner voice. The more I listen to my inner voice, the more I create partnership with myself. And that is beautiful.

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BONNIEMARGAY 6/24/2013 4:37AM

    Thank you.

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RENEEGADE 6/23/2013 6:17PM

    I love the quote! For me, it's taking good care of my body, my mind, and my soul/spirit. I admire people that do, because they value their being. Sometimes a relationship can help you love yourself even more, because you learn from someone who does love who they are, and they are a great teacher! Love that inner voice too! emoticon

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I refuse!

Saturday, June 22, 2013

There is so much personal power to be gained by refusing to participate in body-bashing. As I lose weight, I'm also working on laying down the burden of self-hatred.

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BONNIEMARGAY 6/23/2013 4:26AM


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Size 10

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Yesterday, I hit my favorite thrift store because I had a problem: My size 12 work pants were saggy and I kept having to hitch them up. So, off to Sun Thrift I went. I left with 3 pairs of size 10 work pants, some jeans and capris in my new size. Feels great to be in a 10 again.

When I got home, I cleaned out my closet and bureau and made several bags of great clothes to go to friends and the Goodwill. It does so much good to my psyche to eliminate the too-big clothes, even the pieces I've enjoyed wearing. Having only clothes I can wear now in my wardrobe keeps me inspired and on-track.

Next stop, size 8!

Have a wonderful week, everyone, and keep Sparking!

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BONNIEMARGAY 6/17/2013 3:23AM

    Yes! I really need to do this. My 14 jeans are so big on me now that I can slide them on and off while they are still fastened. I don't like the styles and colors in stores right now, so I really need to check out the thrift shops.

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JEN_MARIE86 6/16/2013 10:10PM

    Congratulations! keep up the great work!

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EMMACORY 6/16/2013 1:42PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon and you will be at #8 before you know it! emoticon

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Be Willing to Change

Sunday, June 09, 2013

As I shared in my last blog entry, I was asked for weight-loss advice recently. I told the person that I could talk about what I'm eating and what I'm not eating, but my biggest tips have to do with behavior. I talked about finding a foundational habit and building on it (in my case, that's exercise).

My other advice is to be willing to change. I notice that so many of us, myself included, are often quick to throw up reasons why we can't do something new, before we've even tried. Sometimes we're just afraid of the change that has to happen if we want different results. Who would we be if we changed too many behaviors, too many habits? Who would we be without our familiar struggles? Who would we be without our usual beliefs and attitudes?

But if we want to look and feel different, if we want to change how we are in the world, we have to change on the inside, too. So, I said to be okay with change. Be okay discovering you don't really want certain foods anymore. Be okay getting thinner and healthier (sometimes we have some fear about those changes). Be okay letting go of old habits and customs and assumptions. Be okay discovering what else is out there for you.

Willingness to let myself grow and change has been crucial to this process for me.

In the end, it's not just a "diet," it's a process of discovery. Let it change you.

"To improve is to change." -- Winston Churchill

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BONNIEMARGAY 6/9/2013 12:42PM

    Wishing you great success!

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What's your foundation?

Monday, June 03, 2013

I was recently asked for some advice as to how to stick to a weight-loss/health-improvement program. I'm no expert, and there are lots of people on Sparkpeople with more weight loss and years of success maintaining. But at the time, I was on the spot and here's the first part of what I said (I'll save part two for another blog entry):

You want to know how to stick to your weight-loss program? The same way a house sticks to the ground. The house needs a solid foundation, or it will fall down. Likewise, you need a foundation to anchor you in your program. Find your foundational habit.

For me, that habit is exercise. When I'm exercising 5 or 6 days a week, all my other commitments are there. I plan my meals. I take my lunch. I skip the junk food. I resist temptations, regardless of special occasions. My weekends are no trouble. When I'm not exercising, my head quickly is somewhere else (somewhere bad), and I'm not taking care of myself the same way.

For you, exercise might not be the foundation. Maybe your foundation is meal-planning, and your whole program flows from planning what you'll eat a week ahead. Or maybe it's something else.

Figure out what it takes to set your foundation, and then build on it. Make that foundation a rock-solid commitment to yourself. Cling to it. Make it non-negotiable for you or your family, so that well-meaning folks or outside influences cannot undermine it. Make it matter that much to you.

When you've done this, if you're like me, you'll find that the rest is so much less effort-ful that you'll feel positive every day.

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RENEEGADE 6/9/2013 12:12AM

    My foundation is a checklist. I have to accomplish certain things throughout the day. They are priorities, but sometimes I can't get to them. I refuse to not complete them, and they must be done.

After I accomplish them, everything else is additional especially when it comes to exercise. I will to my basic workout which is cardio for 3.5 miles, and 6-15 minutes of strength training.

Eating I track throughout the day and run a report to see what I need more of? Carbos, protein, fat, etc. I generally have calories to spare towards the end of the day and thats where I try to figure out what I need to eat to have balanced meals throughout the day.

You are right, there has to be a foundation in order to continue and stay on track with your program.

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LATTELEE 6/3/2013 5:45PM

  Write it down

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